Monday thoughts

By luked Latest Reply 2013-01-17 11:25:01 -0600
Started 2013-01-14 20:04:04 -0600

In life, there are so many people who miss out on meeting a good person because we judge based on what we see and not what we know. Never judge a person based on what they are wearing or how they look. Remember there are some people who are so secured with themselves that they are not trying to impress the world each time they step out. Sadly but true people have discovered that the easiest way to meet someone is by simply pretending to be someone they are not. This is one reason why people tend to spend so much on items that devalue and very little on items that value. Their car cost more than their homes. Placing value on things you see allows people you do not need to come into your lives. How many times have you made the wrong choices by trying to pick out the best looking person in the group? The best looking fruit is not always the best tasting fruit.

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luked 2013-01-15 11:05:32 -0600 Report

Look without (prejudice) and see within (the soul). Far too often the things we see make us blind to what actually is. Simple minds.

CJ55 2013-01-15 10:58:12 -0600 Report

Luked.. Very well stated. Thank you for pointing out that not all people are created perfect nor gorgeous. If everyone waited for that perfect someone, there sure would be a lot of lonely people in this world. Have a great day!! Hugz CJ

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2013-01-15 10:53:36 -0600 Report

Luke far too often people want to appear to be what they aren't. I call them diva's and yes men can be diva's also. When it all comes down to it the image they portray is just as fake as they are. The "A" personality wanna be who claims to have graduated from the best school, has a 6 figure job, drives a luxury vehicle turns out to be the stock boy in a rented vehicle and the only expensive suit he has. The beautiful mysterious woman at the bar who has all the men fawning over her and appears to date only the good looking men turns out to be the most insecure person you have ever met and can't have a relationship with anyone including women.

The "beautiful people" you see in the bars and clubs in large groups who appear to know everyone. Turns out they really only know each other from passing each other in the bars and clubs they all visit. Some people will do anything to be seen or to have their 15 mins of fame.

Today Hollywood and the Media drives people to do these things. The pretty woman is tall, thin, blonde and blue eyed. The guy is tall, dark, broodingly handsome with 6 pack abs. This is why so many people get left out of the race. Everyone wants to be with or seen with one of these kinds of people or to be part of the so called "in crowd" or on the social "A list".

So many people are lost in pretending to be what they aren't, they no longer know their true self. Finding the non pretender takes time and patience and when you find that person, you have found a gem.

jayabee52 2013-01-15 10:51:18 -0600 Report

That is absoulutely correct Luke.

My relationship to my 2nd wife "Jem" is a prime example of this. When she contacted me on Dating4Disabled website, she wasn't a lady who appealed to me in the looks dept. But since she made the effort to contact me, I replied to her out of courtesy. However we continued to correspond and not long after we fell in love and eventually married. (you can see some pics of us together on my photos section in my profile)

Had I judged her "book" by her cover initially I would have missed a fantastic relaionship with a quality person. We were so great for and with each other we beleived that God brought us together at the right time.


flipmom 2013-01-17 00:34:12 -0600 Report

sorry james but i dont know what you are talking about… jem was beautiful!!

jayabee52 2013-01-17 00:40:54 -0600 Report

Thank you Flip! The picture on her profile on Dating4Disabled did not really appeal to me. The pictures you saw were the two of us in love and that changed both of our appearnsces. I think love has a way of transforming us.

SmartyMarti1 2013-01-17 11:25:01 -0600 Report

that's great, Jay. In most love relationships, there has to be some physical attraction but not in all. Sometimes that comes as you fall in love and know the total person and they become attractive to you. I've been married to a handsome guy who is also a Christian and a good man and I treasure him. We've been married 30 yrs!

GabbyPA 2013-01-14 20:14:24 -0600 Report

I grow tomatoes and the ones I pick rarely look like the perfect ones you see in the grocery store. But when you close your eyes and bite into one of my garden gems, there is no comparison in taste. They are wonderful and so much more rich in flavor than the perfectly round red ones in the store.

This is sometimes the beauty of the internet. Many people get to know each other without the pretense of photos. I know for a long time when I was seeking a lifemate, I wouldn't post a photo. I was so afraid that people would just pass me by based on my photo, not giving me a chance to get to know them.

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