Recipe I do not understand

By Turtle Latest Reply 2012-11-14 13:30:23 -0600
Started 2012-11-09 23:10:19 -0600

I put in a nice recipie for Waldorf salad and I think only one or two ppl looked at it and commented on it. I did a lot of work and nobody seems to care. Why?? It's like when I make a post and ppl dont bother to like it or comment on it even tho it shows ppl have read it, why??? It seems so discourteous.
Whatever, going back into my shell where it is safe

38 replies

Dev 2012-11-14 10:03:40 -0600 Report

Hi Turtle,

There are a couple of reasons why people look at a recipe or discussion and might not be commenting or liking it. Firstly, these two sections are publicly visible. So there might be people who are not registered who come to the page. But to comment or to like you need to have an account. So they can read but cannot comment.
Secondly, for discussions, if one is not regularly logging in, it is difficult to go back to all the old discussions (given how many get created) and comment on each one because a lot of time has passed.
Also, many people like to read and might not feel like they have much to say in order to comment. I am one of them. I read a lot, but do not comment as often.

It is not necessarily about you.

Young1s 2012-11-13 14:11:04 -0600 Report

Oh Turtle…don't hide away from us. You know we would miss you greatly.

I haven't been on a lot lately but when I am on, I very rarely go to the recipe section. It's not that I don't like the recipes here, on the contrary. It's just that when I log in, I go straight to the Discussions, and kind of forget about the rest of the sections. So I thank you for THIS discussion. It will act as my reminder explore the other sections more often.

In the meantime, don't stress to much about the non replies and likes on your discussions. Trust me, you're not the only one that it happens to. Sure, the lackluster feedback can bother you sometimes, but don't let it stop you from expressing yourself and getting things off your chest. I sure don't.

And like Red said, the good thing is that you can see that people ARE actually reading your posts.

Nick1962 2012-11-14 12:06:35 -0600 Report

I'm with you there Young. We all like to be loved, but somethings just aren't of common interest to everyone. I've had a few hits, but just as many fails that never took off. I thought the "Iron Chef/Chopped Challenge" would go, but lost steam pretty quick. But who knew a story about spiders would generate 2,500 views and 280 responses.
Turtle seems to be getting a lot of responses here. I'd call this a sucessful post.

mmccance 2012-11-12 14:16:30 -0600 Report

Hi Turtle,

That's great that you posted the recipe and so sorry that it did not get the amount of attention you desired.

I don't have any good wisdom to give you but to say that I have a blog that I do and sometimes I don't get more than three or four responses in a whole year on it. In my book, the fact that you got those two responses is actually a big deal so please don't discount them because they did not turn into 20 or 30 responses. You touched two people and that is good.

On my blog, at first it bothered me that I got no comments (at all), but I began to realize that I blog because I have something to say. Sometimes I'm doing my thinking as I write. It helps me to see more clearly. So I think that if you enjoy posting recipes, you should continue to do so. Someone might come along in a month or two and find your recipe and be very excited that you posted it and make a comment at that time. I get comments on old posts from time to time, and I am just as happy with those as if the post were brand new.

But if you don't really like to post recipes… then just post what you like posting. Consider it a way to express who you are which is a lovely and caring person. Accepting the fact that you are loved will make a big difference in how you feel. You are loved and you are worthwhile.

Counting your blessings is a wonderful way to see how much you are loved by God, too. If you set your sights on knowing that you are already loved, and then start giving because of who you are, then when your gift is given you have accomplished something no matter whether others see it or not.

God bless your tender heart and I hope you keep participating.

You are loved!


Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-11-13 08:55:01 -0600 Report

Marcia I am one of the people who read a lot of blogs. I almost never leave a comment. I also only read what interest me. The same is true with other postings including recipes. You want people to read them and even if they do, it doesn't mean they are going to comment. You have to keep blogging or posting and people will read if they are interested and will also comment if they have something to say or have a question.

mmccance 2012-11-13 09:51:39 -0600 Report

Absolutely!! Just because a blog or a post here was made, that does not mean that people are compelled to respond. I wanted to encourage Turtle to continue by sharing my experience. Thank you so much for reinforcing it. You are a peach!

red flower lady
red flower lady 2012-11-12 13:28:29 -0600 Report

Don't feel bad if no replies, you see that people are reading your posts which is what you want. As for me, I really don't like waldorf salad and would never read it, i put it right next to my late grandmothers awful jello and cottage cheese stuff that nobody ever ate, but she never got the hint when it was left untouched for decades, but we still loved her.

Not everything will get a response or even looked at, just keep posting anyway.

Nick1962 2012-11-12 13:45:33 -0600 Report

Was that the green jello with cottage cheese and pineapple and marshmallows? Bleck.
I think the orange jello with shredded carrots and raisins wasn't much better.
Always reminded me of funeral food.

red flower lady
red flower lady 2012-11-14 00:49:34 -0600 Report

I think so, but she used jello that was pink. Oh she made the jello with carrots and raisins that nobody ate either, just figured it was her age group thing.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-11-13 08:49:42 -0600 Report

That stuff was simply awful…first time I had it was at a funeral. I wondered why people were not eating it and I found out why.

Nick1962 2012-11-13 09:53:45 -0600 Report

I grew up in the midwest where stuff like this was popular. Still don't know why. That and tuna casserole. Tuna casserole is grounds for divorce in our house.

Nick1962 2012-11-13 10:22:49 -0600 Report

Oooooh you are so right. No wonder i don't like thanksgiving.
I think we have the makings of the worlds worst dinner here.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-11-13 10:29:34 -0600 Report

So it seems. Worse dressing I ever tasted was Chestnuts, Roasted Pine nuts, cranberries, sage, rosemary, celery, onions made with herbed bread cubes. There were entirely too many seasonings going on at one time in my mouth. That dinner included Green Bean Salad.

My cousins girlfriend invited the two of us to her house for Easter Dinner. After dinner her mother said she was serving cake. We heard the electric knife and I was wondering why would you need that to cut the cake. Her mother served yellow cake with chocolate frosting with a scoop of ice cream. Both the cake and ice cream were frozen solid as a rock…LOL We never had dinner at her house again. The food was beautiful but awful. The turkey reminds me of the one the Griswalds served in Christmas Vacation.

Nick1962 2012-11-13 11:07:55 -0600 Report

Ewww! my similar "worst gressing" was all you described except way too dry corn bread instead of herbed bread cubes. Tasted like a cat box. And not a clean one.
Hey Turtle! Maybe you should start a new discussion called "Worst Dinner Ever"!

Turtle 2012-11-11 17:03:12 -0600 Report

I had seen that there were lots of ppl who posted receipes over the yrs. and many ppl seem to comment on them. It is a favorite of mine as it brings back fond memories of my mom making it yr. after yr. I put so much effort into posting this first receipe, theanutrient requirements alone can be a hurdle when a person in not used to posting this. So where are the ppl who have posted receipes in the past? Worn out I guess. I rarely use receipes either. In fact, I rarely cook. I have to have a caregiver and she does it all for me and she is someone very special. Whatever, at least I can love my dog and cat.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-11-11 16:46:55 -0600 Report

Sorry turtle, I rarely use a recipe for cooking so I don't visit that section at all. I really don't like Waldorf Salad, it has the same effect on me as fruit cake and I think fruit cakes should become door stops.

It isn't discourteous at all if someone reads the post and not ascertain if they liked it. Some people may not have decided if they like or dislike it. I read and respond to post and most of the time, I forget to click like. People may also read the posting and not have a comment regarding the topic. People may also only read the posting if they are interested in the topic of discussion.

Whether or not someone likes or dislikes your post or even read it isn't important. What is important is that you have something to contribute and you shared it on the site. Please do not go back into your shell. In doing this, you are shutting out the world. When you do that, the world could pass you by or when you come out there might not be anyone there for you. Don't worry about people liking what you have said because in life people are not always going to like you, love you or even care about you. People who are interested in what you have to say will respond one way or the other and like me, they simply may have forgotten to click like.

TsalagiLenape 2012-11-11 10:00:40 -0600 Report

Well Turtle (btw love your nickname) I havent been here lately. I was in New York got stranded up there for an extra week more than I had planned. LOL Anyway I havent been to see your Waldorf salad at all as of now. I hope you dont get offended for the honest truth I am telling you. Yet your dilemma has given me an idea so I am going to go post it this way we can all have a few ideas for the upcoming holiday.

Turtle 2012-11-11 13:45:05 -0600 Report

So are you back officially! Thank you for the gifts. How do you put more than one gift on the same line with a number in a box? I have asked lots of ppl but have not seen an answer. Thanks for the comment on my nick name. I think someday, when the time is right, I might change my name legally to Turtle.

Fefe12 2012-11-11 00:00:40 -0600 Report

Sorry, i didnt even know there was a recipe section. But still dont give up. You really have know idea how many people have read it, or how many have made it. So dont let yourself down on what you think has happened. Things arent always what they seem. So keep sharing your recipes because YOU want to.

doggier 2012-11-10 22:32:37 -0600 Report

Please don't stop. I think sometimes we read and like things and forget about the like buttom. You are doing a service. Every once and awhile i go back and look at the recipe section. So Thank You

Nick1962 2012-11-10 10:38:51 -0600 Report

Sorry Turtle, I don't cook from recipes so I never go in the recipe section. I also made the mistake of politely complimenting an in-law once on her Waldorf, and every time we got together after that she made it and I had to eat it. The mere mention of Waldorf, even the hotel gets me a little queasy now.

granniesophie 2012-11-10 08:36:24 -0600 Report

Hi Turtle! Please don't hide, you have lots to contribute!
I don't go to the recipe section alot, being gluten free, and lactose intolerant, among other things, so it's hard for me to adapt recipes, altho I do try. Waldorf salad I can't get near-had to cut out all fruit and nuts for awhile-can't deal with much fiber right now. But it does sound like something people could make for Thanksgiving, so I hope someone does!!

Turtle 2012-11-10 22:13:18 -0600 Report

Thank you 4 being so nice 2 me. I just don't understand how 30 some ppl can look at a post and only 1 person likes it and 1 responds. It seems so rude.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-11-11 17:00:37 -0600 Report

Turtle it isn't rude. I get alerts from our City's Police Department, Mayors Office, City Council Presidents Office, Housing and Public works, through out the day. Some I have to forward to community residents and leaders. I also have to send out meeting information or request for information. The only time people respond is if they have a question or are sending back information I have requested. I don't expect responses nor do I ask why they don't respond. My responsibility is to get the information out there.

People read for information or to learn something new, this does not mean they are going to comment on it. I posted about a free meter, only two people responded, I don't care if people didn't respond, I put the information out there. If people read it and didn't respond, at least they got the information to use to their benefit. If I read a recipe, odds are I am not going to respond to it unless I have a question about it. So don't let it bother you if no one responds. I believe I have responded to other post you have shared. Keep posting you have information to share.

Caroltoo 2012-11-10 01:40:32 -0600 Report

I've not been around for a while, Turtle, but Waldorf Salad sounds great. I'll have to go have a look!

I think lots of people look at things without realizing how much a written response would mean to the person who has worked hard to post the comment, recipe, or article.

Thanks for adding Waldorf Salad to our recipes. It's a great one. Come on back out of your shell. It's not raining rocks! You didn't get the accolades you deserved, but no negatives either. See you around!

jayabee52 2012-11-10 01:06:48 -0600 Report

Sorry Turtle. Unfortunately I rarely go to the recipes section as I have my meal plan pretty well set and usually don't vary it.

Please don't withdraw. You add a lot to this site. I particularly appreciate your new posting about Veterans Day as my 3 sons are either active or reserve or former military. Thank you for that!


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