What to do When you feel like everything is against you

By SkooterSnowy Latest Reply 2013-11-10 16:01:30 -0600
Started 2013-03-02 13:12:28 -0600

I have type II Diabetes, Brittle Asthma, Osteoarthritis, osteoporosis, degenerative arthritis of the spine and hips, chronic migraines, overweight, broken foot that has taken almost a year to heal, going on second surgery to fix the screws put in and address multiple fractures that were not initially addressed…you get the picture…
Because of foot issues I cannot walk to get exercise, because I cannot breather exercise is difficult, I try to eat right which I have changed my diet since I was diagnosed with Diabetes, but still having issues, high cholesterol. I am at my wits end. Between all my other health issues how am I supposed to get exercise to lose weight to help my diabetes, which my weight has been climbing as of late, a lot of my meds side effect are weight gain, I am battling on every front to not eat everything in front of me. Please help if you have suggestions, I am at the giving up point. My blood sugars were running in the normal range and they have been climbing lately, with no change in diet, I eat healthy, no junk foods, snacks are fruits and veggies, well rounded meals, a protein, a vegetable and a carb. I am at a lose and I feel like giving up…Its just like I don't feel like I am sick diabetes doesn't make you feel like your sick, like with my asthma, so you can maintain your denial for a long time. Any suggestions?

18 replies

Stuart1966 2013-03-09 20:17:36 -0600 Report

"…Every normal man must be tempted, at times, to spit upon his hands, hoist the black flag, and begin slitting throats…"

H.L. Mencken, Prejudices, First Series (1919) Ch. 6, "The New Poetry Movement"

Stuart1966 2013-03-09 20:24:12 -0600 Report

Id suggest an exercise known as Tai Chi… (aka Tai Chi Chuan) not because it is something magical, not because it is exotic, or Asian but, because the discipline of ANY practice, done by yourself, not dependent on the weather, other people, it is the discipline of doing the activity consistantly which makes the serious difference.

Practice with a group, in a group and you'll stick with it. Does not require any equipment, or special clothing. Just your body… and basic stubbornness!

tabby9146 2013-03-04 10:29:31 -0600 Report

yes, the resistance bands and stretches are a great idea and yoga too, there are so many different yoga poses, it takes time to see a difference but it wil come, what about Tai Chi? that seems a little to get the hang of, certain ways you have to do movements, I went to You Tube trying to learn that, but I like yoga better, however there is much data suggesting Tai Chi is just as good. Praying for you

jayabee52 2013-03-04 10:58:18 -0600 Report

wouldn't the Tai Chi be done on the feet and therefore would be dangerous for the degenerating arthris of the spine?

Stuart1966 2013-03-09 20:34:25 -0600 Report

Nope, because of its lack of dynamic speed, the easy modifications available to any set/practice all that is necessary is having a heart beat, beyond that is bonus for ones practice.

But in the PRC (Mainland China), and most countries around the world… the majority of practitioners are injured, damaged, arthritic, have heart conditions, etc., etc. Millions do it very, very easily.

It is weight bearing but not usually dynamic until advanced levels, or pretty uncommon styles comparatively. Should pose no problem at all. There are even folks who do it deliberately in swimming pools… balance being the most basic issue for those participants.

sherifawson 2013-03-03 15:56:26 -0600 Report

Ditto to all the comments. I would like to add one. The most amazing gift we can give ourselves is love. You love your family and friends. How much do you like yourself? Do you love yourself? You would probably still love them if they did something you thought was bad. Love yourself the same.

Not sure if this is the message you wanted to hear… I am hearing a lot of trying in your post, and mental anguish. I thought I liked myself just fine. I didn't start seeing it until I admitted I didn't like me. There didn't seem to be much to like about me if truth be told. It changes when you start doing the opposite - you get different results.

If I am in left field let me know. I can take it.

And there is an amazing book by Louise Hay, You Can Heal Your Life.


moon74 2013-03-02 21:35:22 -0600 Report

All of the suggestions have been awesome. Smart choices. jayabee52 and raccoon momma gave some great ideas. Seated Yoga is amazing. You tube has some great videos I love Kundalini Yoga. I do Reiki. But the one thing I will suggest is and I don't mean to offend. But turn it over to a higher Power. I turn it over to God and let him have it. And I don't take it back. Which sometimes is really tough. Prayer is the only thing that sees me thru. Do you journal ? That helps me. And some days I write some pretty ugly things. Words have power. Be careful what you say. Joyce Meyer is a great one to watch and you can watch her on the computer. Don't give up. And please know the days that I am feeling life sucks, you can come back at me and tell me what I am telling you. I so hope I don't offend you. But I know a higher power, God or what ever you call him is the way to go. And all of the other comments from every one else too.

tabby9146 2013-03-04 10:31:43 -0600 Report

yes a higher power, I turn it over to God too, like Moon74 said. I read devotionals everyday, on the busiest days, I have one that takes only a few minutes. I get them sent to my email

jayabee52 2013-03-02 14:13:45 -0600 Report

Howdy Nichole.

I have been there myself where it seems that everything is against me. and many times I just wanted to give up and die. And I feel your pain (as they say).

I take a look at what you shared as your "medical challenges" and they are difficult to live with, to be sure.

However should you want some suggestions about ways to manage your diabetes mellitus (DM) better and perhaps lose some weight there are some suggested steps to take.

The foot issues, while they keep you off your feet, they do not stop you from exercising. You can do seated exercises. There is seated Yoga, there are exercises in the water. There is a lot one can do without standing on your feet should you seek them out.

RE: breathing difficulties, just do what you are able to do, but it is important that you move your body. You don't have to get a "muscle pump" for exercise to do you some good.

Regarding the higher Blood Glucose levels without change of eating patterns, have you measured your portion sizes recently? We all can fall into the "portion size creep" problem. So check your portion sizes. That may also help either reduce or at least slow your weight gain.

And about your eating plan perhaps you might want to shake it up. I started a meal plan in 2011 which I partially follow to this day and with it I got off of my diabetes meds, lowered my A1c, and dropped 65 lbs within months. You may read about what I did here ~ http://www.diabeticconnect.com/discussions/14...

I admit discontinuing eating grain products is a bit unusual, but I found it not so hard to do and the benefit to me was great. Perhaps it might work in your case as well.

I had been suffering from osteoarthritis before. When I lost the weight I had a lot of my osteo pain diminish. Today I have a twinge of osteo pain every so often, but it is diminished greatly and doesn't last as long.

I am fortunate not to have much in the way of headaches at all, so I have no suggestions for you there, but there is a sister site to DC which is devoted to Migraines. Just mouse over the words "visit anothe community" at the top of this page and click on Migaraines. Use your DC login info to join them as well. Perhaps they may be able to give you some pointers there,

God's richest blessings be to you and yours!

James Baker

raccoon mana
raccoon mana 2013-03-02 13:39:37 -0600 Report

have you tried resustance bands or stretches for exercise? both are worth a try and help relieve muscle/joint pain associated with arthrits. they also wont affect your asthma as much. also take to your doctors about getting in a pain management program through the hospital. it helped me with my fibromyalgia and chronic migraines. the main thing is move as much as possible. do what is within your comfort zone. and always pace yourself. good luck hun! i got your back on this.