What DO you "hide" ???

By Stuart1966 Latest Reply 2013-05-21 00:18:37 -0500
Started 2013-03-08 12:16:04 -0600

What do YOU "hide" about your "diabetes dragon"?

A recent discussion got me wondering what my fellow diabetics openly hide about their condition? What kinds of things don't you share with family, friends, loved ones all the time? What kinds of things do you keep "secret" ???

Having been a diabetic a long time, I have an idea or two, for myself at least. I'm curious if others "omit" telling anyone about the "minor low(s)", or the annoying high reading(s) that shouldn't be there if the *(&)^^% insulin worked as it should have (and was supposed to be), type deal?

What kinds of things do you forget to mention? Or what kinds of things somehow magically never "come up" ? Are there diabetic things that should not be shared with others? Are there things we keep only to ourselves???

Should that be an issue? Should we be able to keep diabetic secrets, tell the occasional diabetes "fib(s)"?



17 replies

GabbyPA 2013-05-21 00:18:37 -0500 Report

I think omission is the general rule of any of my hiding. Just knowing that I will get a weird response or something. Why bother. I do try to be transparent with it all, but sometimes, it's not worth the response.

Stuart1966 2013-05-20 22:23:11 -0500 Report

The occasional low episode is NOT mentioned at family gatherings… any "changes" are not mentioned (sic. ever).

MrsCDogg 2013-03-13 06:59:07 -0500 Report

I don't talk about it much. If I do it's mostly with my dear husband. If I need to talk to the doc about something I do…mostly. Several family members and a couple friends are also diabetic so we usually have a conversation about it. I don't talk about it to others outside my circle. Unless it is someone who needs to know such as a supervisor. Since I'm not working right now that isn't a problem though.

Set apart
Set apart 2013-03-10 07:08:34 -0500 Report

Since diagnosed I still hear, "one day you'll figure this out.". I am not sure if certain individuals think that there is a magic formula to all of this. Sometimes if I experience a high BG reading and they ask "how are your numbers?, I just say they're fine, I am the one responsible for this, and I do like to be in control, but sometimes things just don't work, not sure if they would understand!

Stuart1966 2013-03-11 22:58:17 -0500 Report

Hello set apart:
Myself I start conversations "…HI, my name is Stuart…" (-impish grin-) but know and met many who start their conversation(s) with the "diabetic math" (sic. mine). Reminds me of those chattering teeth toys…

Love to believe there is some "magic formula", that bad guys wear "black hats", the "good guys" always win. Agree don't believe they would understand.

diabetesfree 2013-03-09 08:39:33 -0600 Report

I don't tend to mention to my spouse (who is also diabetic) episodes where I have fallen off the "diabetic diet wagon". Every once in awhile I will over indulge. I don't don't actively hide anything, but I don't exactly go out of my way to mention these episodes, either!

Stuart1966 2013-03-11 23:01:44 -0500 Report

Hello Diabetesfree:

Thanks for taking part!!! A meaningful distinction… IYV ??? Can we split such hairs you think? Better question maybe, why do we ???

diva53d 2013-03-11 12:35:11 -0500 Report

I think we all fall off the diabetic wagon.. I know i do and I even have an appointment tomorrow at the diabetic clinic.. Yikes! Oh well, C'est la vie! We have to live also. With everything else I am going through I am allowed a slight trip off the wagon so to speak! :D Hope both you and your wife are well and back on the wagon.. as I may be after March break! Cheers! :D

GrammieMags 2013-03-09 08:26:01 -0600 Report

I've been diagnosed for six months, and so far there isn't anything that I feel shouldn't be discussed.

I have shared the diabetes with the people I share my life with. When I have a complication or something new I share if I want to. I do not talk about me every time I'm with my friends or family.

I have easy, though. I don't have major complications and lots of meds. If I get to that point, and I'm still here, I'll probably share!

Gwen214 2013-03-08 19:35:36 -0600 Report

I really don't "hide" anything, I've had it so long, it's not a big deal to discuss anything unless life threatening. If they ask, then I say something. I don't usually bring anything up, I hate being the center of attention.

Stuart1966 2013-03-08 23:23:35 -0600 Report

Hello Gwen214:

Thank you for taking part…

Will/can our silence achieve avoiding this kind of attention, such scrutiny? Where do lows figure into that equasion. Technically any of em can potentially be life threatening.

Any details out of bounds? Generic answers all around for 95% in my view… a few are entitled to much more if they wish to know, most (as I see it) not a freakin prayer.

lorider70 2013-03-08 14:27:37 -0600 Report

I never "hide" anything from family, friends, or my doctor if I think they need to know, I'll tell them. fortunately everyone understands and is helpful.

Stuart1966 2013-03-08 23:40:32 -0600 Report

Isn't such omission the same as hiding, in many ways?

What do you do when family, friends "MEAN WELL" BUT hold onto the "ghosts" of our diabetes past event(s)??? Where do they figure in??? "…Sorry I scared you a million years ago… but, you need to get over that…" -forced smile-

MAYS 2013-03-08 12:31:03 -0600 Report

Nothing, honestly i discuss anything, and everything if i am asked by my doctors or others, imcluding my issues with E.D. (when they existed)…I can't be helpful if i am selective in the information that i disclose, others may disagree with me on this.

Stuart1966 2013-03-08 23:56:15 -0600 Report

Hello Mays:

Thanks for contributing too…

LOL, you must be a blast at family gatherings… don't some of them just want the reassurance that we are "doing fine", aren't going die immediately or maybe just crash low right in front of them???

For real, you don't filter anything? Wow. Wish I had your doctor, mine all have pathetically limited time and want real narrow pinpoints of information solely (: /

shortysmalls 2013-03-08 14:00:35 -0600 Report

i too discuss things with my doctor tht are important at that time…and bring up other issues when arrise also meds ect so it is at the time of my visit on what is going on and needed at the time so dont hide anything…just discuss stuff that I need to when needed

Stuart1966 2013-03-09 00:01:25 -0600 Report

Was not talking about MD's, that's a different channel. Besides they do that all by themselves… no time, no interest if it ain't their direct field and specific very narrow interest… they won't explore it, or engage in it. >: X