How yourself and family took the news

By samantha.d Latest Reply 2015-08-23 18:43:45 -0500
Started 2012-09-14 09:15:05 -0500

Hi ! I recently got diagnosed with type one, my mum seems to be a lot more upset than myself about it… Im still baffled by the news i dont even think its sank in yet and im still trying to adjust! I was just wondering how other people coped with the news an if ther is anything i could do to help my mum?! Thanks a lot :)

16 replies

urquidi2015 2015-08-23 18:41:48 -0500 Report

Hi Samantha, Welcome ! I really surprised myself by not taking it too hard. I owned it and knew right there and then that I NEEDED to start getting serious and change my life style.
I arranged to locate a new doctor and made an appointment to interview her and decide if I wanted her as my doctor. Well, that very day while in her office, I was giving the diagnoses ! I was somewhat shocked at first but only because they were thinking about having me admitted in the hospital !
They were able to bring my numbers down and sent me home. I didn't react as I thought I would. What scared me was the thought of being admitted in the hospital. After all, I felt fine.
Anyway, welcome and look forward to reading your posts too.

cbelyea 2012-10-16 18:30:26 -0500 Report

I get the impression that it's harder on parents, and perhaps mothers in particular. (However, my sample size can't be regarded as anything close to scientific.) I experienced similar symptoms as yours, though for a much, much shorter duration and while my first thoughts focused on the unknowns, my focus shifted away from those to the realization that I knew what was wrong and that if I wanted to, I could make sure I didn't go through that anymore.

I can't say that I recall either of my parents breaking down over it, but I know it was taxing. Probably still is.

mystikfairy61 2012-09-27 02:10:28 -0500 Report

The best suggestion I have to help your mom is to have her read and learn along with you. It will help both of you to understand diabetes and how it can be controlled. HUGS to you both

KathyH123 2012-09-16 15:58:34 -0500 Report

I was diagnosed when I was about 9 and I hated shots my mom gave me my fist shot and I was scared and crying because I didn't really understand it at the time why I needed shots but I don't think that it was a big shock to the rest of my family because my mom is a diabetic and a lot if other people in my family has diabetes to

Type1Lou 2012-09-15 10:05:18 -0500 Report

I was 27 when diagnosed in 1976 and went to stay overnight with my Mom the first time I had to inject insulin. She began to cry watching me get up the courage to give my first injection. When I asked her why, she explained that she felt responsible because she had given me birth (I tear up just reliving this) and that my Dad did not have diabetes when I was born. I explained to her that I would much rather be around her with my diabetes than not and that she had not caused it. My Dad had died at age 81 in 1974 after dealing with his diabetes for about 20 years, so it was nothing new to the family. In fact, in retrospect, he provided me with a good role model to deal with the disease. Learn as much as you can about managing your diabetes and share that knowledge with your Mum. When she sees you taking the steps you need to manage your disease she'll gain reassurance. We're both very lucky to have mothers that care for us so much. I lost mine in 2005 and still miss her deeply.

DeanaG 2012-09-15 08:59:53 -0500 Report

Welcome to DC!!
I joined DC the day after diagnosed, this site has been a lifesaver.
Invite your Mom to read DC with you. Learn together.

Diabetic Coach
Diabetic Coach 2012-09-14 13:44:10 -0500 Report

Hi!! I'm new here too!! *waves*

I did not take my diabetes diagnosis well at all, but I was highly motivated to get better.

It takes time for both of you to accept the diagnosis. Your mom will come round. it was always harder for my family & friends than it was for me. You adjust, you pray and you keep going. Hang in there! :)


IronOre 2012-09-16 15:43:09 -0500 Report

good answer Coach!
I also think that T1 diabetes looks to other people worse than it actually is.
The thing that I don't mind about T1 is actually taking the shots, and that is what seems to bother people the most.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-09-14 12:32:42 -0500 Report

I was shocked for about 24 hrs. My sister said okay and went about her business but went shopping after work an bought healthier foods. We cleaned out cabinets of things we should not be eating (she had a mild heart attack). Then I went shopping and bought a scale and other foods to try out.

I did not spend time being baffled, upset, or scared. I dove in head first because I have diabetes, not my sister so I am the only one who can take care of it. I really don't spend time being concerned about the family's response to my news since several of my cousins and some of my friends are diabetic and have been for years. I know for a fact if my parents were alive when I got the diagnosis the first question would have been, What are you going to do about it?

Samantha please stop being baffled, let it sink in and take care of yourself. This is yours you have to be the one to deal with it. Educate mom about diabetes and together you both will learn about what you should be eating, insulin and exercise. Take her to the doctors with you so she can ask questions. Have fun and do everything you want to do in life and never let diabetes control you, control it. Give mom a hug and tell her not to worry you are going to be just fine. Good luck to you.

samantha.d 2012-09-14 16:00:14 -0500 Report

Thank you for your help :)

tabby9146 2012-09-24 16:34:29 -0500 Report

Welcome to DC. Unfortunately, in my experience, the vast majority of people who do not have diabetes simply do not understand and most just don't know how serious it can be. I know I could not rely on anyone for support, in the early days, it would have been nice, my mother supported me and knew a great deal about it, my husband was worried and concerned at first then, when he saw I was doing okay, he wasn't anymore and hasn't been for a very long time and I accepted that. When you look okay, and you are walking around and doing things ,most people think you are fine. There are other things serious too a person can have that don't get much attention, I once read diabetes was for the most part an 'invisible' disease, cause you can seem fine on the outside, but aren't on the inside, especially when sugars are not under control. Good luck to you, wish you the best!

MAYS 2012-09-14 11:46:19 -0500 Report

Hello and Welcome to the family!
I just took it all in stride, planned my life and continued living.
What else can you do?
Dealing with diabetes is a constant factor, day by day, so all you can do is learn as much as you can today and tomorrow, it's a continuous learning and doing experience, the best part about it is this, once you are diagnosed with diabetes, you are in control!
Take it all in stride and run with it, manage your diabetes, avoid the complications and enjoy your life!

samantha.d 2012-09-14 16:00:42 -0500 Report

Thanks a lot!!!!!

jigsaw 2012-09-15 06:57:35 -0500 Report

When the doc gave me the news, it was a big disappointment! It took me about two days or so to adjust and get right into educating myself!
I couldn't say it any better than MAYS already has. 18 years of diabetes, and I have no complications, and I still feel healthy. Keep looking, and asking questions, and you'll certainly be fine!!!

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