It can feel pretty good to say yes, at least at the moment. But here’s something to ask yourself: When you say yes, what are you saying yes to?
If you are living with a chronic condition, you’re already the expert on the importance of making your own self-care a priority – being aware of your own needs, and your strengths, as well as the limitations that your condition may bring into your life, the good days and the not-so-good days.
So what happens on those days when your self-care ends up slipping a few notches on your list of priorities?
One important aspect of your self-care means setting boundaries. A boundary is basically rules or guidelines for what you need to have in place to be at your best – physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.
Not sure if you need to take a look at the boundaries that you are setting, or not setting? You might want to look at your boundaries if you:
• Have that vague sense that you could be doing something more productive or healthy
• Feel annoyed or resentful when you just said yes to something that you know you will enjoy for the moment but you also know isn’t going to benefit you in any way
• Know you are going to be exhausted because you just promised away time that you had planned to use to take a break
• Wish that the energy you are using in taking care of other people was also being used to take better care of yourself
Think your boundaries might need some reinforcing?
I have some ideas to help you get started in my article in Living with Diabetes. Here is a link:
It would be great to know what you do about setting boundaries. Any ideas to share? Need some help?
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