By jigsaw Latest Reply 2012-08-31 05:21:28 -0500
Started 2012-08-15 15:48:12 -0500

Every once in a while, it's a good idea to get some alternate advice along with all the good diabetic advice and info that is available here!!! So here it is!


223 replies

Tony5657 2012-08-25 06:55:25 -0500 Report

Thanks to all of you for your input!!!!!!! I got some really good belly laughs reading through all of your comments & I highly recommend reading through this discussion. It's a stress reliever. :o) Ahhh yes, older women, gotta love 'em. They've gone around the block a few times & learned lots. AND some are rich $$$ LOL Tony5657 in New Braunfels, TX

jigsaw 2012-08-25 16:26:03 -0500 Report

To anyone looking for a relationship with a wealthy older woman, make sure you find out before hand how she became wealthy!!! Of course, if you are initially broke, the risk is probably less severe!!! (-;

Cheryl Luck
Cheryl Luck 2012-08-30 23:53:47 -0500 Report

I have been single again for the second time now. My health issues so loom over me that I am thinking who could handle it all. Really, it is making me think it is time to remove myself from the dating sites I am on. I cannot even begin to think of being on my own til the day I die. Too scary!

jigsaw 2012-08-31 05:21:28 -0500 Report

Cheryl, I understand that you are dealing with extremely unpleasant circumstances. I am the type of person that will take any negative situation, that takes place in my life, and do my best to turn it into a positive. So far, I have succeeded with some, but not all of the circumstances involved. I have learned to live comfortably with myself and by myself along the course of my life. I stayed single for 9 years after my first marriage, that ended in a divorce. I was better prepared mentally and emotionally for my second and current marriage, that has lasted for 33 years, and is still going strong. It has taken a great deal of work and effort for both me and my wife. We MADE IT HAPPEN!

I realize that we can't control all that happens in our lives. What we can control is how we deal with the different circumstances. There are people out there that have had much worse happen to them then you or I, and yet they manage to maintain a positive outlook and carry on with their lives in a very positive way.
My point is, that regardless of how difficult things may appear, you can change some of the negatives in your life, and learn how to turn them into positives.
Some of your health issues can be improved, and possibly even eliminated! Being single is ok , if you learn how to be comfortable with yourself, and even enjoy being with yourself! Things are only as bad, as you choose to see or perceive them to be. Is the glass half empty, or is it half full?

I hope you find the strength and your way to living an enjoyable and productive life! It really is up to you, and the ability to make it happen is in your hands!!!

jayabee52 2012-08-31 02:05:02 -0500 Report

I felt the same way back once I was divorced in 2002. I had tried to get something going with ladies but nothing went anywhere with anyone.

Then I developed Kidney disease in 2006 were I needed dialysis and I KNEW I would never have the companionship of a lady. One of the websites I had tried was called Dating4Disabled.com

As it turned out I was contacted by a blind lady and we hit it off and eventually married. If you have read about "Jem" in some of my writings this is the fantastic lady to whom I refer. She had a lot of "medical challenges" and she died in July 2010. I thought I'd be by myself from then on.

In Feb 2012 I got an email on the same dating website, Dating4Disabled. That was the start of another relationship with a lady I call 'SuzyQ' I am with her now.

So I have learned not to give up'

Cheryl Luck
Cheryl Luck 2012-08-31 03:18:45 -0500 Report

I have been on that one but it was a long time ago.The only thing is with that is I don't have enough energy to be someones caretaker, which I am nervous of. My ex had paranoid schizophrenia. I almost lost myself with him,but for sure burnt myself out more than a couple of times to keep the marriage going…but he found someone else more whatever…actually more mentally equal to him, drugged out of his mind.

GabbyPA 2012-08-22 21:40:48 -0500 Report

I had to chuckle at that one. Life really is quite simple when you look at it that way.

jigsaw 2012-08-23 06:33:12 -0500 Report

I definitely think it makes life easier to realize the benefits of what you have, then to look elswhere!

GabbyPA 2012-08-23 19:31:45 -0500 Report

Starting over at our age is really not the option I would hope for.

GabbyPA 2012-08-23 19:47:18 -0500 Report

That is true. I have lost all my youth gained. So I started over again a few years ago. But the older I get, I don't want to do it again...no way.

GabbyPA 2012-08-24 22:14:51 -0500 Report

Oh, I was speaking just in general. If I had to try to start again with a relationship, I would just skip it. I am very comfortable to be on my own, so I don't "need" the other half. I am glad for mine, but once he is gone, I don't see myself looking for someone else. If I go first, well...he has to work that part out.

jayabee52 2012-08-24 23:14:45 -0500 Report

I do ok on my own also. I could do without a relationship if need be. I experienced the best with Jem and I think I could have remained single. However when Suzy contacted me I thought that perhaps I was being blessed by God again and I have been. I do prefer being with someone.

jigsaw 2012-08-25 04:20:32 -0500 Report

I agree jayabee. I was single for 9 years after my first marriage. There certainly are benefits to being single, but I wouldn't trade those 9 year for the next 35 years that I have been with my wife.
If a relationship is what you desire, I hope you find it!!!

margokittycat 2012-08-21 18:32:54 -0500 Report

Us older women listen and take in what is being said without think we know it all. We study things and learn newthings everyday to keep our minds sharp. We have been through a lot in our lifes and we know how to handle a lot of different things. We can take things on as they come and most of the time do very well with that but not all the time. We know we don't know everything if we did we would be up there with God and noone is up there with him except his angles.

jigsaw 2012-08-21 08:58:34 -0500 Report

I try to avoid giving advice, unless I'm an expert on the subject! In this case, I couldn't resist.


MAYS 2012-08-20 15:25:37 -0500 Report

Jigsaw, I love this discussion!
I love if for the laughs, and the mutual participation between the sexes, it was great feeling to laugh amonst one another and at one another, yet realizing and admitting in the end that we (both sexes) cherish one another dearly!
(I think that I'll change my avatar because of it, at least for a little while!)


jigsaw 2012-08-20 17:51:58 -0500 Report

Glad you've been enjoying yourself! I also find it's a great feeling to loosen up and just enjoy each other. The seriousness of diabetes is understood by most and important to deal with, but heck, I agree with you Mays, ya gotta kick your shoes off and have some fun. Also, I believe it makes it a bit easier to get a little closer with all the superb people here, by taking a moment to relate and put our maladies aside!!! Thanks Mays, I enjoy your input.

genniedevera 2012-08-18 03:10:37 -0500 Report

Older women are reasonable because they know what they want…hahahaha…

genniedevera 2012-08-18 08:05:14 -0500 Report

I should say "we" know what we want…lol

MAYS 2012-08-18 11:32:12 -0500 Report

The other half of that equation is this, "we" have to be able to give you the thing(s) that you want (whatever it is, or they are) or at least help you in some way to acquire such, if not "we" risk making ourselves expendable!
In life you are either an asset, or a liability to yourself, your family, your mate or others, so knowing what you want is only part of the issue of life itself!

jigsaw 2012-08-18 10:17:36 -0500 Report

It's ok if you know what you want, but if we know what you want, then everyone is happy!

red flower lady
red flower lady 2012-08-18 16:12:41 -0500 Report

You know, I don't always know what I want and am happy that my husband knows me well enough to either guide me in the right direction or go with the flow:)

His line is "if your happy, I'm happy."

jigsaw 2012-08-18 13:12:30 -0500 Report

The truth is imperative, and I agree whole heartedly, but I prefer alot of fun instead of a little! Maybe I'm a glutton for punishment, but I'll suffer through it!

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-08-16 21:10:52 -0500 Report

We are reasonable because we have a lot of experience, think logically and know when someone is blowing smoke. We are exceptionally remarkable women.

Nick1962 2012-08-18 09:31:31 -0500 Report

Think logically Joyce? I'll give you kindhearted, compassionate, caring, empathetic, warm, snuggly, and nice smelling, but logical? Now who's blowing smoke?
Hey Mays, give up that search for resonable women. Lady here says there's lojeekal womerns out there!

jigsaw 2012-08-18 10:15:37 -0500 Report

Hey Nick, let them believe it! You'll get more snuggly hugs and besides, we kknow where the logic really is!!!

Lizardfan 2012-08-16 22:13:18 -0500 Report

There is that Joyce but I find it's the calling people out when they are blowing that smoke that get's them every time. Let's just say I am a lot more forceful in expressing my opinions than I used to be. Sometimes I say things and I think who said that?? Uh…it was me!

Lizardfan 2012-08-16 17:23:18 -0500 Report

You know that PMS stands for Putting up with Men's S***!

jigsaw 2012-08-19 05:39:55 -0500 Report

The origins of the letters PMS were a mistake! What was meant was PWS!!! Pre WATCH OUT Syndrome!!! And RFL…Run For Your Life! C'mon, let's get real here (-;

jigsaw 2012-08-16 18:06:46 -0500 Report

Ohhhhhh! A shot below the belt!!! Unless you meant Putting up with mens sweetness!!!

red flower lady
red flower lady 2012-08-16 21:41:17 -0500 Report

Nice try, go back and count the letters!! Haha

jigsaw 2012-08-17 17:58:21 -0500 Report

Ok, I know when I've been beaten! Now, you oh me a hug!!! I'll be waiting impatiently…

red flower lady
red flower lady 2012-08-19 12:25:33 -0500 Report

It's no big deal! We all change direction when writing or make spelling errors. Most are just polite enough to ignore it when the meaning is clear:) I assure you he knows how to spell "owe" and just didn't see the error.

Thanks for the contrabution though:D

lacat87 2012-08-20 13:44:52 -0500 Report

yer welcomeee! just picking on old jigsaw…that was all i was doing. no disrepect intended.

red flower lady
red flower lady 2012-08-20 18:50:33 -0500 Report

I figured that, just thought I would put it out there before it became a bigger topic. I have vision issues and know that I hit the wrong keys all the time. I know you were not being mean:)

jigsaw 2012-08-20 15:10:30 -0500 Report

I knew you were just playing and breaking chops! No offense taken, your still my little buddy!! Just watch who you call old!

lacat87 2012-08-22 12:59:59 -0500 Report

thanks big Al! i'll call you old if i want to!!! but you are my best friend on here. hope you know that. also kind of like a big brother to me becuz you're so wise and all that and i miss having a big brother. :(

jigsaw 2012-08-22 17:58:28 -0500 Report

No problem, I've been called worse. You can call me whatever you like, after all, you definitely know how to hit my weak spots!!!

lacat87 2012-08-22 13:00:46 -0500 Report

also how long do i have to wait before i get my big old hug from you since i'm not smoking any more?

jigsaw 2012-08-17 07:01:56 -0500 Report

Honestly, I love all the ladies, young , old and everything in between even though they like to complain and moan and groan from time to time. I admit there is some thing magical that the ladies possess.

jigsaw 2012-08-20 18:09:43 -0500 Report

Yep, I heard about that! When the ambulance arrived, the technicians put a paper bag over the ugly ones head, and took her away in the ambulance!!! Unblievable!

jigsaw 2012-08-17 10:21:29 -0500 Report

Pheeewww!!! Thats a good thing, I was starting to get worried! Then my bg would rise, and that's just plain bad!!!

jigsaw 2012-08-17 07:06:41 -0500 Report

That's right! The right man will make any one of you melt like a bar of butter!! See, I know the truth too!!!

jigsaw 2012-08-18 16:30:35 -0500 Report

And the right women will have a large effect on a man! However, I don't think they melt!!!

MAYS 2012-08-18 18:07:04 -0500 Report

But if you find out that you have the wrong woman, don't try too change her, this method works very well, especially during the PMS Stage, if it doesn't, RUN!


* Just kidding! (We must take the good along with the bad)
"He who picks a rose must take the thorns as well"…Good thing that all flowers don't have thorns, ladies!

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