Exactly What Is "Normal"?

MAYS
By MAYS Latest Reply 2015-12-28 07:20:46 -0600
Started 2012-09-01 03:41:42 -0500

There is a word that is used quite often by diabetics, a word that is strong and positive, yet when it rolls of the tongue it comes out with a negative overtone.

That word is "Normal".

Many diabetics say that they wish that they were normal.
Exactly "What" is "Normal"?

Here is a definition for the word normal:

norĀ·mal …[nawr-muhl]

adjective
1.
conforming to the standard or the common type; usual; not abnormal; regular; natural.

2.
serving to establish a standard.

3.
Psychology .
a.
approximately average in any psychological trait, as intelligence, personality, or emotional adjustment.

b.
free from any mental disorder; sane.

4.
Biology, Medicine/Medical .
a.
free from any infection or other form of disease or malformation, or from experimental therapy or manipulation.

b.
of natural occurrence.

"You" are alive!
What is more important to you, being "normal" or being alive?

Having diabetes can be challenging at times, but that cam apply to almost anything in life.

As a diabetic, you are operating manually within yourself that which is done automatically by your endocrine system, managing your blood glucose level.
You can still do all of the things in life that "normal" people do, including that which is the most important, "living" your life!

So enough talk about wishing to be "normal", it's time to manage your diabetes and live your life…""Normally!"

~Mays~


67 replies

WASHED OUT
WASHED OUT 2015-09-13 21:06:58 -0500 Report

Something that goes backward against a regular flow isn't normal, but not being normal isn't necessarily a bad thing. There are certain circumstances that make not being normal the smarter of the choices .

Sopies Grandma
Sopies Grandma 2015-03-10 16:00:39 -0500 Report

The problem with the word normal is the meaning of not being normal. LIke anything other than normal is a bad thing. Well I am about us normal as snow in summer. I don't think of myself as strange, I'm unique, and uniquely made. It's who I am, and proud of it. :)

pkwillhoite
pkwillhoite 2014-07-23 14:22:22 -0500 Report

As far as being "Normal" I wan never really normal… Diabetes happened to me and it just made me more Not normal… LOL!!!

Stuart1966
Stuart1966 2013-11-07 00:30:18 -0600 Report

Others can use such brushes, I'm just "me"… I'll let them determine what they believe/disbelieve,

I'll continue being me?!

roxiekb
roxiekb 2013-01-09 13:34:21 -0600 Report

When I was diagnosed, i accepted the challenge and already decided to live a normal life. My husband was diagnosed with multiple myeloma cancer n 2008 and we decided then that it would not take over our life. This was my encouragement to continue and the fact that our healthier eatting has helped him. Although he is on a maintenance drug every month, he is in remission and this is a miracle for this type of cancer. We eat lots of tomatoes and fresh greens now which helps both of us. So yes we are normal just with different challenges. Keep your spirits up and hit it head on.

Linda crutch
Linda crutch 2012-10-24 19:26:10 -0500 Report

Thank you for the explanation/ answer to normal. It answered a lot of my 'silent' questions. I really appreciate what I get out of this diabetic connection.

ConnieMarie
ConnieMarie 2012-09-09 08:55:52 -0500 Report

"Normal" is a slippery slope on many levels beyond medical conditions…don't believe me just discuss politics with someone of differing views. I am an "out & proud" member of the LGBT community with a valid marriage done in VT (couple #150). Yet I'm told by the GOP & MY family we aren't "normal"…to me I'm normal and all ya straight people are "freaks" LOL :D

MAYS
MAYS 2012-09-10 23:29:44 -0500 Report

"We" are all normal, if that is what we choose to be, or if we choose to be "abnormal" that is fine also, as long as we are alive!
If being a member of the LGBT community makes you proud then hold your head up high, this world that we live upon is big enough for all of us to live upon it.
Diabetes didn't single you out, nor did it classify you for being a member of the LGBT community now did it?…So do your thing and manage your diabetes while you are at it!
Hugs!

maxshockwave
maxshockwave 2012-09-09 02:51:56 -0500 Report

I would suppose that I've always been the second meaning of normal as long as the establish is not to behave, as have in the dictionary is not hav-e; so that leaves alot of latitude!

Jccandals
Jccandals 2012-09-09 02:31:58 -0500 Report

I use to have a bumper sticker years ago.. when i was younger.. that said, "Why be normal?" I don't think normal can be defined really, whats normal in one culture is different in the next, however, since were speaking about diabetes.. I will agree with the rest.. "I am liking the idea of being alive, forget the word normal" I don't care if I even fall in the category, why do i have to be someone's normal?

roxiekb
roxiekb 2013-01-09 13:19:39 -0600 Report

I feel as normal as ever but actually healthier. Since finding out I was diabetic, changed our eatting habits greatly. My husband is not diabetic but also feels more in control of his eatting. Before we eat anything now, we think first if it is healthy. Not saying I don't indulge in some cheese balls now and then. My weakness but just found out it is a better snack for diabetics than other choices. For me they do not raise my blood sugar significantly. Yeah !

MAYS
MAYS 2012-09-09 06:52:10 -0500 Report

Well said,
" I don't care if I even fall in the category, why do i have to be someone's normal?

jigsaw
jigsaw 2012-09-08 18:10:51 -0500 Report

Actually, I always thought having diabetes was normal! Only people that don't have it , think it's abnormal, ahd they frequently have some sort of condition that is unusual and abnormal!!!
Seriously Mays, you bring up excellent food for thought! I hope anyone who feels depressed, or just down about their diabetes, takes the time to give this some good hard consideration.

Gabby
GabbyPA 2012-09-05 11:32:27 -0500 Report

After reading some of these definitions, I am not so sure that "normal" is what I want to be. I like your question...normal or alive? I will choose alive!!

GrammieMags
GrammieMags 2012-09-04 21:50:52 -0500 Report

I'm thankful that my diabetes finally 'broke through'. I have not had energy or umphh in several months. I definitively was not 'normal'.

For two days now I have been 'normal' and I'm loving it. Tomorrow a friend is coming to help me clean the kitchen cupboards. (There is still a lot I can not do because of a different physical condition, but at least now I have energy for what I want to do!) I am looking forward to working with her. A clean kitchen is a joy!

Graylin Bee
Graylin Bee 2012-09-03 20:26:18 -0500 Report

I am beyond Normal. I was in the semi with hubby when we were told just go beyond Normal and turn left.

roxygyrl1970
roxygyrl1970 2012-09-02 18:20:25 -0500 Report

Yeah, but don't you think it's sometimes fun to shake things up and see what others perceive a word to mean? I found that in different parts of the world and even the USA that people use common everyday words differently and even though I'm REALLY good at putting my foot in my mouth, I don't want to do it by not understanding what the other person meant. (It's why I have an easier time talking to military people. They understand what a Charlie Foxtrot is and what FUBAR is and I don't have to explain it.) LOL. Then there are those other times that it reminds me WHY I am the way I am and use words the way I do. I am a flat out LIFETIME Yankee residing in the South because of family reasons, where I couldn't do a proper "Bless your heart insult" to save my life and sometimes have problems with subtlety, instead being to direct and blunt (i.e. Foot In Mouth Disease I chronically have-They should list that as one of the chronic diseases just for me. LOL) which me at times, I need a serious reminder of exactly what a word means. But I'm normal to me and my family and friends know this is MY norm and still love me. It's just becoming really hard to find something to shock them with and making that job hard. Oh well.

LET'S PLAY A GAME!!!

I'll give a little bit of info that is normal to me and everyone else do the same. It will show what I mean of how what's normal for me isn't normal for someone else. Plus I'm new here and want to get to know people. Two goals in one task. LOL!!

I had a friend who LITERALLY caught themselves on fire around me trying using the grill with other friends around. (My friend is okay now with only a little bit of scarring.) It was normal to me to snap into military mode. While everyone was trying to run into the house to get water from a sink , the person was right next to the pool and I started barking order for them to jump in the pool and barking orders for the others to follow while getting my friend out of the pool. I had been on the Rescue and Assistance and Firefighting Teams while in the Navy and knew what to do and my friends (who had NEVER seen me excerpting this type of behavior) responded to me taking charge of the situation because I was the only one who knew how to handle the situation, and because of my training in the military was able to keep my head on my shoulders and not panic and make stupid mistakes. After it was over, a few of my friends teased me and called me John Wayne. BUT it was "NORMAL" for me to snap into military mode, during that crisis and handle myself differently than everyone else had because of the training I had while I was in the military.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-09-03 19:24:54 -0500 Report

Roxy my definition of subtlety is being politically correct. I am definitely not a politically correct person. I live just below the Mason/Dixon line and I usually get the "Bless your heart" insults correct. This is something learned from birth. I don't think you can jump right in there and get it right. After all it is a Southern thing.

roxygyrl1970
roxygyrl1970 2012-09-04 01:11:11 -0500 Report

I was rarely ever able to get that subtely thing correct either. I don't open my mouth a lot and I try never to treat or say something to anyone that I wouldn't want said to me. But when I do have something to say I will. So I didn't get any of those genes at birth. LOL!! Could be worse. I could have been one of "those" people who are nice to your face and then talk all sorts of stuff behind your back. I dislike two faced people intensely. If I wouldn't say it to your face, I'm not going to say it to your back either. My grandfather and Uncle raised me to do that because a lot of times if you say one thing , it will get back to the other person and a lot of times it will have been misinterpitated or twisted for some reason and that just opens a whole can of worms and hurt feelings. Know what I mean? Send me some of your "Bless your heart" skills. LOL!!! They should have a Foot in mouth disease section. It happens to me quite a little bit. LOL.

lewiston262
lewiston262 2012-09-02 12:16:13 -0500 Report

Been a T1 for 60 years and have never thought of myself as abnormal. I aso never needed a 8 part explanation of this word.

locarbarbie
locarbarbie 2012-09-01 13:36:11 -0500 Report

My father used to drive me crazy when he would ask…do you want to be like all the rest of the sheep or do you want to be a trailblazer? Well, it must have really hit home because I take pride in not being just like everyone else.

And while having diabetes is no picnic and does take thought and planning…it is something we can each control to a great extent. There are people suffering with much worse, that they have NO control over. And like Mays says, we are alive, and THAT is a blessing!

RUSTY777
RUSTY777 2012-09-04 19:31:45 -0500 Report

I TOLD MY CHILDREN THEY WERE NOT SHEEP, THEY WERE DESIGNED TO BE THEIR OWN PERSON. THAT EVEN SNOWFLAKES ARE ALL DIFFERENT, AND SO ARE WE. NORMAL IS FOR THE SETTING ON A CLOTHES DRYER, LABELS ARE FOR TIN CANS, AND PEOPLE ARE FOR LEARNING HOW TO LOVE AND ACCEPT DIFFERENCES, AND TO APPRECIATE THE TALENTS OF OUR OWN AND THOSE OF OTHERS. THANK GOD THAT I ALWAYS HEARD THE BEAT OF A DIFFERENT DRUMMER AS MY MOMMA USED TO SAY OF ME. SHE MADE ME SOUND AS IF I WAS A HERO TO HER. SHE AND I HAD A GREAT FREINDSHIP AS ADULT WOMEN AND I AM THANKFUL. MOM AND DAD TAUGHT ME A LOT, AND MY CHILDREN RAISED ME WELL! :D I HAVE SO MUCH FUN WITH LIFE, AND THOUGH NEWLY DIAGNOSED WITH TYPE II DIABETES, I WILL BECOME EDUCATED ABOUT THIS TOO. I ADMIT IT IS ALL QUITE CONFUSING TO ME, YET I FEEL THAT I HAVE COME HOME TO A WONDERFUL SUPPORT GROUP THAT WILL HELP ME TO GAIN SOME CONTROL OVER THIS WEIRD THING CONSIDERED A BODY. LOL BARBIE, YOU MUST HAVE HAD A GREAT DAD! :D

locarbarbie
locarbarbie 2012-09-05 07:34:36 -0500 Report

I love your attitude! Thank you Rusty…the really sad part is that yes, my father was great, but I did not realize the extent until I was sitting at his funeral. At that point it was as though a wave of understanding and emotion came over me. I took care of my father (Parkinsons with severe dementia) and my mom (lung cancer) until they died at home under my care. I am so glad I had the opportuninty to do this for them, even though it was the most difficult thing I have ever done, I was blessed in the process.

DeanaG
DeanaG 2012-09-01 10:30:37 -0500 Report

If you are always trying to be "normal", you'll never know how amazing you can be!!!! ;-)

roxygyrl1970
roxygyrl1970 2012-09-01 06:24:20 -0500 Report

Why would you want to be "normal"? Being UNIQUE and having MOXY is so much more fun. You don't have to worry about what's in style or normal because you've been there, done it and took the medal home. SO NEVER BE NORMAL!!! BE UNIQUE AND LEAVE YOUR MARK ON THE WORLD!!!

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