Denial

Cpecket83
By Cpecket83 Latest Reply 2013-03-01 12:13:54 -0600
Started 2013-01-17 20:48:27 -0600

Hi All- newbie here.. I have been diagnosed for 6 months with type 2. At first I was freaked out and tried really hard to do everything the way I was told, but honestly that lasted 3 weeks. After that point I started slipping back into old habits and started living as though I had nothing to lose. I know that this is a very serious matter but Im having a hard time making my diabetes a priority. I just went today to give my blood work and I have my doctor apt next week. Im really nervous, not because of my results( I know those will be horrible) but Im nervous because of what my dr will say. Thats sad!! I almost cancelled the appointment because I didn't want to hear it from my dr but my husband is making me go. The point of this post is to see if Im the only one out there struggling to accept my diagnosis. Im living in denial and Im having a hard time staying motivated to do what I need to in regard to my diet.. Any advise?? Is this normal to feel this way in the beginning?


27 replies

diabetic diva 1975
diabetic diva 1975 2013-03-01 12:13:54 -0600 Report

I felt that way in the beginning too and to be honest I still struggle daily to make healthier choices when it comes to food (I have been diabetic now 16 yrs) I just wish I was normal and could enjoy a chocolate bar like everyone else. Hang in there! One day at a time.

glennb61
glennb61 2013-03-01 09:56:44 -0600 Report

I had a similar problem when I was diagnosed in 2004. I struggled with it for a long time because I just didn't make it a priority and I was reluctant to change. It takes time to make the change, just go one day at a time and make the changes slowly but steadily. And make yourself the priority because in the end you are the most important person. And be ready for a million and one suggestions to help you improve your diabetes or to get rid of it completely. You will have to do what feels good for yourself, fad diets or miracle pills / drinks don't work. Also since your diabetic you probably will now have access to a dietician. Get an appointment with a registered dietician. It will do you more good than trying to figure it out on your own and will go a long way to help you manage your diabetes. Good luck and keep up with this site, lots of good info here.

Fefe12
Fefe12 2013-02-27 06:24:43 -0600 Report

Ive come from a different perspective. My diagnosis saved my life so I'm grateful for my disease. I've not felt like you do. What the doctor says should be the least of your worries. Why are you letting your disease control your life. I'm sure you know the facts. Do you love your husband so little that you want him to care for you when you didn't? How long do you want to live? How good do you want to feel? how healthy do you want to be? Does this suck, yes! But we make lemonadeade out of what we've been dealt…even if we can't drink it. But we sure can share it! Go forward, feel better, love yourself.

cindybrinx
cindybrinx 2013-02-20 07:08:28 -0600 Report

What a great advice! I'm new to this App (dx'd Type 2 13 years ago)…always in denial, but lately I've been feeling crappy all the time so I decided to start checking my sugars (way too high). I'm relieved I'm not the only one in denial and am finally getting the wake up call that it takes work to keep this disease under control.

vjfull
vjfull 2013-02-07 04:39:22 -0600 Report

Hello! Welcome! I think that's normal,I also went through that moment when you feel everything what you have will be lost just because of having diabetes.Lifestyle change is really a must for us diabetic.Most importantly keep on praying

AprilB
AprilB 2013-01-29 21:10:00 -0600 Report

You found the right spot. I was not in denial, more like overwhelmed and still a work in progress. There's much to learn and what best suits you. Take your time keeping logs, testing, etc. Come here often, you will find you are never alone and will discover a tip or two that your doctor/others won't be able to tell you. Best of luck!!

watson4042
watson4042 2013-01-29 14:35:12 -0600 Report

welcome to the faimily, this is the place to learn all you need to live a healthier life style, providing you follow the plan. that is the difficult part. i'm sure that most of us have had the same reaction to the diagnois, i did. and still do. but, i have been making small changes to my diet, and in fact, find that having diabetes has made the change for me, as i can no longer tolerate certain foods. and rather than suffer the stomach upset, etc. i avoid those foods. my biggest problem is the exercise, i'm lazy and have trouble being motivated. but in my defense i do have other health issues that make it harder to move around. please don't feel alone, you're not, we're here for you 24/7. hugs :)

JSJB
JSJB 2013-01-29 03:59:08 -0600 Report

In the beginning it is hard to take that you have diabetes but by dieting and exercising you can a long life. I guess we all had trouble accepting this condition but as time goes by we learn and slowly change your lifestyles. You can not do it overnight. I was 69 when prediagnosed so it was hard getting to diet and exercise but 15 months later I am eating healthier and holding down my weight. I do slip but what I do is look at my grandaughter and grandson and that makes me want to survive. So good luck and do not give up. You are on a great site with all you need to know about this condition. READ, READ, READ and as Jay said no question is a dumb question so do not hesitate to ask.

Tia Shirley
Tia Shirley 2013-01-23 23:25:48 -0600 Report

Welcome. I think all of us have went through denial. I know I did when I learned several years ago that I had diabetes 2. Then I got on track..focused on getting healthier and making better food choices. After awhile when life stressors hit I became complacent because I thought I needed my comfort food. Now I realize that life is too short to not take care of myself so I am back on track. Become your own best friend and advocate and then your doctor will be able to encourage you on your journey to wellness.

Safari4
Safari4 2013-01-23 23:07:21 -0600 Report

Absolutely but the more you read, share, plan meals, take blood glucose levels etc. it'll sink in. I'm liking that I finally know what's been wrong with me, now I know what to do and it's really worth it to start feeling better.

mhcfc13
mhcfc13 2013-01-21 17:16:38 -0600 Report

This is the first for me. I actually went to get life insurance and had to do the labs. I knew I was pre-diabetic, but the results came back with a high A1C. I have been not so good for diet and exercise, and with 2 other issues, this just adds to it. I have so much going on, including trying to finish a master's degree for mental health counseling. I am not in denial per se, but I am slow to change stuff up. My wife is more proactive with finding different "appropriate" foods. I also am a more immediacy type person that wants quick results, or at least more noticable in a short time (opposite for what my education states I know). I hope that this site and individuals will help me settle in better.

Cpecket83
Cpecket83 2013-01-22 20:46:03 -0600 Report

So far this site has helped me come to better terms- the people here are true and we all have a common goal. Good luck on your journey

Cowboy68
Cowboy68 2013-01-21 15:40:21 -0600 Report

I went through denial at first,just could not belive this was happing to me but after relizing that it could cause complications or death,i choose to accecpt it becuse the alteritive is not good,plus my wife was a very strong motivater for me to take care of myself, take care of youeself so you can be with your loved ones for many years to come.

Jeanette Terry
Jeanette TerryPA 2013-01-21 14:17:18 -0600 Report

I think everyone goes through phases of denial. Diabetes is a hard disease to live with every day. Sometimes we are better at controling it than others, but I think the most important thing to remember is that no one is perfect and that all we can do is wake up each day and try our best.

And sometimes our best that day is eating a piece of chocolate cake. :) But as long as I don't eat a piece of cake everyday keep the end goal in focus I think we will be ok.

Cpecket83
Cpecket83 2013-01-18 12:02:55 -0600 Report

Thank you for the comments

snuggles11
snuggles11 2013-01-28 21:12:00 -0600 Report

Thank you also for the comments !
I found out a week ago !
I'm type 2 !
Know nothing about it !
Very much not wanting to except it !
Cpecket83 good luck !
Tammy

jayabee52
jayabee52 2013-01-28 21:24:26 -0600 Report

Well hang out with us here, Tammy, and you can learn a lot plus make some good friends and be encouraged! This is a great place to be!

snuggles11
snuggles11 2013-01-28 21:35:21 -0600 Report

Thanks jayabee52
I've been reading a lot !
Still don't know all y'all terms of slang or medical terms y'all use I'm still learning after a week !

jayabee52
jayabee52 2013-01-28 21:47:02 -0600 Report

If someone says something you don't understand (I have a tendency to use big words since I used to work in the medical field for 10 yrs) Please ask!

Someone else may have the same question, or someone months from now will access this discussion and will have the same question. In my estimation the only "stupid" or "silly" question is an HONEST question which is NOT asked!

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2013-01-18 11:56:12 -0600 Report

Hi Cpecket83,

I am not a physician but I counsel individuals who are living wth chronic conditoins. Often my clients come to me because they just got diagnosed and want to talk about how to get prepared for the road ahead.

It is normal to experience denial when you receive a medical diagnosis. They often come out of the blue, expecially if you haven't been experiencing symptoms.. Suddenly, your world feels like it got turned upside down, you are being told to make changes in your lifestyle that feel drastic and unfair, you may have medications that are a constant remind of your diagnosis, you are having to talk to healthcare professionals who are telling you what to do. If you are like most people, you probably just want it to go away like a bad dream.

I am glad you are here! One of the best ways to cope with a new diagnosis is to get support from other people who are travling that road with you, who can give you emotional support, some ideas, share their experiences. And Diabetic Connect is the most supportive place on the planet!

Sounds like you are worried about being scolded by your doctor. On the other hand, it also sounds like your doctor and your husband are both concerned about you. That's a great support network to have.

One step at a time. If you are having trouble staying compliant, then maybe you need some advice. Let your doctor know what's getting in the way of compliance, as well as your husband, and see if they can help. And you are surrounded by a vast panel experts riight here!

So I hope you will stay in touch. And take good care of yourself!

Gary

Leslie S
Leslie S 2013-01-18 05:43:13 -0600 Report

I would agree yes and no. When I was first diagnosed, I did everything to the book, counted every carb that went into my body. As my a1c started going down so did my interest. I didn't feel sick. I wasn't taking meds or anything. Finally I wised up and started over. My a1c has continued to go down. I don't count every little thing, but I test every day when I'm supposed to, watch sugar intake, and take my meds. :)

jayabee52
jayabee52 2013-01-17 23:40:48 -0600 Report

Howdy CP,

yes I was in denial back in 1995 when first Dx'd and my wife (at the time) threatened to divorce me if I didn't get back on my meds. Your husband loves you and wants to keep you around for a while. You may not get chewed out but if you let Dr know you're back on the Diabetes horse and starting to care for yourself again.

James

manapua72
manapua72 2013-01-17 21:41:56 -0600 Report

Is it normal ??? Yes & no … There r people who will have their doctor tell them they have a chronic illness and they will do what ever they can to get better , other people will go into denial … So what is normal for one person may not be normal for another … I lived like I didn't care for years … I finally started to care when I started to have complications due to uncontrolled high blood sugars … Such as bleeding in one of my eyes … Decided I didn't want to go blind … Other complications but I won't bore u with my issues … So now I've changed my eating habits , more active physically and taking my meds … Yes I'm really trying to take care of myself now … I urge u to take care of yourself , and fight this condition … U don't want negative complications due diabetes , loss of a body part , blindness , pain due to deaf nerves , heart attacks , strokes , coma's etc … List goes on & on … If u take care of yourself these complications can be prevented or @ the least they won't show up for years … U don't have to do everything @ once , yet change u must …

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