i am looking for a diabetic buddy

sazjo20
By sazjo20 Latest Reply 2013-06-05 16:50:25 -0500
Started 2013-05-27 18:23:37 -0500

i feel so alone and feel like squealing why me … why did i get this why are my kids being punished through me … they are petrified of my lows and my youngest boy wants to know am i dying … i just need someone to talk to and share things … i need to get things on track again…


57 replies

Lee-type2
Lee-type2 2013-06-02 23:35:09 -0500 Report

Good for you, no one understands what we go through. You have too learn how to life within your means and self.

Lee-type2
Lee-type2 2013-06-02 03:54:53 -0500 Report

I understand how you feel, I've been a diabetic for 10 years and have learn to live with it. My family thinks they know what is best for me, but they have no idea what it takes to live with this diabetes. You have to manage your life to ensure that no one around you think that you are a diabetic. Wake up with a smile on your face and everyone around you will not notice a life style change. Best advance someone gave me is one day at a time and you won't be able to beat it, because I tried and I'm on insulin now. Love live and everyone around you.

abwgem27
abwgem27 2013-06-02 23:28:44 -0500 Report

My mom had told me that I was needy for asking for a support system so I realized that I am the only one who can take care of my own health and exercise when others don't want to do it with me. I'm doing this by myself. I chose to live a proactive lifestyle and now I'm on Lantus for now.

abwgem27
abwgem27 2013-06-02 23:26:03 -0500 Report

I know what you mean, I lived in denial for about for about 4 yrs and reality hit when I got pregnant and had to do everything that diabetic pregnant moms have to do, take insulin 5 times a day sometimes it was painful, count carbs, not gain too much weight, see alot of dr.s, developed carpol tunnel syndrome that took 11 months to go away after the pregnancy and ended up a c-section cause no one wanted to take a risk. So now I can't control my diabetes without meds like I used too and my a1c went up to 7 for the first time.

Punkin1
Punkin1 2013-06-02 21:11:17 -0500 Report

Oh gosh don't tell me that..I'm struggling with the highs and lows and anxiety and depression already

Tantype
Tantype 2013-06-01 23:47:23 -0500 Report

I am with you! I can relate. My blood sugar dropped to 40 and my wife paniced. I would be proud to be here to talk to you.

Kats49
Kats49 2013-06-01 18:29:22 -0500 Report

One thing I can tell you is my hubby who passed away in 2004 was diagnosed in 1984. He was a Type l . He out lived most of his diseases. Our son was 1 when he ended up in the hospital because he blacked out while driving the semi into the yard. Our daughter was 4 yrs.,and she often asked me if Daddy was dying. IT was a struggle as a family but we all got educated and it does take the family to help with this disease. It is a hard disease for anyone to cope with and back then we didn't have access to forums like this one. My daughter got so good at telling people why her Daddy needed some orange juice or his glucose tabs. She knew where they were in all the vehicles and in the house. She knew her address and we set up a sheet of paper for her to tell the 911 operators who we were, where to come and she knew to stay on the line. You will get back on track and with Gods help and your families help and love everything will work out. I worked days and he worked nights…we shared babysitting duties because we were barely making ends meet. But, it all was worth it. I think we all got closer.

Kats49
Kats49 2013-06-01 18:17:24 -0500 Report

I am not consistently online so I can't commit as a buddy…but this forum makes me feel like there are many buddies

lallen89
lallen89 2013-06-01 02:39:44 -0500 Report

I know exactly what you mean! I pray that everything gets better for you soon. Instead of letting this disease be the elephant in our rooms, we all need to hang in there. It's so easy to want to give up and quit because of how we feel (and I have been there!). Each and every one of use has too much life, hope, and promise in us to be defeated by this condition!! I will be more than happy to be there for you the best way I can.

I, too am looking for a diabetic buddy. I'm trying to get back on track with everything pretty much. I recently graduated from college and there's no more putting myself on the backburner. I have to take better care of myself. I'm in Ohio, and if possible I would even like to have a walking buddy (as I recently started walking). Please respond if interested and I am a T1D. I wish you all the best and thank you.

lallen89
lallen89 2013-06-03 17:42:03 -0500 Report

@ abwgem27 Personally, I think that there's a delicate balance with it. For instance, I don't expect anyone to be on me every waking minute about my self management, but at the same time it doesn't hurt to have support regarding the lifestyle modifications. It's just me at the moment so I will do all I can with what I have. Thank you for your response!

abwgem27
abwgem27 2013-06-02 23:36:01 -0500 Report

I love to go for walks with my baby, but would be nice to go with someone like me. Too bad you live in Ohio, so most of the time it's just me and the baby.

pumper62
pumper62 2013-05-31 16:09:49 -0500 Report

Trishee. 71. Hi. I am 72and have been type1since 1951,62 years. life has been great for me even though with my retinopathy I am nearly blind which makes getting round quite difficult for me. Fortunately I have a great husband who keeps me going. I have never had someone to talk to about my condition as there are not too many type1's if you are interested I would. Love to have you as a friend . Dorothy

available jones
available jones 2013-05-31 00:40:51 -0500 Report

i know the feelings.it is not the greatest feeing in the world one must try many diferent task.what ever you do-do not isolate yourself from the ones you love,friends & associates.pray,talk to the lord,talk to loved ones,help them to too understand that you have an on going battle & you need their support more than ever.i know it is hard on small children.in the long run hopefully they will understand.it might even help them in ways that could be wounder.selfesness is one way.our prays are with you

sazjo20
sazjo20 2013-05-31 16:07:15 -0500 Report

my family i know are ther for me but they dont understand and that is why i feel so alone .. my kiddies are too young to understand aged 4 and 6… i think my two eldest understand but panic so much … my huband is worst for it but i suppose its to be expected… i just want to be normal

alwaysknitting
alwaysknitting 2013-05-30 13:01:32 -0500 Report

Hi! It's Thursday noonish. Not sure where I'm suppose to put this!
Just checking to see how you're doing today. Did any of our posting help? Do you feel like part of the group yet? I just joined last week, but I feel "at home". I saw my new DR yesterday… I am very pleased with her. She explains everything as she goes thru my lab results & meds. And she answers all of my questions!
Let me know if there's anything I can do to help. I'm always here for you!!
Hugs and prayers, Cathy

sazjo20
sazjo20 2013-05-31 16:11:19 -0500 Report

well i am off to see m new diabetic doctor on thursday i really do hope they can help me..xx

BrendaMarie68
BrendaMarie68 2013-05-30 10:00:46 -0500 Report

I was diagnosed just about a month ago and it has been a lonely road so far- the highs and lows, mood swings, struggling with what to eat and not eat… I spent the whole day in bed yesterday just not feeling well. You are NOT alone.

Punkin1
Punkin1 2013-06-02 21:19:29 -0500 Report

I'm in the same situation I have days that I can't stand myself and feel so bad the mood swings are awful.took a nutrition class but it didn't help much.

POPS1953
POPS1953 2013-06-03 00:40:03 -0500 Report

You know after a certain time in life that after I survive 2 opportunites to die, you just live day by day. Punkin it is not a " death wish curse" on you , it is just a way that we are put in a specialized part of our life that requires more attention, than other people. We are an elite group of people that share a lot more in common. We do have to maintain ourselves differently and that is always a pain. But hell this crap can be defeated and controlled.Try not to allow this health issue rule your life .Take charge and rule your illness…take care…poppa romo…

sazjo20
sazjo20 2013-05-31 16:13:39 -0500 Report

hi there… you are new to all this and it is scary been ther done this and wish i didnt… i have been diabetic now 7 years and it dont get easier… at the moment i hav gone thru a stage of lows and am trying to stabilize things with me again…i hope u are ok if you wanna contact me feel free …xx

Gabby
GabbyPA 2013-05-30 07:44:49 -0500 Report

You are not alone here. The "why me" is something we all can feel from time to time. Once you learn how to deal with your lows, you can grow in confidence and your confidence will allow your kids to be more at ease. It is always a deep rooted fear to loose a parent. Show him that you can deal with your diabetes and still be a great parent to him. Those little ones can be great motivators.

sazjo20
sazjo20 2013-05-31 16:15:49 -0500 Report

its so hard being diabetic and raising kids especially when the little ones dont understand… how do u explain to a 4year old and reassure a 6 year old mum is fine and these things happen i swear life is so unfair …xx

ConnieMarie
ConnieMarie 2013-05-30 06:34:33 -0500 Report

Howdy…welcome to DC. I am lucky enough to have other diabetic friends but they dont manage theirs well so I am the voice of reason for them LOL. Lows suck but they are life, highs really stink but again that keeps us on the right path to avoid both. You will find support here.

BrendaMarie68
BrendaMarie68 2013-06-02 21:31:33 -0500 Report

I understand about being the voice of reason. I have family members who have had diabetes for YEARS and it feels like although I am new to it, I am reminding them to use alcohol prep pads, not to reuse lancets… the basic stuff!

sazjo20
sazjo20 2013-05-31 16:17:36 -0500 Report

hi ther i hav no diabetic friends so anyone i am in contact with is still learning and they dont understand … or else family can be so over protective … i am just after support and a but of guidance…

tpsreport
tpsreport 2013-05-30 01:26:48 -0500 Report

Kids are demanding and don't understand moods, lack of energy, or apathy, etc… My numbers were and sometimes are a roller coaster ride to this day. Tell your kid to chill. Honesty and transparency is best policy I say. Kids are great observers and can be a great diabetic management asset.

sazjo20
sazjo20 2013-05-31 16:19:21 -0500 Report

hi ther my kids are so young its hard to explain to them and the older ones are so worried about me dying too… its so scary for them at the moment.. rollercoaster is exactly how i would describe things at moment …

Trishee_71
Trishee_71 2013-05-29 19:59:58 -0500 Report

Although I look young in my profile picture, I'm actually a bit "older". Have been a Type 1 for almost 38 years. I don't really have too many friends who understand my diabetes, and those who do, ONLY do because they have family members or know someone who has diabetes. Even my own husband doesn't understand why I'm always tired, and hardly ever feel well. Lately, I have been having unbearably HIGH blood sugar. I don't eat as well as I should, and I know that's my own fault. It's sad, I feel nauseated when my blood sugar is low, and just not hungry at all when it's high. If you would like a new friend, please feel free to add me. It would be nice, since I don't have too many friends in the real world as it is.

sazjo20
sazjo20 2013-05-31 16:22:48 -0500 Report

hi ther trishee,, i know what your on about with regards to blood sugars etc the problems i am having are prob my fault cause of poor control my hubby doesnt fully understand and it hurts sometimes… i myself am a quiet person and dont have too many friends myself .. i have a confidence problem lol please do be my friend… how do u add as friends on here …xx

Set apart
Set apart 2013-05-29 05:47:35 -0500 Report

You are definitely not alone I all of this. Lows are pretty scary, I experience a few a week, sometimes more, but when children are around it's important to discuss and reassure what's going on in our bodies. When I experience a real bad low, it sends me to tears, the anxiety and desperation of wanting it to go away! I was diagnosed as a T1 almost 2 years now, but I have chosen to be a woman with diabetes, and it cannot identify who I am. Let your diabetes be a part of who you are, but with you in the drivers seat, it's not easy and there are days that D almost takes the wheel, but we go on. Let me reassure you that I hate D, but I am a person with it, so my goal is to live, love and laugh in life, (sometimes with tears)! I will request you to be my friend, if you ever need to talk! Best of luck!

sazjo20
sazjo20 2013-05-31 16:25:31 -0500 Report

diabeties is a curse and what u describe is how i feel at times … when i take lows i get emotional and weap for my father .. emotions run so high… thanks for being a buddy

bar59567
bar59567 2013-05-29 00:13:52 -0500 Report

I know how you feel. I'm on the same boat as you. I just can't seem to get there. Maybe we could help each other. That would be great.

sazjo20
sazjo20 2013-05-31 16:28:53 -0500 Report

your friendship would be a blessing being diabetic is a lonely scary experience and illness… but we can beat this together…xx
i am sarah wife to jeff 21 years and 5 kiddies 1 angel baby christopher 17 natasha 14 paul almost 6 and wee cole 4… i live in belfast uk

Prprincess0923
Prprincess0923 2013-05-28 23:02:36 -0500 Report

I also get that way at times and it hard but get easy. If u need a friend I'm here as well. Want to talk just email me anytime!!!!

sazjo20
sazjo20 2013-05-31 16:30:05 -0500 Report

hi there having a diabetic buddy would be great as sometimes this illness makes me so lonely..xx

T'Leesa
T'Leesa 2013-06-01 01:48:53 -0500 Report

I welcome your friendship too. I am Teresa and I have a 22 year old son. I live in southern California. God bless you and your family.

T'Leesa
T'Leesa 2013-05-28 22:45:23 -0500 Report

Okay…first, I am really sorry you are feeling this way. It's natural for some people to go through the doldrums when told they have an illness. Also blood sugar levels can affect our moods. You don't tell us much about your extended family, friends, or your sugar levels, etc., as some of the other members have said. But I can tell you this - diabetes is not a death sentence. Your children are not being punished because you have diabetes just like our families aren't. We can't tell you why you have it. We can offer support. Take control of your life and your health - emotionally, physically, spiritually - the whole deal. You can ill afford to sit back and have a pity party. Your children will pick up on your emotions. If they see you frantic and feeling defeated, what else are they suppose to think? No child wants to see their mother frantic and scared. You probably haven't explained what diabetes is to your children, which also may be a reason young son wants to know if you're dying. Try going to the library or on the internet to find information not only for yourself, but for your children explaining what diabetes is. (Make sure is age appropriate for them or you'll just confuse them even more.) Ask your physician to explain this diabetes to you , and please don't forget to ask questions. Have your doctor, or a pediatrician to explain the illness to your children. The latter may even have brochures that you can read and show them. When you are preparing healthy meals for yourself, there's no reason the family can't eat the same foods, or at least some of it. Involve the children in the preparation somehow. Be creative. Be informed. If you need someone to talk to, you can definitely talk to me. We all need friends. Remember, you are not powerless, and you are certainly not alone. Take care.

Kats49
Kats49 2013-06-01 18:42:22 -0500 Report

T'Leesa are you a guidance counselor? If not you should consider your skills if you ever need another job. I also went to the library in 1984 to find a way to explain to my little ones why Daddy was acting crazy sometimes. I already did a long reply earlier on this subject. As diabetics we have to take control of our disease, as a spouse I needed to know how to help my husband and my family understand and move on. I am now in my 60's and the kids are adults, their Father died in 2004 from heart disease and diabetes. I was diagnosed in 2007, go figure…I took a class on diabetes to learn how to manage…still learning…

Charlieb63
Charlieb63 2013-05-28 22:44:20 -0500 Report

You are definitely NOT alone. More people have diabetes than you know. I did not know that until I was diagnosed in February. Told a bunch of people I have it and more than I ever expected said "me too". I was very surprised to find friends and people I never knew who had it do. You are not alone. Keep you head up and take your meds and exercise. We're all here for you. :)

Smokebaby
Smokebaby 2013-05-28 17:25:38 -0500 Report

I always have room in my life for more friends. Please feel free to add me to your friends list and inbox me anytime as well. I am lucky as my kids are all adults now and totally understand what I'm going thru. I don't know what I'd do if they all weren't so supportive about all this. Keep your chin up . Looking forward to hearing from you .

tryin2survive
tryin2survive 2013-05-28 11:03:45 -0500 Report

Feel free to inbox me anytime. I know exactly how you feel. This is the same reason I joined this community. I don't have anyone around me who are also diabetic who can relate with what i'm going through. Unlike you I have extreme highs, but that's only because I have yet to keep up with my meds daily and I make poor food choices. My kids aren't old enough to know whats going on, but I constantly get ridiculed by family members who have no idea about what i'm going through.

bbchen68
bbchen68 2013-05-28 10:51:04 -0500 Report

Joyce, perhaps take it down a notch. I definitely have mood swings related to sugar levels, menopause, etc. But now I try to see diabetes as an opportunity to learn about nutrition, try new recipes that I can share with my family, and communicate my needs better, to others and in my inner dialog. Take this journey step by step. Start with regular testing! I am not on here often, but I would be happy to be friends, let me know! Take card of yourself today!

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2013-05-28 12:33:29 -0500 Report

BB I found the message to be lacking information. If you want help give all the details. Don't leave things out or the help you receive may not be beneficial to you.

People can't help anyone who doesn't want to start helping themselves. In the end you turn into the crutch for the person seeking help. The first step in getting back on track is to begin helping yourself. You know what you need to do, you have to do it. It may be hard but you can do anything you choose to do if you put mind, body and soul into it.

I am up front and honest and I don't sugar coat anything nor do I beat around the bush. Everyone of us can offer her help but that help is going to be fruitless if she doesn't start doing what she needs to do. You can't go through life depending on others at some point you have to be responsible for your own life and to do that you have to start to stand on your own.

Gwen214
Gwen214 2013-05-28 10:20:21 -0500 Report

Sazjo20, you're not alone. DC is a place for you, and to get "the support" . Diabetes management is up to you. What you put into taking care of yourself. Cooperation with your doctors, and a great support group, which you have found.

alwaysknitting
alwaysknitting 2013-05-28 04:55:36 -0500 Report

Dear sazjo20,
Hi! I've been T2 for 12 years. I was right on track until 2 years ago. My body is reacting to several problems. Trying to get it all worked out again!

If you need a friend, I'm here. I'm here on this site & via mail if you like. I love to write 10-25 page letters. Be nice to have a new friend. I'd be delighted to get to know you.
Let me know what you think. I must get some sleep. Have to be up by noontime to begin my day. (Long story!) … Sending the first of many hugs… Keeping you in my prayers, Cathy

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2013-05-27 22:04:15 -0500 Report

Why do you feel alone? These days most people have friends, neighbors or family members who are diabetic. All it requires is asking those you know. Do you have close friends? If not, why? I have friends who are and aren't diabetic. My 3 closest friends and I can talk about everything.

Have you talked to your kids about being diabetic? Have you told them to call 911 should you need emergency assistance? If not why? Kids understand more than most adults think they do. If you panic when you have a low the kids will panic. If you make a big deal out of minor things, so will the kids. The kids are reacting to your actions.

Only you can get yourself back on track. Everyone on this site can more than likely tell you how to do this but only you are the one who has to accomplish the things that will get you on track. Set down and write down things you would like to accomplish by the end of the day, week or month. Work towards accomplishing those goals. Start small. No one wakes up in the morning and decides to take a 40 mile hike if they have not prepared or it.

You are also the only one who can get control of things. Your kids will be able to relax as long as you don't act like you are dying. Diabetes will kill you if you don't take proper care of yourself? Why are you having lows? Are you on insulin? Are you eating properly and taking medications as required. If you are not doing what you should do, lows will occur. Take steps to begin to get back on track and eventually you will be on the track.

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