wake up call

By nanna725 Latest Reply 2012-12-23 10:35:12 -0600
Started 2012-12-14 08:22:37 -0600

my furture brother in law has been in the hospital now for three weeks because of his diabeties. he smoke and smoke weed well his foot started hurting until the pain was going up his leg. by this time he had a whole in his foot and it got infected.all the while his doctor was telling him to stop smoking. i never know that smooking will affect your diabeties i knew eatting the wrong food would but not this.so now that one more thing i worried about me, ibeginning to forget my eyes are getting worse.my mother needs help and i am affriad that i won't be there for her.i am in such a depressed state of mind that i am evil all the time, i cry because i wonder if i get relly sick who wil be there for me.family member aint' bout s, all they want is money from you. my fiancee and God are all i have. i don't sleep good and i half eat.please can some one just give me a verse or something that i can carry in my pocket that when i get this way. i can go in a quite place and meditate. stress is not good for diabeties.now if you think that not enough my mother hassels me to lose the weight i had lost it not easy where i live around here it's total hell. please help. a frustrated friend o i for got they are talking about taking my furture brother in laws foot off.

9 replies

Acousins 2012-12-22 17:53:37 -0600 Report

Hello Sorry to hear about your problems… first you have to think of yourself and take care of yourself first… stop lets others stress you out… you have to say no and no more… Stress is a and can be a problem for us diabetes… You have to find your place of peace and find your faith and strength… I know this sounds uncaring but sometimes you have to be that way to take a step for yourself… once you are ok than you can consider others but it appears they are bringing you down and you cant let that happen… so keep your head up and take care of yourself and know that you are not alone… Let me know how you are doing… Happy Holidays

jayabee52 2012-12-15 20:10:20 -0600 Report

nanna I am distressed you are having such a difficlult time. I will be praying for you.

As far as verses of Scripture, here are a few selected quotes from the holy scriptures ~ Deuteronomy 31:8
The LORD himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged. (NIV)

Joshua 1:9
Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go. (NIV)

Psalm 23:4
Even though I walk through the darkest valley, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me. (NIV

Psalm 27:1
The LORD is my light and my salvation—whom shall I fear? The LORD is the stronghold of my life—of whom shall I be afraid? (NIV)

Psalm 86:17
Give me a sign of your goodness, that my enemies may see it and be put to shame, for you, LORD, have helped me and comforted me. (NIV)

Psalm 119:76
May your unfailing love be my comfort, according to your promise to your servant. (NIV)

Proverbs 3:24
When you lie down, you will not be afraid; when you lie down, your sleep will be sweet. (NIV)

Isaiah 12:2
Surely God is my salvation; I will trust and not be afraid. The LORD, the LORD himself, is my strength and my defense; he has become my salvation. (NIV)

Isaiah 49:13
Shout for joy, you heavens; rejoice, you earth; burst into song, you mountains! For the LORD comforts his people and will have compassion on his afflicted ones. (NIV)

Jeremiah 1:8
"Do not be afraid of them, for I am with you and will rescue you," declares the LORD. (NIV)

Lamentations 3:25
The LORD is good to those whose hope is in him, to the one who seeks him; (NIV)

Micah 7:7
But as for me, I watch in hope for the LORD, I wait for God my Savior; my God will hear me. (NIV)

Matthew 5:4
Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted. (NIV)

Mark 5:36
Overhearing what they said, Jesus told him, "Don't be afraid; just believe." (NIV)

Luke 12:7
Indeed, the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Don't be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows. (NIV)

John 14:1
Do not let your hearts be troubled. You believe in God; believe also in me. (NIV)

John 14:27
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid. (NIV)

John 16:7
Nevertheless, I tell you the truth: it is to your advantage that I go away, for if I do not go away, the Helper will not come to you. But if I go, I will send him to you. (NIV)

Romans 15:13
May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit. (NIV)

2 Corinthians 1:3-4
Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God. (NIV)

Hebrews 13:6
So we say with confidence, "The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can mere mortals do to me?" (NIV)

you may want to copy and paste these quotes into a word processing program and print them out for your quiet time meditation.

Should you wish to see these quotes in other translations go to ~ http://www.biblegateway.com/ and look these verses up there.

I had a tough time a few years back. I was on dialysis because my kidneys had shut down due to kidney infection. My ex had divorced me 5 yrs before after 25 yrs and 3 sons. My 3 sons had scattered to other parts of the world, and I had no income due to my disability and no medical insurance. To me at that time I considered that the best thing I could do would be to discontinue my dialysis and let my disease "take me'. However, I also reconsidered that death was such a permanent response to a temporary situation. I also thought what message would my sons receive? Would they see dad just giving up when things got REALLY tough for me?

I therefore decided to continue with my dialysis, and with time my situation turned out to be temporary. I got put on SS Disability, so I got income and medicare. Then 10 mos after my kidneys shut down they were working well enough I could discontinue dialysis without danger.

and unfortunately I did not get my 1st wife back, but I got someone BETTER than my first wife (IMO- and I am the one who counts). She made me so very happy and her friends tell me that I made her very happy too.

so within a year of that kidney shut down I had most of my life back together.

so do not be distressed. The Bible says (in the KJV) "And it came to pass . . . ." It never says "and it came to STAY".

Praying for you and yours in this difficult time.


classof78 2012-12-15 22:33:00 -0600 Report

here's a few more:
Philippians 4:6-9 (all KJV)
Be careful (anxious) for nothing, but in everything, by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known unto God.
And the peace of God which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.
Finally brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report: if there be any virtue and if there be any praise, think on these things.
Those things which ye have both learned, and received, and heard, and seen in me, do, and the God of peace shall be with you.

skip down to verse 13-
I can do all things through Christ, who strengtheneth me.

Job 23:10
But he knoweth the way that I take: when he hath tried me, I shall come forth as gold.

Behold I have refined thee, but not with silver; I have chosen thee in the furnace of affliction.

Jeremiah 29: 11-13
For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thought of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.
Then ye shall call upon me, and ye shall go and pray unto me, and I will hearken unto you.
And ye shall seek me , and find me, when ye shall search for me with all your heart.

Nahum 1:7
The Lord is good, a stronghold in the day of trouble, and he knoweth those who trust in him,

There's LOTS more, hope these give you a starting point

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-12-15 18:28:59 -0600 Report

Nanna it is up to you to change things. You mother cannot change you and hassling someone to lose weight never works. Tough love your family. Stop supporting them and make them handle their own problems.

There is a difference between being needed and being needy. You have combined the two. You are needed because you give support to those who only need you for your support of them. It is what it is, they don't need you, they are using you. You are needy because you are worrying about something that has not happened.

Your brother-in-law knew what he was supposed to do and opted not to do it. That is not your problem, he owns that one. If your mom needs help, help her to the best of your ability. However, if there are things she can do for herself, let her do them as long as possible. I took care of my mom for 5 years. She took care of her personal needs up until the day she died.

Your fiance is not all you have or need, you also should have friends. People who like to do the things you do. People who are friendless are often lonely people. I don't live in the best community but the blocks around me are relatively quiet because we control as much as we can. Drug dealers seem to know that people around here will call the police the minute they set up business so they don't come around unless it is late at night. I took care of that problem because of my involvement in the community and police associations. I make a call and I get the police and I don't have to use 911 to get them.

I believe in God but I am not religious. I only will go into a church for a meeting, wedding or funeral. I also do not read religious materials including the Bible. I developed my own beliefs and I use to go to church every Sunday.

You are evil because you are angry. You cry because you are angry and frustrated. More than likely you are depressed for those reasons. Until you let go of the anger and frustration you are going to be depressed. Stop bearing the weight of family members problems. Your mother is going to hassle you because that is what some mothers do. Don't buy into it and stop listening to it.

I am a fan of Maya Angelou

This verse from Still I Rise is on of my favorites. I had the entire poem in a frame on my desk.

Just like moons and like suns,
With the certainty of tides,
Just like hopes springing high,
Still I'll rise.

My other favorite by her is Phenomenal Woman I had that on my bulletin board. Read them. I find them inspirational. Good luck my friend.

Side note Nana, I am by know means saying you are evil. I simply took it as a means of saying you are angry. However, there have been times when I am angry people say don't be so evil. Guess it is my ethnicity and the hood where I live.

jayabee52 2012-12-15 19:25:07 -0600 Report

Joyce did you REALLY intend to call Nana "evil"? I would see her as depressed, not evil, because depression is anger turned inward.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-12-15 19:51:34 -0600 Report

No in some circles evil is used like shut up which can mean gee whiz, golly, oh my. etc…Remember she said she is evil all of the time. I took it as meaning angry because that is what it sometimes means. Guess it depends on ethnicity or where you live.

jayabee52 2012-12-15 20:19:01 -0600 Report

I scanned her OP when I asked you that and I did not see the word "evil" there. After your most recent reply I read it more closely and sure enough it is there. My apologies for calling you out about it!

Where I come from calling someone evil is about the worst thing one could say about another.