Emotionally DRAINED!!

By Sherelle112 Latest Reply 2013-06-09 21:33:44 -0500
Started 2013-06-03 17:03:05 -0500

So… I was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes on 4/1/13!! I googled the symptoms I had, but like most ppl I was in denial and didnt want to go to the dr. After all, I'm only 27 & didnt want to deal with this. I didnt fast before I went because I wasn't feeling well… turns out my BG was 570 & my A1C was 13.2!!! After taking Metformin for a wk I fasted & went bk and it was 350… so they doubled my dosage! I cried and cried and cried. Felt like someone had died… felt like I died. I go bk to the dr in July to test everything. I've lost 15 lbs & haven't had a BG reading over 160. But I must say… this is truly the hardest thing I've ever dealt with. This seems so permanent. All the risks & dangers… sometimes it's just too overwhelming!!! Grocery shopping is difficult bc I know what to buy but I seem to focus on all the stuff I can't have. I'm just sad that this disease has affected me so badly emotionally!! I cry often and get frustrated at restaurants.. its even hard to hang out with my friends socially bc lots of activities revolve around drinking & food. It just sucks… I did it to myself, but I just wish that things were different. Do you all ever feel overwhelmed?? It's only been 2 months so I'm hoping & praying that with time I cope with it better. Thank God my numbers are under control.. just have to get everything else to follow suit!!!

28 replies

Caroltoo 2013-06-09 21:23:29 -0500 Report

You are correct — it is overwhelming at first — thankfully, it does also get easier. I began to see my situation as a challenging puzzle that I can solve and less like a life sentence I must endure. Really changed my perspective.

A tip for quicker and healthier grocery shopping: go around the edges of the store and skip those center aisles. Almost everything that is in the middle in a frozen, canned, bottled, or processed state can be found in a more healthy form around the edges where they keep the whole foods. It eliminates so many things (extra sugar, corn syrup, additives, and other chemicals the body isn't sure how to deal with) that cause of BGs to go up. If you stay in those outside sections you also won't be looking at all the things you used to eat that really weren't that healthy for you. Just makes it so much easier!!! Why don't you give it a try?

Sherelle112 2013-06-09 21:33:44 -0500 Report

Makes sense. It's getting a bit easier. Im doing well and my BGs are good and that is motivation to keep it up!! :)

tryin2survive 2013-06-08 23:59:33 -0500 Report

Hey girl, well u are starting off great. It is all still new. I cant say for sure if the feeling of being overwhelmed will ever go away, but it won't be a constant feeling. It is a big adjustment, but we just have to take it day by day. Of course I am always on again off again, I need to practice what i preach lol. But if u need anyone to listen to u, just inbox me :)

Jesse's derby
Jesse's derby 2013-06-08 18:14:08 -0500 Report

Oh my! You did not do this to yourself!! Did my non smoking sister get lung cancer and die at 35 years of age…do it to herself? NO!!! O so much going on here. I applaud your going to the doctor and taking control. It is difficult. However, you can live life to the fullest. I have become so focused on food…reading cookbooks, shopping (takes me a long time to read all the labels!). Cooking. Preparing. You can eat out and enjoy times with your friends. You will have ups but the more you learn, the better you get at making the right choices! Hang in there and continue to look at this site for help/solace/knowledge and inspiration.

karen7t2 2013-06-08 17:26:10 -0500 Report

Hi Sherelle. I am sorry you are feeling so overwhelmed. I don't think you should blame yourself for having D because it is not your fault. Other people can eat loads of food that is bad for them and they never get it. If I were out with friends and they ordered up all kinds of yummy foods that I couldn't eat, I would just try and be proud of myself because I am doing something good for myself and using self control. It may, as it has for me, give you a feeling of empowerment, which feels soooooo good. Hope this helps a little. Having D sucks!

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2013-06-06 17:58:08 -0500 Report

Hi Sherelle,

I am glad you found your way to Diabetic Connect. Welcome, my friend!

Receiving news of a medical diagnosis can be a big shock, and it brings up a lot of emotions. In many ways, reacting to a medical diagnosis is like going through a grieving process. Life is changing, with changes you didn't ask for. And so it's only human nature to grieve for what's been lost. So your comment about feeling someone had died makes a lot of sense.

It's important to let yourself be human, to feel how you feel. If you are feeling sad, let the tears out. Grieving helps to process what happened and, over time, to accept and prepare to move forward with life.

I hope that you have a safe place to talk about your feelings, with people who will just listen and not judge you or try to tell you what to do. That is something your friends may be willing and able to do. They may even be waiting for you to ask.

Be patient with yourself. Give yourself time to adjust, to learn how the best way to take care of yourself, to integrate diabetes into the rest of your life. Getting educated can help.

And don't get down on yourself. Resolve to move forward with your life, to take the best possible care of yourself, to focus on what's possible in life. You are still the you that you have always been.

And I hope you will stay in touch with yourself. You are not alone!


Frannysue45 2013-06-06 11:46:36 -0500 Report

I feel your pain. I was diagnosed 13 years ago and still get overwhelmed at times. some days it just doesn't seem to make a difference what you do those numbers just don't go where you want them to, bg or weight. very very frustrating. I remember when I was diagnosed like it was yesterday. Like someone punched me in the gut.

tabby9146 2013-06-06 10:47:06 -0500 Report

I understand completely, I felt overwhelmed at first and even now, 4 1/2 yrs later, I still get a little upset about it at times and frustrated. congrats on what all you have accomplished, sounds like you have come a long way in a short time. sounds like you are doing the right things, to make those numbers come down. In diabetes class, we were told we could eat "everything" in moderation, but the one thing to stay away from were sodas and juices that had high sugar content, said it was oky to have a little juice but better to have the fruit because of the fiber and nutrients that you get from the fresh fruit, but always pair it with a carb. we do have to watch the amount of our fruit for sure. lot of veggies, fresh and frozen are good. we are all different, some have many things they have to stay away from while others just have a few. moderation is really key. exercise daily if possible does wonders along with it. adding protein and fiber to each snack and meal is key for all of us. drink mostly water, we all have to make up our own minds on this artificial sweeteners, some think they are not safe, others think they are, and some think only one brand is ,and others aren't, etc…but if you think they are okay, then flavored waters are an idea, I like to use my juicer and get fresh lemon juice in my water daily. Please don't be too hard on yourself. in my case, it was mostly genetics type 2, I did eat bad things all the time, but good things everyday or most days too, I was not exercising and that can be like a switch that just sets it off. I promise you will get more used to it. you will be surprised how many great snacks you have can, so many good recipes out there that are low carb, low fat and taste so good. Just think like I do , I see my friends and family eating their high fat junk, (I do allow myself some of it from time to time, you have to, it helps me stay on track where others find it easier to neve rever partake of it) they are doing themselves harm and you are not. they will most likely pay a price for this someday, whether it be in HBP, high cholesterol which goes hand in hand lots of times, I am not saying I am glad I have it, I am not, however,,.,,,to me, and some might not agree, that is fine, but many have said this same thing over the years, it can be a positive thing, because I know had I not had this wake up call, I would still be doing what I was doing, so this makes me , forces me to take care of myself and we will benefit very much from that. We can be healthier because of it.

Frannysue45 2013-06-06 11:38:54 -0500 Report

I just read an article about the artificial sweeteners. they say they cause weight gain because your body don't know what to do with it, so it all gets stored. I am growing my own stevia plant, which is amazing. I have replaced the store bought substitutes for it and honey.

tabby9146 2013-06-07 10:24:20 -0500 Report

that's great! I wish I could grow my own, but I have two indoor cats and outside cats, and they would get into them , can't have any plants

NaoV1 2013-06-06 01:19:40 -0500 Report

All of y'all on here are newbies to T2D!! LOL . . try someone like me who has had it since 2005! BAYAM. Let me say, diabetes does NOT have me, I have IT. Also, diabetes can "go away" once your A1C stays at 5% for ONE YEAR (meaning, if you get it there and are med free for one year, you are primarily home free BUT you can't eat all the CRAP out there . .let's face it, it's the eating of the CRAP - not natural foods, that got us here). Sure, it can run in the family, but I have a brother older than me who does not have it and my mom did, go figure. So, understand, diabetes is a sugar imbalance. The SAD thing is that it comes in pairs most times (either you have blood pressure issues or depression or perhaps all three). Too much salt - bad. Too much sugar - bad. Too must crap in life - bad. I was never overwhelmed. I just knew. Aw hayel, I gotta handle this before it handles me. Yes, the recipe section here is awesome. I use canola oil when I cook, or cooking sprays. I keep dark chocolate around in case I get the low sugar, but it also helps the BP, plus I play with my doggies for exercise daily, eat 5x a day, balanced meals, take a multivitamin, calcium and Vit D once a week, glucosomine chondroitin daily, B-12 er now and then, metformin and glipizode. (however you spell that stuff). I eat out and ask for chicken fajitas, and I eat the grilled onions, I eat salsa, salads with the dressing on the side, or fish, or soups. I never was a fan of the alkihall, but ernow and then I slip a cup of a good red or grape wine . .hee hee . . .Trust me . .it can be done as I have BEEN doing in for almost 10 years and I'm banging (and cheat with a Dr. Pepper sometimes . .shhhh)!! Wish you well!! :)

tabby9146 2013-06-06 10:52:54 -0500 Report

I love love your post!! this is what I do,when I eat out mexican (not all the time now , I must tell the truth) but lots of times I will order the grilled chicken fajitas, I eat the green peppers and onions with it, with some salsa, which at our place hardly has any sugar in it, if at all, I used to test after eating there, I can have a good bit of that stuff, and one and only one flour tortilla, sometimes I don't even eat those. They serve it with spicy beans, not refried beans, healthier ones and I eat those or half of them at least. I am full. I do't do the sour cream and sometimes I will use a little of the cheese. that is how I feel too Diabetes does NOT have me. I too use lots of canola oil and sprays (lolive oil more now too) I exercise daily too, and I love your supplements, I need to start taking them, I watch The Doctors and Dr. Oz and Dr. Weill is someone I follow his advice. They all recommended those supplements you mentioned.

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jojowm 2013-06-05 14:00:27 -0500 Report

Hi Sherelle, I was diagnosed with T2 back in September of 2012, and I didn't want to accept it either so I can understand how you are feeling. I went through the same type of thing. You just have to accept it. You must decide to move on and get healthy. It's not easy in the beginning to get used to but there's plenty of support here as well as alot of info on the web (eg:Calorie King, American Diabetes Association, etc). I am still having some issues with my numbers but am working with an endocrinologist, and they seem to be getting more under control. Just take a deep breath, do some research and start your journey to a healthier lifestyle. You can do it, just be positive. Also congratulations on your weight loss. Keep it up, and Good Luck!!

ConnieMarie 2013-06-05 10:42:16 -0500 Report

Genetics plays a big roll in diabetes. I come from a long line of type 1 & 2 diabetics.
It just happens & your lucky to catch it now. If left untreated Stroke, eyesight or worse. Focus on getting healthy not on what you can't have.

LauraS 2013-06-05 09:56:07 -0500 Report

YOU DIDN"T DO IT TO YOURSELF! That is a myth. If everyone did type 2 to themselves all the fat people would have type 2. I've been type 2 for about 3 years and I still get upset about it. It is hard but don't you dare blame yourself. It does run in the family, 2 of my 4 sisters have it. You can also be more at risk if your mother lived through a famine (the depression era like my mom did). It takes time to get used to it all and it's something you have to deal with every day but the depression does go away and one day you wake up and decide to just do the best you can and leave the rest in God's hands.

puffy7 2013-06-05 08:03:05 -0500 Report

Sherelle,I was diagnosed as type two two years ago. I dealt with my famiiy doctor for the first ix months and I was not satisfied with the imfomation he gave me. I had him refer me to an endocrinologist. He takes the time to answer any questions I have and he doesn't rush me out of the office. The next step was the nutrition classes.Big help. Now I feel as though I have control over the diabetes. Take steps to become more knowledgeable about diabetes and and possibly you can control it instead of it controlling you.

dorosmag 2013-06-04 11:00:02 -0500 Report

Sherelle, I was diagnosed on 05/06/13 and my BG was 335 and my A1C was 14.5. I made the decision that I was not going to let this run my life. I was going to take control and get things in order. I have had some success with my numbers, dropping to the lowest of 143 but still trying to get them lower. I am watching what I eat and trying to work-out daily. I used to love going to the grocery store, but now it is a chore, but with the right frame of mind, I believe will get back to where I love grocery shopping. This is a life-altering disease and you have to attack it with gusto. I pray and know that with God on my side, I can accomplish my goals. I will pray for you, too! Keep your chin up and don't despair.

Ranger61 2013-06-04 06:42:41 -0500 Report

Don't be so hard on yourself it is hard and some people are stronger than others. It is a major life change. I wish you the best and take care of yourself first most of us put others first. It can be hard to say I will take care of me today.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2013-06-03 21:13:53 -0500 Report

I think you are feeling sorry for yourself because you are now diabetic. I also think that you are in the grocery store focusing on foods you cannot have because you need those foods for comfort.

Diabetes is permanent, there is no cure for it. At some point you will have to accept this and move forward. When I was diagnosed I was overwhelmed for 24 hours and then I got into gear, started changing my lifestyle and never looked back. Diabetes has me, I don't have it and it does not control my emotions or how I live my life.

You have a choice in all of this, you can either sit around crying over something that isn't going anywhere or you can get up and start living your new life.
Stop focusing on what others are eating and drinking and focus on what you can and cannot have. Think about it, diabetes is making yIou eat healthier and make better food choices.

Appetizers served in bars are often high in calories and carbs and if the alcohol don't get you, the food will. Right now I have a apple pie in my freezer that has no sugar at all in it. Next to it is my sisters container of Strawberry Ice Cream. She just went past me with a slice of lemon cake. I am munching on 6 animal crackers.

There are "sugar free" cakes and cookies. You still have to watch them because they are made with Sugar Alcohol. I have treats based on my numbers. If they are in the 90-110 range I have one real chocolate chip cookie or a mini candy bar. I don't do this on a daily basis.

If you go out with your friends, take nuts or cheese snacks and munch those. I have had rum in diet coke but limit it to the one drink. At home I make large bottles of water with crystal light. If I want a drink, I fill a glass and add a little vodka.

Please stop crying and start living life. Stop thinking about the food you can't have and think about fun things you could be doing. Your emotions can also play a role in your blood sugar readings. Learn to be happy and healthy and you will feel so much better.

tryin2survive 2013-06-08 23:54:09 -0500 Report

Joyce ur comments seem to be harsh. No one should tell someone how they should feel. It takes each person a certain amount of time to cope and adjust. You should be a little more understanding, not all of us grew up with this disease and have such great control as you do.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2013-06-09 19:47:34 -0500 Report

I live in a real world not some make pretend dream world where everything is bunnies and rainbows. I did not tell her how she should feel, however, you are entitled to your opinion, it is up to me to agree or disagree with it.

SandySilvers 2013-06-03 20:53:52 -0500 Report

Hi Sherelle…don't worry: it DOES become easier. Sometimes it just takes awhile. When I was diagnosed last August I was terrified. I had no idea what to do. I think we ALL go through what you're feeling to some degree. Just keep on going. You learn to cope. You learn to deal with all of it. But there ARE ways to live life fully and still be healthy. I still have the occasional glass of wine. I can pretty much go to any restaurant and have a great meal. I just have to be a little more careful. For example I may order a chicken Caesar salad w/dressing on the side or some broccoli instead of rice. Most restaurants are very good about substitutions and don't be afraid to let them know you have diabetes. Share your dessert when you do decide to have one. Everything in moderation. I've learned that alot of the fight is to just make small changes. It's easier to deal with that way. I'm really proud of you for losing 15lbs!! I've lost 50 since September just by making these changes and exercising. I've even been able to lower my dose of Lantus insulin and hope to come off of it someday. My A1C has gone from 14 in August to 5.4 in April. Just be proud of yourself for coming this far, have faith, and keep up the good work!!

Sherelle112 2013-06-03 17:31:20 -0500 Report

I really really appreciate it!!! My family & friends have been supportive, but they just don't understand why when they're eating cake and cookies I get a little sad!! It's hard!!!! I miss those things & the sense or normalcy that they represented.

Frannysue45 2013-06-06 11:45:34 -0500 Report

take yourself a treat that you can eat, instead of sitting back in remorse, get up to that table with yours and see how many ppl want what your having.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2013-06-03 21:18:08 -0500 Report

Those foods should not represent normalcy. Just think those cakes and cookies they are eating is packing on calories and sugar. No one really knows what normal is. If you are looking for diabetic friendly snacks visit the recipe section. I make a mean chocolate mousse with sugar free cool whip and sugar free jello chocolate pudding. I let my friends taste it and now they make it. Good Luck and always Anticipate Miracles.

BrendaMarie68 2013-06-03 17:25:55 -0500 Report

I was diagnosed with T1 diabetes in April, so I am new to it, too. I go through everything you are experiencing. Please always have hope. I am always here if you ever need someone to lean on. I CARE.