I Hate Having Diabetes

Katie Suvak
By Katie Suvak Latest Reply 2013-01-20 21:34:16 -0600
Started 2013-01-01 19:27:48 -0600

I'm depressed because I can not drive because my doctors wont allow me. All my friends can drive but I'm being held back because of stupid diabetes now I'm getting depressed…

31 replies

Gwen214 2013-01-20 21:34:16 -0600 Report

Being stressed about having diabetes Willie your blood sugar worse. Take control of your diabetes. Don't let this disease control you. I hate diabetes too. Keep trying, never give up and you will be able to live a Normal life.

GabbyPA 2013-01-04 09:41:43 -0600 Report

Now I have a question. Are they not allowing you to drive because your diabetic or because you are not a well controlled diabetic? There is a huge difference and that is one thing you can work to control.

If you are not well controlled, then find out how to get there. If you want to use driving as your motivation, then go for it! Being diabetic is not a reason to not drive, so find out what their reasons are and how you can change so that those reasons are removed.

And don't get depressed about it, get determined to do it. That will change your whole mind set and hopefully get you behind the wheel of a car as a responsible young driver.

Type1Lou 2013-01-03 10:55:32 -0600 Report

None of us "like" having diabetes. I learned long ago not to waste my time wishing I didn't have diabetes but, instead, make an effort to control it and ensure a more "normal" quality of life. For me, that means testing an average of 7 times a day…yeah, it's a pain but it's something within my power to do to get a handle on this condition. It means making the right decisions about what to eat and how much to exercise…(still working on both of those!). I didn't get my driver's license until I was 21 but, at 64, I'm still driving with a safe record. It can be done. Ask yourself what you can do differently to reach that goal. (I can't imagine what it is like having diabetes as a teenager since I didn't develop mine until age 27; being a teenager with no health problems was plenty difficult for me…I hope I don't come across to you as too "preachy"…I recognize you're going through a volatile, growing stage of your life and wish you well…you have the strength and resources within you to master this!.)

nanaellen 2013-01-03 09:47:24 -0600 Report

Hi Katie, I've read most of the posts from other people and we're all in this together…any info is given to help you not judge you cause we've ALL been through it!! I noticed that you said you don't test…I did the same thing for about 3 years…worst mistake I could have made!!! I ended up in the hospital with pancreatitus and gall stones…had to have my gall bladder taken out and it's been 3 years and I STILL can't get my #'s in control!!! I've only had a "low" once my problem is my #'s are too high. I get depressed all the time too, but we just have to keep moving on. Your still young…you have your whole LIFE ahead of you…don't give up!! You can do this!! If I can do it anyone can!!! LOL Keep your head up we're all here to help!! Your friend, Ellen :)

Set apart
Set apart 2013-01-03 05:43:10 -0600 Report

I have to drive for my employment so having control of my D is a must plus I want to live a long and healthy life! Just check and log your BG readings. My Dr. Says I have to check before I drive! I do!

juicee244 2013-01-02 22:31:42 -0600 Report

Trust it only for safety and I know it gets tiring and depressing at times but just try to do what's right and everything will be ok Be encourage

Pannb714 2013-01-02 20:57:20 -0600 Report

My doctor requires me to test my sugar so that I will not cause an accident when I drive. Maybe your deciding not to test is part of the reason your Dr. is saying no. i have a friend who lost his eye sight because he refused to acknowledge his sugar problems and later he had his legs amputated because his sugars were too high. Could your sugar be affecting your eye sight? My friend's reaction to his sugar scared me. He died a few years a ago because he still did not want to recognize he had problems. Ask your Doctor why and what you need to do to be permitted to drive. Then prove to him that you are willing to make that change so you can. You can do it!

Jan8 2013-01-02 10:43:01 -0600 Report

You can't drive?? Is there another reason? I drive only when my Bgs are in a safe area. Do you have a glucometer? Get the real reason your doc won't let you drive. I have never heard of this. Just call and send a message to him that you are getting depressed and feel trapped by not driving.

elucero 2013-01-02 10:21:17 -0600 Report

Katie this is NOT your fault. None of us asked for this however this is the hand we were dealt so its up to us how to play it. I understand your feelings. I empathize with you. We are in this together. You are not alone. Keep ya chin up!
: D

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2013-01-02 10:05:45 -0600 Report

If it is because your blood sugars are out of control, the doctor made a wise decision. I would not want to be in a car with you if your blood sugar drops and you have a crash. Neither would your friends want to be with you and odds are their parents won't want it either. If you don't have a car, and are driving your parents car, they would be very wise people by not allowing you to drive.

A car comes with a lot of responsibility. It is the owner of the car who is responsible for maintaining the vehicle. If the car runs out of gas, has bald tires, needs brakes, has no insurance, needs an oil change, a new battery, and doesn't get these things fixed,or the owner gets a lot of tickets, who do you thing would be responsible.

Diabetes is the same as a car. The person with diabetes is responsible for maintaining good health as much as possible. If your blood sugar is out of control and you are making no effort to try to get it under control, it is your fault. If you are not testing and eating properly, it is your fault. If you are not following what your medical team wants you to do, it is your fault.

Diabetes is a learning and growing up disease. You can hate it all you want but until there is a cure, you are always going to have it. Hatred of anything can consume a person with negativity. Over time, you will lose friends, family won't want to be around you and people will do what they can to avoid you.

My doctor told me I could not drive. It upset me at first until I thought about it. If I take the chance of driving and my blood sugar drops, I could kill myself or innocent people. It would be very selfish of me to get in a car and drive and play Russian Roulette with my life and others simply because I want to go somewhere or do something.

Look at it this way, if all your friends decided to jump off a bridge untethered, into a big black hole, would you follow? So your friends drive or have cars and you don't. If they pile into a car after a party and all of them are drunk, would you want to be in the car with them? There are a lot of people whose friends have things they don't. Many are greatfull for what they have while others are angry or jealous because they don't have those things. Still others will work towards obtaining them.

As we go through life, we either become responsible adults or we don't. We grow up at many stages in life. Instead of hating that you have diabetes and can't drive, put that energy to good use and be thankful that you have what you have and work towards improving on other qualities you have in life. Work towards better health. Look at it as a growing up phase in life.

Katie Suvak
Katie Suvak 2013-01-02 10:14:16 -0600 Report

I have control on my diabetes I just dont test.. I feel that its pointless

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2013-01-02 10:32:09 -0600 Report

If you don't test, how do you know much control you have? If you feel it is pointless and since you don't monitor your numbers, the doctor was right in not allowing you to drive.

Suppose you were a diabetic cheerleader and you have a rigorous practice. Exercise can lower blood sugar. You get in your car and drive home. You have not eaten or tested so you really don't know how low you are. You pass out behind the wheel and hit a pedestrian, or another vehicle and injure several people. You are also injured because you were not wearing a seat belt because you think it is pointless to wear one. You now are responsible for those lives and you could lose your license. If you are charged with the accident those people can now sue you because they can prove you are negligent. Their lawyers can have access through court order to your medical records. They learn you don't test. These people can now sue you for negligence, their injuries and medical expenses not covered by insurance. Odds are your insurance will go up and the company may drop you. All of this because you think it is pointless to test. If you think it is pointless. You are not responsible enough to drive because diabetes requires responsibility as does driving.

elucero 2013-01-02 09:58:38 -0600 Report

My doc is making me check my bg before I drive which I promised to. I also check 4-6 daily. I hate diabetes. And something i remind myself of, is "I have diabetes, diabetes does not have me". If I surrender my life to it then why bother with any of it. I do take the pity train sometimes though and when I do I remember those words. My endo is a pumper too and that helps tremendously. If I check your sugars frequently enough then yol be behind the wheel in no time. Until the. Look at the bright side. Things could definite be worse. Diabetes has caused me to loser eyesight at one point thank God I reversed the process. Good luck and try to stay positive.

manapua72 2013-01-01 21:11:46 -0600 Report

Katie to be honest I hate having diabetes … As a type 2 I've learned there r ways to get it in remission … Yet then again my doctor thinks my pancreas no longer makes insulin making me insulin dependent … I love driving and would hate not being able to drive due to diabetes … I know some r able to be stable on shots … I wasn't one of them … Pump has helped me stabilize … I hope u can keep your #'s under control so that u can get that drivers license u so desire … I don't wish diabetes 1 or 2 on anyone … I wish there was a cure …

wrmjw1 2013-01-01 20:59:37 -0600 Report

I understand how you feel, once I got diagnosed with diabetes I cried alot, to this day I still hate having this disease. I hate everything about it, the shots, the having to watch what I eat, the constant doctor visits, its just a hassle plain and simple.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2013-01-02 10:11:57 -0600 Report

Would it be a hassle if you lost limbs, your house, your money or even your life? Would it be a hassle if you had no friends, no one liked you or you could not see, hear, walk or talk? There are a lot of people out here in this world like this and they are not filled with hatred for what happened to them. When negativity enters your life, it can stay there forever. What ever happened to just being thankful you are alive? What happened to being thankful you can do many of the things you did prior to being diagnosed? What i don't understand is how people can hate something to the point it consumes them.

jayabee52 2013-01-01 20:46:36 -0600 Report

Howdy again Katie.

When your Dr says no and you askl what does Dr tell you is the reason? Do you have many hypos? That could be a reason. I know of several over the road truckers who have had years of experience who had to give up their special truck driving licences because they became insulin dependent.

Ask Dr to give you a goal to achieve in your Blood Glucose levels (hypo free for x # of months) then you may be permitted to drive.

I take it you are about the age where driving is important to you because it means freedom for you. (I am salmost 61 now and remember flunking my first Drivers licence exam when I was 16 and I remember how important it was for me and how crushed I was when I didn't pass)

I pray you can eventually safely operate a motor vehicle soon!


MAYS 2013-01-01 20:01:00 -0600 Report

It's for the safety of yourself and others that this (no mv driving) is being done.
We diabetics are a unique group indeed, we are made to feel special in ways that we don't even ask for…lol…I don't think that any diabetic loves diabetes, but then again i can be wrong!

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2013-01-02 10:21:12 -0600 Report

MAYS I am not a lover of being diabetic but I don't have time to hate it. I agree, we are a unique group and at times are made to feel special in ways we don't ask. I have found in life that people whine, moan, and groan about things and do nothing to make improvements. It is easier to whine, moan and groan than it is to take action.

Hating diabetes or anything else for that matter surrounds a person with negative energy. People who can pick up on these vibes will sense it. I can sense bad vibes and I want nothing to do with the person emitting those vibes. Hating diabetes is not going to bring anyone closer to a cure, control their numbers or improve their life. You have to accept you have diabetes and work towards finding a cure by supporting those who are working towards that goal. You have to accept that you now have to do things differently to live a better and more fruitful life and more importantly you have to realize that having diabetes isn't a death sentence unless you choose to do so. Life is for living and I intend to do just that. Very good response as usual.

MAYS 2013-01-02 10:45:06 -0600 Report

Joyce, "Thanks" for the compliment…Your comments on this thread are wise, as usual.
I agree that we must strive to improve ourselves and our conditions in life, especially if we have complaints, to sit back and complain without action is self destructive, some people may find temporary solace in negative energy but in the end it's still negative!

Your comment(s) would make a great motivational discusion on being positive as a diabetic, unfortunately some may view it in a negative manner although it is very strong, and positive advice for diabetics and others, a great motivational statement!

Katie Suvak
Katie Suvak 2013-01-02 12:48:57 -0600 Report

From what I'm seeing your calling me a negative person that only brings negativity when you dont even know me. This is only making me feel worse although there is good advice but it comes with much judging..

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2013-01-02 18:30:29 -0600 Report

Katie no one said you were a negative person. I said when a person hates something, the hatred can begin to consume the person and this causes negativity. If you hate being diabetic, this can cause you to be negligent in your care. For example, you said you don't test because you feel it is pointless. The hatred of being diabetic is causing you to feel this way.

When you write a response to something, people can in a sense get a feel for the kind of person the writer is. You said "you don't know me" Based on what I have read in your responses, you are young and have a lot of growing to do. In order to grow, you have to be open minded and accept both positive and negative criticism. With negative criticism, you learn about yourself and can make changes. With positive criticism, you enhance those qualities. This is what helps us learn and grow as a human being.

MAYS 2013-01-02 14:29:45 -0600 Report

Katie, no one is calling you negative, diabetes can trigger negative responses towards mnaging it at times, sometimes we stray away from our tried, and proven methods for various reasons (routine procedures, etc.) even though we know that it can be harmful for us in the long run.

Diabetes demands constant attention, and we must give it that, it ia an unfair relationship based on what we want and what we must do, but as in any relationship if you want to be happy, balance must be maintained!
You are a member of this wonderful family, no criticism is directed at you only support, sometimes the support may not come in the form, (words, or responses) that we expect yet it is support nonetheless, no one is judging you.

A success story is always applauded here, it provides so much in the form of motivation and accomplishment for others, your success is everyone's success.
Don't take anything written here as a negative, but rather as a positive testament to our desire to see you succeed at managing your diabetes, my friend and DC family member!


Caroltoo 2013-01-02 12:54:37 -0600 Report

Actually, Katie, if you go back to the discussion page it will be clear that we were having a sidebar discussion triggered by Mays comment. When we respond to something on the board without knowing the context (your discussion), it frequently sounds odd to the person who started the discussion.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2013-01-02 11:25:47 -0600 Report

Thanks Mays. I find that negative people will always find negativity in others. People who don't want to change will find it also. The idea is to try something new, share new ideas and look at things differently in this bright and shiny New Year.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2013-01-02 18:32:14 -0600 Report

I agree there Carol. However, you can also make negativism work for you. It is simply looking at it and taking something positive out of it. Negative people are usually people who are angry with themselves, those around them and the world. They usually have fallen and aren't sure how to rise from the fall.