Naughty or Nice with Diabetes?

J Kate
By J Kate Latest Reply 2012-12-30 16:31:40 -0600
Started 2012-12-19 10:46:09 -0600

Living with diabetes can be an every day challenge. The holidays can be exceptionally difficult. Family and friends seem to be on one of two teams. The team that brings all types of delicious looking platters of various sweets to the office or even your home, or the team that monitors everything and tries to police what you do eat. Both teams can be somewhat uneducated on diabetes. We can be our own worst critic and sometimes be hard on ourselves. The holidays can be a time when we battle the feelings of "Naughty or Nice" without the "help" of anyone else. I have often wished for a quick guide to give to family and friends with things they can do to be thoughtful and kind to a person living with diabetes. If you could put one thing in this quick guide, what would it be?

20 replies

Caroltoo 2012-12-23 19:11:46 -0600 Report

Having discovered this year that I am gluten intolerant and gluten also causes my diabetis to become worse, I would say:

1. Please come and bring flowers, candles, cards, music, laughter, joy, and love, but leave your food at home. I'll do the cooking.
2. If you bring food, please don't be offended when I don't eat it. This is a case where a little spoonful to be polite can create big problems for several weeks.

jaf76 2012-12-20 19:36:35 -0600 Report

Well I am cooking this Christmas dinner so I don't have a lot to worry about. I took two years of culinary school and with that and reading my diabetic cookbook that I recently got I have a really good dinner planned that is safe for a diabetic. I can add though that if family are to bring something maybe they could bring a diabetic sweet for you. If nothing else it just shows they care and understand.

Nana_anna 2012-12-20 14:01:43 -0600 Report

I have a hard time trying to stick to a good diet during the Holidays. I still do my exercises everyday. But my eating habits are not good. To many temptations at home, church, and friends or outings. There is always food available. I have to remember that I am a diabetic and cannot have certain foods. Its hard also when my husband loves his junk food, this time of year. I have to say no thanks. I even skipped the Christmas dinner at church this year. I already had the big turkey meal at Thanksgiving. I didn't need another double of fattening foods, even though everybody at church are good cooks! We like to eat! Hahaha! But we are all getting self conscience because of some of the health issues going on there. As for me though, I just have to have self control and eat healthy even in Holidays. You can go through the Holidays without eating everything. I vowed that this year. I didn't make it. I am not upset or get emotional over it. I continue to move and be active. Watch the calories, portion controls. I can have one cookie, one chocalate, but its not worth it. Don't continue to damage yourself, body. Keep drinking water to.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-12-21 19:26:37 -0600 Report

Nana my sister loves her junk food also. It does not bother me at all. I have my sugar free junk also. What I do is load up on veggies and meat and if I want a sliver of pie for dessert I have it.

The Maintenance Manager at my sisters job is a self taught gourmet cook. He sent is son to Culinary School and helped him with his classes over the phone. He makes the best Chocolate Chip Cookies I have ever had. He makes them and gives them as gifts to all the office staff. We have some in the freezer now. If my numbers are good, I have one. I thaw it in a warm oven and indulge.

I know the Holidays makes you want to eat all the good stuff. Depending on how good your numbers are or even if you can have it, nothing is stopping you. I have tried sugar free chocolate and find it too sweet tasting for me. I have one Hershey's Kiss or half a twixt candy bar once a month and I am fine with that. It is all about control and moderation.

J Kate
J Kate 2012-12-20 14:15:37 -0600 Report

Great advice and attitude!

Bill Barnes
Bill Barnes 2012-12-23 10:46:48 -0600 Report

It is not easy for people who don't have diabetes to understand people with who have diabetes. If one did away with all the sugar and pasta and carbs then we would binge when we saw these products in the store,resrurant or in some one elses house. Our bodys need a certain amount of these just to survive. I lost thirty pounds and this made a huge difference in my A1C blood glucose. And I feel much better. Just eat everything in moderation and your stomach will get smaller and then the food intake will get smaller.

J Kate
J Kate 2012-12-20 11:00:27 -0600 Report

One Christmas I got blasted by an in-law demanding that I throw out every form of sugar in the house. He said I was endangering the life of my child. I responded by asking how was I supposed to treat hypoglycemia if I had nothing in the house. In my head I was also thinking that it really wouldn't give my son perfect blood sugars anyway because it's the carbs that matter. I call it one of the "Please educate yourself- because your stupid is showing" moments. Also I think if someone really cared they would pull me aside and express concern, not dress me down in front of the entire family at the holiday dinner table. I knew they had no idea what they were talking about, but it still hurt to be accused of hurting my child. I have spent more nights than I can count cradling my son on the floor with a tube of honey or a Glucagon trying to pull him out of a hypoglycemic seizure. I didn't need judgement, I needed a hug.

I think the advice I would put in- (at least as a caregiver) Never think you know more than someone who is living with diabetes. First and foremost every case of diabetes is unique. What works for one person may not work for another. Each person will know more about their diabetes than anyone. Support and love, not assume and criticize.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-12-21 19:06:42 -0600 Report

I cannot figure out why people allow others to say nasty things to them and then get upset about it? Before my 95 year old great aunt died she said if you don't say what you really want to say when someone dresses you down, don't complain about it afterwards. She is the reason that to this day. I will say what I mean to say when someone does that and I don't feel bad about it 99% of the time.

Had this person said that at a family dinner in my family, he would have left a very unhappy person because someone would have said something. Shortly after my cousin married his wife, her brother said to me, You all should be lucky I allowed you in my family. I told him you will be kissing my feet the day I tell you that I have accepted you at all. Thirty years later he is still waiting and has the audacity to ask me. After that remark, and the snide way he said it, one of us will be dead before I even consider saying I accept him. He has a very superior and nasty attitude and I refuse to acknowledge him at all.

Nana_anna 2012-12-20 14:03:58 -0600 Report

Your family member should read up on his information. He has to know that we still need sugar in our low readings. That doesn't help either, when people keep telling us what we should do. Especially if they don't understand what we go through everyday. I agree with you, they need to educate themselfs, my family, husband does to.

Set apart
Set apart 2012-12-20 05:49:27 -0600 Report

Just because it actually doesn't have sugar as an ingredient doesn't mean I can still have it! Carbs, carbs that's what counts! It's been a rough one this year. It is amazing how holidays can be all about food, I am working on trying to make mine different! Happy Holidays Kate!

J Kate
J Kate 2012-12-20 10:43:19 -0600 Report

Happy Holidays to you! At least it seems to be going by really fast. If I can just make it through new years. LOL. It has been a rough year for me too, but so many things to be grateful for, and so many lessons learned.

princess lulu
princess lulu 2012-12-19 17:37:39 -0600 Report

I would put in the Guide - Yes, I love chocolate pie but that does not mean that I want a whole pie in the house. So, please don't buy one for me and then look disappointed when I only have a small sliver to taste and then don't eat more! Actually to paraphrase - DON'T BUY ME FOOD!