Do people actually understand?

By Roe72 Latest Reply 2012-09-09 21:16:31 -0500
Started 2012-09-08 13:01:55 -0500

I was diagnosed in 2008 with Type 2 diabetes, at that time I had great health insurance and was on Metformin twice a day but it seemed as though it was an up hill battle to get the proper dose. Then I lost all my benefits and was unable to properly take care of myself. I currently have been having blood sugar issues, and I finally found a doctor to help me get control, we are going to talk about insulin and oral mess on the 14th:)) I thought my new husband would take thus seriously, but it just seems to me that he thinks this is no big deal. My grandfather and my dad are both diabetics so no surprise I am one as well. Do you think people see us a different? I am no different then anyone else, but it is a serious condition that we have to live with. Sometimes I feel so alone:( thanks for letting me vent!!!!

6 replies

cottoncandybaby 2012-09-09 21:16:31 -0500 Report

I agree with the others, that if they are not diabetic, it is not a big deal to them, because from the outside, we don't look any different, it is on the inside where we look different, in the blood sugar and our organs and feet, etc. I am lucky that my fiance takes it seriously and knows that I have to watch what I eat, even though he really doesn't eat all that healthy, but he is supportive. However, I still have to be responsible for myself, no matter what he is eating. When I serve him pasta, for example, I either have a small portion, or just make chicken or something else. He will eat almost anything anyway, so I don't have to make too many compromises, but it doesn't help if he or my daughter are having ice cream or cookies that I shouldn't be eating, so just be responsible to yourself and don't worry about anyone else, they will somehow deal with it.

Type1Lou 2012-09-09 11:27:30 -0500 Report

Diabetes imposes a different way of life for many of us, IF we are to manage it and live as normally as possible with the fewest complications possible. It is never easy and is far from trivial but, it is OURS to cope with. My spouse has literally saved my life numerous times when my blood sugar dropped too low. He deals with me, dealing with MY disease through the past 31 years. That said, I do not impose my dietary restrictions on him. He loves his sweets, particularly cake and ice cream and just loves his pasta. I am glad that he can enjoy them while I choose to abstain because of the effect it will have on my BG. (I hope he never develops diabetes…his Dad became a Type 2 later in life.) If I must exercise and he doesn't want to, I go alone because it is what I must do. Maybe your husband doesn't seem to take your diabetes so seriously because it is a condition now so pervasive in our society. This site is a great source of support because we are all "Walking the walk" in some way. Learn as much as you can about how to manage your diabetes and I wish you the strength to make the right decisions.

MAYS 2012-09-08 19:59:31 -0500 Report

Only a non diabetic can feel as though it's no big deal!
I always say to my friends that I would exchange just one day of diabetes, as I have it, with them, after some of my friends see what "I" allow them to see about my diabetic life, they change their minds about it being nothing much to deal with.
They see that this is an everyday thing for me, do or die, so to say, it's a black and white issue with very little, or no grey areas in between.

As Kermit the Frog sang, "It's not easy being green" well it's sure isn't easy being a diabetic, not by a long shot, but then again things can always be worse now, can't it?!

It doesn't matter how anyone feels about us as diabetics, what matters most is how we feel about ourselves as people, accept me, reject me, but let me live as I see fit!
Be about managing your diabetes and living your life,when you are feeling a little depressed look in the mirror and smile at yourself because in the end "YOU" must live with, and for "YOU"!

Hugs, from one diabetic to another ((( Hugs ))) + ((( Hugs ))) = Support!


Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-09-08 19:26:14 -0500 Report

Hi Roe sorry to hear of your troubles. I am also T2 and currently without benefits. I take Metformin once a day. It will cost me $45.00 to see a doctor where I use to go.

People don't see me differently or rather I have not noticed. Personally, I don't care how people see me. Non diabetics either care or don't care that you are diabetic and if they don't care it is no big deal to them. Those who care are those who either know someone with diabetes or has a family member or spouse who is a diabetic. Your new husband more than likely thinks it no big deal because he more than likely doesn't know much about the disease.

My father never cared that I suffered from depression. It bothered me at first then I learned that since he didn't have the problem it was no big deal to him. I got to the point where his lack of concern no longer bothered me.

I think at some point in our lives we have to stop worrying about what others think of us, how they see us or what they say about us. You can ask your husband why he feels it is no big deal to him. Take him with you to the doctors and have the doctor explain it to him. Maybe he will come around.

Last week out of the blue, I got Rx Relief Pharmacy Card. It came from Health Care Alliance their website is them up the card was free and I never applied for it. It covers everyone in my household. Hope this helps you.

nanaellen 2012-09-08 14:05:27 -0500 Report

Hi Roe, The first thing I want to tell you is YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!! And yes it is very serious to be diabetic!! I had no benifits for 4 or 5 years also so my diabeties took a back seat too. Let me be the first to tell you that was a BIG mistake!! I ignored my diabeties for about 2 years and then POW in the hospital for excruciating pain in my middrift. Had pancreatitus and had to have my gall bladder removed and I've had pancreatitus 4-5 times since then and you definiteley DON'T want to go through THAT!! Now I'm on insulin and I'm terrified of needles, I have a panic attack EVERY time I have to have a shot and lately it's been before and after meals and at bedtime!! Not something I wish on my worst enemy!! (Not that I have any enemies!! LOL) If you still have no Med. Ins. ask your Dr. for a patient assistance plan. Some manufacturer's will give you Meds. for free!! I got my Lantus insulin for a year free!! Well, anyway your here on DC and THIS is the best place to be for information and support we're all right there with you! And you call THIS venting LOL I've vented a lot worse!! LOL Much luck to you, your friend Ellen :)