Love and diabetes

dawawn
By dawawn Latest Reply 2012-08-09 20:21:42 -0500
Started 2012-08-07 18:05:33 -0500

Does anyone have problems staying motivated because you don't have support from your loved ones ?


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red flower lady
red flower lady 2012-08-09 20:21:42 -0500 Report

I'm one of the lucky people to have that awsome support. It is my way of life and my husband and children know if I had a choice I would change it. Insulin has almost always been a part of my life, from a very young age, so the people around me accept it, thankfully:)

I wish you could find a support group or another diabetic near you so as to have those face to face meeting as well as us here.

Nick1962
Nick1962 2012-08-08 08:40:17 -0500 Report

I’ve thought about this a lot lately. I have a friend, same age, who was dx’d about the same time I was. He’s not doing so well with it. I asked myself what I needed to do to be more supportive and helpful. I’ve shared with him all the tricks I learned to keep control, but outside of actually replacing his wife and cooking for him and feeding him, there is really very little I can do. I try to be supportive and positive about the little improvements he’s made, but often that comes off as condescending. The few times we get together now I do try to make sure we have opportunities to get some exercise and quality food (rather than just sit and swill beer and eat pizza like we used to), but he’s in no shape and will no doubt stop at the nearest gas station for a big gulp on his way home.
I guess, in the end if your friends and family aren’t absolutely trying to sabotage your efforts by deliberately cooking things they know you can’t have, or simply failing to acknowledge you have diabetes, they are being supportive in the way they know how. Like many have said so far, ultimately it’s our road to walk alone.

kristwn
kristwn 2012-08-07 22:20:12 -0500 Report

I found also that I have to do it for myself and just that satisfaction alone. I went from being this fit person who was healthy and motivated and young just running a half marathon to a type one who gained ten pounds the minute I got on insulin and all my family can say is "it's better you than me" and I know thy mean it in a sincere way but that's really hurtful. Or I get the " well my aunt is diabetic and ahe can eat whatever she wants so you can to. This is also very frustrating because it isn't easy to have good control and to always make good choices it's maddening because you really can't eat " whatever" you want! I have yet to not get defensive with my frienda and family but something I am working on also!!

dawawn
dawawn 2012-08-07 18:24:00 -0500 Report

Iv had diabetes for 5 years now and my family has yet to get involved my friends on the other hand don't understand the importance of me being diabetic ..but it gets rough at times when I'm my only support . I try to explain how important it is that I stay on top of my diabetes but no one seems to really care . Or acknowledge that iv come a long way from high sugars to the lowest iv ever been . Satisfaction for me self is great . But I don't feel as if it's enough

KG66
KG66 2012-08-07 18:16:27 -0500 Report

My family is usually pretty supportive of my diabetes…Some of my friends on the other hand just don't get it…no matter how much I try and explain. If I say I need to take my blood sugar it's almost as if I'm wasting their time… It really gets to me sometimes… I don't like it.

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