Caregiving - Diabetics Need SUPPORT SYSTEMS

By MewElla Latest Reply 2013-02-01 01:25:18 -0600
Started 2013-01-28 17:55:57 -0600

Managing diabetes is a life long task and people with diabetes need some help along the way. If you want more support, or if you are helping to support a loved one, some suggestions:
ASK QUESTIONS: Diabetes is not always logical. Caregivers need to know How many times do you test blood glucose per day? What #'s are you looking for?
How can I help you get there? What do I do in case of an emergency?
SEEK CONNECTIONS: Share with others to connect. Open up communications. Usually, we do not like to share that we need some diabetes support, we feel like a burden to others if we admit it. BUT, no one can read our minds and Diabetes will affect the whole family. People around you daily need to know, it could wind up saving your life one day in a emergency.
TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF: Taking care of yourself physically and emotionally is important for all diabetics. Getting exercise and making social connections can help you feel your best. The more you really take care of yourself, the more resilient you are going to be when faced with new challenges. Best to be prepared!

8 replies

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2013-01-31 15:51:44 -0600 Report

Hi MewElla,

Nice to see you again! This is a great post, with some really good ideas. Family members and friends of individuals who are living with chronic conditions like diabetes may not consider themselves to be caregivers. That's because they have a narrow view of caregiving. They may think of caregivers as being responsible for day to day care, like cooking, helping with showers, etc., all the things that their diabetic loved one doesn't need them to do But caregiving involves much more than that. Being a listening ear and offering emotional support are also important aspects of caregiving.

So as you said so well, caring for the caregiver also includes taking care of yourself emotionally. This is something we can all give to each other. Get support, give support. Exactly what we do here on Diabetic Connect!


mhcfc13 2013-01-31 09:41:50 -0600 Report

I started to realize how much my medical conditions affect my wife. We usually do not talk much about it, but when she realized how much my conditions are affecting my life, I realized how much my conditions affect hers. This conversation makes me realize how much I value her, and a need to let her know. We all have our issues, and loved ones that are there. Just like the families of veterans who served or are serving need recognition, so do our families. Good call.

GabbyPA 2013-01-29 09:44:14 -0600 Report

I know I went through a huge issue when I was being a caregiver for my bed ridden husband. I kind of reached a tipping point and had to get away from it a bit.

In a way, we are caregivers even to ourselves and it's true, it's a full time job. We don't get days off, but we can get relief by taking good care of ourselves so our life is not filled with the extra work of dealing with complications as well.

I get so much support from here. I am so grateful. Even when I was dealing with my husband's issues, so many here gave the words of encouragement and advice that I needed. So you are right, connection is vital.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2013-01-29 10:09:06 -0600 Report

Gabby caregivers have it worse than anyone because many do not get a break. I cared for my mom for 5 years and my sister who lived at home never gave me a break. I had to find out when she was taking a day off and saved money to go visit a friend in a neighboring state. I got up packed walked out the door and called home and said I would not be back until the next day. My sisters day of shopping was ruined and she had to take off the next day. I came home relaxed and she was madder than a cat on a hot tin roof.

Being diabetic doesn't mean you can't take a break from it at least once a week or once a month. I take one day out of the week and have one thing to eat that I really want and I don't test that day. I love it. My doctor told me I could do this once my numbers were in control and it works for me.

GabbyPA 2013-01-29 10:13:47 -0600 Report

What I did to get my peace when I was taking care of my husband was to take the dog for walks. That got me out, got me in nature (which is my favorite place to be) and gave me time to think alone. It kept me sane and able to help him without a bad attitude.

We are caregivers to ourselves. We can do things that make us happy and distract us from our daily routine of self care. I try to do things at least weekly. It does help a lot to rejuvenate my self and regain my center of gravity.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2013-01-29 17:55:59 -0600 Report

No matter what our situation may be, we still have to take care of ourselves. If we don't, we won't be able to help others and someone may have to take care of us. I plan to take care of myself as long as possible.

jayabee52 2013-01-29 09:38:34 -0600 Report

Great discussion for newly Dx'd Persons With Diabetes (PWDs), and a good reminder for those of us who've had it what seems like forever!

Thanks Mewella! Thumbs up!