Self-Care and Stress Issues--OMG!

By redkattaylor Latest Reply 2013-05-06 10:44:13 -0500
Started 2013-03-17 19:54:13 -0500

I have been having a really hard time keeping myself motivated when it comes to self-care issues. While I KNOW in my mind that I need to be consistent in taking care of myself, I often end up not really caring because of exhaustion and feelings of being overwhelmed, afraid, and as if no one really cared. When I am not already feeling sick or over-tired I am able to realize that the emotional aspects are symptoms that can and will occur with the different conditions I have. When the pain levels get too high, I am already feeling tired or sick, or I have forgotten my medications, I can find myself wanting to curl up in a small dark cave and just wish the rest of life would quietly go away. I am currently under treatment and have started attending sessions to help me through these, but it can be hard to cope.
On top of these and the multiple conditions I am diagnosed with I have to deal with the conditions and issues concerning my husband's health. He is scheduled for surgery in a few days and we are both feeling very concerned about it. I am not really looking for advice, though any is welcome that is positive, I just need to vent to those who may have experienced the kinds of things I am going to and cry on someone's virtual shoulder. Thank you for understanding. (I also appreciate the virtual hanky.)

6 replies

moon74 2013-03-27 10:31:18 -0500 Report

I so understand everything you are saying. I just want a day of Ordinary. Where I can wake up and not worry about sticking myself. Where I can sleep late and get up and drink whatever I want. Eat like normal people. And there are days I calcutate the odds of why should I be here. And do I want to continue. Every day I make a choice. And some days I make it every hour. We are here for you. You deserve to feel good. You deserve someone to take care of you. And your husband we will pray for. I am sure you are anxious. I would be down right scared. But I know that you can handle this. WE are women and we keep the world going. You are a valuable part of this life. Sending a virtual hug.

tabby9146 2013-05-06 10:43:24 -0500 Report

I would like to have a day like that sometimes, I thnk we all would, where we could just eat whatever we wanted, however much we wanted, and drink what we want. I never ever do that. On occasion, I eat bad things, but not as much as I want of them, I do practice moderation but it sure does get old.

diabetic diva 1975
diabetic diva 1975 2013-03-20 00:21:01 -0500 Report

I too find myself wishing life would just forget about me and pass me bye from time to time but its in these times when I pray. Do you pray or believe In a higher power? Your not alone. Hugs to you. Best wishes for you and your hubby's surgery.

Stuart1966 2013-03-18 19:02:17 -0500 Report

-Gentle chuckling-

If you were NOT "anxious" about surgery, whether yours/your husband's that would make you foolish (at best). Anxiety is the entirely correct and REASONABLE warning signals our bodies give off. The fear of the wolves coming to eat us, the snake about to bite us, the fear of poverty and destitution. Loosing to this diabetes dragon… All manner of fantastic reasons to feel fear. Reasonable fears.

If you wish to care for him, you must care for yourself first and foremost. Done the opposite way, he will certainly have your emotional support but from a hospital bed, because we failed to eat, or intelligently medicate ourselves.

How do we serve them, if our own efforts harm us by that "service"?

canadagirl874 2013-03-18 09:22:47 -0500 Report

You are not alone with your feelings I also have feelings at times where I just wanna stay in bed away from the world :( I have depression. And am on meds for that I have been feeling ok but these last couple of weeks I have had feelings if sadness so your not alone and if you need a shoulder to cry on just hit me up:)