Talking to my children

Mom and boys
By Mom and boys Latest Reply 2014-01-07 14:22:03 -0600
Started 2008-11-25 14:11:12 -0600

I am just going on meds for T2. While the my boys have seen me test my blood sugar they tend to be a little freaked with useing the "D" work. Now that I am on meds me chances of lows are much more real. Any suggestions on giving them the facts? I plan on talking to the oldest tonight.


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dagger1234
dagger1234 2014-01-07 14:22:03 -0600 Report

I tell everyone with this disease not to be embarassed or feel uncomfortable with talking about diabetes but I feel you. Most of my family doesn't know about me. I am afraid they will see me as a weaker individual and helpless. I want to be thought of as an equal. But it's okay to talk about it because the more educate others especially family members, they'll be more than willing to help you and be the best supporters ever! My sisters already thinks about me and makes me low carb sides and or get me diet soda or always asks me if I'm okay and if I need to eat. Even my mom—the most uneducated of all about diabetes(I'm Asian..).,, she's always offering me to eat white rice, noodles etc lol..and now she's like "no that's white rice! U gotta eat brown rice!!" It's so cute!

Debe Pendice
Debe Pendice 2008-11-29 14:05:57 -0600 Report

My family when I was first diagnised, Joslin diabetes team. Taught my family when they were teaching me.
Today now that I have 6 nieces they were trained and taught my symtons. I the all new how to give me shots and where all my gluclose tablets and juices and candy was. Its so funny being it is heredity my niece do not do many sweets, only because they don't want to be diabetic. It may never happen, but theres always good chance it could…Debe

sisson
sisson 2008-11-29 14:01:57 -0600 Report

I know how you feel I just told my granddaugher and she is 8 my daughter was not to happy with me! But I told her that I needed to tell her because there are times when it is just me and Destiny and she need to know that there are time that my bs drops and I may need help and she has to get it for me now that I am on the Lantus my blood sugars drop more now then ever! So I just told her that grandma has a medical problem called diabetus and I explained to her that some times if you see that grandma looks or sound funny that it means that I need some sweet to bering my blood sugars backup and that I will be ok onece I get something to eat and drink in my tummy! My daughter was not to happy but it was something that I needed to do! And when she gets older I will tell her more!

Anonymous
Anonymous 2008-11-29 14:06:00 -0600 Report

Why was your daughter not happy? Isn't your health important? Diabetes is a fact of life, we can't do anything about it, but control it as best as possible. I would think it would be a more dramatic expirience for an 8 year old to have to call 911 for grandma than it would be to give her some juice or sweets. I hope your daughter is able to understand this better in the futre.

sisson
sisson 2008-12-10 14:50:21 -0600 Report

I don't know if you have read my last intre but I had a low sugar about 3 weeks ago and it was a mess I was with my daugher and her family. My sugar had drop down to 39 I was so scared. And lately I have been doing realy bad I sleep in in till 10:00am and I don't check my sugar and eat in till then and I know that that is so so worng but I get up early with my husband at 5am and my home is so so cold and I go back to sleep and don't wake up in till then and she told me that she didn't want to know the next time it drops! I no that it is my falt when it comes to her. Thank you for your responce Penny

John Crowley
John CrowleyCA 2008-11-29 14:01:16 -0600 Report

I believe the unknown is always much more frightening than knowing the facts and what is going on. I say that you should definitely talk to them about it. Let them know that you're doing all you can to keep things under control but that from time to time you may need their help.

vgarrison
vgarrison 2008-11-29 13:53:55 -0600 Report

My daughter is 3, and she understand way more than I could ever have given her credit before. She has actally told me to check my bg level before I eat…she'll say "momma you check sugar?" It's wonderful, because I am in the process of trying to teach her to call 911 if she can't wake me.

I was able to call the police station here in town to tell them that I was teaching her that…they told me to call ahead on the days that I am practicing with her, and they will not send anyone out when they get the call, but to call back after we are done practicing so they know I'm ok. This way she can actually experience it, and they know ahead of time that I'm diabetic. All she has to do is dial the number and press send on the cordless and they know the rest. I live in a small town, so it's easier for me here, but I'm not sure in a city if this would work or not.

Vicki

ancoto
ancoto 2008-11-29 14:01:57 -0600 Report

I used orange nail polish on my phone so the number 9 and 1 are easily located. I also worked in a preschool last year and that is how we taught the children to do it. Write the numbers down next to the phone and paint the numbers. also let children practice on a play phone and remember to teach them how to use a cell phone just in case.

ancoto
ancoto 2008-11-29 13:47:30 -0600 Report

Be as honest as you can. My children are 8 and 5 and they know mommy takes meds and checks blood sugars and to call 911 if they can't wake me( Thankfully that has never been needed) I want to make sure my children are prepared just in case something happens. I will admit however that I was diagnosed a year before my first prenancy so it has always been part of their lives. But I have had other major dicussions with about other things such as death and why my father lost part of his arm(drug use).They listen and ask questions and they may not understand right away but at least they know you are willing to talk when they are ready.

Sparrow - 16557
Sparrow - 16557 2008-11-29 12:23:07 -0600 Report

I would try to get them involved as much as possible. My daughter was giving me insulin shots when she was 7. The earlier, the better. They need to understand that this "disease" isn't contagious; that you are the same person you have always been. You're just "adding" to your "uniqueness".

Because diabetes IS hereditary, it is good for them to understand as much as possible. Not that anyone would ever want them to, but they might experience it "first hand" one day. How YOU handle it will help determine how THEY might handle it.

ancoto
ancoto 2008-11-29 13:46:41 -0600 Report

Be as honest as you can. My children are 8 and 5 and they know mommy takes meds and checks blood sugars and to call 911 if they can't wake me( Thankfully that has never been needed) I want to make sure my children are prepared just in case something happens. I will admit however that I was diagnosed a year before my first prenancy so it has always been part of their lives. But I have had other major dicussions with about other things such as death and why my father lost part of his arm(drug use).They listen and ask questions and they may not understand right away but at least they know you are willing to talk when they are ready.

Bluebutterfly
Bluebutterfly 2008-11-25 17:19:30 -0600 Report

Depending on how old the children are would let me know how to talk to them.I would tell them that it can be controlled.If they ask questions I would answer as truthful as I could.