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herigoagain1
By herigoagain1 Latest Reply 2012-07-16 18:42:56 -0500
Started 2012-07-15 11:06:26 -0500

Ever since I have been diagnosed with T2 I have had on and off problems with my feelings. I just survived cancer two years ago and now I am fighting diabetes. My problem…I have 3 siblings and nothing is wrong with them. I have those moments when I ask myself why is it always me. Has anyone else had this? Does anyone else have siblings who are healthy and you ask yourself, why me? It wouldn't bother me but I just survived cancer and now I ask myself …what next.


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Graylin Bee
Graylin Bee 2012-07-16 18:42:56 -0500 Report

I was wondering the same thing the other week. Almost died in 2010 because bad leg vein pumps - courtesy Dad's genes, that caused cellulitis with MRSA joing the party as an added bonus Learning hey you have Diabetes day 2 or 3 of hospital stay, followed by almost colon cancer polyps - thanks to Dad's genes again, then cancer scare nomber 2 in a 4 month period. At least scare 2 turned out only to explain why I was never able to have children. Also had a long battle over 10 years ago with the Nuero invasive form of West Nile Virus - almost took me out and still have a few problems I have not rehabed into shape yet from it.
In the middle of woe is me I remembered one of my healthier sibs almost died when she was 12 due to Rhuematic fever. As an adult I can still have bad days dealing with the pain and trauma of the MRSA battle. Don't know how she coped so well.
I still am waiting for the next surprise to hit. Somehow I can't master the happily ever after outlook I may have once had.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-07-15 21:57:21 -0500 Report

Herigo, my mom had 5 sisters, they all had heart problems with the exception of her and one other. Two had valve replacement heart surgery. Of those two, one had several strokes before she had a massive one, the others heart simply gave out slowly. Another aunt had several small heart attacks and finally died of kidney failure. One is still alive but has heart problems. One aunt died from cancer after being in remission for over 10 years. One of my great aunts died from cancer, one from a heart attack and one from old age. At no time did I ever hear any of the sisters ask the other or say of themselves "why me".

All of my aunts and great aunts focused on being alive and were thankful for being alive. My mom never asked that question either. You don't question "why me" and you never ask "what next". Only God can answer that if you believe in God. There is so much to be thankful for. Being alive is the most important.

I met a 98 year old woman in a nursing home. She didn't look a day over 70. She was very active, she still danced, assisted others in the nursing home, and lived her life to the best of her ability. One of our peers asked her how she managed to live a long fruitful life. She said she told people what she thought, didn't worry about what others thought of her, let her children live their lives and not interfere once they were grown and out of her house and enjoyed the life the good Lord gave her. She had outlived her 8 brothers and sisters, her husband and her 5 children. All she had was 6 grandchildren and 10 great grandchildren and 4 great great grandchildren.

As a T2, I don't focus on being diabetic, I focus on living my life to the fullest. There are so many things I still want to do. When you focus on all that is wrong with you or wrong in your life you only make the problems worse. Solve the problems you can and don't worry about being sick. Think about the next fun thing you are going to do and enjoy life.

red flower lady
red flower lady 2012-07-15 15:04:56 -0500 Report

I find it better to not ask the why me question, but to focus on getting better. I wouldn't wish for my siblings to be ill and also know that it is just the role of the genetic dice and can't change that. We can however change the way we live our life by changing what, how and quantity of our meals/snacks, exercise, take proper medications as prescribed and try to have a positive attitude, I know it can be hard, but it can be done:)

I too have alot of health issues, cancer being one so I know where your comming from. HUGS

DeanaG
DeanaG 2012-07-15 13:25:18 -0500 Report

Gratz on surviving the cancer.
I only have 1 sister and she is in worse shape than I am. She let her diabetes stay out of control for several years and has lost 35% of her kidney function.
Remember you are not alone in your battle against the diabetes, you have all of us here at DC! ;-)