Stressed and depressed

Anonymous
By Anonymous Latest Reply 2013-03-08 06:34:20 -0600
Started 2013-03-04 02:44:13 -0600

Hi! Im new here. I joined because i know this is where i can finally find people who actually understand me.

Ive had diabetes type1 since i was 14 yrs old and i am now turning 23. Since i had diabetes, ive had depression and i get stressed out quickly and i always have mood swings. I dont like it because it affects the people around me. Does my diabetes have somethin to do with my stress and depression and mood swings? Anyone who can give me some advice to cope with this? i would very much appreciate it, thanks!


26 replies

Gwen214
Gwen214 2013-03-07 22:22:46 -0600 Report

Yes, to all. I'm a T1 for 27 years. I'm going through what your going through. I do things I enjoy. Try not to think about the negatives, and talk to a counselor

Hub2901
Hub2901 2013-03-06 14:04:07 -0600 Report

hi,

I've just joined here, and I'm glad that I'm not the only one with problems with either Diabetes or depression and the likes. I ended up joining due to reading about overdose and stuff with insulin. Some of the stuff is interesting as I have never fully understood what the effects can be and so has made me think a little more before acting (stupidly in some peoples opinion). I have been so glad to realize I'm not the only one. I do question though if there is a link with diabetes and depression…

lneider
lneider 2013-03-07 20:09:58 -0600 Report

I work at keeping depression away, take one day at a time each morning I write a note regarding my stress triggers, I place it in a basket & tell myself just for now I am not going to worry about that, then I often meditate or finean activity sometimes just walking kind of does the trick, diabetes iwhat I have not who I am I live my life the best I can in spite of it. L please find someone to talk to, there is education out there on coping skills, start with your Dr. in the mean time hang in there L

Hub2901
Hub2901 2013-03-07 20:32:09 -0600 Report

Trying my best. I've managed to get past silly thoughts linked with depression for now just with seeing that I'm not the only one who has problems with diabetes and stuff. Sometimes I end up on here as a part distraction. If you know what I mean. Itddoesn't help that my appointment with my diabetes consultant has been cancelled by the hospital so many times that I don't feel I'm taken seriously. I've recently started on new insulin (dec) & don't know the full in's and out's of it. There's a long story behind that, but right now I don't want to mention as such. My g.p. that I've seen has been helpful but he retires on the 12th March. I hope I can find someone else to help.

lneider
lneider 2013-03-07 20:44:27 -0600 Report

good, your best is all you can do, & never give up, my son who is just 29 is a diabetic too & is battling depression I worry more about him then myself I finaly got him to open up about it and offer him support I hope you have a support system, that is what this site is for hang in there L

Hub2901
Hub2901 2013-03-07 21:58:13 -0600 Report

Well I do have some support. I've a psychotherapist, who is working with me to batte the depression and b.p.d ( borderline personality disorder ) of which is a strange diagnosis as I don't see it in myself apart from one bit, but won't mention that as I don't want to make people scared or think I'm completely weird. It just means that I have emotional problems as such. My psychotherapist is great though as she can read me well enough to suss out if I'm really low mood wise. I feel I can talk to her (within reason… I do hold back for fear of being sectioned though, but I now know to speak out before things get too bad) and I have a friend who has helped me so much that when I've not made sense communicating on phone either talking or texting he's turned up with something to hand to pick my sugars up when I'm having a hypo but got so bad that my brain doesn't know it… that does scare me… I know I can't thank him enough as he's probably saved me from going out cold and never coming round. That's my biggest fear when I'm in the right frame of mind which is now more often than not. Thank god. (Hoping people don't take offense at me using the 'god' bit. I don't wish to comment with religion as I have an open mind and don't disrespect either view. If I cause offence-I'm sorry it's not meant) I have to say I'm now trying to get to grips and sort the diabetes out.

lneider
lneider 2013-03-08 06:34:20 -0600 Report

Iam glad to hear you have some support, no offense taken using God that is my greatest support L

Hub2901
Hub2901 2013-03-07 20:30:59 -0600 Report

Trying my best. I've managed to get past silly thoughts linked with depression for now just with seeing that I'm not the only one who has problems with diabetes and stuff. Sometimes I end up on here as a part distraction. If you know what I mean. Itddoesn't help that my appointment with my diabetes consultant has been cancelled by the hospital so many times that I don't feel I'm taken seriously. I've recently started on new insulin (dec) & don't know the full in's and out's of it. There's a long story behind that, but right now I don't want to mention as such. My g.p. that I've seen has been helpful but he retires on the 12th March. I hope I can find someone else to help.

lneider
lneider 2013-03-06 17:43:09 -0600 Report

boy do I understand I found excercise and setting small goals like certain activities yard & house work help me feel like I accomplished something positive, this helps with blood sugars as well as depression, I practice positive self talk & listen to music, all are very effective L

Hub2901
Hub2901 2013-03-06 18:09:44 -0600 Report

I find myself doing similar but at the moment I'm not really keeping the sugars in target, I'm eating lots of chocolate, comfort eating I suppose. lol. just a momentary thing. I will soon get back to trying my best with the diabetes.

lneider
lneider 2013-03-06 19:42:16 -0600 Report

have you tried Dove'd sugarfree dark chocolate? will need to find a diabetic friendly comfort food, best bet is probably fruit, however certain fruit can spike your blood sugar too, trial & error, may I suggest a food diary, very educational but good plan to see what foods do what to your bllood sugar levels.. L

jayabee52
jayabee52 2013-03-06 14:13:54 -0600 Report

I had depresion long before the age when I was Dx'd with Type 2. I believe my depressiion caused me to make bad choices which led me to develop diabetes.

I don't know if there is a direct causitive link, but for me at least I can see a link from my depression and trying to "medicate" my depression by eating a lot of sweets (serotonin production) and my Diabetes Mellitus (DM) diagnosis.

diabetesfree
diabetesfree 2013-03-06 13:03:04 -0600 Report

Stress isn't usually the direct result of anything (including diabetes), but rather how it is that an individual perceives and then handles the situation. I'm not saying this to belittle anyone's problems, it's just that some people handle what most would consider stressful situations much better than others. I DO NOT happen to be one of those people who can seemingly handle any kind of situation without getting stressed out. I have met quite a few people who hardly let anything phase them though.

As for what the root cause is, that is totally dependent upon the person. Just because diabetes depresses me, someone else might look at the situation completely differently. Whether a particular case of depression is the result of a chemical imbalance or an unresolved emotional issue is not something that is easy to diagnose. Obviously, it's much easier to just take a pill (antidepressants) and hope that the depression goes away. If that doesn't work though, counseling would definitely be appropriate.

If you are suffering from serious stress or anxiety, I would highly recommend books, CDs and DVDs written by Dr. Steven Gurgevich. His self-hypnosis CDs and books have made a huge impact on how well I deal with stress. Hypnosis is a widely misunderstood treatment method, but done correctly can achieve remarkable results over time. Dr. Gurgevich works at Dr. Andrew Weil's treatment facility in Arizona and has taught thousands of students how to perform both clinical and self-hypnosis. Buying his CD was one of the best investments I have ever made. Hypnosis definitely has fewer side-effects (none) than any antidepressant can claim as well. Keep up your spirits and best of luck. There are lots of people here who care.

Patty 00
Patty 00 2013-03-05 23:22:59 -0600 Report

Prozac. It is a challenge with the gastroparesis to take not only the antidepressant but all medications. I hope things start to get better for you. Good luck

Patty 00
Patty 00 2013-03-05 05:25:52 -0600 Report

Well I am 27 and I been a diabetic since my teens, I also suffer from depression and get stressed out. The depression comes with the diabetes and life it's self. At our age with diabetes we been battling a disease and been doing it for years. Alot of time it becomes overwhelming causing depression because we wish to be normal plus with diabetes comes some many other complications with health. Like if life wasn't hard enough trying to survive. Have you tried anti-depressants? I been on them for about 3 years due to a life changing diabetic complication (gastroparesis). Now about stressing out it comes hand and hand with the depression and I completely understand that your love one suffer because sometimes they catch the heat when it has nothing to do with them. You should find something that ease the stress weather it's talking to someone or exercising, walking or meditating so you can channel that energy/ emotion somewhere else. For me exercising and getting away works. Every now and then I get up and drive to somewhere that makes me feel better to just reflect. We need to realize we can't control everything and life is short something's are not worth stressing over. I hope you find your outlet soon and you get out that dark area.

Simlpy Me
Simlpy Me 2013-03-05 21:04:52 -0600 Report

hi Pattyoo, just wondrring what antidepresant you are taking as I also have Gastroparesis, 4yrs now suffering with extremely bad drpression and to I am unable to stomach any anti depresants.

Nick1962
Nick1962 2013-03-04 10:40:46 -0600 Report

I’m not a T1, nor am I anywhere close to 24, so I can’t give you any advice from your perspective. For what it’s worth though, I can humbly offer an outsider’s perspective that’s been formed by associating with a T1 about your age, and having the benefit of another 25+ years of life experience here on earth.

Of course your diabetes has a role in your stress, mood swings and depression, and I’ll add to what you’ve already been told before (lots of times probably), it’s up to you how much you let it affect you. Yeah, I know, roll your eyes, I did it the first thousand times I heard it too.

You’re at an age where your future should pretty much be blank pages just waiting for you to fill in what you want the next 60 or so years of your life to be. Going forward, how those pages get filled in is, and should be, your designs and plans. That’s how it works right? For many it is. We get out of college and picture a blank sketchbook with a page for every year, and we pretty much draw in what we want to – by age 28 we may draw in a degree and a reasonably good job, by 32 a spouse, by 35 a house and that first new car, by 40 that trip to the Bahamas…. and so on.

Trouble is, at least in my experience, some of those pages sometimes already come partially “pre-drawn” for us. There are years I had a pretty good picture drawn for myself just to have someone come along and spray paint black over the whole thing. Your condition kind of puts margins on the pages that you have to comply with. You can still draw in what you want, you just don’t get the whole page. The good news is, you do still get a page, so maybe focus on the space you have available and decorate that, rather than the areas you can’t touch.

As I said, I associate with a T1 close to your age. I can’t say what feelings she goes through in private, but from my contacts with her over the years, as well as others that work with her, she’d have to be a pretty darned good actress to be secretly letting it get to her. She is, however, fully aware that life will suck at times, and with age will come the rewards she has come to plan for herself. Being bothered by the small stuff now will only get in the way of that, because there are going to be some mighty big challenges to face later on. This is a lesson she taught me.

Just my 2 cents, but as a formerly crabby person, I had to take stock in myself and ask a few questions when things got me “in a mood”. Is it really worth my time? Does it really need this much of my effort or thought? Is this really how I would want someone to treat/react to me, diabetic or not? Can I do anything about it? Would it just be smarter to drop it/deal with it quietly and move on? Could I be doing/thinking something more enjoyable or productive instead?
Yes, there were days (and still are) that I felt like I had on a dog shock collar, but hey, it works for dogs. Before long, after you’ve pushed that button on yourself a few times, you learn to change your behavior.

Lentyl
Lentyl 2013-03-06 00:16:21 -0600 Report

Excellent Nick. A good question is this. Will the stressor matter a year from now? Your two cents is worth a dime at least. Lentyl

Nick1962
Nick1962 2013-03-06 08:38:44 -0600 Report

That is a good question to add to the list. Looking back, a lot of stuff that happened to me at 24 was either inconsequential or life altering, but I didn’t possess the tools to distinguish between the two. They were something only age and experience would provide. Fortunately or unfortunately, getting diabetes at age 14 forces you to start acquiring/using those tools sooner. By now Anon here already knows how to deal with the physical aspects of his/her condition, but the mental aspects are new territory.

Lentyl
Lentyl 2013-03-06 10:31:01 -0600 Report

I agree. There is so much to cope with in today's society, regardless of our age, but definitely more difficult for someone of Anon's age.

Lentyl
Lentyl 2013-03-06 11:58:56 -0600 Report

Looking back I don't think that I'd have the strength to do it all over again. 1965 is a long time ago. Today is enough.

Next Discussion: Losing weight »