New to my already screwed up life

marytasha
By marytasha Latest Reply 2014-07-22 06:45:59 -0500
Started 2013-01-31 23:38:14 -0600

Hi my name is Tasha and this is to me I already suffer from severe depression and a lot of other medical conditions so being a diabetic just makes the situation worse for me I already have a wish to die I just wish this day will come sooner now. I have no idea how to handle this I don't even know how to fix the situation or at least start too. I'm totally confused I just need help. I'm scared


18 replies

Gabby
GabbyPA 2014-07-22 06:45:59 -0500 Report

Just checking in to see how you are doing now? It has been some time and getting used to a new lifestyle change can be challenging. Anything we can do to help now that you are finding your way?

Gwen214
Gwen214 2013-02-07 20:27:24 -0600 Report

Hi, I have many health issues and depression and anxiety, but diabetes came first for me and then everything else followed. Your not alone, people here are caring and sincere and you will find a huge support system online.

msp107
msp107 2013-02-07 19:31:54 -0600 Report

Hi Tasha hang in there!!! I too have depression along with many other health issues including t2. I feel your pain it can be very overwhelming. just remember One Day at a Time. Would love to connect more with you!

jayabee52
jayabee52 2013-02-07 20:06:10 -0600 Report

just click on her picture and when her profile page comes up you can left click on the friend link and send her a friend request. When Tasha accepts your request you can use the private message to chat should you wish.

PetiePal
PetiePal 2013-02-07 10:17:04 -0600 Report

Diabetes and Depression can go hand in hand. We've all felt that way at some point.
I highly recommend the book by Gretchen Becker.

http://www.amazon.com/The-First-Year-Essentia...

Leads you through month by month on the FEELINGS, and what you should be doing.

You're part of the club no one wants to be a member of! But we're all here going through it with you!

PetiePal
PetiePal 2013-02-07 10:17:03 -0600 Report

Diabetes and Depression can go hand in hand. We've all felt that way at some point.
I highly recommend the book by Gretchen Becker.

http://www.amazon.com/The-First-Year-Essentia...

Leads you through month by month on the FEELINGS, and what you should be doing.

You're part of the club no one wants to be a member of! But we're all here going through it with you!

KG66
KG66 2013-02-04 10:05:16 -0600 Report

Hi Tasha! You are not alone! I'm 18 and also suffer from severe depression. I've almost given up many times and wanted to die but I know that would just make the situation worse. My living situation is hard and I can't seem to get a handle on my depression. I've had quite a few problems with my diabetes which really doesn't help. You are not alone!

eristar
eristar 2013-02-04 05:55:03 -0600 Report

Good morning, Tasha. Another depressive here - I suffered from it for many years, way before I was diagnosed with T2. I was fortunate enough to find a doctor who would listen to me when we moved to WI, and found medication which has helped tremendously. I hope you are under care for it - I never knew how miserable I truly was until I wasn't. Now you have a new challenge to face - keeping those numbers under control…We wish you all the best, and welcome to the community. Keep in touch!

Set apart
Set apart 2013-02-04 05:53:26 -0600 Report

Hi Tasha, welcome to DC, been diagnosed with D is so hard. I am so glad you found DC, welcome. I've been a T1 for a little over a year now and also have been here that long. I love the support, friends, and all that you can learn here. These are real people who are caring and we are all going through the same things. Please take care of yourself and talk to your doctor about all your issues!

Tia Shirley
Tia Shirley 2013-02-03 23:34:36 -0600 Report

Tasha, I am so sorry that you are facing so many difficult situations. Please know that you are not alone. You will find much support if you can continue to take the step that you just did and ask for help. For so long I wouldn't take control or be proactive but once I did boy did it make a difference.

mhcfc13
mhcfc13 2013-02-03 17:10:05 -0600 Report

You have a right to feel, and depressed is a feeling. I want to thank everyone that is open about experiences. I was recently diagnosed T2. I also want to be a little clinical here. I am finishing my master's for mental health counseling, and while I will never attempt to undertone others experiences, depression is a clinical item as much as a psychological. Some depression require medication to treat, others for the most part need someone to listen and to be a sounding board and accountability partner. Accountability partner is the one person who will listen, acknowledge your feelings, and then give a different perspective.

The key is finding someone to listen. Finding what will work for you. And if needed, to find a professional that assists with either medication or counseling. Reading your post, I would like to extend an invitation to talk more on a clinical and friendly point to help. I would also suggest to talk to your doctor, as your feelings are also concerning and as a professional is seen as a cry for help.

If you feel like it, please email me and we can more in depth talk about you and be less in the social and more in the personal/professional. I am more than willing to at least get you in the right direction and be support for you in this factor. Diabetes is another complication that we just have to work with, and it is not fun dealing with diabetes alone, not to mention all the other stuff you need to address.

jennydo
jennydo 2013-02-03 14:15:11 -0600 Report

Hey MaryTasha - Been there - believe me. My depression/bi-polar has affected me for over half of my life. I found support in both Emotions Anonymous and Overeaters Anonymous. It helps to have people around you who have been in the same situation. I have also found that as my eating got better so did my depression. It's a vicious circle. You feel depressed, alone, fatigued and food - especially carbs - helps to numb the pain so you eat and then you feel worse - physically and emotionally - then you need to eat more. OA has helped me to see the connection.
Hang in there. Pray - and make a start - somewhere/anywhere. I know it's so hard when you're depressed but every accomplishment leads to greater self-esteem.

DeanaG
DeanaG 2013-02-03 06:51:18 -0600 Report

Welcome to DC!!
You have come to the right place. It is perfectly normal to feel so overwhelmed. Ask questions, learn as much as you can. Once you get a handle on it, it really is not as hard as it seems to live a healthy life. Good Luck and we are happy you have joined us. ;-)

Ohio Fats
Ohio Fats 2013-02-02 14:53:33 -0600 Report

Hi, Tasha;
I do feel the same as you. I saw an old episode of "Everybody Loves Raymond," a while ago that had the men talking about problems with women. The father told the sons he had heard there is a large comet in space speeding toward Earth and when it hit, Earth's population would be wiped out. He went on to say, "When your Mother gets in one of those moods, I just look to the sky and say,'Come on comet.'"
That's what I do on days when everything seems hopeless. But I have learned to turn from my depressed, problem-filled feelings and think about the good in my life. I have a beautiful,loving wife, a decent home to live in, 4 cats to fill my life with joy and unconditional love. I am in reasonably good health for a diabetic my age (65) and I have a couple of hobbies that distract me from the chaos of this world.
I wish you the best and hope to read more from you. Good Luck!

luvzumba
luvzumba 2013-02-02 00:43:16 -0600 Report

Your not alone every day is a new day give yourself a chance to see that day you made the 1st good moved and reach out for help were here to help you out remember your not alone

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2013-02-01 10:57:48 -0600 Report

Hello Tasha.
I use to feel the way you do now long before I was diagnosed with diabetes. Depression should never go untreated. You haven't said whether or not you are in treatment. If not, go immediately. Over time you will find with help that you have to face what ever problems you are having.

The first thing I learned about depression is that it is a selfish disorder because in a misguided way you think everything is happening to you. There is the "Yes but" phase where people offer suggestions that will help you feel better. Someone might ask do you get out and do things. Your typical response is "yes, but I don't feel good or have fun".

The next phase is driving people around you crazy. Over time, your family and friends are going to get sick and tired or your moaning and groaning about every negative aspect of your life. They are going to stop listening to you.

This is followed by the "Why me" phase. There is no viable answer to this that is going to make sense to you or anyone else. "Why me" can involve a lot of areas in your life. Why did my boyfriend break up with me? Why did I lose my job? Why is my husband divorcing me? Why do people hate me? Why is my life a mess? Why can't people see the real me? The answers you give may make sense to you but not to other people who don't know what is really happening.

I am not one to commiserate with people unless they are taking steps to help themselves out of the ruts they are in. You are in a deep hole and you can't find a way out. There is a way out and you have to work hard to find it. Once you start climbing out and wanting to live your life to the fullest, you will be much happier. Once you start your climb, you will find there was always a ladder there to help you out. You simply didn't and couldn't see it.

Diabetes is not the end of life. I looked at it as a new beginning. I started eating healthy and exercising. I am the same person I was who still enjoys living life to the fullest. Believe in yourself and love life. Good luck to you.

jayabee52
jayabee52 2013-02-01 00:27:50 -0600 Report

Howdy Tasha.

I understand having severe depression because I HAD it for a large part of my life and felt like I wanted to die. In fact I had suicide idation ever since I was about 14.

None of us wants to have diabetes (I was Dx'd with type 2 in 1995). One of the best things IMO is reaching out to this discussion board. I invite you to come here often and learn what is the best way to deal with your diabetes.

One of the best things I could ever have done for my Diabetes Mellitus (DM) t 2 was to radically cut my intake of carbohydrates. My Blood Glucose (BG) became more normal by doing that. I have a meal plan to share with you should you be interested. All you need do is ask!

And if you have specific questions here please ask because here I believe that the ONLY "stupid" or "foolish" question is a SINCERE question which is NOT ASKED!

I want you to know that DM may be likened to a race, but it is not a sprint to the finish line, it is more like a marathon. Pace yourself so that you make it to the finish line with all your toes in place and few complications.

Come back often, because we humans generally understand things better at our own personal pace. I have learned SO MUCH in the 4 yrs I have been logging in here. I learn best taking (as some of my friends say) "baby steps" building on what I had learned previously.

I pray what I have said has comforted, and encouraged you and you feel like you've taken a baby step into a bigger world of friends who have DM.

Praying God's blessings upon you and yours!

James Baker

Tia Shirley
Tia Shirley 2013-02-03 23:31:32 -0600 Report

Hi Jay…I am not Tasha but I am always looking for healthier and creative meal plans so if you could share yours with me I would greatly appreciate it. Thanks

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