Just because we disagree on some things...

MAYS
By MAYS Latest Reply 2012-07-20 07:55:24 -0500
Started 2012-07-19 11:39:52 -0500

People are amazing.
We never cease to amaze one another!

Just because we may disagree on some things, this "Sandbox" is big enough for us all to play in!

You do not have to accept my help, read my discussions or comment on them, nor do you have to view the videos that I submit.
This site is not about me or you, it's about Diabetics, Diabetes and helping one another.

My hand is extended to you in friendship, and will always be, either accept it, or reject it…(after all, we don't have to live with one another).
Differences of opinion is no reason to not be friends, especially not on a site that promotes help, support and togetherness for a worthy cause!

~Mays~


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locarbarbie
locarbarbie 2012-07-20 07:55:24 -0500 Report

A lively debate can be very thought provoking and benefit so many. It is a shame when a difference of opinion leads to a character attack…this is something I thought every adult knew.
I just wanted you to know that all your efforts and input are noticed and greatly appreciated.

Set apart
Set apart 2012-07-20 05:59:37 -0500 Report

Hi Mays, through the last year I've seen Quite a few discussions where individuals have expressed that they disagree with one another. When I visit DC I am limited on time and believe that I have a choices to the discussions and responses. I have learned so much here and you have been such a great help to me, but that has been my choice to listen and learn. With the numerous discussions here which I don't even get to, I have little time to express when I may disagree I just go on! The world is a hostile place I avoid hostility on DC, it's a special place for me!

red flower lady
red flower lady 2012-07-20 01:04:18 -0500 Report

While I agree that this should have been kept private between the two of you, I do understand your purpose for posting this. Yes, we should be allowed to give our opinions even if it differs from other's and not get attacked. I have found that when a person is attacked in such a negative way by another it is because something said hit to close to home with them. I guess they felt attacked? Then they lash out without thinking on it a while to try to understand what the other person is trying to say, or asking them to explain direct questions to better understand their meaning. Human nature.

So, just go with the "we'll agree to disagree" attitude and let it go:)

Thanks for all the wonderful info you post.

Juan M.
Juan M. 2012-07-19 21:24:58 -0500 Report

Mays,

I have found two issues with this medium & people. One people will equate disagreement with being called wrong. Two reading these words without hearing the care or inflection in our voice can lend to total misunderstanding of what we were trying to convey. I myself read many posts by some of the "regulars" and get a sense of who people are. You are wonderful (just one persons opinion) and there is no need to defend your truth. I can feel how being misinterpreted would make one want to respond but at times it not warranted nor advisable. Leaving mean spirited words alone will kill the sentiment quicker. It also allows you to get back to what you are trying to do, help others. I hope this is received as intended. Peace & Blessings my friend.

MAYS
MAYS 2012-07-19 21:38:33 -0500 Report

Juan M.
Your words are well received and greatly appreciated.
Welcome to the family!
~Mays~

Gabby
GabbyPA 2012-07-19 17:43:58 -0500 Report

Well, this is good advice gone awry. I have encouraged members here to take an "argument" to private emails as not to fill the site with that kind of pettiness. So in that regard, Iron Ore was half right. Profile notes are not private, and that should have been done in private.(well, it should never have been said at all)

However, if you get emails like this from another member, you have every right to report it to the administration. We do not advocate attacking each other in any way. People who do it continually risk loosing their privilege to be a part of our community.

So let that be a warning.

LizSpring113
LizSpring113 2012-07-19 13:00:51 -0500 Report

Ego is a pesky thing that sneaks in without our even realize it… Over the years I have come to realize that many times it is not the actual disagreement that bothers me but rather the attitude by which the disgreement is brought to the table.

dietcherry
dietcherry 2012-07-19 12:20:41 -0500 Report

I was getting ready to leave the house and my mind kept coming back to this Discussion; I dont know that I agree that this should have BEEN a Discussion but I wanted to say something here:

Sometimes I convince myself that if I feel Im right, then the other fella must be wrong. Hardly. I fought with a friend recently and it was stupid, trivial, and worst of all? Ego-driven. Darn that pesky ego!!

Im sorry is the hardest thing to say. Well that and Yes officer I did see that stop sign. Someone once said that if 2 people in any kind of relationship agree on everything then 1 of those people arent needed. Disagreeing is good in that it keeps us on our toes and gives us a new perspective!!

MAYS
MAYS 2012-07-19 12:38:57 -0500 Report

Well said!(Yes Officer is hard to say sometimes!)
I didn't post this to start, or to fuel any animosity but rather to point out the fact that even with differences of opinion, there is no reason to take things to another level, some things can be, and should be ignored in life.

But this site is about helping ome another.
Help comes in different forms, what may be helpful to one person may prove to be harmful or harmless to another, as humans we do have the right to disagree.
To become indignant because you have created what you may deem as the greatest mouse trap in the world, but I don't accept it as such is childish.
I will give you all of the credit that you may deserve for creating one, but if I have no need for the trap because I do not have the mice for it, there is no reason to criticize me for not purchasing one!

I don't care who anyone is, I treat everyone with the utmost respect at all times on this site, I am going to continue doing what I do here and my hand of friendship will always be extended to everyone, whether or not they disagree with me.

P.S.
Make up with your friend, the friendship is worth much more than the disagreement!

~Mays~

dietcherry
dietcherry 2012-07-19 12:51:43 -0500 Report

Thank you for your response; maybe you can go back and change the personal parts of the Discussion body? Any Discussion about respectfully disagreeing is always a good message.

Truly MAYS I feel the loss of the friendship every day and thats when I know I done did wrong :(

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