Really sad

samantha.d
By samantha.d Latest Reply 2012-11-09 01:18:25 -0600
Started 2012-10-15 16:12:46 -0500

Im getting bullied because i havnt been at school because iv just been diagnosed and havnt been attending school. They are Saying i have no future and stuff, i cant take it anymore :(


77 replies

Young1s
Young1s 2012-11-09 01:18:25 -0600 Report

Hi Samantha. I'm T2. Not sure of how old you are, but want you to know that the taunts, hassles, and hatefulness you feel coming your way will not last and will make you stronger. I hated the saying, sticks and stones will break your bones but names will never hurt you, cause it felt like a bunch of crap, but wasn't.

Growing up, it took me a long time to realize that those who choose to try to break me down are sad individuals who are just feeling sorry for themselves. So, instead of dealing with their issues, they lash out at others. Once I made that connection, the words just became pathetic. Believe me when I say, a life well lived is always the best revenge.

One of my favorite sitcoms is "The Big Bang Theory". While I can't relate with the whole genius part, I can relate with their whole overcoming the odds of adolescence and moving forward with their lives. The pangs of the past will always come up, at the damnest of times, but we acknowledge them and keep it going.

You will always be diabetic. No getting around that now, but don't hide from it. Embrace it, work with it and maybe even help others to learn about it. But never, ever let anyone stifle you, in any way. Your too important to you for that.

MrsCDogg
MrsCDogg 2012-10-24 05:22:20 -0500 Report

Many times when people (grownups included) don't understand something or are afraid of it they lash out at you. It is stupid when they do it but it's what happens sometime. The things that you are feeling are normal. Don't let them get you down! If you get the chance educate them!

Jan8
Jan8 2012-10-20 09:48:56 -0500 Report

well guess what? More people who do not have a clue. Your feelings are very normal.

samantha.d
samantha.d 2012-10-19 04:54:01 -0500 Report

Thanks to everyone that has helped with their reply and kind words… I went to the diabetes clinic and a lady talked to me there a lot about how i feel and assured me how i am feeling is normal when you have just been diagnosed and that im not being dramatic which a few people told me i was…at first i didnt see the point if talking about it because i dont like talking about feelings..( Its alot easier to complain and be sad on here.) but when i walked out i did feel a lot better, but everyones replies and kind words have been very helpful too thank you all!

draco59
draco59 2012-10-19 13:49:17 -0500 Report

It is hard to sometimes talk about things like this esp. when your young… and think you know it all, ask my faather he'll tell you… lol
But deinal frustration and anger are apart of it, but this will pass too. As far as the kids at school, to hell with them… it will pass too
Good luck, it sound like your heading in the right direction…
:)

red flower lady
red flower lady 2012-10-17 19:53:19 -0500 Report

I'm so sorry you are having a hard time. Why are you not in school? When I was diagnosed centuries ago, the school nurse worked with me, now things are more advanced. Your dr can actually prescribe you to check bg level certain amount of times at school, as well as prescribe for you to eat and drink in classes. You just keep the prescriptions with you. I did this all through school and college, but the teachers never had an issue as I informed them up front.

samantha.d
samantha.d 2012-10-19 04:47:31 -0500 Report

Whenever i try attend school my blood sugars seem to rise and i get a head ace and sick feeling as much as i wanted to stay my energy was gone and feeling too ill, im getting back on track now and was advised to take time off . The teachers at my school make light of it all which i guess in ways can be frustrating but also good because it takes the attention away but i do worry what there reaction would be incase i ever do go too low. We dont have a school nurse by the way!

red flower lady
red flower lady 2012-10-19 23:37:50 -0500 Report

This is because you are stressing out. It is alot to take in being diagnosed as a type 1, especially when so young. I had such a wonderful support system to help me through, as well as a strong disposition. I didn't care what others thought as my friends would understand I didn't cause this and can't make it go away, but I can take charge of my diabetes and be in control of it. Also, I met my future husband at 15 and he wasn't scared away! People usually take cues from you on how to react to your diabetes, so be strong and it will get easier. You just need to take extra steps to get through your day and eventually you'll get a routine down.

Good luck

lipos18
lipos18 2012-10-19 15:03:47 -0500 Report

Go to cvs or riteaid or wallgreens or any pharmacy and get glucose tables it can remain in ur pocket when it gets low u take one or 2 or 3 depends how low and it also gives u energy. Goodluck :)

draco59
draco59 2012-10-16 21:41:06 -0500 Report

Don’t let what they say bother you, actually most are sacred of you because you have a medical condition, they don’t know about and afraid they’ll get catch it. You’re really friends will stick by you…. Also if you just ignore them, they’ll get tire of bulling you, esp. if they know it doesn’t bother you… If you take care of yourself, you have a long and happy life ahead of you and you can do anything you want. So just ignore them, it will be hard but show them they don’t bother you….. Hope this helps… just keep a positive attitude….
Brian

cherylwillard
cherylwillard 2012-10-16 08:25:20 -0500 Report

Be brave young lady. Remember, you define your life, not those self-serving meanies. Believe in yourself, and face the challenges with courage. You will only get stronger with each adversity you overcome, and strength is beautiful. :D You'll be in my prayers.

ConnieMarie
ConnieMarie 2012-10-16 06:36:36 -0500 Report

Sorry your being picked on…is ecot an option at your school system? Basically "homeschooling" but computer based classroom. Also think about asking the counselor about doing a "bully/cyberbully/medical conditions" assembly. Yours is not unique when I was in school our school system was the only one in 2 counties with a special needs program. We had deaf, mrdd & troubled kids. All of them got made fun of daily. I remember a boy was scarred - his Dad had set him on fire. Arms, chest, back, neck & lower face covered in skin grafts. Not a day goes by I dont wonder how his life is now. I watched all of them get teased & bullied…

samantha.d
samantha.d 2012-10-16 17:42:38 -0500 Report

I do think that people need to be more educated about diabetes in my school a lot of students seem to take it as a joke but i have had a chat to my parents and as there are only two more weeks in the term at my school i am not going back as we are moving .

Set apart
Set apart 2012-10-16 05:55:38 -0500 Report

I am so sorry that you're sad, the initial diagnosis of diabetes is overwhelming! Sweetie you do have a life and you'll get used to the injections, and as far as ot feeling well, there are those days! Bullying is against the law and as we all know there's something we can do! Having D means you can control your life, and be even healthier than the next person. I believe that you can do this, ignorance comes in different faces, but learn about your D and control IT! It is YOURS that's right and what happens in the future will be up to YOU! Don't let others bother you, I know it's hard I was bullied when I was young and sometimes even asan adult or they tried, but I am so strong now. When I was first diagnosed I finished my Masters Degree lots of exams, papers, etc. Was I afraid sometimes I actually was afraid to drop too low during an exam, etc. Why do I tell you all this? I want you to live and be a happy person!

annesmith
annesmith 2012-10-16 01:31:35 -0500 Report

I think it's terrible that they are saying you have no future and stuff. I sympathize with you greatly. Here is what you can do: As you gradually get back into regular attendance, just ignore them. I know it's hard, but just ignore them. Then, focus entirely on all the school things you have to look forward to. Some of them may be feeling insecure about things in their life, but, yes, I believe you on the bullies. Diabetes will never run your life, or bullies, if you do not let it . After awhile, they'll stop. If they don't, go to the teachers, your parents, and the police. Keep staying focused on your goals, and never mind what those people think of you. It is hard, I know from past experience myself. Eventually, it'll all stop, mark my words, I have been there. Good luck!!!—ANNE

samantha.d
samantha.d 2012-10-16 01:43:10 -0500 Report

Thank you anne that was really helpful

annesmith
annesmith 2012-10-16 02:02:55 -0500 Report

You're welcome! I'm very glad I could help, as, I too had a few bullies between 5th grade and 12th grade. I am so glad I can help someone else. Once they see they are not controlling you (I'm not saying they are completely controlling you), they move on. They might take awhile, but they rapidly lose interest to bully when they see you are too busy to let it bother you. The #1 thing I have noticed to this day in my life ( I am now 42 years old), is that if I am so busy with work projects and my own agenda, it's almost impossible for any bully to rock my boat, ha,ha. Just a little humor there. Once in a blue moon one gets too me ( we have a few where I work), but I force myself to take a deep breath, I pray for them, then I busy myself even more with work tasks. ANNE

lipos18
lipos18 2012-10-15 23:57:08 -0500 Report

Lol thanks i wont lie at first it was rly hard but i went to my doctor and a nutritionist and learned what i needed abt diabetes and what i should eat and how (i rly recommend that) and from that point on i rarely had any problems and now my life is normal :) and school and work are going great just hang in there :)

DeanaG
DeanaG 2012-10-15 23:24:05 -0500 Report

Hang in there, Samantha!!
Your life with diabetes will get better and even make you a stronger person. As James said,
Living well is the best revenge! ;-)

lipos18
lipos18 2012-10-15 23:36:29 -0500 Report

Agreed same happened to me at first it was tough till i learned how to deal with it now im living a normal life made me stronger and more determined once u adapt its like its not even there.

lipos18
lipos18 2012-10-15 22:14:11 -0500 Report

Hey dont be sad i had a problem at the beginning but then it became part of my life and who am i am and right now im doing far more then all my friend can do im in my college senior year taking 14 credits and working 45 hrs a weeks and i have a scholarship and have a 3.2 GPA. Dnt listen to them being diabetic doesnt change a thing you can still live just as any other person can and im sure u can have a bright future :) for me being diabetic made me stronger. Noone and no diabetes choose tell you cant do it, if they say you cant do it i say YOU CAN! Just like i did. I control my life not diabetes or what people tell me how my life and stand up tall and prove to everyone that they r wrong

Gabby
GabbyPA 2012-10-15 20:52:05 -0500 Report

Oh my dear girl. How can kids be so cruel is just beyond me. You know you are way better than that. I know it's hard to ignore what they say, but I would try to find a "place" in your head to go when they get all stupid like that.

I was out of school for a total of 68 days in 8th grade as I struggled with double pneumonia and fluid around my heart. I lost almost a whole year and it seemed I lost my friends too. No one really helped me out, and though I kept up with my assignments, it was hard without actually being at school. I passed that year, and you know why? Because I just knew I had to do some of these things on my own. You can do that too.

Just know, you can't fix stupid. Kids who bully are more insecure about so much, they take it out on kids like you. One day, you will find what is their weakness, and put them in their places. You don' t have to be the victim, you can be the victor. It might just take some time to find out how.

If you want to chat, just drop me a note. I will try to be there to help if I can.

samantha.d
samantha.d 2012-10-15 20:55:08 -0500 Report

Thank you for the reply im going to keep and try to keep my chin up thank you

Gabby
GabbyPA 2012-10-15 20:58:49 -0500 Report

That is all you can do really. And one day you will look back and know that your rose above all the crummy bullies. You will overcome. What they don't realize is that you are a very strong person inside and one day that is going to outshine everything.

samantha.d
samantha.d 2012-10-15 21:00:33 -0500 Report

Thank you i really needed to hear that its just been really hard to deal with and iv been kinda hiding how i feel and it just got too much , thank you

jayabee52
jayabee52 2012-10-15 17:38:14 -0500 Report

I am so sad to learn that Samantha! People can be so cruel, sometimes.

I myself used to be bullied in jr high & high school but that was nearly 50 yrs ago.
I really felt that I couldn't take it anymore either and wanted to do something I now know would have been stupid.

Hold your head high and don't listen to those nay-sayers and live your life a fully as you possibly can. Living well is the best revenge..

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-10-15 17:31:23 -0500 Report

Something is missing Samantha. People usually don't get bullied for not being at school unless the reason you were not at school was advertised all over the place. Also to be bullied at school, you have to be in the building. If this is happening through social media, notify your parents and close your account.

If you are not at school then what they are saying may be true. People who don't attend school have less of a success rate of making something of themselves than those who attend on a regular basis.

I worked in a school with kids who had all kinds of problems from autism, food allergies, mental health problems, who had parents on drugs, parents in jail, were homeless and came from a shelter. There were kids there whose father had been killed in the street in front of them, who went home to no food, or power in their homes but through it all these kids came to school. This was not a school for special needs kids although we had kids with special needs in the school. Some were bullies but that was stopped the minute it was discovered. There were rarely any fights in the school but there were a lot of disruptive kids.

On the flip side are kids who are bullies are often seeking attention, this can be true of kids who claim to be bullied. Once teachers, parents and the police are involved, it could be learned bullying wasn't involved but other problems were.

Unless your diabetes has you bed ridden, why are you not going to school? Are you using your diabetes to not attend school? If your diabetes is preventing you from going to school your parents can have you home schooled so you can keep up with your classes until you are able to attend on a regular basis.

If you are really being bullied, you should talk to your parents, your teacher, principal and if all else fails, have your parents contact the police on your behalf. Stop letting what people say about you bother you. People are going to do this for the rest of your life and if you let it bother you, they control you. People do not have to like you, love you, care about you and not everyone is your friend. The one thing in life you will learn is that there is nothing you can do to make people like you, love you, care about you or be your friend. They only do these things if they accept you for who you really are. Good luck to you and please talk to your parents.

samantha.d
samantha.d 2012-10-15 19:10:30 -0500 Report

I came on here for support , this makes me so angry. I just wanted someone to tell me that its going to be ok . I dont like talking to people about this stuff so i put it on here where people will understand and i get this reply . Iv tried so hard to get better to get my life on track and be positive but then all this started… Sorry for the one thousand replies but i just thought id get more support on here

Behold
Behold 2012-10-20 12:47:56 -0500 Report

Never dispair! God is for us…who can be against us! :)
Did you know that we are tested in many ways to help us grow in Him. His plan is the best one for us. NEVER, NEVER DISPAIR! Just take it in your stride. Be happy! Serve others. Take His yoke upon you. We are priviledged to serve Him. God bless you.

Behold
Behold 2012-10-20 12:43:10 -0500 Report

Never dispair! God is for us…who can be against us! :)
Did you know that we are tested in many ways to help us grow in Him. His plan is the best one for us. NEVER, NEVER DISPAIR!

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-10-15 20:13:54 -0500 Report

Samantha unless you talk to your parents about what is happening and enlist their assistance, you will continue to have the problem with people at your school. I am not bullying you. I think you have left something out of your problem that you are not really saying.

The support you are looking for should be from your parents. None of us can speak to your parents and none of us can stop the bullies. This is only something you can do. You have to decide to sit down and tell them what is happening.

To get your life back on track and be positive you have to take steps you don't want to take. Keeping secrets isn't going to help you because sooner or later secrets get exposed. All it will take is a friends parent or even one of your friends telling your parents.

samantha.d
samantha.d 2012-10-15 20:36:55 -0500 Report

No… Iv said everything… They are telling me im gunna have no life and i havnt even done anything wrong . They say its cos i dont go to school but its none of ther business why i arnt attending atm.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-10-15 20:44:26 -0500 Report

I agree it isn't any of their business. Kids are very astute these days. They look at those who don't go to school as losers in life. You are letting words bother you. Who cares what they say. It is up to you and not them to be all you can be. So stop being sad, put a smile on your face and be all you can be.

A teacher told Chris Rock that he would never amount to anything in life. When he won an award, he stood on stage held his head up, called her name and said That he amounted to something and she was wrong.

When Gabby Douglas won her gold medal at the Olympics, people said nasty things about her. She has the gold medal, they don't. So you can be upset about things people say or you can work hard and prove to yourself they were wrong and only after you have proven to yourself they were wrong, prove it to them and walk across that stage at graduation with a smile on your face and your head held high.

jayabee52
jayabee52 2012-10-15 19:40:27 -0500 Report

I replied to you more sympathetically, I believe. Please don't exclusively focus on the replies you don't like. I have learned from being bullied myself, one will usually not win the person over and frustrate one further.

(I want to clarify that I DO NOT think Joyce's answer to you here was bullying )

samantha.d
samantha.d 2012-10-15 19:02:25 -0500 Report

And im not attending school on the days i feel awful i just got out of hospital , i attend on the days that i can. I find this reply insulting.

samantha.d
samantha.d 2012-10-15 18:37:25 -0500 Report

Beacuse i go to school when i can, i wanted to be the arts leader for the school next year so i campaigned for it but quite a few people went round saying im never at school and then it got on the social networking site saying why are you running , you dont even come to school, have fun working at mcdonalds cos yur gunna have no life. It angers me cos most knew i had been in hospital. I dont understand why you are making this worse for me like id make this up

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-10-15 20:36:25 -0500 Report

Samantha look at it this way. Suppose a friend wanted to be the leader of the Chess Club and campaigned for it. The kid doesn't come to school for one reason or another. Another kid is chosen. Do you think it would be fair to the other members to have a leader who isn't at school regularly to lead them?

This is what happened to you. It is understandable that you were in the hospital for your illness. Now had you gone to school when you didn't feel well the kids would have thought you were a trooper and said wow she is here even when she doesn't feel good. They would see you are trying to be at school and more than likely would have chosen you. However, I think you are upset because you were not chosen.

I wanted to be President of our Sunshine Group at work and submitted my name and resume for review. I got sick and was off work for over a month during which a person was selected. Do you think it would have been fair to select someone not at work and they didn't know how long I would be out sick or even if I would return? They knew I was in the hospital but they needed a President who was at work and could lead the group.

The kids are not bullying you they are stating a fact. Is it true you are not at school? The kids are going to say what they want to say. They simply don't understand how you are running for something when they don't think you will be there to lead. Because you are not at school when you aren't feeling well and don't know what is going to happen the next school year, they chose the person who they feel is the best for the position and will be at school next year. It isn't a personal attack against you. They want someone they feel they can believe in and trust will be there to lead them. Even if you had not been sick and been at school, you might have also lost. That happens when people run for a position. Someone wins and the others lose. It isn't personal it is just the way things are.

Samantha please let this go. Go back to school and join in the group maybe next year when you are better you can run again and you might win. Good luck

samantha.d
samantha.d 2012-10-15 20:41:32 -0500 Report

Thats what im trying to tell you!!!! This is for next year! And i have been attending school i just do half days at the moment till i get used to my injections and sometimes dont attened because i feel ill. Im not letting diabetes get in the way! Its not a club its for the school next year. They are bein personal because they are saying i have no life.

judy makowski
judy makowski 2012-10-15 19:56:27 -0500 Report

Samantha I don't think you are making anything up. Just getting out of the hospital and being newly diagnosed you are most likely overwhelmed and maybe even depressed which is not unusual and there is nothing wrong with feeling this way if you are.

It will take you some time to adjust and to realize your life can go on just as it did before with some adjustments. Your diet will get better and that will make you feel better. Sometimes when people don't understand something it frightens them and then the worse side of them comes out. Pick your friends. I know it's easier to say than to do but ignore those that say you won't amount to anything. There are drs, olympians, teachers, and a lot of them have diabets, heart disease all kinds of health problems. It's just difficult for you because now you have to mature faster than usual so you take care of yourself.

You can do it.

Fefe12
Fefe12 2012-11-05 02:41:38 -0600 Report

First, Im so sorry this is happening to you, Being different sucks no matter what the reason. I cant say i understand because I wasnt diagnosed till I was an adult this will make you more adult then you realize. Second, responsible. Thats a key word. You now have to be responsible for your illness. Its yours alone and its up to you to make the decisions that will help or hurt you.
What you do now will effect your future so do all you can to watch your health. There will be so many changes you can make in your life before they have become bad habits. Third, look at it this way , now will know who your friends are. Not the way to learn but there it is. You may have fewer friends, but the ones you keep will be good ones. You need to stop the stress. I know easier said then done but its important for your health. Stress isnt good for anyone and diabetics either. Are you using insulin pins? If you are they can be used in the bathroom in private alot easier than vials. if you use vials tell the doc you want the pins instead. If school becomes too bad why not homeschool? there are many that you wont need your parents constant help and you can even graduate with a diploma. Home school can open new doors for you as you will have more free time to pursue your hobbies. Please dont be scared. You made the right decision to join us. We've got your back! Give yourself time to get used to the idea of this illness and your family too,I m sure they are just as upset as you. their life will chane too. But it doesnt have to be bad. In fact it can be good. Think of how healthy you will be now, how you can chage your families eating habits. I believe evryone should eat like us. All that sweet stuff, junk food, chips and flavored coffees all taste great, but not good for anybody. Dont give up. Learn to share recipes and cook with your mom. Let food be an adventure. Keep track of what raises your bs and go from there. you will learn quickly. Take a deep breath step back and slow down. Think about what you want to do and then make it happen. Make an appt with a nutritionist to help with your diet. he/she will become your friend. Please stay with us and let us know how you are. We honestly do care. Good luck!

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