(Very) Bad Habits...What (If Any) Are Yours?

By MAYS Latest Reply 2012-12-17 06:11:23 -0600
Started 2012-12-10 15:54:19 -0600

I have developed a very bad habit of late, that is really beginning to take it's toll on me.

That habit is eating after eight pm.
Normally the latest that i would eat dinner would be at seven pm, nothing later but now i find myself eating later and later, this causes me to wake up at two, three and sometimes four o'clock in the morning with bouts of indigestion!

So it's back to what i know works for me, no eating after seven pm, and going to bed by eleven.
Some habits are so comfortable that they are hard to break but what needs to be done, must be done!


If anyone has a bad habit that they would like to share, please feel free to do so!


62 replies

ChristyEK 2012-12-15 18:13:05 -0600 Report

Free cell. I sit down at the computer to do something productive, respond to friends' emails or work on my family photo scanning project, and think, I'll play one game. Then spend half an hour moving the cards around. It's relaxing but it feels like a total waste of my free time.

jayabee52 2012-12-15 20:24:45 -0600 Report

my time wasters on the computer is spider solitaire or dominoes. But here lately I only reserve those for times when I cannot sleep and I want to do something to bore myself into drowsiness. Tried Free cell a couple of times, but i couldn't get the hang of it.

cherik 2012-12-15 08:50:20 -0600 Report

My latest bad habit is laziness. I have to take my hubby to the dr two to four times a week for various appointments. When I do have a day of "no running" I just don't feel like doing anything around the house. I just play on my laptop or watch tv till my husband needs tending to. I am hoping once all the appointments slow down and the weather is warmer (I live in Ohio so that will be next Spring LOL), I will have much more motivation.

tabby9146 2012-12-14 09:28:46 -0600 Report

oh yes sometimes I get into doing that too. sometimes I eat things I normally don't eat, I still have those cravings. If there are any cookies around, especially if I have made anything homemade for my children, it is so hard to stay away from that kind of thing. I try to make sweet tasting low carb things homemade sometimes, but I have to satisfy them too. I will even eat a honey bun or something like that sometimes.

nanna725 2012-12-14 08:29:30 -0600 Report

my bad habit is a bologna sand wish and an ice cold glass of pepsi. watch late night tv and then go to sleep i don't do it often only when my son and i fight.

Tony5657 2012-12-14 06:23:38 -0600 Report

This is embarrassing to admit, but when things are stressing me out, I have had a bad habit of wanting to numb my brain with alcohol. It does give me temporary peace and I stress "temporary peace" BUT (a HUGE BUT) :o) without fail, when I sober up, the source of the stress is still there and I have added yet other sources of stress, like elevated blood glucose, the "shakes" that sometimes made my signature illegible & I had to stop the shaking with more alcohol, and the family problems that arose from my being drunk and acting like an a$$.

Like with smoking, I tried to taper off, gradually indulging less & less, but I'd always return and indulge more than before. The "teasing myself/tapering off" with the habit didn't work at all. So, all that to say this, for me, the only way I've broken both bad habits was/is the "cold turkey" approach, STOP DOING IT ALTOGETHER. Yes, I'm shouting but trying to drive a point home. I haven't smoked in over 40 years & now can't even handle the smell of them but (another HUGE BUT) :o) the call of alcohol has been more difficult for me to break.

I have rationalized drinking by having mental pity parties, worrying about my 25 year old mentally & physically handicapped son who still lives with us and having constant fights (not physical) with my wife who I suspect is from a different planet than me. LOL So during my pity party, I'd break out the vodka and "go mentally numb", "check out of reality" so to speak.

All I can say about my "falling off the wagon" is DUH!! My stress level rose even more and I caused that to happen.

Like with my former smoking habit, I've gone "cold turkey" in breaking this alcohol habit and am having tremendous success. For now, it ain't easy staying sober. I do miss the cute cashier at the liquor store LOL & the euphoria feeling that alcohol brings BUT (a 3rd HUGE BUT) LOL I feel so much better, think clearer, sleep better, get more things done correctly, not to mention I'm saving some $$$. AND my family life has become considerably better.

I'm now determined to succeed in crushing this bad habit just like I crushed the smoking habit, cold turkey. That approach worked for me once and I know it will again. My craving for alcohol is gradually subsiding and I know it will eventually stop, just like my craving for cigarettes stopped. Again, it isn't easy BUT (yes, a 4th HUGE BUT) LOL I am in control of my mind & I will not let my mind control me anymore.

I must give credit where credit is due. Every time I'm tempted to "back slip" and return to the bad habit, I pray for God's strength to keep on keeping on. God has not failed me yet and I know He won't. Without God's involvement & strength my own weakness would not be enough. I've learned that lesson over and over.

I hope this long winded monument to the English language didn't put any of you to sleep & send your head crashing on your keyboard. LOL I'm just attempting to help others by sharing what worked for me (quit smoking) and is working again (quitting alcohol) for this ol' guy. It just might work for you. You can dooooooo it!

Hugs to all of you…Tony5657 in New Braunfels, TX

Caroltoo 2012-12-17 01:19:18 -0600 Report

Thanks for sharing, Tony. It's good to hear that you could take charge of your habits and improve your life. Gives hope to others that want to do so too. Addictions are probably one area that is most challenging to do this with, cause they are aren't really just a habit, but, in many cases, an actual chemical dependency that has permanently changed our body chemistry.

I saw my dad go cold turkey after smoking three packs of unfiltered Camels daily (and that's pretty hard core — no filters or anything to blunt it) and heard the family stories of how he had done the same with alcohol misuse/abuse (?) some time during the years between my older sister's and my births. Admired him tremendously for seeing what he needed to do to make life better for himself and his family and then doing it. Sounds like you have taken a similar course and made some really impressive changes. Congratulations.

Tony5657 2012-12-17 05:51:15 -0600 Report

Thanks Carol for your note of encouragement. :o) I wasn't smoking as much as your Dad but quitting was still really hard. I smoked unfiltered Chesterfields & Pall Malls for about 15 years, 1 pack a day except when drinking. Then 2 packs a day. It actually took me a couple of years before the urge to smoke left me. The urge to drink still returns to haunt/tempt me, especially when the daily stress comes, BUT (an enormous BUT) LOL I've taught myself to laugh at the urge and I silently pray, "Thank you God for delivering me from that destructive activity. You are my comfort & strength, not alcohol."

Yes, like you said, I'm attempting to give hope to others by sharing my victory. What I have done and what I am doing is available to everyone, if they will just involve God. God daily gives me the extra strength, courage & discipline I need to stop destructive habits/lifestyles. Trying to stop them on my own, without God's involvement, did not & does not work for me. My involving God in everyday situations has opened up a wealth of strength, courage, discipline, power & victory for me. He has become VERY real to me & I'm learning this is exactly what He wants for all of us. :o) :o)

Thanks again Carol! I'm praying for you & your husband. :o)

Debbiejf 2012-12-16 13:28:01 -0600 Report

God will never let you down when you're sincere in asking for His help!! Here's a little plus to give you that extra oomph! You should give yourself credit for already having conquered the alcohol…the fight is done and you won! Keep the attitude "I am DONE with the poison (that's really what it is), it no longer has any hold on me!" I'm so happy for you :), I have a brother who is an alcoholic, he's been to rehab, I don't know how long it really lasted but he's still drinking :(. So you stay strong!

Tony5657 2012-12-17 06:11:23 -0600 Report

Thanks Debbie for your encouraging note. Yes, God always comes to my rescue and is always giving me strength, because I ask Him to do so.
Philippians 4:13 "I can do all this through him who gives me strength." Also Luke 18:27 Jesus replied, “What is impossible with man is possible with God.”
These promises have become reality to me over and over. They are really working against this alcohol craving and the craving is quickly becoming a thing of the past. Yes, I'm a winner (not a weenie! LOL).

I'm praying for your brother. I hope he will involve God & experience victory like I am.

jayabee52 2012-12-15 11:57:26 -0600 Report

LoL! You got a lot of huge butts around there LoL! Seriously, thanks for sharing

Tony5657 2012-12-15 17:54:16 -0600 Report

Yup, we have lots of Butts around here. :o) We have a huge grocery store chain named HEB after the rounder Howard Edward Butt. He da original butt head. The chain of over 300 stores is now run by the lil' Butts, his sons, & others.

jayabee52 2012-12-15 17:58:49 -0600 Report

LoL! I guess that is why they only used the initials to title the store. There is another grocery chain in the midwest I have shopped in that is qute odd. that name is "piggly wiggly". If I were naming a grocery store I sure wouldn't name it that!

cherik 2012-12-15 09:35:22 -0600 Report

Thank you for sharing your trials and accomplishments!! Keep being positive and I know you will conquer!!

Lizardfan 2012-12-14 07:49:08 -0600 Report

Thank you for sharing that with us, I am sure it wasn't easy to do. I am proud of you!

Tony5657 2012-12-15 17:58:17 -0600 Report

Cherik & Lizardfan,

Thank you both for your encouragement. My motive was to share what worked for me, hoping that others will try my approach and conquer their demons. I was not merely trying to toot my flute! :o) LOL

Lizardfan 2012-12-13 14:47:30 -0600 Report

Confession time: I sleep in too much! I love to read till all hours, then sleep in. This in no way bothers my blood sugars or interferes with the household but sleeping in till 9:30 sure cuts into my chore time and getting things done. Confession time over!

Anonymous 2012-12-12 16:44:33 -0600 Report

my 3 meals a day r very late cause of how i eat and sleep and i dont eat breakfest no apptie i wake up around 2/3 pm an im not hungry rite away so i eat at like 5/6 then my supper is at like 11 but ill eat inbetween cause im still hungry

MAYS 2012-12-12 20:58:05 -0600 Report

That's interesting…what does your diet mainly consist of?
A few modifications to your diet may be necessary to curb your periods of hunger.

Anonymous 2012-12-13 19:09:33 -0600 Report

hell no a ajustment of my diet would make 100 times more hungry sadly i dont take care of my diabetes i stopped eatin junk food an drinkin regular soda i drink diet cause i drink a lot of soda i got threw 2 2 liters a day and i can have as much diet as i want my problem is i like to have a lot of the main course meal for example i love sphgetti and meat balls no i can only have 1 dam bite dont mind a little exaggeration but i caint have a lot at all i have 2/3 plates and 4 or 5 meat balls then im not hungry for like 2 hrs then ill have some chicken or mac n cheese

Debbiejf 2012-12-16 14:12:15 -0600 Report

Here it is in black and white 'anonymous'…my sleep schedule is similar to yours, but you're wrong about changing your food. Eating all those carbs is what's keeping you hungry and craving more carbs. ANY and all pasta needs to go since you can't keep it under control, by that I mean if you're eating it more than you should. Past of any kind is my personal achillie's heal :(, if I can't eat as much as I want then I don't eat any of it at all. I got my bs under control by switching to an all veggie and protein food plan because I can eat as much as I want and it keeps my bs in great standing. I also get to eat fruit, apples and bananas work best for me and have to be the smallest I can find so it doesn't raise my bs. The veggies you should consider giving up are peas and corn both are very high in starch and raise your bs. As much as I love corn on the cob…it particularly has no nutritional value. So no rice, pasta, bread, but if you can go easy on the potatoes they are okay :). I have drank Diet Coke since the day it came out on the market back in the 80's, I also drink Iced tea but not enough water which is really important :(. I got my A1C down to 5.9 and have managed to stop my neuropathy from progressing…for now at least :).

Turtle 2012-12-12 06:26:53 -0600 Report

With all the posts you have received on this I vote that your post should be featured. But then, who am I to say?

Turtle 2012-12-12 06:22:14 -0600 Report

Hi Mays, I eat my dinner early too but then have a "bed time treat" at bedtime right along with Sunny. I wake up between 2-3:30 almost every night feeling like I need to eat again too. Usually I give in, then I wonder why I am so darn fat! I cannot drink a glass of water in the night or I will wake up to a wet bed! It makes me feel sad and frustrated. Thanks for posting this.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-12-12 19:40:44 -0600 Report

Turtle, I wake up sometimes and feel hungry. I go back to sleep simply because I have to get up out of bed, put on a robe, go downstairs and find something to eat. I am too lazy to do this so I go back to sleep. I try to have a snack just before bed. If I do wake up, I am not hungry.

MAYS 2012-12-12 16:33:22 -0600 Report

The beauty of life is this, most of the time we can work out our problems and bad habits.
I know that feeling well of waking up early and hungry sometimes, but i also know that i can do better because i have in the past, a few dietary modifications and "presto" one bad habit eliminated!

Don't let it get you down, when we set our minds, and sight on a good thing we can obtain it if we truly want it!
Smile!…As far as wetting the bed goes look at it this way, at least you know that your internal plumbing system works!

There can always be something worse going on in your life, think about it.

Graylin Bee
Graylin Bee 2012-12-11 16:50:32 -0600 Report

I am a diet Dr. Pepper addict. I give it up, fall of the wagon, repeat, 3 to 4 times a year.
When I don't imbibe I can lose some weight.
I blame genetics, its the Cake Lady and her father's fault.

MAYS 2012-12-11 18:21:28 -0600 Report

At least you are under the care of a diet doctor, even if it is "Dr. Pepper"!
Does the Cake Lady make ginger bread houses for the holidays?
Happy Holidays to both you and the Cake Lady!

GabbyPA 2012-12-11 10:59:27 -0600 Report

Bad habits? What? I'm perfect!! LOL....not!
I think that one of my worst habits of late is that I have stopped measuring my food. That helps me keep track, but I have grown lazy about it. Eye balling stuff rarely gives a true picture of what is going in my mouth. Specially if I like what I'm eating.

MAYS 2012-12-11 11:11:52 -0600 Report

Well said, I share in this bad habit also, it feels sinfully good to be lazy sometimes doesn't it?!
But when both the blood glucose and the weight scale go up we feel a little guilty don't we (?) but it felt so good while we were doing it (being lazy) so it's time to own up and get back on track, the best part about it is this, we know that carb counting or meal weighing works because we have done it before successfully, so let's get back to it!

Set apart
Set apart 2012-12-11 05:51:34 -0600 Report

Mays lately I've developed a bad habit of not returning phone calls. I am always running on high gear and am so busy and the individuals who call me are good friends, but they don't work and seem to have a lot more time on their hands than me. Sometimes I just need ME time and don't want to be talking on the phone! Eventually I do call them, but have an excuse already planned in my head so that they dont keep me long, rude huh?

Debbiejf 2012-12-16 14:26:56 -0600 Report

The best thing you can do for your friends who have more free time than you do is wait until you can plan a time to call them and spend at least a half an hour on the phone with them :). Don't bother with excuses it insults them. I am a person with more time on my hands than I know what to do with but I know how busy my friends are with their daily lives and I wholeheartedly accept whatever time they can find to spend with me :). Since I have become disabled and cannot work I have nothing but time on my hands. The only thing I ask of my friends is to not go longer than 3 months before calling or e-mailing me :). This works for most of them and they are friends I have had since childhood (but lost contact for 30 years or more). Just be honest with them, if they can't accept what time you are able to spend with them either in person, on the phone or e-mail (my friends are spread out all over the country) then just don't bother. After awhile they will either accept it or move on. ♥ Best of luck

MAYS 2012-12-11 11:03:26 -0600 Report

Rude, no, not you (how can you be?) we are all entitled to have a bit og "me" time, the beauty of having so is this, "me" time is determined by me, so i have it when i want it!
Don't ever feel that you are being rude, take care of your business when you must, you know where to find your friends when you are ready for them so enjoy your "me" time and make it memorable, no excuse necessary!

Set apart
Set apart 2012-12-12 05:44:22 -0600 Report

Hey you made me feel better, life is too short and the days seem shorter. I don't have a lot of time to waste and the time I have is used up to be productive in some manner! Sometimes I'd rather be on DC to find out all the happenings and even then time is limited! Hugs!

jayabee52 2012-12-11 10:22:44 -0600 Report

I would say that is rather smart, actually.

I do something like that myself. Only when I cut people off, cause I am on a cell phone, I cut my call in mid sentence. If they call back I tell them I went to "cell hell" and continue further and do the same thing again. Now that is sneaky.

Tony5657 2012-12-12 06:18:12 -0600 Report

Set Apart, Mays & Jayabee,
Ahhhh yes, the ol' "hang up on yourself" & "me time" thingy. I've done that and emerged a better person for it. LOL Some seem to have the "curse of babble", as I call it and seem not to have anything better to do. Trying to be kind, I do call them back later & continue the conversation, when my "me time" is over. :o) Carry on my friends!! I like your style. :o)

MAYS 2012-12-12 16:22:45 -0600 Report

"Me" time can't be "me" time if it is spent with others, it becomes something else, either good or bad!

Now during the course of "me" time you start having the "curse of babble" discussions with yourself it now becomes "we" time which is just as bad as having conversations with other people sometimes, so "me" time is the best time no matter how you look at it, so whatever it takes to creat "me" time for yourself just do it, it does make for a better person in one's self!

Being kind to yourself should always be first and foremost!… I like your style. :o

Set apart
Set apart 2012-12-12 05:46:03 -0600 Report

Thanks James, sometimes I feel like people spend way too much time on the phone, I like my calls to be meaningful, as well as my visits! I like your tactics on the cell phone, hmmmm and I also like the reject button on mine!

alanbossman 2012-12-10 19:26:41 -0600 Report

Mine comes once a year when a bunch of friends of mine have a guys weekend up in Harrisville Michigan in the winter time. We have a great time there,have a roaring campfire play winter boche ball and drink beer (more than i should ) it is a light beer and my numbers stay normal and we smoke our 1 cigar for the year.

MAYS 2012-12-10 19:45:29 -0600 Report

Alan, that doesn't sound like a bad habit, but rather a well deserved ritual of sorts.
A "Gathering of the Man Clan" let's see the woman folk top that…lol!
A tip of the hat to you and the guy's Alan!


Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-12-11 14:41:59 -0600 Report

Mays women have been having hen parties for years. They are garden clubs, bridge clubs, charities, sewing circles, quilting and knitting clubs etc… Men have to bond, women don't…lol go figure

Its a little known fact (I sound like Cliff Claven) Community Associations came out of Garden Clubs and were mainly run by women. In fact today, many community organizations are still run by women. Time for the men to step up to the plate. We need help from the men living in the communities and they can do other things beside be Pool Boys…lol

MAYS 2012-12-12 21:04:37 -0600 Report

Joyce, I am not knocking women, it's just that men need to stick together and pat one another on the back from time to time, we are still playing catch up when it comes to women in some areas, so can we please have our "Man Clan" cigar, and a beer?..LOL!

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-12-13 18:15:38 -0600 Report

LOL sure you can. Can I have a cigar and a margarita? BTW the guy across the aisle from us at the Flea Market has "Man Law" meetings to update the "Man Law" book. I asked him if Man Laws were laws women pay no attention to and why do men have to write their laws down? I was called a man law buster…LOL

jayabee52 2012-12-13 18:35:05 -0600 Report

Well there was a few yrs ago a book called "the rules for women". Those rules were rules about how women were to treat men. In those rules men just could just not catch a break at all. I would guess that the "Man Law " book is something much like that only for men.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-12-13 20:01:29 -0600 Report

I once saw two books in a quaint little book store. One was Everything Men Needed to Know About Women and Everything Women Needed to Know About Men. The pages of both books were blank. It was hilarious.

I think no matter if you are man or woman, you will never know everything about either of the two.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-12-10 19:12:03 -0600 Report

I am so perfect I don't have bad habits…LOL. I eat anytime and don't seem to have an indigestion problem unless I eat something I know will cause it. I am never in bed at 11:00 pm unless I am sick. I will be in the bedroom glued to the tv till 3am sometimes or reading and watching tv. My tv is actually an expensive night light. I turn it on when I enter the bedroom and turn it off when I leave in the morning.

My worse habit is smoking. I have tried to stop so many times I lost count. I am going to try again.

MAYS 2012-12-10 19:21:36 -0600 Report

Perfect huh? (I like that!)
Being as successful as you have been with helping others, why not push just a little bit harder towards quitting that smoking habit?
That would make a nice addition to your trophy case of accomplishments, you can do it!

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-12-11 14:53:28 -0600 Report

Mays it is the people that cause me to smoke. Community work can be fulfilling, frustrating, annoying and down right gets on your nerves. You have to keep going. When I started doing this there were only 4 people in this big historic community that stood between city hall and the wrecking ball. We saved our community and are fighting to rebuild. I am going to stop smoking some day soon.

MAYS 2012-12-12 21:08:51 -0600 Report

Knowing, and seeing that you have left your mark on your community should be a feeling of satisfaction…can smoking compare, or compete with that?…I don't think so!
Keep up the good work, without you where would your community be?

jayabee52 2012-12-10 18:04:18 -0600 Report

Mays (don't tell anyone else! LoL!)

One of my bad habits (of which there are several) is not getting enough sleep. Sometime I will get drowsy, and recognize that I need to sleep. I go and lay down and my mind turns on and goes into overdrive. I try to wait it out, but I have laid awake for 2 hrs at a time without a stop to my racing thoughts.

It's like I have an Energizer bunny in my head. I will now wait for about half or 45 minutes and then I get up and, often I log on to DC. That's why I am often on the site at all hours of the day and night. I believe this is due to my ADHD.

I have tried to break the cycle and make myself stay awake and it has seemed to have helped some. But then, I wake up after 3 or 4 hrs and my mind is ready to race again. I don't think I have slept for a full 8 hrs for about 5 years now.

Is this any way to run a body?


Debbiejf 2012-12-16 14:42:28 -0600 Report

I had the same problem, not getting enough rest/sleep…there's a pill for that LOL. I would be able to fall asleep but not stay asleep and that's not good for a diabetic or anyone really. So yes I take a sleeping pill so I can get the deep sleep I need and even though my sleep is still interrupted by my dogs barking or one whining cause he needs out or people who come over to see my roommate and talk loud enough to wake the dead for at least 80% of the time I get some really good sleep AND rest. And the sleeping pill does not knock me out just keeps me drowsy for long enough :). Not everyone can or should take sleeping pills but it works for me.

MAYS 2012-12-10 19:14:54 -0600 Report

How do you do it? (Energizer Bunny is right!)
If it's not harming you in any way, then it must truly be good for you in some way…with energy such as that have you ever thought about writing (publishing) for profit?
It could make for a very lucrative hobby seeing that you have both the time and the energy.


jayabee52 2012-12-10 19:37:04 -0600 Report

Yep I'd thought about it.

and unfortunately the energizer bunny is in my head. I don't have boundless physical energy.

And when my racing thoughts hit, (i think that is where my hyperactivity lies in my ADHD) I am too mentally disorganised (all over the map) to even try to write a book. Only when a topic grabs my attention, do my thoughts coalesce.

When I write replies here, it seems to take me twice as long to compose a reply because I am almost constantly editing and revising it. (3 edits already so far).

Debbiejf 2012-12-16 14:46:13 -0600 Report

Too bad there isn't a spell check for DC LOL, but I know what you mean about revising—rewording-reorganizing your thoughts lmao

MAYS 2012-12-10 19:50:22 -0600 Report

Don't ever give up the thought, maybe a blog will do.
Just jot down things here and there and piece them together, the edits are just your way of revising and updating your information before giving it to the world, and that is such a good thing indeed!