Weight loss surgery

By Turtle Latest Reply 2013-01-02 00:38:44 -0600
Started 2012-12-16 05:29:10 -0600

My Dr. has put in a referral for weight loss surgery. I feel a little scared and alot releived. I need some intervention because I just keep gaining wt. no matter what I do to lose.

If anyone has any positive feedback, please share it with me. No horror stories, please I am aware of the good and bad of this surgery.

Thank you for your support,

17 replies

Leslie S
Leslie S 2012-12-27 21:35:09 -0600 Report

I went to the endocrinologist for the first time yesterday. He said that his #1 solution for me would be gastric bypass and described me as morbidly obese. I'm just under 5' and weigh 216. He put me on another medication that will hopefully help with the weight loss, but I was so frustrated leaving his office. I would not describe myself as MORBIDLY obese and right now, surgery is not my option.

That being said — choose whatever you choose for YOU. Don't do it just because your doctor says. Do it because it will truly help you. Good luck!!

Turtle 2013-01-02 00:38:44 -0600 Report

Well Leslie, I am 5" 1' and weigh 225 and that is what the medical field calls morbidly obese. It also incoropates ones BMI to figure it out. Height by weight equals BMI,(body mass index) and that goes from way too thin too morbidly obese. I know the words seem almost cruel but when you, me in this case, learn to accept the terms and what it all means, then one can either find a healthy way to lose weight and keep it off or have surgery. I just learned it has been authorized for me and I will have it done. I need support here.

doggier 2012-12-18 00:00:06 -0600 Report

Turtle, I forgot to say good luck which ever way you go. Whatever decision you make will be the right one for you!!!

Turtle 2012-12-20 22:47:51 -0600 Report

Thank youfor your replies and support. The support is very helpful.

jayabee52 2012-12-20 23:53:44 -0600 Report

nice new icon pic! (but I loved the one of sunny as well)

Turtle 2012-12-23 22:13:15 -0600 Report

Thanks. I am going to change it back to Sunny. I just felt like changing it to the Turtle pic I have.

Caroltoo 2012-12-23 22:15:27 -0600 Report

Turtle pic makes me think of warm Hawaiian waters and sunshine. I like for a winter picture, gives us warm thoughts. Have to agree though, Sunny is a cutie.

doggier 2012-12-17 23:57:43 -0600 Report

Dear Turtle, I will support you also in whatever you do. I know this is a hard choice. Can you go on some websites and weight loss forums before you have the surgery? Right now I am 5 feet 2 inches and weigh 258. About one year ago I weighed about 282 pound on a 5'2 frame. My knees are bone against bone and they hurt. My legs and body also hurt all the time. I made a decision to start to walk 10 minutes a day and cut back. I am not losing alot and it may take me another 2 years, but I will get there. I thought about weight loss surgery and went to the semiars in fact i went to about 4. At one of the Lap Band Semiars the doctor said if you can eat more that half of a McDonald hambuger that is to much. All I am saying is please research the type of surgery that you are going to have. I know it is hard to know if you are doing the right thing because this is such a big decision, just talk to people who have had it.

jayabee52 2012-12-16 17:47:29 -0600 Report

I would support and love you no matter which way you decide.

HOWEVER (a big however), I wouild caution you against it. I won't give you any "horror stoires" but I will relate an experience with a friend of mine. I had 2 friends who I knew from dancing classes a few years ago. The one got his gastric bypass done and lost some weight and seemed to be happy with it. When my kidneys shut down I stopped going to that dancing class, so I lost track of him. He was in the "honeymoon period" with his proceedure so as far as I know he was happy at the time I lost track.

The 2nd person I had known for a little longer. I met "shelly" when I was still working as a CNA in a hospital setting. I kept in touch with her for a couple of years and during that time she had the proceedure done She did it not for diabetes, which she did not have, but to take the weight off of her knees, which she had just had replaced (how I met her originally).

She lost a lot of weight and even had surgery to remove her excess skin. She was looking good. One of the times I met with her she told me that she could not eat more than 3 oz of food per meal (don't know if that encluded liquids) and she had to take a specially formulated vitamin suppliment. But at that time she was still in the honeymoon phase of the proceedure.

Fast forward about a year: then I started dancing in a East Coast Swing ("Jitterbug") class. When I met her again I told her anbout it and she started coming to that class regularly. She seemed to have put a little more weight at that time, but said nothing about it.

Then I had to drop out for a while due to my kidney failure. I returned to class about 3 months later and she was still about the same.

The class broke up because the teachers moved out of state. And then I moved out of state for about 3 yrs to get married. My Jem died and I returned to Las Vegas.

There were folks who wanted to bring that "jitterbug" class back and served as instructors for a while. During those classes I met Shelly again. She had cnanged in the interviening years. She had put almost 3/4 of her original weight on again

That Jitterbug class broke up also and while I do see her on Facebook I don't see her in person any more.

So, Turtle, if you are doing this to try to manage your diabetes, you do know that for only 70% does it help to resolve their diabetes. 30% it has little to no effect on it.

It is great for taking the pressure off your hips & knees fast if you have osteoarthis issues

But my BIAS is toward doing it naturally. I was at one point hovering around 250 on a 5' 6" frame, which is obese. When I lost my "Jem" in death I was around 215 to 220. I was down to 155 lbs in a matter of months by simply cutting all simple (refined) carbs out of my meal plan by removing all breads and all grain products of any kind from my eating plan. I did eat carbs like from fruit and berries but I restricted starchy veggies. (I wrote up a meal plan for this way of eating and upon request I'll send you a link to it so you can read it for yourself)

Actully I was so focused in getting my Blood Glucose (BG) readings down without the use of diabetes meds that I really didn't notice the inches coming off until my pants started falling to my ankles without a belt. Needless to say, I was really happy about that.

I would rather see you lose the weight naturally and have your whole digestive tract intact. Because once the operation is done, there is no way to reverse it. One cannot unbreak an egg. All the king's horses and all the kings men couldn't put Humpty together again.

Should you choose to go for it, I will support you.

Praying for you as you make your decision!


Turtle 2012-12-17 07:37:43 -0600 Report

Hi James, thank you so much for your "love and support" and for your support. I figure the weight loss probably wont do a lot for my diabetes. I am thinking of this mainly to get the pressure off of my knee replacements that still hurt and incapacitate me at times with pain and for the health of my hips and other bones and joints. I have fibromyalgia, osteoarthritis, and osteoporosis, all really painful and severe in my case. If I could lighten my load a little, it may help.

I am leaning more toward the lap band if I understand it correctly. If I understand correctly, it can be adjusted if necessary or reversed. It is not as invasive as gastric bypass. However, surgery is surgery and there is ALWAYS some level of risk from several ways for surgery to go wrong. From infection to death.

I nearly died twice after my 2 knee replacement surgeries. I was still in the hosp. and given too much pain meds. I ended up in ICU both times. Another time, they took the tube out of my throat too soon and I refluxed and inhaled it…got pneumonia…ICU again.

Caroltoo 2012-12-17 12:53:12 -0600 Report

Turtle, you have had a tough time of it. Surprising you are game for more surgery! Yes, lap band sounds to me like the best of the choices and weight loss would be a good thing with the arthritis and other complications you have. Guess its a guestion of weighing the pros and the cons. You sound like you are doing a good job of considering all of them and will make a good choice for yourself.

jayabee52 2012-12-17 11:06:55 -0600 Report

Well if you have to go under the knife I would think the lap band would be the better way to go since it is adjustable and reversable. I have no friends (that I know of) who have had that proceedure.

Yes Dr or med team errors are always possiilities. My Jem had me watching for medication switches (they seemed to love to do that to her) and whenever she went to hospital, I was on pins and needles. Before I knew her a Dr made a mistake and overdosed her on a diuretic. She came out of that with difficulty hearing where she needed a hearing aid to hear much of anything. Blind and nearly deaf as well. But despite all of that she was a ray of sunshine in the lives of many including me.

granniesophie 2012-12-16 05:56:54 -0600 Report

No feedback either way, just a great big Good Luck to you. I will support you no matter what you want to do-we all will here so, You Go Girl!!

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