Need Some Advice on Coping with the Stress of Diabetes? Ask Dr. Gary!

RachelChavez
By RachelChavez Latest Reply 2015-07-12 08:45:12 -0500
Started 2013-06-12 17:31:34 -0500

Ever feel like you're doing everything right, but you just can't lose weight or get your blood sugar in control? You're not alone. But don't give up! Our mental health expert, Dr. Gary, is ready to give our members advice on how to cope with the stress of diabetes. Share with us some topics or questions that you would like Dr. Gary to address and we will pass it along.


31 replies

Kalisiin
Kalisiin 2015-07-12 08:45:12 -0500 Report

Funny this should pop up I just posted an entire topic…I am having a bad day today, I have a cold and feel like hell.

ilovedragonflies
ilovedragonflies 2013-06-25 15:49:03 -0500 Report

i Struggle with Weight around my waist! Even though I do watch what I eat, I can not seem to get rid of it. I am limited on exercise due to a bum knee replacement that does not bend. I have to walk with a cane. I am a procrastinator at getting up and walking for exercise. What can I do to help motivate me? Any suggestions?

e3angels
e3angels 2013-06-17 11:53:50 -0500 Report

I'm so frustrated with my diabetes. I feel like I start to lose weight and then end up gaining some back due to stress. I try really hard to eat correctly but no one else around me is diabetic. It's hard to watch them eat whatever they want. I crave sugary foods and it is driving me nuts. I try so hard. Then I end up eating ice cream or cupcakes or muffins. I can't eat anything with sugar alcohols in it cause it makes me very sick. I try eating fruit instead and sometimes that is ok but sometimes it's not. Seems like this just gets worse sometimes especially when something bad happens. Like when my parents were killed in a car accident it was really hard. How do I get rid of these cravings? I know I just need to eat healthier and mostly I do but it's hard when everyone else in my house is eating it and offers it me.

Gabby
GabbyPA 2013-06-16 06:55:57 -0500 Report

Dr. Gary is great. I always love reading his posts.
Here are some things I would like to hear his input on:
1. Relationships, dating, marriage and so on of diabetics with non diabetics
2. Depression and ways to manage it
3. Elder diabetics and how to cope with aging and diabetes
4. How mature diabetics can help our younger diabetics without sounding like "parents"
5. Caregiver stress
6. Overcoming the "I can't do this anymore" feeling

T'Leesa
T'Leesa 2013-06-15 21:16:48 -0500 Report

I have so many supposed -meaning people offer me ice cream, cake, fried foods, etc. They like to say that "a little taste won't hurt me" , but it does. After being ill and taking some medicine, my levels are out of control. Now I am trying to get them within range again. (It didn't help that I also made some wrong eating choices when my job duties changed. I have to be honest with myself.) I can't lose weight like I want to. I feel angry and frustrated sometimes. This is the first time I have felt this way.

FiberAll
FiberAll 2013-06-14 14:33:36 -0500 Report

I am losing weight although the best part is I am smaller which is what I have been mainly concerned about. My Doctor is happy, but my friend who works with him sure has encouraged me greatly each time!

IronOre
IronOre 2013-06-13 21:41:23 -0500 Report

What are Dr Gary's credentials ?

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2013-06-18 11:09:53 -0500 Report

Hey IronOre,

Thanks a lot for asking. I am a therapist with a practice in NYC. I work mostly with individuals living with chronic conditions, including diabetes. My graduate work was in clinical psychology and education, and I have a PhD from the University of Michigan. My New York State license is in counseling. I have a mind-body-spirit approach to helping my clients. I also teach graduate students in counseling and psychology. I wrote a textbook a couple of years ago for nursing and other healthcare professionals on how to work with newly-diagnosed patients.

My absolute favorite part of my work is the time I spend on Diabetic Connect and other sites here on Alliance Health. Nothing gives my life more meaning!

So please feel free to toss questions my way!

Gary

Sopies Grandma
Sopies Grandma 2015-02-17 17:39:57 -0600 Report

Hey Doc, Not many people want to come home from a long day at work only to get online and work some more, so thank you much. I have a question for you, Can clinical depression be cured by positive attitude. As you know I have taken several steps in dealing with emotions, but today…wowwweeee I have cried most of the day..I am planning on having company after dinner, being with people should help. and tomorrow will be a new day. again thank you :)

Sopies Grandma
Sopies Grandma 2015-02-17 17:39:44 -0600 Report

Hey Doc, Not many people want to come home from a long day at work only to get online and work some more, so thank you much. I have a question for you, Can clinical depression be cured by positive attitude. As you know I have taken several steps in dealing with emotions, but today…wowwweeee I have cried most of the day..I am planning on having company after dinner, being with people should help. and tomorrow will be a new day. again thank you :)

Sopies Grandma
Sopies Grandma 2015-02-17 17:39:35 -0600 Report

Hey Doc, Not many people want to come home from a long day at work only to get online and work some more, so thank you much. I have a question for you, Can clinical depression be cured by positive attitude. As you know I have taken several steps in dealing with emotions, but today…wowwweeee I have cried most of the day..I am planning on having company after dinner, being with people should help. and tomorrow will be a new day. again thank you :)

humbird57
humbird57 2013-06-18 12:24:20 -0500 Report

I hear there may be a cure soon for type 1, is that possible.?I was just diagnosed type 1 , was pretty shocked about it. Coming to terms with it now. but hope for a cure.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2013-06-21 14:54:24 -0500 Report

Hi humbird, I hear you! I am often hearing about promising new research related to diabetes. But for now, it's really important to take good care of yourself. How are you doing?

CADebbie
CADebbie 2013-06-13 20:07:36 -0500 Report

Now is the time before you get more symptoms etc. get the weight down and exercise. Later it becomes more complicated and the problems are more complicated and often not curable. Now is the best time to get on track, and believe it or not. Less difficult.

Gwen214
Gwen214 2013-06-13 18:51:06 -0500 Report

Yes, once another issue pops up, it seems like completely get off balance. A change has to happen, so everything I have been doing, is no longer working. Trying to find that balance again is frustrating, and can be stressful. I've found ways to cope, but hey additional information is always greatly appreciated! :)

thtigger2000
thtigger2000 2013-06-13 18:29:36 -0500 Report

Nothing seems to be working for me. Even when I am in the hospital my sugars are all over the place. All my doctors say is I don't go by the book for my diabetes. It is really stressful to hear your doctor doesn't know how to help. I check my sugars at least seven times a day and walk at least two miles a day and measure everything I eat. No matter how much I watch myself my sugar still drops and rise with no warning. What else am I able to do?

CADebbie
CADebbie 2013-06-13 20:10:06 -0500 Report

A friend went in and had the first foot of intestine removed. No more diabetic. They started doing stomach surgeries and found that often diabetics sugar levels were perfect after some surgeries. Not sure what the % rate is on it working. Friend also maintains a very good weight.

lorider70
lorider70 2013-06-13 09:38:56 -0500 Report

How about addressing unwanted weight loss in a type II of 24 years? All tests are in line; take oral med for diabetes, and two blood pressure meds, one pain pill for arthritis and neuropathy. 70yrs old, 5'9", 142 lbs. Also have some dysphagia which makes eating a slow process, but do-able.

AdobeJules
AdobeJules 2013-06-13 02:10:05 -0500 Report

I recently was told my body "wants" to be diabetic but I'm not quite there yet by my family doctor. I asked what should I be doing and they said "go on the diabetic diet and we'll let ya know when you are in fact diabetic". Is there a different type of doctor I should be seeing to kinda figure things out? I really want to find out if I can reverse the direction my body is going. The Dr did not say.

CADebbie
CADebbie 2013-06-13 20:13:21 -0500 Report

Oncologist (blood doctor). Often at this point a 10% weight loss helps keep those sugars down. All carbs turn to sugar when you eat them. Eat smaller amounts of (white food :)) rice/potatoes/bread, they turn to sugar. Or eliminate when you can. Now is the time to stop. It isn't fun and it progresses. Husband had first amputation 2 weeks ago and they want me on insulin shots, which would be a no.

AdobeJules
AdobeJules 2013-06-14 01:40:43 -0500 Report

Thank you Debbie. I saw my Dr again today. She gave me the materials for the diabetic diet. My hemoglobin is at a 6.1 on the screening they do every six mo right now. She said I am really close and can in fact turn a lot of things around. She stated that if I exercise for 45 min a day on a treadmill and follow the diet that I could very well stay where I'm at. She said that one of the tests they ran showed an increase in insulin resistance. Still not really sure what all of it means but I am continuing to read. I have found a wealth of information and support on this site now. I'm so glad I found it when I was searching diabetic apps on my iPhone.

Stuart1966
Stuart1966 2013-06-12 19:14:37 -0500 Report

Absolutely NOTHING is working… NOW WHAT (eg testing, eating, insulin, exercise… but its not stopping the issue(s))… comes to mind for a topic -wg-?

Stuart1966
Stuart1966 2013-06-12 18:47:39 -0500 Report

Where does a diabetic find the "right" help? How do you figure out which approach works best for ones diabetes issues?

How do you tell when therapist/counselor does not have the necessary skills? Diabetes is not a cold… has some very "specific" issues, inexperienced counselors could get it dead wrong (ie Ahhh noooo, lows are not deliberate act "chuckles"…).

When is it time to look elsewhere? When is it time to RUN?

sazjo20
sazjo20 2013-06-12 18:20:10 -0500 Report

At this moment in time I feel like I am fighting a losing battle … I am so down and it's a case of y me, I have started taking regular hypos, some severe others minor … I have adjusted novorapid and my levemir. But hypos r still happening randomly even after a good meal… I am so fed up and afraid to venture afar incase this happens … I am type 2 and have been diabetic 7yrs and its so scary for my children too …

RitaDawn
RitaDawn 2013-06-12 22:33:06 -0500 Report

You are so not fighting a losing battle! I deal with highs and lows frequently. I just started using the dexcom CGM to try and stabilize my hypos. I am type 1 for almost 15 years now. I try to remember there is a whole lot worse out there than diabetes so I'll take what I have :) All I can say is hang in there. I know it can be frustrating at times but you are not alone. Test blood sugars often, it gives you more control! Here if you ever want to vent

CADebbie
CADebbie 2013-06-13 20:17:07 -0500 Report

Went out and had pancakes, sugar went up to 476. Seems like ongoing sacrifice and it is progressive. I didn't eat dinner tonight, spagehtti and garlic bread hubby wanted, me no pasta, no bread. Oh could have a 1/2 cup and one very small piece of bread. I would rather not eat.

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