Is it temporary upset or more?

By TsalagiLenape Latest Reply 2012-11-26 11:44:41 -0600
Started 2012-11-24 21:41:39 -0600

Well I had thought things were going great for a change. However, they arent. Bombshell landed in my lap on Thanksgiving Day and today. Not good whatsoever. The first bomb that exploded is something I had a gut feeling on ok? Did I want to happen? No but of course I am the blame as usual. That being forgotten, neglected, treated as if I am barely tolerable to be around should make me happy and overjoyed with love and kindness and etc. (I dont think so do you?) The next one is my youngest calling collect and I cant accept which he knows, telling me to tell another to do what I have been doing all the while. So why does another get the credit for what I have been doing? I dont know but will remedy that soon enough.
So er goes the question ok? IS this normal to be upset over these things or is it maybe an early step into depression? I believe its normal to be upset and not in depression. Although it can easily head that way if I let it. In other words to totally consume my thoughts, and etc.
Thus does anyone have any ideas or thoughts or words on this?
Thank you

6 replies

Caroltoo 2012-11-25 16:36:18 -0600 Report

I think most of us are distressed when we feel we are not valued for what we have offered (your teaching your youngest who now "hears" the message from someone else) or when our life is rocked by something like your first bombshell. Distress is a very NORMAL reaction.

The questions is what are you going to do with it now? If you let yourself stay upset, then you can continue a slow steady downward emotional spiral which is a horrible feeling even if it never becomes a depression. As James said, you are a very strong woman who keeps bouncing back after one crisis after another, so you know you can deal with this too.

You actually say this in your message too: that you could let this totally consume your thoughts. It's a choice. Lay out the facts, make some preliminary decisions, set it aside for a while, come back and review your choices, and then act and turn loose of it.

Reminds me of an experience I once had with a low flying bird. I couldn't believe it, but it actually pooped on my head as it flew over. I could have stood there and yelled at the bird for pooping on me (and I did sputter a few choice thoughts), but then I grabbed a hose and did a very impromptu shampoo. I refuse to stand there with poop dripping off my hair when I can do something about it.

You just can't control everyone else's crummy behaviors, manage your own and let the others go. Eventually, the creator/universe teaches its own lessons to those who are so insensitive to others.

TsalagiLenape 2012-11-26 11:44:41 -0600 Report

I agree and thank you most kindly of the words and thoughts you put into your post. James and you are so right. I do keep bouncing back. I believe those who dont care wish it were otherwise but tis not in my nature. :) I do wish I could all of you a big hug in person! Yes those others crummy behaviors are theirs and I am not going to make it mine. Thank you and hugs! :)

jayabee52 2012-11-25 00:44:54 -0600 Report

Temi, Only if you let yourself go into depression! I believe I know you well enough over the years I've been on this site with you that you are a tough lady, both emotionally and physically, that you've been through a lot since being here and you end up on top again and again.

I am sure you will overcome these tough times again!

Praying for this to be so for you.


Vigirl7 2012-11-24 23:41:59 -0600 Report

Well… I suppose getting upset is fine. And when it is family, it would naturally consume all your thoughts. Depression? Not knowing you very well, I could not really say it was or was not for you. Looking at just the facts…No, I would not say that getting upset was headed for depression. Family issues usally flare up during the Holidays when there is so much pressure to be around each other, and it is usally portrayed as all Happy.

Just realize that all this shall pass too. Doing what you can do, controlling what you can control, and then leaving the rest. I don't know if you are a praying person, but I always lift up my troubles to God, and then I turn loose of them and let Him take care of them. You will be in my prayers tonight dear! I hope you have a peaceful night with sweet dreams. bg

TsalagiLenape 2012-11-25 05:52:47 -0600 Report

Yes I believe in the Creator as others would call him God. Yet sometimes we humans will ask for clarification on a situation. Thus having the input from James and yourself helps with that and the understanding will make all the difference. Wado Hugs