Dealing with kids depression

sierrasmominil
By sierrasmominil Latest Reply 2012-08-29 16:37:38 -0500
Started 2012-08-27 12:56:16 -0500

My daughter was diagnosed 3 weeks ago so of course this is all new to us. She started school last week so we only had two weeks to learn and adjust before it started. Today the principal called me and she is acting out and just not herself. She has never been in trouble and is one of the "good kids". We know she is slightly depressed with all these new routines and the strict management it takes. Anyone been through this with a newly diagnosed kid? She is 9 and I'm looking for some ideas on how to talk to her about it as she is putting on a brave face externally but inside I know she is hurting and she just won't talk about it. The school is worried that kids might be picking on her or teasing her. She is one of only two kids in the whole school with diabetes. Any thoughts?


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pixsidust
pixsidust 2012-08-29 16:37:38 -0500 Report

Here is the site for Juvenile Diabetes. http://www.jdf.org/
At the top of the pages is a tab called locations, perhaps there is one near you. I wish I had an answer for you but I am the Diabetic in my family.
Perhaps giving her tools and replies to say if she does get bullied might be
important. For after all being Diabetic means she is sweeter than most.
You sound like a great Mother!

sierrasmominil
sierrasmominil 2012-08-28 12:25:03 -0500 Report

@gabby Thank you all so much. They are getting to know each other but my daughter is in 4th and he is in 1st so a little hard but helps not being in the nurses office alone. @ type1's mom. I totally understand the brave thing. We are only 3 weeks in so we are still in that stage. We got lucky off the bat that our educator was very vocal about gifts but boy did we want to. We did while in hospital but then stopped once we got out. It's hard and the hawking over her on what she eats and does is what bothers her the most I think. Time will help but having this forum to know we are not alone helps a ton too. Thanks again all.

Gabby
GabbyPA 2012-08-29 10:51:29 -0500 Report

Oh the age difference is a bummer. Have you checked with your local hospital to see if there are support groups for the parents of children with diabetes? Getting face to face support can help a lot, specially in the beginning.

Gabby
GabbyPA 2012-08-28 11:54:17 -0500 Report

It hurts so much to see our little ones dealing with such things. All we want is for them to be able to be kids. At least she has another child there that she can talk to. Are they friends or can they share some time together? There can be great empowerment in that partnership.

I cannot help you with your experience, I have not shared that. But I am here if you need to talk and get some frustrations out. There are other caregiver members here that can help you through.

type1's mom
type1's mom 2012-08-28 10:14:39 -0500 Report

My 10 yr old was diagnosed 5 months ago at the end of the school year. He was ok at first because everyone was telling how brave he was and giving gifts. Well that has all worn off now so all he sees are the shots, finger pricks and carb counting. I wish I could give any advice but I need it as much as you. He really understands the importance of treatment but has become somewhat depressed. He hasn't gotten in trouble yet but at home he cries about the smallest things. Our next hope is the insulin pump. He is looking forward to it to help release him from such a strict routine. Well wishes to you girls and give ur sweet girl a hug for me!

sierrasmominil
sierrasmominil 2012-08-27 16:55:33 -0500 Report

Wow that is great. We live in IL but her nana lives in Virginia. That could work. I appreciate the encouragement and we are trying to find a local group that maybe meets with other kids. I think you are right about we feeling alone because the other kid on school is in 1st grade so much younger. Thank you so much and we will for sure check out that camp next year. Good luck.

KathyH123
KathyH123 2012-08-27 16:23:25 -0500 Report

Hello and I was also diagnosed when I was 9 but I found out in the middle of the school year and I didn't know any other diabetics outside I my family I just started high school and it is still difficult sometimes but try to just let her know that she isn't alone and their are other people out their going threw the same thing I'm not sure where you live but if you live close to camp CCT it is a great place for kids to learn how to handle their diabetes a little better and all the campers are diabetic and most of the counselors are to it helps you not feel like you are the only one dealing with it but you can check it out at www.campcarolinatrails.com