Wednesday thoughts

By luked Latest Reply 2012-11-29 12:02:29 -0600
Started 2012-11-28 11:21:36 -0600

Wednesday thoughts

If you want to know who your true friends are, go through some sort of adversity and you will find out fast. In today's society people judge you based on what you have and not by who you are. People choose friends based on looks and not on the size of the heart. It's sad when someone's opinion of you is based on the house you live in or the car you drive. People buy expensive things with the money they don't have to impress the people they don't like. There is nothing like having real people in your life. I will never become friends with someone based on what they have, how they look or what they do. At the end of the day, none of that matters when you need a true friend to be there for you. A friend is someone who will be there for you when they would prefer being elsewhere. Think about this…

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GabbyPA 2012-11-29 05:57:16 -0600 Report

We all need that device from the Grinch Who Stole Christmas that showed the size of our hearts inside. LOL
This is a great reminder, specially this time of year when we take the time to really reflect on our friendships and what they mean to us.

s l k
s l k 2012-11-28 13:03:34 -0600 Report

I had this conversation with my boss this morning, in response to a news article regarding the Powerball. I maintain that the biggest issue with having that kind of money is that there is a tendency to put on a phony outside…NO ONE should ever not be themselves, rich, poor, content, anxious, etc…I told him what I thought happens is that sometimes there is an imagined intimidation when people who are of different lifestyles interact.

For instance, one of my family members really was successful in their career. Nearly completely alienated us when they would be around…lost their position had to begin all over again, and now I imagine is pretty embarassed at the way we were treated when he was on that ladder up high.

When I was sick back in September, many of my family and friends were right there. A friend that I least suspected would do so, actually LIED and said she was my sister to get back into my ICU room. After I got my bearings, I realized that a couple of my relatives cut themselves off from being overly pleasant to me. One had the nerve last week to tell me that I'll find myself back in that hospital bed, for sure. I assured her that if I did it wouldn't be anything intentional I did or didn't do. When I walked away from her, I decided that I can't change how she thinks about me, but I don't have to face her negativity.

I finished with changing to please others when I hit age 48. I live for me, and I am happier for it.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-11-29 11:33:28 -0600 Report

SLK this person obviously felt the need attempt to make you illness your fault. You were nicer to her than I would have been had I chosen to respond. There are times when sometimes saying nothing is like dropping a bomb on someone.

s l k
s l k 2012-11-29 11:37:56 -0600 Report

It's funny because when I was younger and willing to keep an eye on her kids for her while she ran all weekend, I was all good. But a few years ago, I had a minor disagremeent with my sister and this aunt just overreacted to all of it, and suddenly nothing I did was good, right or normal. I chalk it up to the fact that I am the only family member to leave our hometown and create an independent life. Believe me, she'll get a silent stare the next time.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-11-29 12:02:29 -0600 Report

If the aunt overreacted to a disagreement between you and your sister means she was meddling in something that was none of her business. People overreact to things that do not concern them. The problem is people have thin skins and get upset or offended over everything. Thankfully I don't have thin skinned friends.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-11-28 12:09:33 -0600 Report

Luke my sister and I were having this conversation last night about a friend of ours and how she has changed based on an organization she joined. She is becoming just as shallow as the people in the organization. She got married and kept it a secret from those of us who have known her for years. Her husband is much older than she is. All of her old friends are slowing staying away from her. I won't turn my back on her because she has always been there when I needed her.

This friend and I worked together for a few years but we are still good friends. One day she was talking about the big houses and cars people in the organization have. I said all they do is try to keep up with The Jonses. They have the big houses and luxury vehicles, furs and jewelry but may not have lights on in their houses.

Her and her husband live in an apartment. Someone bought a 50 inch tv for their den and they bought a larger Plasma. Now they are looking for a house. He sold his home 25 years ago. They want a big house in a prestigious area. The problem is they can't afford the price tag. Some of her "new" friends bought their houses for about 90k 30 years ago. Those same houses are 5-700k today.

When you try to impress others you are the one suffering. Your so called friends with the big houses, and luxury cars, jewelry and furs really aren't happy, have no really good friends and are so busy trying to "one up" each other they lose sight of who they really are. I have been on trips with them and can't stand most of them. One woman was mad with me because we wore the same gown on the same night. She nastily demanded that I go change my dress. I told her not even if I were standing in the middle of hell and it froze over twice. She was mad for the rest of the evening. Her husband said I wanted to be like her. I can't say what I said to him. I had a blast they didn't.

If your friends are not there for you when you need them the most, they are not your friends. If your friends spread rumors, sleep with your spouse or significant other, they are not your friends. If they take and never give back they are not your friends. A true friend laughs with you, stands up for you, cries with you and gives you a hug when you need it. If your friends aren't there for you are they really a friend? I like people for who they are, not what they are or what they have.