Why try

limo-dan
By limo-dan Latest Reply 2012-08-23 04:54:13 -0500
Started 2012-08-13 01:32:05 -0500

Ya i dont know if i am crying out , or just looking 4 help,, But i dont want to keep feelin like i do, Depression is what i have been going thrue this past 9 days,I know there are others out here that are going thue this and moor, I just cant shake it ,so strees out no motivation, i dont know if maybe normal or not ,yes i am new to this ,im not one 4 taking shots, I just dont want to do it any moor ,,I dont know how long someone can go without takeing Insulin,Diabetes has really mest me up I feel that every one that knows i have it stays away ..( ya even my wife ) we been maried for 33yrs Danny from Calif


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Old-n-Grey-n-Wiser
Old-n-Grey-n-Wiser 2012-08-16 21:00:23 -0500 Report

Limo-Dan, Why try, you will try because you are in the "drivers seat", you are in control of your future, sure you will have to drive down some rough roads, but in time they will all get smother, after reading both of your posts It is easy to see you are on one off the rougher roads we have to travel in life, in time you will do what you must to smooth even this road out, when you need directions ask for them, don't stay lost, give your wife a hug, buckle the two of you into that limo and start driving, the smooth going isn't that far ahead, take time and enjoy the scenery while you find it.
Tom

roshy
roshy 2012-08-15 19:57:43 -0500 Report

hi Dan, you have my sympathys, and i know alot of other people can relate and understand where you are coming from. no matter what stage of your life with this disease it can still be a struggle to accept and move on with a positive frame of mind. I can speak from experience that taking insulin, watching and controlling your sugars and trying your hardest to get by along with everyone else is exausting, emotional, isolating and sometimes can seem like too much effort.
I went through a three years of up and down and down right drowning depression but i have to say when you feel like enough is enough there is help and support out there that can turn things round and help you reach a new potental; one that you never even knew existed. Talking to a porfessional can help. or a diabetes nurse or gp. letting out the frustration and confusion is so useful in relation to moving on.

Best of luck in the future,

yours truely,

Roshy

TsalagiLenape
TsalagiLenape 2012-08-15 13:02:12 -0500 Report

Hi! Hugs to you ok? Tis normal to get the depression and feel dismal. We all do at one time or another. Best thing is to Vent your Spleen per se like you did. This way you have it out. Now you have to find a solution that is doable for yourself. Yes its hard but harder when you are depressed. But I know I can "push" myself out of it. I dont want anymore pills. So once I vent then I can see a way to my solution. Sometimes when venting on here and all the replies you get shows how much others care about you. Helps you find that solution and gives you that "push" to get out of depression. Now some of us need the pills for depression. Nothing wrong with that. But also going to a therapist or counselor can help as well. Either way, you are reaching out just like we are doing to you by replying. So come on and join in. Let us know how you are doing today. Every small step is in the right direction. Hugs

Fugowie
Fugowie 2012-08-15 11:04:21 -0500 Report

A ton of excellent advice here in these posts for you Dan, as always!! I don't post on here much as I am a pretty private person, but I always find help in reading and following so much great advice that I find here. I was dx'd a little over a year ago and find myself with a bit of depression from time to time. Support systems are a must and you always have this group to rely on.

Diefleu
Diefleu 2012-08-14 22:13:58 -0500 Report

I think diabetics tend to think more in general. We are very over analytical and imo smarter! Having to be concerned about how you feel all the time its very stressful. every time I feel… Off I have to be concerned wether its related to my diabetes or not. I am uncomfortable in certain social events. Don't let it get you down. Its sucks that people have distanced themselves from you but if thats the case maybe they weren't really good friends to begin with. Real friends are there for you during things like this. Some shine and some don't. Push through and show everyone that this isn't an end. Its an obstacle and you can control it. Don't let it control you.

Set apart
Set apart 2012-08-14 06:14:05 -0500 Report

Hi Danny, Oh I feel your pain, I am T1 almost 1 year now! I need my insulin just like you need yours! I hate shots, but I know without my insulin it could be fatal to me and my health! Taking care of yourself means there are better days and more normal than when you are feeling bad! Depression can be beat, it's all about your outlook in life, I am sure your family wants you to be better and to be here for a long time! Living with D is stressful and it gets me down plenty of days, but I try to forget yesterday, don't think about tomorrow, but live life for today! Welcome my friend, we are here for you living and conquering D every day! Live the life you deserve!

sleepygreek
sleepygreek 2012-08-13 22:15:07 -0500 Report

Dan, i totally understand where you're coming from. I suffer a lot of depression with this disease. I have found this community very helpful and uplifting if you give us a try. You will have good days and bad. It's all part of this. The best thing you can do is what you did. Crying out or looking for help is not a bad thing and nothing to be ashamed of. It's much better to vent here where people can empathize with you than to hold it all in. I hope you keep letting us know how you're feeling and best of luck.

CJ55
CJ55 2012-08-13 22:38:41 -0500 Report

I agree. There is a great deal of support here in the community. The people are all wonderful, caring people. Don't be afraid to ask questions or advice. Everyone always tries to help one another. I have only been here a short time, but with help from others, I have learned a great deal of info I didn't know. Best of luck to you. CJ \U+127803

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2012-08-13 20:26:00 -0500 Report

Hi dan,

I felt sad when I read your discussion. I could feel how badly you are feeling, and what a hard time you are having right now.

I see that you are getting a lot of replies from the incredibly supportive people here on Diabetic Connect. But I also wanted to mention that a chronic condition like diabetes can also be related to depression. And I wondering if you mgiht be depressed.

Here is a link to a discussion about depression that I posted recently:

http://www.diabeticconnect.com/discussions/9451-still-not-feeling-it-maybe-it-s-time-to-ask-for-help

I would encourage you to consider reaching out to a counselor to talk about what's going on with you. I would also encourage you to talk about your emotions with your physician, and see if he/she has any suggestions.

It sounds like you need more support. Do you have any people in your life that you can talk to about what's going on? Have one or two good listeners in your life could help right now.

I hope that you will stay in touch with us. YOu have a lot of friends right here. Let us know how you are doing.

Gary

limo-dan
limo-dan 2012-08-14 01:48:00 -0500 Report

Thank you Dr Gary, It seems that when every one found out that i am diabetic ,well they dont come around much any moor, you know i find myself moor and moor by myself out in my shed in my back yard all night till morning doing nothing but woundering why,,did i do something wrong in life, i just dont know

Juan M.
Juan M. 2012-08-13 10:01:47 -0500 Report

Hey Danny,

Venting - you are not alone.
Crying Out - you are not alone.
Frustrated with diabetes- you are not alone.
Sick of medication - you are not alone.
Relationship problems - you are not alone.
Motivation wanes - your are not alone.

But … Here at DC

Sticking to it - we are not alone.
Celebrating little victories - we are not alone.
Mending relationships - we are not alone.
Getting the best out of life - we are not alone.

Danny you can add to this above or below, but my point is simple whether you fail or succeed you won't be the first nor the last. One thing is for sure … The Choice Is Yours!

I'm glad you posted because it means you want to beat this and need some tools. In this community you are helped and you help others simultaneously simply by sharing honestly. Others have BEEN where are but check out where they are NOW! What's great is they will share how they got there. You can get there too!

Juan (been there, done that)

genniedevera
genniedevera 2012-08-13 06:43:18 -0500 Report

Danny, I totally understand, we all do in this community. Its only been 2 months for me diagnosed. What I've learned here is that the roller coaster of emotions you're going through is pretty normal. I am now at a stage of accepting it. Depression, anger, anxiety is a constant struggle for me. But I came to realize it is what it is and I have to deal with it ans that I'm a survivor. On top of that I'm terrified of needles! So I get up at 430 am everyday to workout to help control my BS. I don't know if I can handle insulin injections as it is poking my fingers already hard for me. But I suck it up and di it everyday. Is it taking a toll in my relationship? I think it is… it feels like he's in denial about how serious this disease is…when I try to talk to him about it, he tells me that this should not be the center focus of my life…this makes me angry and depressed I think… do I feel alone? Yes… that's why I'm so glad I found this community. They are all very helpful and supportive in every way…

MAYS
MAYS 2012-08-13 05:37:27 -0500 Report

Hello, and Welcome to the family!

Depression and crying out for help are both a part of life, especially in a life with diabetes, so before I make an attempt to answer your question, "Why try?", let me ask you this question first,"Why NOT try?"

Taking insulin is a "must do daily" for a type 1 diabetic, no if's, ands or buts’ about it, without it you do not stand a chance of surviving, it is an essential hormone necessary to sustain human life…I tire of the routine of managing my diabetes but until there is a better way for it to be done, I "Prick and Stick!"

Now let's take a look at "Why try?"
You have to be alive in order to both "try" and to "do" in life, a little "hope" thrown in for good measure will also go a long way towards motivating you to continue managing your diabetes.

http://www.diabeticconnect.com/discussions/16...

It's not easy dealing with diabetes at times, but you have made it this far in life, you have met many challenges some of which you felt where greater than this at the time and you have overcome them, haven't you (?) so let's look at this as another challenge in life!

http://www.diabeticconnect.com/videos/919-dia...

http://www.diabeticconnect.com/videos/1492-wh...

You took a major step forward by cying out for help, visiting this site and becoming a member of this wonderful, supportive family!
The more that you know about diabetes management, the more that you do and the more support that you have in dealing with diabetes, depression and life itself, the better off you will be in the long run, so how is that for "Why try?"

"Do it" so that you can live, take control of your situation and master it!

So let's begin things anew, a new day is upon you and you are in charge of it on your end:

http://www.diabeticconnect.com/videos/740-the...

So browse the site, make some friends, join in on the discussions, read a few articles, watch some very informative videos and chat away, in short "Make yourself at home" after all, "You are home".

http://www.diabeticconnect.com/videos/1403-ra...

Welcome to the family!

~Mays~

jayabee52
jayabee52 2012-08-13 02:16:08 -0500 Report

Howdy Danny! WELCOME to Diabetic Connect!

Diabetes can really be a bummer! There are many folks who come in here to vent and get it off their chest, and then they don't feel so alone when folks respond to them with stories of their own. Also you get some encouragement and some info from the same people here. I know I'd rather be done with diabetes also, but it is what it is.

I was angry and depressed when first Dx'd with diabetes, and folks stayed away from me also because my attitude was toxic. My wife had to protect my sons from me, even though I would never do anything to hurt them. I was so toxic for so long that my diabetes had a part to play in her deciding to divorce me. It wasn't the only consideration but she admitted to college friends that it played a part in her decision. (she divorced me at 25 yrs of marriage)

So go ahead and vent, kvetch, beyotch, and even scream if it helps you.

If you have other questions about diabetes ask away. The ONLY stupid, dumb, foolish question here is a HONEST question which is NOT ASKED.

I pray you will come back and post again.

God's richest blessings to you and yours!

James Baker

limo-dan
limo-dan 2012-08-13 12:58:16 -0500 Report

thank you

Carol1950
Carol1950 2012-08-14 22:01:48 -0500 Report

Dan, Welcome to the group. This is the first step to regaining your balance.
I did not need or want this condition either, but it is not going to keep me from living my life. I waited so long, until I was sick, and depressed, before I looked for help, beyond my doctor.
It is good to have a group of non-judgmental people that have BEEN THERE.
Have I been, PO’d, you bet; feeling like I was at the end of my rope, yes sir- Is it your fault NO. It is good that you reached out, keep talking, speak your mind, ask questions. Educate yourself on your disease, it is your light, and shield. Carol in Vegas

limo-dan
limo-dan 2012-08-23 04:54:13 -0500 Report

I had to come back on this site to read all of the coments,, and i want to say thank you every one,,even thou i dont know any one here, you all make me feel that i am not alone,,Right now i am haveing the worst day of my life,,( THE WORST DAY ) i am trying to comfort my dog ,Yes he is dying,,,and theres nothing i can do for him,Yes i know its a part of life,,But the pain of letting go is so great for me I had to come here to read every ones coments ,to feel better about the other things in my life what i have been going thru,,every one here made me realize there are people here that do care and that i am not the only one ,,thank you every one…I have to go now