Last week, a client talked to me about how a friend had done something to hurt him. As he talked, I couldn’t help but notice how his whole demeanor changed. He slumped forward, frowning like he was in pain, his energy drained. I was reminded of how our emotions can make us sick.
And so I said to him: “I know you were hurt by what your friend did. But how is it helping you to carry this grudge around with you? From where I’m sitting, I don’t see the benefit.”
Anybody in your life that you haven’t forgiven?
Let’s take a look at what carrying around that grudge can do to you. For one, holding grudges can lead to stress. Think of all that negativity churning around inside of you as you remind yourself, over and over, of what that other person did. If you have a grudge against someone close to you, most likely this is having an impact on your relationship as well. Being unable to forgive someone can also lead to depression. And if your mental energy is being directed to keeping that grudge alive, then most likely your ability to concentrate, and be at your best, is being affected.
Do you really want to walk around with all of this negativity?
Here’s a link to an article in Living with Diabetes with some ideas on how to become more forgiving.
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