Suicide attempt

Anonymous
By Anonymous Latest Reply 2013-04-09 14:02:50 -0500
Started 2013-03-30 13:00:11 -0500

A long time friend of mine who is also a T1 tried to kill herself last year… Due mostly to lack of support for living with chronic illness. She had been diabetic 25 or 26 years.She lived through it but the event sits in my mind sometimes because we once were so close.We live far apart now but grew up together. Neither one of us have a good support system; then or now. Any thoughts on surviving long term chronic illness without a support system? …when its just you? No family to speak of in a pretty isolated situation. Any suggestions?


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Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2013-04-02 18:00:19 -0500 Report

HI!

This is such a sad story. We weren't meant to live our lives without the support of other people. And it ssuch a sad thing to think of someone with diabetes not getting support. It is possible that your friend isalso experiecning depression, in addition to her diabetes.

As others have said, DC is such an incredible place to get support. Wherever you are, whatever time of day, you can come here and be supported by people who get what you are going through.

But this also reminds me of how important it is to reach out for help from a professional when you are feeling overwhelmed emotionally. Hopefully, your friend is going to get some needed help.

Thanks for sharing this with us.

Gary

Lisa.29
Lisa.29 2013-04-01 23:18:03 -0500 Report

I know how it feels to wanna quit … I've had great support here & also a few friends/family who check up on me occasionally.

Set apart
Set apart 2013-04-01 05:56:19 -0500 Report

I have found great support here, DC has notonly helped me to learn about D, but it has provided me with friends and real people who are living with the same struggles as myself. God has been my carrier through all of this, He has taught me to trust in him more than ever!

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2013-03-31 18:24:11 -0500 Report

I have a support system that I do not use. I learned to support myself.

If you don't have support and don't know how to be self supporting start a support group in your area for people with diabetes. There may be people in your area with the same problem as you and do not know what to do. You can find a location to meet. Some churches will let people use their rooms at no cost. Start by developing a flyer and got to supermarkets and post it on the community board. Find other community boards in your area and post them there. Have anyone interested to contact you via email. Explain why you want to start a support group. If you get responses and are not willing to take the lead when you get together, ask if someone would like to take the lead.

Another resource are area hospitals and health clinics. Contact them to see if they have support groups. Not everyone has family or friends who are support them. Good luck to you.

jayabee52
jayabee52 2013-03-31 18:38:29 -0500 Report

another resource to aid in the meetings is to go to 'Meetup.com' There may already be a suicide prevention group going on near that location. Or one could be started. Meetup is a service to aid people of similar interests to meet in the real world

Gwen214
Gwen214 2013-03-31 08:10:51 -0500 Report

Seek support elsewhere. Friends, community of other diabetics. Diabetes is not a rare disease, there are people out there that understand. Don't ever feel like you're alone. Take care

katcot2152
katcot2152 2013-04-01 15:10:09 -0500 Report

Good idea, James…Who will understand why someone wants to commit suicide better than one who has been there, done that? One truly doesn't understand the whys and what fors unless they had walked the walk

snuggles11
snuggles11 2013-03-30 22:17:54 -0500 Report

Hello anonymous
I'm also with no support system !
Type 2 about a month now
I have a positive outlook !
Some day their will be someone special
Come into our life fill the empty spot !
Getting involved in your community !
Helping someone who has less than you do
Brings joy to my heart !
Seeing a smile in their face is very fulfilling to me
Keep your chin up !
Remember
When you cry you cry alone
When you smile the whole world will smile with you !
Tammy

Stuart1966
Stuart1966 2013-03-30 17:32:13 -0500 Report

Stay in touch with her!

Make the simple act of discussing entirely worthless nonsense a weekly act, a simple email. However, ALWAYS share too… you do not mention if you are also one of us as well. Regardless, ask the questions on your mind…

Sometimes simply wanting to know and saying so, is enough. Isolation is not isolation if someone is nudging us, prodding us as a friend.

Caroltoo
Caroltoo 2013-03-30 17:23:40 -0500 Report

Create your own "family" by which I mean a group of people online or in person who will listen when you share, give you some validation of your feelings, and occasionally make a suggesting for you to consider. There are lots of us here on DC who regularly do that for others, but we usually work through the private message section rather than just out here where you may feel more exposed.

jayabee52
jayabee52 2013-03-30 15:31:07 -0500 Report

The best suggestion I can make, Anon, is to get involved in life around you. Volunteer, get involved in a church or civic organization. Make friends around you and you will have a support system of people who care about you. It doesn't have to be other people with diabetes, but just having someone who cares can be a big help.

Back in 2006 I went through a extremely low time when my kidneys quit on me and I needed to go on dialysis. I had been divorced in 2001, and had little to no family support as everyone lived in another state. I had already been involved in a church and other organizations and those helped me greatly with my emotional health. And yes I strongly considered stopping my dialysis treatments and just letting the kidney disease take me. Plus I had been having suicide ideations (thoughts of suicide) ever since I was in my teens. I know what it is like to want to make my life go away.

Also I echo Harlen's sentiment. Please come back here repeatedly and get to know us. You will get lots of support and encoruragement here.

Praying for your improving health

James

katcot2152
katcot2152 2013-03-30 19:02:14 -0500 Report

Good advice…some years back, I had lost my best friend in the world, my mother - she was my support system (I was divorced, with 4 young children, and my youngest son had to have reconstructive surgery that would enable him to talk and be understood by others…that surgery took place a few months after my mom passed. It was a very low time for me. My aunt had suggested I go back to church so I did. I helped form a singles group where we could go out together and enjoy life by going to the movies, out to dinner, bowling, dancing…anything that we thought would be fun. And then I went to Mass and listened to the priest's sermon and oddly it seemed like it was meant for me, like he was talking directly to me (i hadn't talked about my troubles to the priest and wondered how he knew). I told my aunt about the sermon and she said that it was the Lord talking to me through the priest! Sure helped to turn my life around!!! You see, I had attempted suicide back then (and that was 21 years ago! I don't like to talk about it much, but the advice to go back to church was the best I had ever followed and to this day I am glad I did. Now I have lived to see my granddaughter (who was my focal point that helped me get through open heart surgery) and unbeknownst to the family, my other daughter-in-law got pregnant and now I have a grandson as well and they keep me going. In addition to James' advice to go to church, I would also tell you to take a long walk where you can smell the early signs of Spring, enjoy Mother Nature, look around to see just what we all have to be grateful for. I had a sister-in-law who was a type 1 diabetic, and she was followed very closely by the Joslin Clinic in Boston. An ultrasound had shown that the baby was hydrocephalic and she and by brother-in-law were considering abortion. He had come to me for my advice. I had suggested that before they make any decision, they should seek out parents of a hydrocephalic child who survived, and see how that child was doing. They followed my advice and had the baby - a darling little boy. Yes, he had some problems, like spina bifida, but he learned to walk with crutches. When my oldest son got married, I had the honor and pleasure to dance with my nephew. He is now in college and doing quite well. But I thank God every day, because there but the grace of God, go my youngest son. We were lucky his problems weren't worse than .what he had. And remember, God only gives us as much a he knows we can handle! And if it gets too tough, read that poem Footprints!

tinkerbell54
tinkerbell54 2013-03-30 18:04:48 -0500 Report

I know we all have that though at times I had that though when I was in my 20 my MOM had died I had no male friends to talk of. My life was just work & take care of my father who did not cook, or know how to play bills. or take care of checking account. but then I found my husband to be he would not give up on me now we will be married 25 yrs . this May 21. Tinkerbell54

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