Using your diabetes as a crutch...

By Anonymous Latest Reply 2008-11-24 16:27:40 -0600
Started 2008-11-22 21:40:09 -0600

I work in a deli. Yesterday a lady came up to the counter and demanded that we slice a ham for her first because "I have diabetes and I don't feel like waiting". Myself and my co-worker told her that she would have to wait her turn. She got really beligerent and told us that she had "a medical condition" and couldn't wait. I told her that I,too, am diabetic and asked if she needed something. She said that she wanted to be served first. I said"Sorry, first come, first served". I was appalled. I have diabetes, and I would never use it to get my way. My boss and co-workers all know I am diabetic, and know what to do for me if something happened to me, but I would never tell strangers just to get my way. Am I wrong to feel this way?

15 replies

John Crowley
John CrowleyCA 2008-11-24 12:53:39 -0600 Report

We live in a society that loves to play the victim. Stories about people getting millions of dollars because they were somehow "wronged" get passed around like modern-day folklore.

It is really sad to see how some people use any excuse to try to get something they feel like they "deserve."

I will never forget the weekend that my son was diagnosed. Of course, we were feeling pretty overwhelmed with it all. We happened to be in the hospital over a Sunday. We were invited to attend a church service in the hospital chapel. As we sat there and watched the other parents come in, one with a child battling cancer, one tiny baby hooked up to multiple monitors, one child in a wheelchair with misshaped legs. Then there were also the parents whose children were too sick to leave their rooms at all.

I made up my mind right then to never feel sorry for myself or for my son. We were given a large challenge. But thankfully, we were also given all the tools and education we need to ensure he grows up healthy and can do and be whatever he wants to. Others in that room that Sunday afternoon were not so fortunate.

2008-11-24 12:58:53 -0600 Report

Thank you John,
That say's it all. We all should remember

vgarrison 2008-11-24 13:02:47 -0600 Report


That is the truth if i never heard it before. It helps me get thru the day to know that there are other out there that are alot worse off than I am. I don't wish anything on anyone else, but it does help to know it.


AJ 2008-11-24 15:21:49 -0600 Report

That is a good thing to remember. There are people out there that are taking advantage of their situation regardless of how bad or good it is. Even though I can't see a doctor for my situation right now but I know that God will provide for me in the mean time. I don't try to feel sorry for myself or anyone else. Only to try to help find ways to cope with the situation and learn to live a better life. Thank you.

Robert C. H.
Robert C. H. 2008-11-24 16:27:40 -0600 Report

She was just rude, and I'm glad you put Her in her place, as said previously some People will do or try anything to be selfish, but someday she will get her reward as she stands in line at the Pearly gates

vgarrison 2008-11-24 10:20:42 -0600 Report

Wow, the fact that she was so non chilant about it, makes me wonder how many times she had used that in the past and go away from it. I mean even if her bg was low, what would ham do for it??? LOL

Some people I swear…


kdroberts 2008-11-24 10:11:44 -0600 Report

That was excessive and not OK, but I think it's OK to utilize diabetes just like you would use anything else.

Pushing in line at the store is not where it should be used but there are plenty of situations when it can be used but not hurt anyone. A good one is going through security at a sporting event. Tell them you have a diabetic testing kit on you and you get a much nicer search done. If you're in a place that doesn't let you bring food in, tell them you're diabetic and in you go with your food.

Don't abuse it of be arrogant but you have to live with and manage it 24/7 for the rest of your life. You may as well use it in your day to day life if you can make things a little easier or nicer.

cakeybakes 2008-11-23 19:06:45 -0600 Report

No, you're not wrong. Everyone could use a lesson in manners nowadays. I work in retail myself and have had the same problem with a chemo patient! They need to think about the fact that the person they're being rude to may have a lot more problems than they could ever dream of! A little compassion and selflessness goes a long way!

2008-11-23 11:59:03 -0600 Report

Wow people actually do that? I could see if she was having a problem to demand some attention but just to be served first wow.. Some people huh?

GabbyPA 2008-11-23 07:26:59 -0600 Report

You are not wrong at all. The fact that you asked her if she needed something to make sure she was not having a low is right, but her own greed ratted her out.

I do hate it when people play that game. What a bunch of crock. And the problem is, that it gives the rest of us a bad reputation to those who heard her and were being effected by her words.

How we deal with our disease on a daily basis is how people around us see diabetes. If we are like this woman, sheesh, would you blame them for telling us to go jump off a bridge. LOL! That is why I always try to represent this awful disease with truth and honesty, but never as a crutch to get my way. You were very right in how you reacted, and she should have been embarrassed once she found out you shared her ailement.

2008-11-23 06:35:55 -0600 Report

I think this is a disturbing way of taking advantage of a situation, and trying to get pity. It is awful. Could never even be that rude to people, let alone agressive and demanding because I have an illness. Maybe she feels she is the only person in the world, that is ill. hu; lol

Bluebutterfly 2008-11-23 06:03:05 -0600 Report

I am type II and have been since 1994. I have never used my diabetes to get anything. We are not crippled or any different from any one else, we have a disease that has to be under control.Sure we have our problems but we know what we must do to take care of them. This just gripes my a— to know people use diabetes to get their way.

Babs341 2008-11-22 22:22:24 -0600 Report

It's sad that there are some people out there that use an illness or other form of medical condition just to get there way. No matter if a person is sick or not is doesn't make it right for them to a major "jerk" to get there way. Who knows maybe one day they may learn there lesson.

Have a great Weekend,