Doe's it ever get better??

Della - 24193
By Della - 24193 Latest Reply 2008-12-05 11:18:39 -0600
Started 2008-12-02 01:34:22 -0600

Im the mother of a VERY wonderful child. He's 11 years old and recently been diagnosed as a type 1diabetic.Not only that but he is going thrue some very hard times with other health issues.. He is going to have to have his thigh bones broken and rebuilt in the next few months due to his growing to fast and his hips turning out to far He has sleep apnea and has a cpap machine and Cronich bronchitis ive had him in the hospital twice int he past month . It seems like he just cant get over everything,And when he does get over something …something else is wrong with him…Doe's it ever get better or is it just gonna continue to get worse…

Im lost..


5 replies

LadyDi - 26259Miller
LadyDi - 26259Miller 2008-12-05 11:18:39 -0600 Report

There is just nothing worse for parents than watching their child(ren) suffer - physically or emotionally. My heart surely goes out to all of you. I just pray that God will give you the comfort and strength and hope to deal with this and to help your son deal with it all. I am also praying that somehow things will begin to look better soon, and that your precious son can soon begin to lead a more comfortable life. Kids are stronger than we give them credit for, I believe.

Sparrow - 16557
Sparrow - 16557 2008-12-04 00:42:08 -0600 Report

A lot of how much better things can get is determined by attitude. Obviously, it is going to be hard to keep a "positive" attitude when so much sems to be going wrong. But it definitely DOES help. As the treatment of his diabetes becomes a more "natural" part of his life, at least that part will seem easier. Plus, any complicating factors that out of control diabetes may contribute will be gone as he gains tighter control of his blood sugars.

It's especially tough for kids when they have to watch all their friends eating anything they want while they eat only the stuff that "good for them". I would encourage him by gently remo=inding him that what he does to control his diabetes as it pertains to his diet is actually how EVERYONE SHOULD be regulating their diet! Thet way he can feel like he's actually doing things the RIGHT way!

Gabby
GabbyPA 2008-12-05 10:39:20 -0600 Report

that is a very good point. I think that sometimes we feel deprived, but in actuality, we are doing what is best or right for everyone. If we all ate as healthy as we are required to as diabetics, diabetes would have a better chance of being on the decrease instead of the increase.

Gabby
GabbyPA 2008-12-02 16:01:39 -0600 Report

Della,
What can you say to a situation like that? Words seem so meaningless sometimes and a hug is so in order. It is bad enough when we have to deal with it as an individual, but to see your child suffer so, must be heartbreaking.

Let me ask this....how does he take it? Sometimes we just have to follow our children's example of courage and wonder. I find that kids just amaze me in how they look at things. They get scared, but sometimes, it is that they are more scared because mom and dad are so scared.

If you don't focus on what he is facing as much as what he overcomes, perhaps it will seem more amazing and a little less scary. His list of things accomplished will put many people to shame, and that can be a badge of honor he wears and something that makes you proud. It is hard when you are in the middle of it, but looking back, you will see what I mean.

My thoughts are with you and your family. This time of year it seems harder to deal with some of these things, but you all will get thru it. You might even look back and laugh a little.

John Crowley
John CrowleyCA 2008-12-02 15:13:20 -0600 Report

My heart goes out to you and your son. Diabetes is tough enough to deal with. But it sounds like he already had more challenges than any 11-year-old deserves.

You've come to a good place here. Don't hesitate to ask questions. I know it can be very confusing in the beginning.

I hope the best for you and your family.