By jaweaver Latest Reply 2012-12-22 14:00:31 -0600
Started 2012-12-16 20:23:42 -0600

I found out on Friday that I have type 2. Confused. Frustrated. Hopeful. Not sure what to so next. Looking for guidance and advice. Thanks.

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watson4042 2012-12-22 14:00:31 -0600 Report

welcome to the best family anywhere in the world. all your questions will be answered by positive people with a wealth of information. trust in their replies and you can't go wrong.

Set apart
Set apart 2012-12-20 05:57:02 -0600 Report

Welcome to DC everyone here has given you great ideas! Dc has been a lifesaver for me, so it looks like you are on the right track towards living a healthier life!

doggier 2012-12-17 23:18:39 -0600 Report

MMccance, you have a wealth of information. Thank you. I am going to print this off and put it in my folder. I need to read things like this again sometimes. Thank You

mmccance 2012-12-17 21:28:43 -0600 Report

Hi jaweaver! I am impressed that you found out you have diabetes on Friday and on Sunday you found this site and reached out with a question. That shows me you are interested in educating yourself on this condition and looking for support and solutions. Way to go!!

When it comes to your diabetes you are the solution. Your doctor cannot manage it for you. You have to take this one on yourself. But it is easy once you figure out how — and you can figure out "how" — with your blood glucose monitor.

The thing that has helped me to manage my diabetes the most is testing my blood sugars every day. In fact, for the first two weeks you need to test your blood sugar level for every meal you eat. This will point out to you the foods that are good for you to eat and the foods that are not good for you to eat. You will know immediately by your blood glucose numbers.

So, for the next two weeks… Just before you eat, record the date, time. BG (blood glucose) number, and what you ate… and then about one hour after you eat, take your blood sugar again to see how that particular meal affected your body. Check it again after two hours have passed, too. Keeping good records here will begin to show you how to manage your eating habits.

You will only need to keep this tight of control for about two weeks, after that, if you eat only the foods on your own "OK" list, you can get by with checking as often as you need to make sure you are still on track — but check every morning, just the same.

Since you are so new at this you probably do not yet even have your glucose monitor, but your doctor will very likely prescribe one. Ask for one if they do not and plan on making it your best friend. Have a "meeting" with it every morning and every time you eat (for a while). It is the thing that will give you definite answers on how you are doing right now. It is your guide to managing diabetes. (Note: pricking closer to the pad and farther from the point of your finger is usually less painful.)

A person who does not have diabetes will have blood sugars in the range of about 75 to 90 with 88 being "average." A person gets to be called a diabetic when their blood sugars are way above those numbers on a regular basis (anywhere from 100 to 200 to 400 and above [this is simplified for discussion here]). The goal is to keep your own blood sugars as close to 88 as possible.

You may not be able to reach 88 — but get as close as you can without stressing over it. I'm happy with 100 every morning. I'm sometimes lower and sometimes higher and there are things other than food that will raise blood sugars. A cold or infection can raise the numbers. Other medications can raise the number, too. So you may have to factor in a few things other than food, but the food you eat is, by far, the main culprit.

You may be able to manage your blood sugars by eliminating or eating less of those things that raise your sugars (like things made with sugar, potatoes, wheat, grain, etc.), and eating more of those things that do not raise them (like meat, fish, eggs, etc. and vegetables, the fresher the better — this is better known as a low carbohydrate diet).

You may also be told by your doctor that you need to take medication of some kind. Every person is different. If given medication, take it faithfully with the goal of not taking it forever. Use it to get your blood sugars to a good range and eat well to keep them there.

I have found that if I truly manage my eating habits, I don't have to take medication. When I don't manage my eating habits I am only worsening my condition, so my life style is also my life line. And find a way to incorporate some kind of exercise in your week, too. It will only do you good. I do water exercise three times a week and it helps to keep the pain down, too.

T2 Diabetes, if accepted and dealt with on a daily basis, does not have to hamper your life at all. It will soon be a "background" item and not the main item. You will still be able to do all the things you do now, except for the food you've been eating. How easy is that? Manage that one thing and you also eliminate or delay the horrible complications of diabetes such as amputations, blindness, and heart attack.

One more thing… once you decide to eliminate sugar from your life… it will take about three days for the cravings to stop. After that, you should be able to avoid it much more easily. So, just think, three days without sugar and you will have made a big improvement to your life and health. Go for it!! You can do it!

You are loved and respected,
Take care, friend,

Nick1962 2012-12-17 19:34:53 -0600 Report

Every one has pretty much hit all the important points already, so I'll take a little different direction that Fefe12 touched on a little, and that's how you treat yourself now. You've been given an oppurtunity to examine things a bit. Where you are now, what the future might hold for you, and how you can control what your future holds. I don't know how old you are, male or female, or if you have other issues or family members you need to worry about. Take a look at what you would like the remainder of life to look like and make plans. In fact, don't include diabetes in those plans. Make your condition fit those plans. I'd dare say even make those plans even a little bit unrealistic, because like Fefe said, everything stems from the good things you do for you. You'd be really suprised at where you might end up even 5 years from now. Had you told me back in 2007 when i got diagnosed that I'd be doing the things I'm doing today, I'd laugh and call you crazy.
Yes, there are the realities of life that we'll have to deal with and restrict us in some ways, but for most T2's, it's just an annoyance. I have more trouble putting in contacts in the morning.

jaweaver 2012-12-18 21:24:58 -0600 Report

Thank you, I'm 37 have a wife an a new baby. All I've been thinking about for the last several weeks is my future. Thanks for the positive perspective.

jigsaw 2012-12-19 08:27:16 -0600 Report

I can only fortify what Nick1962 has said. I incorporate much of this same thinking in my life. After 18 years of living with diabetes, life has been wonderful, it still is wonderful, and my health has been good. No serious complaints here, just a desire to continue enjoying life !

Nick1962 2012-12-19 08:16:29 -0600 Report

It sounds weird but I say it often, getting diagnosed was probably the best thing that could have happened to me. It made me look at just where I was heading and at the time it didn’t look good. It sounds like you’re in a very good place in life right now and getting this diagnosis is just a reminder that slacking off isn’t an option. Hopefully just watching your diet is all it will take, and before long that will become second nature. With any luck you might even get to the point where your condition is considered “reversed” or “dissolved” as my doctor puts it and you won’t need to test daily. Congrats on the new baby!

red flower lady
red flower lady 2012-12-17 18:08:23 -0600 Report

Welcome, you will get lots of help and info here. You can get control of your diabetes if willing to put the effort in. It does take time to get on a routine for a healthier you, so be patient and ask lots of questions:)

jayabee52 2012-12-17 03:04:11 -0600 Report

To my reply to you below I want to add: remember that the management of this disease, no matter how you end up managing it: Diet and exercise, Oral medication, Injectable medications or injected or pumped insulin, the management of this disease is more like a marathon than like a sprint. Just start slow and steady, and take "baby steps" Learn all you can but at your own unique pace.

If you try to run this marathon starting out at a sprinter's pace you may burn out, and that would not be good for you. Just start out knowing this managing the diabetes is going to be a long haul, so don't burn yourself out. And return here frequently ro get support and refreshment.


Fefe12 2012-12-17 02:47:18 -0600 Report

Welcome to the club!Youve come to the right place. Im one year with my diagnosis and about 5 months with this group. Its a great place to be. We all care about each other and theres lots of good advise. Make sure you have a good endro doc and ask lots of questions. Your eyes will burn from all the reading you will be doing but dont grow weary. Come here to get your spirit filled up again to face the world. It will be hard at times but you will get through it. Start managing you health and excercise. Find something you love to do and do it. Learn to love food in a new way and dont think all is lost. Always ask questions and keep moving forward. Most important of all. "love yourself" you will find everything you do will stem from that. Good luck, talk soon.

Caroltoo 2012-12-16 23:26:58 -0600 Report

Welcome. You will find lots of ideas here that will give you much to think about. I think it would be safe to say most of us have felt confused and frustrated to be told we are T2. I'm glad you are hopeful. Despite any fear and concern you may have about being T2, you will probably also find that it answers lots of questions that you have had about why your body was acting the way it was. Good to know … now you can move forward to find solutions.

I agree with Joyce, close examination of your diet is very important and the best place to start. My BG was 400 when diagnosed; it was 130 when my doc finally got me to go to a diebetic educator. Between those two points, was 1.5 months of rigorously controlled diet and lots of 2-3 mile daily walks. There is a lot you can do to help yourself, if you keep your mind open to the options.

It's easy to say to just eat healthy meals. Many of us, unfortunately, don't really know what healthy meals are. That sounds harsh, but, if we have never studied nutrition and learned what is really good for us, it's just a fact: we don't know. So examine what you eat and learn what is really healthy.

Accept the fact that we are all different and you are going to have to treat this like a chemistry experiment. What works for me? How do I fine tune it so it can work better? Its challenging, but exciting to discover how good you can feel when you have sorted out this puzzle called Diabetes!

On the hope side: many of us control our D by diet and exercise alone. Some use meds until they can get it under control and then go to just diet and exercise. You will find what's best for you, but, yes, there are lots of reasons to be hopeful. This is a new beginning for you; the time when you start to be healthier.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-12-17 11:13:50 -0600 Report

Carol you raise a fantastic point about many of us not knowing what a healthy meal is. With everyone rushing here and there daily, people are grabbing frozen dinners or boxed dinners where you add your own meat or grabbing fast food. During the winter I use to buy Marie Callenders dinners for lunch at work. I did not realize how much salt and starch I was eating until I was diagnosed. After I was diagnosed and talking with my neighbor who is a dietitian I learned to eat healthier meals.

I did what you did and rigorously changed my diet. It was not easy. I have now learned that I can have sweets in my diet but I prepare for them. Starting out with diabetes is not easy but I got better at it each week.

Caroltoo 2012-12-17 12:38:51 -0600 Report

Yes, I've found the same thing, Joyce. I avoid most sugar and don't ever add it when I cook, but I have some occasionally. What I've read is that most of our bodies can process up to a teaspoonful at a time. Beyond that and we are doing damage. So an occasional cookie or a few bites of pie can be ok depending on where we are in the management process, but not a box of cookies or a huge slice. Bottom line here: use common sense and don't binge, but we don't have to act like the food Nazi's either!

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-12-17 12:46:28 -0600 Report

I don't have time to be a food Nazi or the Food Police. If you know you should not eat something, who am I to tell you not to eat it. Far too often people treat diabetes as a game of Russian Roulette or refuse to accept they have the disease so they opt to do nothing. Others want a quick fix when it comes to weight loss or lowering numbers. These things take time and quick fix methods can harm you in the long run. I prefer to use patience to get my numbers down and the weight off.

Caroltoo 2012-12-17 13:12:30 -0600 Report

No, wasn't thinking about you with that comment. I had just read another's evaluation of a rather good sounding recipe which was totally dismissed in capital letters because of a little sugar. Educating folks is one thing, but that was just over the top. We all have to be responsible for ourselves.

jayabee52 2012-12-17 01:32:46 -0600 Report

well said Carol!

Caroltoo 2012-12-17 12:34:05 -0600 Report

Thanks, James. There are so many folks on here who rush to say that they eat healthily and I thought so myself when I was first diagnosed. I actually was doing pretty well, but still had a lot more to learn about what impacted my body negatively because, in my case, it wasn't just the usual culprits: carbs.

jayabee52 2012-12-17 12:39:44 -0600 Report

I know "eating Healthy" is a rather flexible term, something many really don't know what "healthy" is.

jayabee52 2012-12-16 23:23:04 -0600 Report

I also want to wish you a big WELCOME to DC, Jaweaver. Joyce is pretty spot on in her reply to you.

That is about the best any one of us can suggest without some specifics about you and your diagnosis (Dx). Have you learned of your Dx through a face to face meeting with a Dr, or did you just get a letter or a phone call wanting you to come in to the office to discuss it?

I hate it when things like that happen to me. Did the Dr set you up with a medication to take in the mean time while you are waiting for appointment? It is frustrating that the time between getting informed about your diabetes and the appointment to see Dr takes so long. I think that Drs seem to believe that he's lived with this this long, he won't do much more damage to himself during the wait for the appointment.

But you did real good coming to Diabetic Connect and postiing this discussion question here. The folks here know what it is like having Diabetes, and have a good idea of how to support and encourage others who have this disease, because many of the trials and mental challenges one can have with this disease. (yes, diabetes affects not only your body but also your moods - good or bad - also) So if you are feeling depressed or unusually angry, that could be the diabetes talking. the first year after my Dx was really tough for me I was depressed a lot and wouild fly off the handle at the least little thing. It is a wonder my w fe stayed with me as long as she did.

As Joyce said lower your carbohydrates ("carbs") and start reading labels in the supermarket. Go for the lowest per carb serving food possible. It is said that one should "avoid anything white" except cauliflower or quinoa.

Starchy "vegetables" like white potatoes, corn, peas are not a friend of persons with diabetes (PWDs).

Eat more real vegetables like green beans, broccoli, cauliflower, cabbage and cucumbers (if you can stand them. Unfortunately I cannot) Veggies are best fresh, 2nd best is frozen, and then if you must, canned, but often you need to be careful of the sodium in the canned - you don't want to develop high blood pressure and to add to your problems).

As you get acquainted here and do some reading in the discussions and some of the links on the left — particularly the "living with diabetes" link you will get the feel of this unique place where the people are friendly and want to help.

Praying God's richest blessings upon you and yours during this Yuletide season and Always

James Baker

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-12-16 21:14:31 -0600 Report

Welcome to the DC family. You have come to the right place.
I am a face the problem person so the first thing I did was listen to my doctor. I then learned a lot about diabetes and wrote down all the questions I needed to ask him at my next visit. I immediately changed my eating habits.

The most important thing to do is to start eating healthy as soon as possible. This includes snacks. Start a food journal and write down everything you eat. I did a spreadsheet for this and I also used it to track my readings.

I do not take medical advice from anyone but a medical professional for the simple reason that diabetes can effect each person differently. What works for me may not work for you. Question your doctor. Ask him/her to schedule you to see an endocrinologist and a dietitian. Find a diabetes education class and attend.

Incorporate exercise into you lifestyle if you are not currently exercising. Reduce as much stress in your life as possible. Stress can effect your readings. Learn to properly read labels and measure everything you eat. It may be hard at first but you will get the hang of it. The key is to lower your carb intake and calories if you need to lose weight.

With the holidays in full swing, you don't want to feel left out. The pie that you ate at Thanksgiving should not be eaten if your numbers are high. I use the teaspoon/tablespoon method for putting food on my plate. If I want dressing, I skip potatoes, mac and cheese and the dinner roll. If I want to eat mac and cheese I use a fork. What ever ends up on the fork goes on my plate. If I want dessert, I take a walk after eating and try to wait at least 2 hours.

Make sure you stay hydrated. Diet soda, coffee and tea are not the best things to drink. I always carry my meter and supplies with me along with a snack no matter where I go.

I control my diabetes, it does not control me. You can still enjoy life and do things you want to do. Frustration will pass once you get the hang of things. Build a support system of people who will be able to help you. If you have a spouse or significant other, or you live with family, educate them about diabetes. They can become your support system. Good luck.

Caroltoo 2012-12-16 21:33:01 -0600 Report

I like it Joyce, especially the part about you controling the diabetes, not it controlling you!

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-12-17 10:51:35 -0600 Report

Carol, I let depression control me for years. Thanks to a wonderful therapist, I no longer let it do that to me. The holidays are the worse for me. I use to always get depressed and did everything in my power not to let it show. I try to find one little glimmer of hope in each day until the holidays are over.

When you let something control you, it owns you. I can't live like that.

Caroltoo 2012-12-17 12:43:10 -0600 Report

Couldn't agree more! I've managed to pretty much avoid depression except when living in the Pacific NW where it was dark and cold all winter. I developed SAD when living there. Founds lots of D3 helps overcome the response to dark days. It's really a biochemical reaction. I see it in my husband even here in Hawaii because he is rarely outside in the sun. If you are having dark days (weather) around the holidays, you might consider trying it. It makes the dark days (related to past abuse which we think about more around holiday/family times) easier to deal with.