I Have Always Decorated For Holidays; No Matter What But ?

By Latest Reply 2010-12-20 21:56:53 -0600
Started 2008-12-08 18:21:48 -0600

This year I want to but not in the way I wanted to year after year. It just seems like such there is nothing to celebrate anymore. I have tons and tons of handmade ornaments, decorations, table cloth, placemats, napking the works. I even made holiday curtains for 20 windows. Each room according to their colors. I am an interior decorater by degree and for the first time I feel too much pain, and too much depression to do it.How do you feel like the holidays this year, more like a job then a celebration?


24 replies

squog master
squog master 2010-12-20 21:56:53 -0600 Report

Well, I come into this Christmas very hyped up. 1. Because I'm on a lot of prednisone for RA, that gives me insomnia so I can get a lot done! 2. Because last Christmas I was still on a wound vacuum in a rehab center recovering from hernia surgery. 3. Because two Christmases before that I was displaced because of a fire in my Condo. As for decorations…I haven't replaced many after the fire. Being here to spend time w/my family is the most important thing of all even when I don't feel upto it.

2008-12-16 06:17:20 -0600 Report

I am going to try really hard today to follow my own suggestions and get some things done I would normally do for Christmas. I slept about 4 hours last night which is more than I have slept in a week; mood swings, so maybe I will feel a little better about getting started and following through. I hope others' will try getting out of that rut
as well. Claudia

Debe Pendice
Debe Pendice 2008-12-16 06:23:27 -0600 Report

Good for you Claudia, you said it right. We must all follow through our plans. If we quit it never gets done. I am gun ho right now,cause I do this for my nieces. Because I'm down and out, that don't mean I need to portray that to these girls. My only problems is my mobility. I must wait for someone to climb the stair and get the stuff for me. I have to wait till someone has the time to be by my side so I don't lose balance standing to add the decorations around the house. My mother is a saint. I have her doing everything I can't. But I must say she is a trooper. My brother who lives at least 75 miles away, give my Mother and me aleast 4 hrs a week of his time to help us. I was blessed with a wonderful family…Debe

2008-12-16 07:33:23 -0600 Report

That is certainly wonderful to hear; family support, and the way you supported John through your childhood experiences in reference to his son was outstanding. Thankyou dear friend, and look at new crafts. Claudia

Two painful feet
Two painful feet 2008-12-14 22:17:44 -0600 Report

I'm so blessed that I still have my husband with me after his 5th heart attack last August. He got out the decorations and put them up for me. If he would have been called home. I physicaly would not be able to do these things that make Christmas for me. I would have to asked my friends and my grandchildren to help decorate. I too feel sad that I can no longer decorate and bake for my grandchildren. My post polio has gotten real bad. I used to be able to hobble on my crutches. But now my good leg is giving up. So I have to use my powerchair when I feel like being up. Anyway I Love Christmas and remembering the birth of Jesus Christ. I hope each of us will be able to find some Christmas in our hearts even if we don't get to decorate. One sad thing is someone went into our garage and stole two boxes of our decorations. I have been collecting Santa figurines for years and most of them are gone. I cried when James told me they could not be found. But what can you do but shake off the sad things & put on a smile. I will pray for those friends that have lost a loved one. Be assured they are happy and waiting for you.

Merry Christmas:):)
I Love all my new friends.
JoAnna

2008-12-15 05:13:39 -0600 Report

I know how you all feel, it is getting closer and I have started so many little projects for decorating and everything sits on my dining room table. Sad to say I feel let down, by everyone in my family. Everyone is throwing stressful situations at us right now, and that takes even more of the spirit away. It is just such an overwhelming task.

caragypsy
caragypsy 2008-12-14 21:44:10 -0600 Report

For the last 9 years I have lived in AFH's so all I have is my bedroom. And I have not felt like Christmas. Cara

Punkie200
Punkie200 2008-12-11 07:27:37 -0600 Report

I too have been a little depressed this year. As of today 12-11-08 I have not put up the first decoration. I was let go from my job on Dec. 1st which does not help matters. I will know next week if I will get unemployment or not. After reading the messages you have received, I too will go and put a few decorations up. Nothing that requires electricity this year. Happy Holidays to everyone.
Linda

barbiesue
barbiesue 2008-12-11 09:30:13 -0600 Report

I have a big problem when it comes to Christmas. My daughter passed away the day after Christmas, 4 yrs ago. We were very close and it just doesn't seem the same or worth the effort. My new hubby is trying to help me through, but it is so hard.
I used to do lots of baking, but what's the sense if I can't enjoy the goods after. I try to make the effort to enjoy, but sometimes it just seems like too much work for so little enjoyment.

Anonymous
Anonymous 2008-12-11 13:49:32 -0600 Report

I am so sorry for your loss. But one thing I found is making and baking for others makes me feel better. I know I cannot have them but others can, so I think how much they will enjoy it. Maybe that will help some. I will be praying and thinking about all of us this Christmas.

daniel velazco
daniel velazco 2008-12-14 21:22:55 -0600 Report

My wife and I didn't want to decorate for
the holidays since we just lost our son. But my daughter said that we should as hr brother would want us to. So as hard as it may be we will be putting up a Christmas Tree.

2008-12-14 21:39:56 -0600 Report

Daniel, this will be a hard holiday for your family and I send my deepest sympathies. Your daughter has a point, as they say 'out of the mouths of babes'. It will be difficult but it will help you all to heal, at least a little. Lean on one another for support and maybe trying to find some happy memories of your son that will make you all smile and maybe even laugh will help you all to get through. :)

Best wishes to all of you in this Holiday season.
*Judy

Brenda Kruse
Brenda Kruse 2008-12-10 21:53:53 -0600 Report

Hey, there, it sounds like we all have the same "mind" game going on. It is hard to accept that we can't do things we did just last year, but the sooner we can, the better. Accepting our limitations (and believing our families do too), is a major step in moving a head with our lives, including Christmas decorating and celebrating. Personally, I try to focus on Christmas as being the birth of Christ and He doesn't care about my decorating, He only cares about the love in my heart. I agree with all others that doing just a little is motivating to maybe do more the next day. For me, I find that putting my manger scene out, first, really raises my spirits and I can celebrate Jesus as Lord and Savior! I will be praying for you! Blessings! Brenda

jaclyncrystal
jaclyncrystal 2008-12-10 23:16:43 -0600 Report

I was feeling less and less of the Christmas cheer this year. LIfe has been stressfull, but it was when my grandchildren got all upset with me because I was not decorating and letting them spend Christmas eve here (a regular tradition for over 11 yrs) I realized that decorations and family were going to make me feel brighter. After all the main thing is "HE IS THE REASON FOR THE SEASON" bless you all and watch out living room here I come. jackie

dyanne
dyanne 2008-12-11 01:55:17 -0600 Report

WELL IT SURE DOES SEEM WE ALL HAVE OUR PROBLEMS. I DO SUFFER FROM DEPRESSION AND THIS YEAR I DONT FEEL UP TO DOING IT EITHER BUT IN THE LONG RUN I KNOW THAT WILL BE EVEN WORSE. SO LIKE OTHERS HAVE SAID DO IT A LITTLE DIFFERENTLY THIS YEAR AND BE HAPPY WITH WHAT U CAN DO !!! WE ALL TEND TO FORGET WHAT XMAS IS REALLY ALL ABOUT . GOD WILL HELP US THROUGH. PRAY AND DO THE BEST U CAN… I KNOW FOR ME ITS HARD NOT HAVING MUCH FAMILY AND MISSING LOVED ONES THAT ARE GONE BUT I STILL HAVE MY 19 YEAR OLD SON SO SOMEWHERE I HOPE TO FIND IT WITHIN MYSELF TO GET MOVING… AND TRY TO BRING SOME JOY AND GRATFULLNESS INTO THE HOUSE.
GOOD LUCK TO ALL HAVING A HARD TIME
DYANNE

2008-12-11 18:23:01 -0600 Report

I know how you feel; my daughter will be here for Christmas day, and totally bewildered if I do not decorate; but normally, it would be done the weekend after Thanksgiving. If that is an indication of what I have done, still not motivated

Anonymous
Anonymous 2008-12-09 11:13:32 -0600 Report

Why not do a scaled down version. Just one room decorate the windows or tables. Put garland over the doorways. You could make it very festive without putting up a tree. Hang some of the ornaments from the garland. If you made stockings or have them put them up. Since you have so many homemade ones find different ways to use them. Put some in a bowl on the table. Or arrange in a circle and put a candle in the middle. If you have bookshelves put some of the shelves. I think you will find if you start to decorate, you will get inspired to come up with ideas instead of putting up a whole tree.

2008-12-10 11:09:14 -0600 Report

You know that is inspiring; one of the ornaments I was going to make was a tree with decorations; styrofoam with ribbons, sequins and lighted necklaces. Then I was going to do the balls and the candle thing. And maybe I will get my homemade snow man scene out and put them together, and, of course , the candles. I am going right now to try, Thanks;
Sincerely Claudia

Anonymous
Anonymous 2008-12-10 11:34:38 -0600 Report

See you can scale down and still be very festive. I only do one room, my den where I spend most of my time, and put out towels and rugs in the kitchen. But my tree is where I go overboard. I have 500 lights and probably 200 ornaments on a 7 foot tree. I only had to buy the lights this year, Everything else I have had for years. for me that is festive enough. so I know you will make it the best you can. and after you get done it always gets me in the holiday spirit more. Christmas is my favorite holiday. Merry Christmas to you and your family.

Debe Pendice
Debe Pendice 2008-12-10 11:52:05 -0600 Report

With the remodeling of our bathroom, which I don't know when will be completed, we have very scares decorations up. My brother will have us down Pittsburgh with them for the weeks ahead. We decorated his house the week of Thansgiving. I enjoyed my nieces and I can't mobilize like I use to. They really made me feel like I was able to help.What a good feeling that was…Debe

2008-12-10 20:06:37 -0600 Report

That sounds really nice; nobody ever wants to share the decorating with me. But I did start making decorations, thanks to this post response earlier.
That is a start. I am really having problems with memory and eye=hand co=ordination. But, I did get started, and plan to continue tomorrow.

Debe Pendice
Debe Pendice 2008-12-10 20:33:44 -0600 Report

Take one day at a time. But try and keep your hands moving. Its gets harder and harder every year for me to, but although I can't do what I did 2 years ago, I will keep on trying. I have this hand ball the gave me when I did dialysis. I use that ball daily to to keep my hands and fingers moving. I use it when I watch TV so its not like I have to schedule doing it. It is so hard for me to not be able to do the things I did 2 years ago, but I will try my best…Debe

Lanore
Lanore 2008-12-09 08:27:05 -0600 Report

I have been feeling this way, this year as well. I think it has to do with everything going on in the world right now. Everything is tight right now. I know we are short on cash and so on. Try just getting your stuff out hte see what happens…maybe it will help you get in a better frame of mind. I know my daughter and I both were staying the same thing last night, but after getting the tree decorated, we both felt a ltittle better. Give it a try and see. Feel better Claudia. Lanore ;-)

Ginlea
Ginlea 2008-12-09 07:23:54 -0600 Report

Do not feel so sad about the holidays.I believe everyone at this time of the year right now is going through sad times.With the cost of medications,groceries,bills,home payments,etc.People are unhappy this year.But others are looking forward to you decorating and bringing cheer to your children or grandchildren.If you have always decorated for your family then they may be a little upset if you do not this year.If you feel down right now it will not last long after you decorate for the others.This year i told my kids they were getting one gift Christmas,because we do not have the money and they are ok with that.And I will not be putting a tree up this year and they are ok with that.ill go to my parents home and they will have trees there.I am also going to take them around town this year to see all the houses decorated plus take them to the park we the decorate every year with over 600 lights.The whole park is lit up for wonderland.Just dont be sad about the Holidays enjoy it with your family.

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