How to get motivated.

By lilacflower Latest Reply 2013-04-20 22:51:36 -0500
Started 2013-04-20 17:29:02 -0500

I have had type 2 diabetes for a very long time now. I am overweight and I can't get motivated any more to lose weight. I also have an underactive thyroid. I seem to be getting very emotional lately probably because my husband is away. I am in my 60's, I have no transport to go anywhere so I stay home all the time. Oh dear, the list could go on and on but I must stop feeling sorry for myself.

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Graylin Bee
Graylin Bee 2013-04-20 20:49:58 -0500 Report

I tend to hibernate like you. When my hubby was out on the road for weeks on end, it was a struggle to force myself out of the house. That was many years before my diabetes diagnosis. However, I was dealing with the after effects of a nuero invasive form of West Nile Virus. We lived in a small town with no public transportation and I cannot drive due to bad vision.
I would walk, about every other day, the almost a mile round trip, to the Post office. Then include a short shopping trip at the grocery store on the way home. Maybe picking up an apple, a few veggies, a cut of meat, and a few other groceries. Other days I would browse, and buy some yarn at my favorite weaving and knitting store. Sometimes I would stop in at an antique store and indulge in looking over all the fabrics for some wonderful pieces of handwovens to add to my small collection. The walking helped, and I rewarded myself with yarns to play with and fabric samples to try to copy.
Another stop, although it would add about another half mile, was the library.
During the summer I would walk through the 8 blocks of my side of town to the city limits, checking for yard sales. I would start early when the temp was a little cooler and be back home by 8 or 9 when the day's heat would be starting to make mefeel a little too hot.

lilacflower 2013-04-20 21:20:42 -0500 Report

Thank you Graylin Bee, I really need to try and get out early, I do walk to my local grocery store for my groceries, meat and veggies, but thats all I am interested in at this shopping center. I would love it if it had a wool or craft stall, but it has several quick food places, a very expensive spa and beauty place. A dentist and a couple of other shops. Not very interesting at all. I really would have to walk miles to the next shopping center. Just a change of Grocery store not much there either. I will eventually pull myself out of this and it won't be long before my husband will be back, in about another month. Thank you for caring Graylin Bee.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2013-04-20 19:08:55 -0500 Report

Lillac you have to want to be motivated in order to be motivated by someone else. You also have to learn to motivate yourself. You are feeling sorry for yourself because that is easy to do and once you start you get comfortable with it. So rather than find something to do, you find it much easier to sit around feeling sorry for yourself. You can start by making a list of things you want to do and start doing them. Include things you can do alone.

If you are able to do so, why not go out for a walk. You can do that alone or with a friend or neighbor. Start a walking group in your neighborhood. A friend did this earlier this year after her husband died. She is making new friends and meeting more of her neighbors. Some Malls have Mall Walk groups who meet and walk around the mall for exercise before the mall opens. Schools and libraries are always looking for people to read to kids or tell them stories. Join a book club, garden and if you don't have a yard and have a balcony you can grow tomatoes, flowers or other veggies in containers. If you don't know how, learn to knit or crochet. If you have the space and like doing them, buy a jigsaw puzzle and put it together. Learn to paint or make jewelry. There are all kinds of self motivating things you can do on your own and it will give you the opportunity to meet people. If you have public transportation where you live, catch a bus and go to a museum or go shopping. I currently do not have a car but that doesn't stop me from going places I want to go. I will catch 3 buses to get to the library or one to go to our harbor. I don't depend on people to do things for me. I only ask for help when I get to the point where I simply cannot do something alone. The only person I depend on is myself. I am not going to burden my friends with my problems because the minute I tell them I feel sorry for myself they will tell me to get over it and go do something.

Feeling sorry for yourself and waiting for someone to motivate you only puts you in a rut that over time will be hard for you to get out of. The more active you are, the less time you have to feel sorry for yourself and become emotional over everything. You have to be stronger than the problems you have otherwise you can't solve them. Losing weight isn't easy regardless of the medical problems you may or may not have. It takes perseverance and determination and being the "Little Engine That Could" as long as you think or believe you can do something you will be able to do it. Good luck to you.

lilacflower 2013-04-20 20:15:59 -0500 Report

Thank you Just Joyce. I know what you say is true, believe me I have done all these things.The big problem here is that there is NO public transport whatsoever. I can walk for short distances but have a medical problem. Also it is 90 deg's here at the moment and gets a lot hotter, in the 100+ for many months. As you said yourself, I am not going to burden people with my problem. I am very independant. I do knit and crochet, I can't afford to make jewelry, which I would love to do. I am and have been into crafts all my life. In fact when my children were young I was president of a craft group. I used to get involved in their school, I was always doing things for the school. I was treasurer for a few years for mothers club. I am sorry Joyce I have done all those things, but where we live here I am stuck. I have been very strong over the many years, but I am just at a point of not being able to get myself motivated again. I have had a weight problem for about 40 years now, I know all about perseverance and determination. Thank you for your advice.

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