Getting Mared (Im Dislekik please exsuse the spelling)

HeatherAHalle
By HeatherAHalle Latest Reply 2012-10-05 19:34:01 -0500
Started 2012-09-02 19:06:05 -0500

Im Getting Mared to the love of my life on October 27 2012. we have been ingaed sines October 20 2009. i love him to death. but resiliently he had a brake down at work beaus of all the stress involved with the wedding and beaus im sike all the time.
His paints don't like me beaus i havint been able to work sins September 27 2011. My feyansay and i made the disishon that i wouldn't go back to work in-till after the weeding becus all the stress. See in september i woke up with my left eye closed and in till resiliently my Dr.s culdint get it open.
So hers what im getting at. i am getting really frustrated and stressed out of=ver all this. and its not helping my Diabetes. no mater what i do. i cant seem to stay in the right range. the other morning i woke up with a blood reading of 33 at 2 am. and then that night it was 250. im felling worn out all the time. and im always sike. i have been having trubel with my back ( i have a frakered vertebrata and a herniated dick).
I just what to get to my wedding and have a happy day. But i cant see it happening right know. Please let me know if you have any suggestions. i rely need some friends right know that understand what im going Thur.


13 replies

HeatherAHalle
HeatherAHalle 2012-09-09 14:28:13 -0500 Report

Thank you all four the advice. i just would like to up date you on how things are going. yesterday i had my bridal shower and thieving whent well. things are looking alittel better. thanks to all than have chimed in.

RUSTY777
RUSTY777 2012-09-04 18:50:23 -0500 Report

SWEETHEART, THIS IS YOUR TIME, AND THAT OF THE ONE YOU HAVE CHOSEN SPECIAL IN YOUR LIFE. YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE, AND YOU ARE NOT YOUR DISEASES NOR YOUR ILLNESSES. YOU ARE A BEAUTIFUL SOUL THAT DESIRE'S TO JOIN ANOTHER SOUL TO HAVE A LIFE OF PEACE IN AS MUCH AS YOU ARE ABLE. NO ONE HAS ANY RIGHT TO JUDGE YOU, NOR DO THEY HAVE ANY RIGHT TO GIVE YOU ADVICE IF IT DOES NOT HELP YOU. THERE ARE MANY NEGATIVE PEOPLE IN THIS WORLD, AND THEN THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO REALLY LOVE YOU VERY MUCH, AND WANT THE VERY BEST FOR YOU. THEY MEAN WELL YET THEY TOO CANNOT LIVE IN YOUR SKIN. ONLY YOU LIVE THERE, AND IT IS YOUR CHOICE TO TAKE BACK CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE IN ALL THE WAYS THAT YOU CAN LEARN TO DO SO. CONCENTRATE ON ONE THING AT A TIME TO EMBELLISH UPON YOUR STRONG TALENTS, AND LEARN TO ACCEPT AND ENJOY THE PERSON YOU ARE. YOUR BEAUTIFUL ON THE INSIDE I KNOW FROM YOUR LETTER AND YOUR PAINFUL EMOTIONS, AND YOUR CARING SPIRIT. I'D LIKE TO BE ONE OF YOUR FRIENDS. JUST HANG IN THERE AND BE YOURSELF, FOR YOU ARE THE GREATEST GIFT YOU CAN GIVE TO YOURSELF, AND IN RETURN YOU WILL AQUIRE MORE CONFIDENCE IN YOURSELF, AND BE HAPPY WITH THE PERSON YOU ARE. DO YOU HAVE ANY HOBBIES, INTERESTS THAT YOU ARE GREAT AT? DO YOU ENJOY HELPING OTHERS WHEN YOU CAN? GIVE OF YOUR LOVE, AND YOU WILL FIND YOU EXCELL IN MANY WAYS. DO NOT FEAR REACHING FOR AS MANY OF THE STARS AS YOU ARE ABLE, CARRY AN UMBRELLA TO SHILD YOURSELF FROM NEGATIVE REMARKS, AND KEEP A PRETTY SMILE UPON YOUR FACE. YOU ARE A WINNER AND YOU WILL SHOW THEM THIS IN YOU. IT IS VERY HARD TO FEEL GOOD WHEN SO MUCH OF OUR SYSTEM IS OUT OF ORDER. THINK OF YOUR BODY AS AN AUTO: IF JUST ONE MAJOR THING ON THE AUTO IS NOT FUNCTIONING S IT SHOULD, NOTHING ELSE DOES EITHER. MOST OF THE TIME IT CAN ONLY BE FIXED ONE THING AT A TIME. BY THE WAY: LOVE SURE DOES MAKE EVERYTHING WORTH WHILE, AND ALSO HELPS TO HEAL US. LAUGHTER GOES FAR TOWARD HEALING AS WELL. HELP YOUR LOVED ONE TO CONCENTRATE UPON THE POSITIVE, AND ALLOW HIM TO KNOW THE GEM HE IS GETTING! YOU ARE A VERY SWEET PERSON! BLESS YOU IN ALL YOUR WAYS! I AM NEW HERE, MANY BLINDNESSES IS THE REASON FOR THE CAPS, AND I AM NOT SURE HOW TO INVITE YOU TO BE MY FRIEND? I JUST JOINED YESTERDAY AND I FEEL LIKE I HAVE ANOTHER FAMILY ALREADY. WHAT A WONDERFUL SITE THIS IS. PLEASE INVITE ME TO BE YOUR FRIEND? THANKS SO VERY MUCH! <3 :D HUGS TO YOU HEATHER. MY PRINCESS OF A GRANDDAUGHTER IS ALSO NAMED HEATHER!

elaines
elaines 2012-09-04 01:24:25 -0500 Report

Hello and congratulations on the big day. Remember this is your day so relax and take it all in. When I got married I did most of the work myself from flowers, invitations, decoration, and the list goes on. But it was stressful because I wanted it to be beautiful and it was. But it can be done just delegate tasks to others to help you. Do what makes you and your future husband happy, don't try to please everyone it will never happen. As for those sugar levels, may I make a suggestion…try keeping a food diary with the blood sugars an the times you test along with any medication and activity you are doing. There may be a certain food that effects you differently than others. Some foods have different reactions with some people, meaning they may bottom you out or raise it for days. Then you can take this information to your doc or diabetic educator and get some help., Good luck to you and have a beautiful wedding. Take care and have a good day.

RUSTY777
RUSTY777 2012-09-04 18:56:55 -0500 Report

I AM NEW HERE AND NEW TO DIABETES TYPE II, AND CAN USE YOUR BLOOD SUGAR ADVICE AS WELL. I TRIED TO COPY OFF YOUR ADVICE TO EMAIL TO MYSELF TO FOLLOW BUT INTERNET EXPLORER FAILED TO ALLOW ME TO. AM I NOT ABLE TO COPY AND PASTE JUST THE GOOD ADVICE DO YOU KINOW FROM THIS SITE? I HOPE I CAN FOR I HAVE GREAT NEED FOR INFORMATION. I WAS REACTIVE HYPOGLAUCEMIC AND GOT THAT MASTERED, AND NOW THIS NEW DEVELOPMENT. THANKS ELAINE! :D

elaines
elaines 2012-09-06 16:47:44 -0500 Report

Rusty, not sure how that works but I will be happy to answer any questions you may have, send me a message.

RUSTY777
RUSTY777 2012-10-05 19:34:01 -0500 Report

YOU ARE MOST WELCOME HEATHER! SO ALL WENT WELL AT YOUR BRIDAL SHOWER THEN? THAT IS VERY ENCOURAGING! GOD BLESS YOU SWEET LADY! :D

judy makowski
judy makowski 2012-09-03 11:49:41 -0500 Report

Congratulations. Wish you all the best. This is your day., The two of you decide what you want, who you want there and when you decide to do it. So far you are 1/3 of the way there. Great. My mother in law didn't like me at all. When we went for the license she told me she didn't want us to get married but her family said we would in 2 mos any way so not to fight it. It was a stressful time and that was without diabetes from both sides of the families. Just do what you can to make you and your fiance happy. If it is to elope do it and take a couple of good friends with you to make it special if you want to. You can then use the money to go on a honeymoon (and send word back to everyone the deed is done) Have a small party when you get back if you want to. This life belongs to the two of you and if others want to be supportive great, if Not they will get used to it or not. You have no control over them just over yourselves. Make it your day

Lil Bal
Lil Bal 2012-09-03 04:04:34 -0500 Report

Congratulations!!! But please don't have a big wedding for anyone else's desires. Getting married is one of the most stressful things you can do. My hubby and i regret getting married the way we did. We are both diabetic, work full time and i was my dads carer all at the same time as planning the wedding. So i urge you if it is too much don't do it, from personal experience it was one of the worst days of our lives, and the money we spent could have been put to better use. Please think about it long and hard it should be the most fun and special days of your lives dont let it be marred by what ifs. Xxx

Anonymous
Anonymous 2012-09-03 03:00:34 -0500 Report

I've never been married and like Gabby's eloping idea but the thing to remember and be happy about is that October 27 is going to be YOU and the LOVE OF YOUR LIFE's day. Not anyone else's. Not the Diabetes, Not his parent, Not even Santa Claus's. You two. In a few month's, on YOUR day, you'll be the happiest, most beautiful bride and then wife in the world!! Focus on that day. Picture it in your mind. Believe in it.
BUT if you do decide to elope, spend the money you were going to use on the wedding and have the most wonderful honeymoon you can dream up!!!
Slow down, take deep breath and remember that it's OK. Just take one day at a time up until your wedding. I've heard every bride has issues and anxieties and yours are just a little bit different.

I wish you the best and congratulations.

Gabby
GabbyPA 2012-09-02 21:39:01 -0500 Report

Getting married is hard on anyone, but with all the stress that seems to be going on, have you thought about eloping? Living up to other people's expectations are things you don't need to do. If you love him that much, just do what you guys want to do.

OR, can you afford a wedding planner? I tried to do it all myself at first, but finally gave in and let a planner take care of the things I couldn't seem to get done. WHEW! That was a life saver.

OR, what about the people who are in your wedding. Those folks are supposed to be helping out, not being waited on. Use your wedding party to do things you cannot do. Most of mine were long distance, and they still did a lot for me. They should be focusing on you having a great day.

Here is what is guaranteed...somethings will not go as planned. It's OK.
People will do stupid stuff. It's OK. Something will be forgotten. It's OK. You know why? Because at the end of it all, you will be married no matter what happens, and you guys can start your life together the way you want.

RUSTY777
RUSTY777 2012-09-03 15:28:34 -0500 Report

VERY GOOD ADVICE GABBY, AND I HAVE ONE MORE TO ADD. MY NERVES MADE IT DIFFICULT TO REMEMBER MUCH OF MY WEDDING AT ALL. HOW MUCH GREATER IT IS TO PUT ALL THOSE $$$ INTO A FUND TO GO INTO A FIRST HOME TOGETHER. OH, THESE CAP LETTERS ARE SO THAT I CAN SEE BETTER WHAT I WRITE FOR I AM QUITE BLIND DUE TO SEVERAL EYE DISEASES. SO I PRAY YOU ALL WILL BEAR WITH ME, AND UNDERSTAND. THANK YOU EVER SO MUCH.

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