check your sugar

Anonymous
By Anonymous Latest Reply 2013-06-22 17:31:38 -0500
Started 2013-06-01 22:48:18 -0500

My husband always asks me to check my sugar if we are arguing about something or if I say something silly. How do I tell him that it annoys me like crazy. Some days I just say dumb or mean things, it doesn't mean my sugar is low, it just means I'm human. I know he means well but it really irritates me. I thought that after I checked my sugar and he saw that it was in normal range he would stop doing it so frequently but he still does. I tried talking to him about it but he says he needs to make sure my sugar isn't low. How do I get him to understand I don't want to be babysat?


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yetzul
yetzul 2013-06-22 17:31:38 -0500 Report

Thank you to all of you who shared your stories with me. It made me feel like I wasn't alone. Not only that, it also helped me to see the other side. I thought about how it feels to have someone you love and how afraid I would be if something happened to them. I realized that asking them to check their sugar is just a result of that desire to see them safe. I kept feeling upset at my husband for not listening, but I hadn't realized I was doing the same to him. I'm happy to report we had a long talk and I started by hearing his side first. I know now that he will never stop asking me to check my sugar when he's concerned, but I realize that I don't want him to. It might just mean he doesn't care how I'm doing anymore and that's something far worse.

Anna K
Anna K 2013-06-22 17:06:14 -0500 Report

I apologize ahead of time, but I do the same thing to my daughter :( and I know it irritates her, but in my defense, every time she has a sudden mood swing her sugar has been over 220 or below 100… in her case it def affects her. She becomes agitated, aggressive and spouts off (back talks) which is totally out of character for her.

Type1PastryChef
Type1PastryChef 2013-06-11 00:04:19 -0500 Report

Lol my boyfriend of 5 years does kinda the same thing. Just he doesn't ask if I need to check my sugar, I get do you need to take a shot or something. I've also been asked this by him when I told him I was low ( obviously not the thing to do). Even though I have told him many times how everything works he still mixes everything up. But now he kinda just does it when every he knows he lost the fight or relized he was wrong to try and make it look like it was my fault, cuz at first it would change the fight into me saying I told you how this works and when I'm low I don't need insulin… Aka changing the first fight to something different that he knew would end after I told him how everything worked again. I'm gonna say even though you talked to him he doesn't really understand. And yes the constant babysitting sucks but it does show he trying to get what your dealing with and going through. Maybe one night get a good read about how everything works and then tell him how you feel when you have lows and highs and how your body tells you what's going on. Just make it like a romantic night that brings you closer. People without diabetes will never completely understand what living with it is like. Just like from diabetic to diabetic is different you can only try and help them understand.

Cathy Simpson
Cathy Simpson 2013-06-07 15:38:55 -0500 Report

Lol my husband does the same thing and it drives me crazy too. I know how I feel when it's down. Lol I think they see us as fragile beings now.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2013-06-04 20:24:38 -0500 Report

Maybe he is doing it because you are saying mean and dumb things when nothing is wrong with your sugar level. It could be annoying him so in turn he is annoying you. You can't have it both ways, If you are deliberately saying dumb and mean things to him or around him stop doing it.

He is babysitting you because he might be thinking you are behaving in a childish manner. So in his mind if you want to behave like a child he will treat you as one which may be why isn't listening to you.

Change your behavior and he might be more willing to listen. Your husband is a human being also however you didn't say that says dumb, mean or silly things . Only you can change so that he will view you as an adult. You should appreciate that he is asking. There are families who simply don't care about each other.

draco59
draco59 2013-06-04 20:20:18 -0500 Report

I don't know how long you been married or your family situation, but the best thing to do is just tell him how you feel and that every emotional or silly thing you say is not because of your blood sugar. Also,not know how long you been a diabetic or his knowledge of your condition, but you also need to know that it might be out of concern for your well being. You and your Dr. need to educate him on it. There is also a lot of bad information out there, from well meaning friends and other family members and of course the internet. A lot of people believe if it's on the net,then it has to be true…
So,talk to him, help him understand…
Have a good evening
Brian

Bun10
Bun10 2013-06-04 20:01:23 -0500 Report

Wow! Maybe eating sugar would make you feel sweeter about him. Lol. You are lucky to have someone care so much. Diabetes is a family affair. Heck, it practically takes a village worth of support. My family wants to be supportive but there is so much to learn and understand like what carbs are good that they get frustrated. Maybe checking your sugar is one of the ways your husband is trying to cope with your diabetis. Obviously, he loves you and cares very much about you. Count your blessings and help him to understand when you need to check your sugar and on what occasions you might need his help.hang in there.

JessTheMess
JessTheMess 2013-06-04 10:59:42 -0500 Report

Haha my boyfriend and a few close friends do this to me and I'm not going to lie I am almost low every time they do say something, but when your low you are feeling fiesty and you reply back N0 to them asking or telling you to check your sugar. The longer I have diabetes iv notice it's harder to tell how low or if I'm low at all not all the time, but some :/

Type1PastryChef
Type1PastryChef 2013-06-11 00:13:06 -0500 Report

That's due to your body getting use to it. When I was 20 I didn't take very good care of myself at all. My A1c at the time was 12. My body got so use to the high blood sugars it took it as normal. So when I did feel the lows I would start to feel it at 110 to 120 witch was no where low. Now that I'm older I do have to go a tad lower the 70 to feel it but when it hits… It hits me hard, I normally have to stop dead in my tracks and sit down and drink some juice. It is just your body adjusting to your new life style, my best advice is just always keep something on hand for if you go low.

JessTheMess
JessTheMess 2013-06-11 00:25:49 -0500 Report

Yeah it scary some times bc I will be walking and feeling fine and happy and BAM! I can't walk and I'm seeing colors, I have a dexcom now and I must say it's a life saver!! Do you have one??

Type1PastryChef
Type1PastryChef 2013-06-11 00:41:58 -0500 Report

No I don't. Tell you the truth never heard of it. I use to always a glucagon kit but now I just make sure there something I can get like at home soda, work juice, or some form sugar in my bag when out. What is dexcom, and is it over the counter?

JessTheMess
JessTheMess 2013-06-11 00:48:23 -0500 Report

It's a glucose monitor it's awesome and no you need a prescription, but it's awesome it's brought my A1C to a 6.0 and warns me when my sugar is falling or rising and it's a neat lil thing and I don't have to check my sugar as many times a day.

Type1PastryChef
Type1PastryChef 2013-06-11 00:53:30 -0500 Report

Ok we'll I have a pump, I had sensors that's worked with it. I found more stressful and complicated then just testing myself so I opted out of the use of it. How often do you have to calibrate it? Also do you have to do at the same time everyday. Finally how big is the sensor for it?

JessTheMess
JessTheMess 2013-06-11 00:57:43 -0500 Report

I have a pump as well, but waiting on the sensors . The sensor is about an inch maybe a tad bit bigger. It tells me when to calibrate it and it's once a day at diff times I think I just do it when it tells me to I don't really pay attention to when it goes off to do so.

Trishee_71
Trishee_71 2013-06-04 11:17:16 -0500 Report

Jess. I can relate to that as well. I usually "lie" and tell my husband I'm NOT low, when I actually am. I don't do it in purpose, but I'm usually somewhat out of it, and don't know what the heck I'm saying. But yes, I've also noticed the older I get, the harder it is to tell when my blood sugar is low. The only real "symptom" I get, is that I'm usually extremely tired all of a sudden.

tpsreport
tpsreport 2013-06-04 00:08:31 -0500 Report

OK, Same thing here except I become an "asshole" with high numbers. My wife gives me the, "You are an asshole right now. Check your blood." Or, she will just hand me my meter and walk away as if that's her solution to the argument.

Trishee_71
Trishee_71 2013-06-03 21:07:52 -0500 Report

OMG, I can SOOOOO relate to this. My hubby does the exact same thing! If I say something off the wall, it's always, "Check your blood!" I, too, have tested and shown him my sugars. Usually, they're on the high side. But if I do one silly or stupid thing (I'm also quite clumsy), I always get, "Check your blood!" I get that he doesn't like taking care of me when my blood sugar is low. But you know, sometimes you just can't help the lows, just like you can't help breathing!

Impish Angel
Impish Angel 2013-06-03 04:43:21 -0500 Report

I actually read an article on here about dealing with "Food Police". Have you looked through the articles? With me, I get EXTREMELY bitchy when my sugar is high and very confused when its low.. I know how you feel though.. My husband knows better now, after I blew up on him one night :(

Type1PastryChef
Type1PastryChef 2013-06-11 00:21:29 -0500 Report

I'm the same extremely moody when I'm high and then I act kinda like I'm drunk when I'm low. The worst is one night I woke up so low that I couldn't speak. I knew what I wanted to say but baby talk just came out. I also had almost no control over my body movement. Could sit up, when my boyfriend finally got that I was low had to hold the soda for me to drink. It was the scariest thing I ever had happen, all due to not feeling my low. The worst part is not being able to tell someone how to help when that's all they want to do. My motor skills were shot I couldn't even hit a button on my pump I finally was able to just pull it out, and within 10 mins was able to say soda… Which he knew was low…

Dean 02601
Dean 02601 2013-06-03 19:39:53 -0500 Report

The food police suck at times i get shakey when i get low
i get it from everywhere …home work etc just annoying

sazjo20
sazjo20 2013-06-02 14:08:38 -0500 Report

I kno wat you mean I get this from my hubby and my kiddies and its so annoying but when I confront them or complain til other relatives they just say they care that's y they do it

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