Surgery verdict

By sexyswamprat Latest Reply 2008-12-10 19:10:17 -0600
Started 2008-12-05 13:36:52 -0600

My doctor and I have decided that a total hystorectamy is whats going to best for me. I just can't believe that at 37 I will no longer have the option of having my own children. We will be scheduling surgery for after the first of the year. She did give me enough pain pills to last till then and of course we have raised my depression meds. I am just totally devastated as is my husband. But he's putting on a brave front for my sake. I feel like my whole world just came crashing down on me. Thanks again everyone for listening. And any advice anyone has to get me through this would be so greatly appreciated.

Love and Hugs,

12 replies

2008-12-08 06:41:24 -0600 Report

I did have a child and ended up having hysterectomy right after she was born; as it was my pain and eating habits took toll on her and she was at slow growth weight.If there is an upside; On the upside, tho' you go through very little symptoms of menopause and it will relieve your pain. My daughter also has the same problem.But I know how you feel because yes I have my daughter and she was a miracle, but I did want to have a child with my husband, by choice; if you catch my meaning. There is no father on her birth certificate. I was r—-d. but she was a medical miracle, because of 20 years of abuse they said I would never have a child. Do you know if you could get pregnant before the surgery,, you may relieve your pain a bit if it is relate to endometriosis. Have you talked about that. Of, course, I don't realy know the story, but I pray you have options you can look into, Sincerely

sexyswamprat 2008-12-10 14:21:29 -0600 Report

No, having a child is not a option before I have surgery. I have pcos which is making it very hard to concieve. And I am having surgery in January. The pain is really unbareable. Pain pills help alittle, but they are not something I want to take forever. We really did go through all our options and if it weren't for all the pain we would try to concieve with the help of a fertility doctor. But I am afraid that would take to long. So here we are and we are trying to look for all the positive things that will come out of this. We have been lucky and have been able to find some. It's really weird but this has brought my husband and I much closer together, and he he has been strenghth of support for me. He is truly a godsend.

barbiesue 2008-12-10 15:02:54 -0600 Report

So sorry that you won't be able to have children, but you need the surgery. I had mine about 7 yrs ago and it is so much simpler now. You need to concentrate on getting healthy again, everything else will fall into place. I'm so glad that your hubby is being so supportive, that will be very important in the recovery afterward and dealing with the pain now. May God bless you and yours.

BeckyJ 2008-12-10 19:10:17 -0600 Report

As someone who has PCOS I completely understand the pain. I take pain pills to help but my doctor has pushed for me to go off of them. I wish you the best and am praying you have a succesful surgery and recovery. God Bless!

sexyswamprat 2008-12-06 00:23:17 -0600 Report

Thanks everyone for your words of encouragement. It means so much to me. Luckily my blood sugars are remaining ok, seeing how I'm not really eating or sleeping well these days.

Thanks again everyone. You are the best group of people I could have ever hopped for.

Some of you have written me personal messages and I have read then and appreciate everyone of then. I mention it because I don't want anyone to get offened or think I don't care as I have not responded to them yet. It's just a really tough time for me right now, but I promise that I will get a responce out to each and everyone of you. Thanks so much.

Love and Hugs,

2008-12-06 12:38:10 -0600 Report

We will all be here for you. Please keep us informed as to how things are going.

2008-12-05 21:10:47 -0600 Report

Hi Lynda,
I am not your age, I'm older (51) but I know the pain you speak of. I am recovering from a total hysterectomy and another surgery done at the same time as I type this. I've been off of work 5 weeks and hopefully only one more week to go before I can go back but I won't find that out until next week. You'll be so relieved to be out of pain. I know the no children part is a struggle for you but always remember that there are other options for you to be a mom and maybe when you get to the gynecologist they will find another reason for your pain and you'll have a different outcome altogether. Listen to ALL your options before you make a final decision. But if you do have to have the hysterectomy hang in there…


BeckyJ 2008-12-05 19:26:08 -0600 Report

My thoughts and prayers go with you. I faced the same decision a couple of years ago when an abnormal pap came back. Thankfully my doc retested and found there was an error but since my mother had both ovarian and cervical cancer it truly frightened me. I will be praying that your pain eases, both physical and emotional. Remember that God has a plan for you and will provide what your soul needs to survive. Blessed Be and good luck!

2008-12-05 15:58:17 -0600 Report

My thoughts and prayers are with you. I'm sure the surgery will go fine. Let us all know how things go for you. And know that we are here if you need to chat or vent.

John Crowley
John Crowley 2008-12-05 15:57:23 -0600 Report

Hang in there. We'll be thinking of you. Make sure you remember to take care of your diabetes too. High blood sugars will only make you feel worse.

Anonymous 2008-12-05 14:18:06 -0600 Report

I had my hysterectomy at age 33. I was in so much pain and had such heavy bleeding that I welcomed the surgery. While you may feel devasted now in the long run you will feel so much better. Just think no monthlies, no cramps, no bloating, no PMS.

highlandcitygirl 2008-12-05 13:45:03 -0600 Report

just hang in there kiddo! i am sorry that you will not be able to have your own children and i don't know if adoption is an option you would consider. as for physical you should be feeling better after the surgery. my thoughts and prayers are with you.