By MAYS Latest Reply 2013-11-22 16:39:48 -0600
Started 2012-07-16 12:56:01 -0500

At some point in time reality sets in.

Truth and reality are your constant companions in life, although denial likes to step in between you and them from time to time.

When did you realize, and accept the fact that you were a diabetic?

It doesn't matter what type of diabetes it is that you may have, they are all harmful, so is the denial of such!


So what was it?
Was it the sluggish feeling that you had of being tired?
Was it the medications, the insulin, the needles, the constant finger pricks to measure the glucose level in your blood?

Was it the fear of diabetes related complications?
Was it the fear of a shortened life?
Was it the thought of all of those medical test that must be performed routinely to ensure you that you are ok?

Or was it the thought of not being able to enjoy your life in a healthy, productive manner with those that you love?

Something established that bond between you and reality.
Or are you still in a state of denial?


Diabetes and the complications that can be associated with it are real, constant companions, wrecking havoc where ever they go uncontrolled!
But keep your companions (Truth and Reality) close by, together they make dealing with life a whole lot easier each and every day!


13 replies

jayabee52 2013-11-22 16:39:48 -0600 Report

Howdy Mays
It was when my ex wife put her foot down and gave me an ultimatum in our pastor's office: Take care of yourself, or I will divorce you. I did and we continued our marriage for another 5 years or so.

So really I was "scared straight"

Eventually she filed for divorce over other issues, but this incident did come up in a discussion she had with some college friends. I am told that she told them about my non compliance earlier in my diabetes Dx. She told them that due to that incident she was afraid I'd become non compliant again and I would get complications and then she'd be "stuck" with me.


Ralph 2012-07-19 17:20:45 -0500 Report

What opened my eyes the most was when my Dr. sent me to classes at our local hospital. It started out with just normal stuff, diet, blood test , etc. Then it got serious when we had a lesson which I called gloom and doom. It told what happens to you if you do not take it serious. Boy! I did not want any of that stuff happening to me. At that point I took everything I did to help controll my BS serious. I feel better and when I want to stray I think back on the gloom and doom.

annesmith 2012-07-18 02:55:27 -0500 Report

I guess I am weird…ha. There is so much diabetes in our family, that I already knew I was before I was diagnosed. I was not angry when I found out. I was not elated, but not angry either. It has been so much in our family and in me for so long ( I am 41 years old now), that it seems second hand to me. To me it is not that big of a deal, but, yes, some days it dawns on me how serious it can be. Death can occur with all types of diabetes, as well as blindness, so I remind myself " Just be darned careful with not allowing yourself to go too low, and the other extreme." Diabetes to me is just a natural part of me..it's been with me for so long, that I don't think twice about it every day. There are days I start to get scared, and very very very irritated with it. At the risk of offending someone, I am nowhere near as scared of diabetes as I am of cancer. I am sorry if I offended anybody, as all diseases are scary. To me diabetes is just a balancing act…moderation is the key. However, I have come across the realization that I speak as if it will ALWAYS be okay…ha, ha,ha. I guess I will always be a teenager at heart. I get overly confident with my diabetes, but, I am only 41 years old..to me, once I get maybe over 65, then I will worry more about it..I guess that sounds like I am putting it off…I have always been next to an athlete, I am happy, diabetic or not. I walk and run 5 days a week, and yes, I enjoy my good food and my bad food. Weird I guess…ha…I'm a brittle diabetic…ANNE

mystikfairy61 2012-07-31 22:25:08 -0500 Report

Anne, this sounds so much like me, I have it four generations back so it was not an IF but more a WHEN with me. I am 51 and was diagnosed in April, and on the same day my husband was diagnosed as well. Talk about an eye opener. It seems we are in a constant learning state, but since we are moving next month we havent gotten in to see a nutritionist so we are taking it with baby steps. Not sure what we are doing but we are learning together. And together makes the process a little less painful because we share our blood sugars daily and make diet decisions together. I don't think I would have done quite as well on my own, but God, as always, knew what He was doing when we found out together.

Traceyrb 2012-07-17 14:55:54 -0500 Report

I've been a T1 for 34 years (since 1978). It wasn't until 2004 when my husband took a job overseas that I had to get over the denial. Yes, it took that long! I had suffered alot with low blood sugars. The first severe low blood sugar without anyone around or anyone to call was a very scary feeling. Yup…that kicked me towards where I needed to be and to do what I needed to do.

cherylisfun 2012-07-16 23:29:00 -0500 Report

It took me almost 7yrs of living with type 2 diabetes to get over the denial. I have a few complications I am now trying to turn around. I have no idea how long I actually had it before I was diagnosed though because I hadn't been to a dr in yrs before that. I also can relate to Nick1962. It took all I could to get up & go to work in the mornings those last 6months while I was denying I def needed a dr.

Nick1962 2012-07-16 18:23:56 -0500 Report

The morning I limped the 400 feet or so across the parking lot to my office because my legs hurt so much, and broke out in a sweat just sitting at my desk.

Graylin Bee
Graylin Bee 2012-07-16 18:13:12 -0500 Report

When the words "You have diabetes" slammed into my head. I knew how it had been for my mother-in-law and many of my residents. I don't want to have the complications if I can possibly prevent any.
But every so often it slams into my head again. Like last week. Silly me I ate 10 fritos, tested my BG just before eating supper about 1 1/2 hr later. 153. Change of meal plans, no quinoa mac and cheeese with ham. Ate scrambled eggs with vegies as hubby ate my share of the longed for mac and cheese.
Oh. threw a litle screaming fit at myself about eating the D*** fritos that I knew was not a wise choice for me, but thought it would only give a itty bitty spike. I had been in the 90s earlier. So wanted to enjoy the Quinoa comfort meal that would have only raised my BG the itty bitty bit.
Truth and reality - Diabetes is just waiting for me to screw up.

Tender Tips
Tender Tips 2012-07-16 17:44:23 -0500 Report

I think I am sometimes still in a state of denial-even after 7 years of being diabetic. I am feeling pretty good luckily, but know that will not last unless I take care of my self. I do keep trying though!

red flower lady
red flower lady 2012-07-16 17:33:49 -0500 Report

Oh man, that happened for me so long ago when first diagnosed. When you find out that you are type 1 diabetic at a young age and put immediately on insulin and told this is now your life, it hits home hard! It was a matter of now I have to rethink my daily routines and it was rough to do since I was an athlete with so much going on. Thankfullly, I had the best support group ever.

jayabee52 2012-07-16 13:34:27 -0500 Report

for me it happened to me so long ago I really don't remember.

I had worked as a CNA in a hospital ER and suspected I had diabetes. I found a vial of test strips to test for Glucose in my urine and did the test. My result from that was 300+ (even though at that time I didn't know what it really meant). I didn't share that info with anyone else. It was about 6 mos more until my (now ex) wife got work which had medical insurance and then I was officially Dx'd. Still I was in very deep denial. My (ex) wife had to threaten me with divorce to take care of myself (she eventually divorced me a few years later but not over that issue alone).

That threat shook me up enough where I started taking my meds consistently.

My current problems (see my profile for the list) I attribute in large part to the 6+ mos of uncontrolled Diabetes Mellitus (DM) plus my deep denial at first, plus, I also went into an emotional tailspin when I was divorced and chose not to take care of my DM for a few months then too. In fact, since I was overweight and wanted to attract another lady, I had at the time tried to become "Diabullemic" (deliberately using Ketoacidosis to try to lose weight— it didn't work all that well for me as a T2).

I credit DiabeticConnect for really helping me with the seriousness of this disease, and for giving me the tools to manage my DM without the use of medications.

Great topic, Mays!

Next Discussion: Breakfast Alternatives »