Self pity, stress and burnout

Jeremyz mom
By Jeremyz mom Latest Reply 2012-09-30 15:37:53 -0500
Started 2012-09-28 15:43:42 -0500

Do any of you feel self pity about having T2? I just started noticing the signs of neuropathy (in my feet and hands) but I still can't seem to kick myself into gear. I am not in control of my numbers, have had very high stress at work and home and so burnt out all around. Anyone "been there done that"?

26 replies

old biker
old biker 2012-09-29 19:38:26 -0500 Report

Sorry to hear you are going through a bad time right now we all go through them, diabetes can be very frustrating at times..I don't like the term self pity I have some serious health issues, non diabetes related brought on by bad choices on my part. No one to blame but me the damage is done and now I will deal with it. I refuse to feel sorry for myself, it is what it is. I went to a specialist this week he ordered more tests. When the results come in I'll take it from there. No use in crying over spelt milk it only makes it salty for the cats.
Diabetes as you well know can be controlled, it's all up to you and you can do it. Just remember it is never to late to become what you might have been. You don't need me to tell you that you need to get BS under control. Set a goal, and make a plan and stick with it. Put the effort in and reap the rewards. I know you can do it

red flower lady
red flower lady 2012-09-29 17:02:04 -0500 Report

I'm a type 1, but can get the same feeling every now and again. If you get better control of bg numbers then you can reduce or even eliminate the neuropathy. There are medications the dr can have you try if it gets bad.

pontufex 2012-09-29 08:26:54 -0500 Report

Howdy Jeremyz Mom. When I was first diagnosed it felt like the world had been tossed onto my shoulders and at any moment my knee's would buckle.
Being a single father raising a teenage daughter alone was stressful enough, but to throw T2 into the mix just doubled it.
For the first couple weeks my BG was out of control, but then one day when sulking over my BG results it hit me. If I don't start taking things in stride like I use to I won't be around to see my girl grow into the woman I know she'll be.
I am the boss of my life, not diabetes, if I let it control me what use would I be to anyone, let alone a young daughter to looks to me for support.

Nick1962 2012-09-29 19:05:21 -0500 Report

I know what you mean. I got diagnosed shortly after mine went off to college. Thankfully, I stayed around to not only pay for college, but watch her get her Master's degree. Still wish she'd find a new boyfriend though.

MoeGig 2012-09-29 08:09:35 -0500 Report

Over the 46 years of T1, I've gone through periods of "hyper stress". When I think back, the solution for me was to "compartmentalize" the management of my diabetes from all the other crap that was going on. I knew I didn't want to die or become handicap in a wheel chair suffering and miserable; so, that motivated me to think of my own future well being despite what else was happening. Fear of complications has always been my prime motivator in managing my diabetes, and maybe that helped me deal with stress. Who knows…

tea cup
tea cup 2012-09-28 22:33:40 -0500 Report

yes I think we both have to start thinking about ourselves, have gone through the same things when my dad passed away and was taking care of my mother, who was very difficult..lost my husband and now my sister-in-law, having a ruff time controling my sugar too. really feeling out of sorts.

Jeremyz mom
Jeremyz mom 2012-09-28 21:54:26 -0500 Report

Tea cup. Part of my problem is that my mom died in July and i have to take care of stuff for my gramma, dad and everyone

tea cup
tea cup 2012-09-28 21:47:29 -0500 Report

hi jeremyz mom, i know how you feel, i am in the same boat. having a real hard time controling my sugar at night , during the day i keep busy but at night i am alone so eating gets to me. just lost a special lady to cancor and having a ruff time coping with that. just don't seem to find the right answerers hope some one can but us both on the right track good luck

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-09-29 18:00:39 -0500 Report

Hi tea cup. So sorry to hear of your loss. I miss my mom and dad. At night my mom, sister and I would work on Jigsaw puzzles all winter and sometimes during the summer. We also played cards and my dad would join us.

Instead of sitting around being lonely, find a hobby doing something you really enjoy. Go to a lecture, read a good book, take a class or take an art class or go to the theater or symphony if that is what you enjoy.

Loneliness can consume you and can make some people bitter. As long as you feel lonely you will be lonely. When I feel that way, I play computer games in Pogo.Com or listen to old music to entertain myself. I also love old movies so I collect them to watch when I have nothing else to do. My collection includes, John Wayne, Bette Davis, Lana Turner and Fred Astaire to name a few.

When people feel lonely or all alone, they tend to turn to food to comfort them. If possible take a trip somewhere and take lots of photos then you can spend your time organizing them.

Life is what you make it, please don't sit around feeling lonely, get out and meet people. Enjoy life and you won't have time to feel lonely. More importantly eat healthy snacks and get back on track.

Jeremyz mom
Jeremyz mom 2012-09-28 20:02:30 -0500 Report

Thank you Joyce…I'm trying. Those are good ideas and I am going to start the lists right now

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-09-29 17:48:54 -0500 Report

You are very welcome. When you start your bucket list of things you want to do, getting rid of self pity should be at the very top.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-09-28 18:06:33 -0500 Report

I have been T2 since 2008 and have never thought to feel self pity. I actually don't have time to feel sorry for myself. It drags me down and it is way too much weight to bear. I have not been there and have no intention of ever going there.

I have diabetes it does not have me. By the beginning of 2009 I had my numbers under control. This stopped my neuropathy as long as I can keep my numbers where I want them. It only flairs up if my numbers are high.

As long as you allow stress to be a problem and as long as you do not kick yourself into gear you are only hurting yourself. Uncontrolled diabetes can lead to kidney and liver problems, causes blindness and the loss of limbs and it will kill you.

You can do this. We both know you can. You have to want to do this. Why are you doing the self pity thing? If you feel sorry for yourself because of diabetes, don't. There are a lot of us out there so you are not alone in this. You are diabetic and you can get it under control.

Stop letting stress be a problem. I don't stress over anything that is not in my control. Take a look at all the things you can't control in your life and stop worrying about it.

Sit down with a sheet of paper and make column A and column B. On list A start listing all of your positive attributes. In column B list all the negatives. You may realize that you have more going for you than you think.

The next thing you do is make a list of all the things you want to do and start working on doing them. The list should start with getting your numbers under control. Control your diabetes, don't ever let it control you.

Get Up, Get Out, Get Active is my mantra. I get out and do things. I learned years ago to do something special for myself and no one else. You have to take care of you first or you won't be able to take care of anyone else.

Please kick yourself into gear and get rid of the self pity. You do not have to go through this alone. Take care and good luck to you. :>)

Next Discussion: desensitization »