Diabetes, Depression, Incentives !

By jigsaw Latest Reply 2012-07-29 04:26:11 -0500
Started 2012-07-11 06:36:37 -0500

Everyone gets that down and out feeling from time to time ! The other day, I saw a GI on TV that stepped on a mine, and lost both of his legs. This man still had a positive attitude and was re-learning successfully to walk again. His wife and children were 100% supportive.
I kind of felt that my problems and pain were somewhat trivial in comparison. Actually, I realized how lucky I am, and so are many of YOU ! Watching this courageous GI tackle his life circumstances with a positive attiitude, gives me the incentive to view and see some diifficult circumstances in a positive way.
How do you pull yourself up, when your feeling down?

91 replies

Set apart
Set apart 2012-07-15 08:27:08 -0500 Report

Hi Jigsaw, whoa after reading this and been gone for a few days I really feel like I missed out. That's the thing like Deana said DC is the biggie for me. I am a woman of faith and I truly believe God sent DC to me knowing I would need it. I am looking at a year now in August as a woman that has D, it's been tough but I knew from the beginning i would have to be strong and I continue to work at it. With DC I have found your straight forward advice, diet cherry's lifetime experience, The knowledge of James, Nick's educational hands on experience, the tough love from Just Joyce which I find I need at times since I can become a softie, and the list goes on! Please no one needs to be offended if I've missed you! Choices and the right to live life to the fullest as God has promised keep me going!

jigsaw 2012-07-15 08:42:50 -0500 Report

You see something positive in so many people ! I believe the majority of us have something positve to offer. You have helped to cement this very thought in my mind. I admit to needing a reminder from time to time. Thanks!!!

Set apart
Set apart 2012-07-15 14:02:47 -0500 Report

Oh you're welcome, see I tell you I forgot so many people, Mew Ellas kind words, Carol's awesome background, the research Mays helps us with, and on and on"

jigsaw 2012-07-15 14:24:39 -0500 Report

Absolutely, and also the encouraging words of Robertoj, the consistant support of byrun, and the one and only old biker, who I discovered recently.
Hey you know, this is begining to remind me of the Wizard of Oz, except it's not a fantasy in anyway! It's all very real.

Set apart
Set apart 2012-07-15 15:19:42 -0500 Report

You're right, at DC there's always something new to learn and new people to meet. If you're gone for a few days you might miss out on something! I've also met Old Biker who has a real drive for life! At DC you follow a path and are on journey towards better health and great friends!

cindygal1 2012-07-14 14:16:06 -0500 Report

My family gives the stength and guidance to go on. Especially my Grandson, someone has to be there for him.

TsalagiLenape 2012-07-14 08:47:37 -0500 Report

Yes its inspiring to me. Things like that help so much. Yet then have a moment or situation pop up and well things get off kilter. So I work thru that and keep on looking for a positive spin out of the negative derailment.

jigsaw 2012-07-14 18:26:29 -0500 Report

As long as you believe in yourself, I suspect you'll always find an answer, and do fine. As a much younger man, there were times that I didn't think it was worth going on. I went through some very difficult times emotionally. Eventually, and with determination and a strong belief in myself ( it took me a long time to learn to believe in me) I found many answers. Depression and feeling down is frequently a temporary feeling caused by a temporary situation that dissapates and heals with time.

anniebell01 2012-07-14 07:35:42 -0500 Report

Keeping busy helps. When I sit too long and start thinking of ME, myself and I, I get depressed. - I need to get up and make myself change my line of thought!!

jigsaw 2012-07-14 18:33:11 -0500 Report

I agree ! I frequently keep the focus outwardly! There are times of course, that we need to focus inwardly. I guess finding the right balance is the key.

"Sue" 2012-07-13 21:16:04 -0500 Report

It also help when you have someone to help coach ,or pull throught .Someone to see you the all of the goods,and the bads as well . I to have been dealing with depression for over 20 + years. And to have this illness is not easy to deal with . I guess what really me the incentives to go on is my kids and my grandkids. And to have spouse who wants me to try to eat more healthier helps to. But ,there alot of times when I don't think he really understands this diabetes . His family members don't have any type of diabetes .
I have alot…of bad days more then I care to say.

jigsaw 2012-07-14 05:06:16 -0500 Report

I think everyone has to deal with depression at times to different degrees. With children and grandchildren, it's definitely worth the battle to overcome your maladies. To have supportive people around you can certainly be comforting and help speed the process of healing. I'm sure that there are many here at DC that can relate and understand. DC is one positive step, and I hope you find your way to many more.

eristar 2012-07-13 06:07:54 -0500 Report

I suffered from depression for many years, feeling miserable and not doing anything about it. This was before my diagnosis as a T2, and back surgery which kept me in a wheelchair for a couple of years…Nowadays I am treating the T2 AND the depression, and feel so grateful to be able to walk again, pain free, that when I think of how it used to be I find myself with a big, goofy smile on my face. At the moment, that is what I use as an incentive to feel positive!

jigsaw 2012-07-13 06:28:54 -0500 Report

It never fails to amaze and impress me, when I hear of people like yourself who have over come some of the greater difficulties in life.
Congratulations on your accomplishments, and thankyou for your input!!!

Tony5657 2012-07-13 04:38:44 -0500 Report

Jigsaw, you said, "WHAT GIVES YOU INCENTIVE and ENABLES YOU TO FEEL POSITIVE?" My answer, … postings just like yours. Thanks, I needed that.
Tony5657 in New Braunfels, TX

jigsaw 2012-07-13 06:34:55 -0500 Report

Tony5657, It pleases me greately to know that you and others have been able to gain something positive from this discussion, and the positive input that many here have to offer! Thankyou!!

cindygal1 2012-07-12 20:16:18 -0500 Report

When I get down and out, I have think of my family, they understand, I have sick husbasnd that coiuld go at anytime, and I have a 12 year old Grandson that I am helping to raise, so I have to be in good shape to take caare of them. I just got out of the hospital with pneuomia and I have to rest a lot, but I try and spend as much time as I can with my famiily and we have started telling each throughout the day that we love each other very often,.i am also recovering from having pneuommia, but we all stick together and we have daily calls to fine out how everyone is doing.

jigsaw 2012-07-13 03:46:44 -0500 Report

Cindygal1, I hope you continue to find the strength and health necessary to help raise your grandson and care for your husband. I'm sure the strength and love you exhibit is paying off in big dividends for your family.

jigsaw 2012-07-12 11:04:24 -0500 Report

It's wonderful, therapeutic, inspirational, and sometimes exciting to see all the positive attitudes being displayed here! I sincerely hope that some of the members that are experiencing pain and depression and finding it difficult to overcome, will see some light and be inspired to find the strength to march on. Yes, the real strength comes from within, but sometimes we have to look outwardly for direction.

cindygal1 2012-07-12 20:17:50 -0500 Report

You are so right, and sometimes we have reach beyond that. Make every effort to go on. You are right, we are all here to help each other, to support each other.

jigsaw 2012-07-13 03:56:38 -0500 Report

You are 100% correct. If not for support in its various forms, then there would be no reason for DC to exist, or anybody to be here! It's positive and healthy to reach out for help and support when needed. Its also great to be able to offer it when you can!

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-07-11 12:18:38 -0500 Report

Jigsaw I think people spend way too much time being focused on what they can't do instead of being focused on what they can do if they would only try. People also spend way too much time focused on whether people like them or will love them. Not me because I don't care about that. You can't make people love you or like you. People spend too much time involved in the lives of their family and friends instead of letting people live their lives. So your daughter hasn't gotten married and given you grandchildren or your son didn't get into medical school. If that isn't what they want in life you can't force it on them.

People also spend too much time involved in the lives of their friends. I don't have time to get involved in the lives of my friends. My friends and I talk about a lot of things but we don't get so involved in each others lives that we know more about them than we do about ourselves.

I also do not focus on being diabetic. I don't care if people know I am diabetic. Most people don't care if you are. In fact most people don't care anything about you especially if they don't know you. I have more important things to do in life then spend time combing the internet for articles about diabetes much of which is basically the same thing. If something new is said, I will read it and store it for future reference. Diabetes is not going to stop me from doing anything I want to do.

If you want motivation, incentives, and positive thinking, start within yourself. Get up, get out and take action. Let people live their own lives. They will make mistakes and if they are smart they will learn from them. Change yourself, you can't change others unless they want to change. There are so many things in the world you can be doing. My cousin lost his arm 7 years ago in a motorcycle accident and he has not stopped doing anything he hasn't wanted to do.

If you like combing the net for articles about diabetes, go to school and become a certified diabetes educator. Setting attainable goals is great incentive because you want to accomplish those goals. Anyone can do what they want to do if they would simply get up, go out and do it.

jigsaw 2012-07-12 18:08:10 -0500 Report

You've definitely said a mouthful including some potent advice that I agree with for the most part. However, there are people that are much less fortunate then you or I. Not being in their shoes, I would not want to be judgmental in anyway. I am not so sure that anyone can simply get up, go out and accomplish what they would like !

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-07-12 19:37:31 -0500 Report

Jigsaw unless you are totally bedridden, what would stop you from getting up, getting out and doing something? It isn't being judgmental it is simply wanting to be a part of life.

Jigsaw I have worked with people with disabilities (I assisted with training them to work for the non profit I worked for). I was at their center every morning and saw people who were blind, paraplegic and quadriplegic, some born with severe deformities who managed to get to their center every day. I have a friend who suffered from Multiple Personality Disorder born with deformed fingers. Believe me when I say I met several of her personalities and they were not nice. It took her 22 years to graduate with a degree in Psychology and another 6 to get her Masters. I worked at a Rehab Hospital and met a fire fighter who fell off a fire truck and run over by the fire engine behind her. With perseverance and diligence she left the hospital as a quadriplegic and was able to paint with the brush in her mouth. I also met a guy in a car accident who is a paraplegic on the day he was released from the hospital, his sister was helping him out of the car at home when their car was hit by a drunk driver.He knocked the car onto the sidewalk and she was pinned under it. She is now a paraplegic. They both graduated from college the same day. After graduation, she came back to the hospital and was hired to work with people with spinal cord injuries.

It is far easier to sit at home and complain about everything wrong with you. To do that takes nothing but someone willing to listen to you whine and complain or to enable you to continue down that road. Doing something about your problems takes time and effort and it can be a very hard road to travel. This means the person has choices to make and these choices are not always easy. You can either sit down and complain and do nothing or you can get up, get out and live your life to the best of your ability. There are people who are less fortunate whether physically, mentally or financially who but for the willingness to want to keep going and have a life they can manage do so on a daily basis. That isn't being judgmental it is simply a fact of life.

Thomas Shulin
Thomas Shulin 2012-07-12 10:32:56 -0500 Report

“Along the way you might fall down, . .. sometimes in life, you might fall down and can’t find the strength to get back up… do you think you have hope? Because I tell you, I’m down here and I have no arms and no legs, … It should be impossible for me to get up, but it’s not”
- Nick Vujicic

DeanaG 2012-07-11 17:45:11 -0500 Report

Everyone needs incentive, motivation and support.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-07-11 20:10:55 -0500 Report

I agree to a point. You can motivate yourself, find your own incentives and be your own support team. I don't depend on anyone to be supportive of me, to motivate me or to provide me with an incentive. I know what I have to do to get these things from within. I try not to ask for anything. I love being independent.

DeanaG 2012-07-11 10:23:41 -0500 Report

I get my incentive from visiting here at DC.
You all motivate me to do better. I have learnt so much from all of you. Thank you!!
I also get motivation from my husband and grandson. I want to be with both of them for a very long time to come and in order to do that I have to take care of myself.
Besides my bucket list is still pretty long! ;-)

jigsaw 2012-07-11 10:35:25 -0500 Report

Like you, I plan on sticking around as long as possible! I can't really say how long that may be, but I'm sure that you will live in the hearts of your husband, grandson, and many others forever!

Type1Lou 2012-07-11 09:26:27 -0500 Report

As chronic diseases go, Diabetes is one that can be managed if we learn what works for us and make the right decisions. It's not easy but most of the time, is within our control. I grew up with a diabetic Dad; he developed it in the early 1950's when there were no meters, only saccharine as an artificial sweetener and he was started on insulin because I don't think they even had oral meds back then. His insulin needles were HUGE and were resharpened when they became dull. To test his BG he could only do it at home by testing his urine. We've come a long way in the intervening 60 years which makes it easier for me to manage my diabetes and I am grateful for that. I'm not saying it's easy but it is definitely easier. I like to think of my glass always being half full.

jigsaw 2012-07-11 09:47:04 -0500 Report

What more can I say! Your words ring so true. Having diabetes and seeking all the knowledge available today, means we have a much greater chance to live longer, happier and healthier lives then the previous generation.

Nick1962 2012-07-11 08:19:15 -0500 Report

I have some catching up to do on life. There are so many things I thought I’d never be able to do or see because I was overweight. There are also many things I put off to a point in life where I could better afford and appreciate them. Getting diabetes gave me a wake call and basically told me “hey, that time has come” and if I don’t get myself straight, all that stuff I worked for is gone, and by gosh I am snorkeling that coral reef.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-07-11 11:25:00 -0500 Report

Nick funny story these days. My sister and our friends went on a cruise to the Grand Cayman Islands. My sister who can barely swim went snorkeling. First she got in the water and her life vest failed to inflate. She had to get another. She is now snorkeling at the reef and saw all these beautifully colored fish and went WOW under water. She remembered she was under water and didn't do that again. We now laugh about that.

I was over weight all of my life and that has not stopped me from doing anything I wanted to do. I was introverted all through school and took the brunt of many jokes. Until Jr. High. A bully in my class picked on me to the point I simply lost it and I beat the crap out of her. She left me alone as did everyone else.

We limit ourselves as to what we can and cannot do. Many times out of fear of the unknown. Too many people let friends and family members talk them out of doing something because of the fears of the friends or family members have. When you limit yourself, you miss out on a lot of things in life. I don't plan on ever letting that happen to me.

Nick1962 2012-07-11 11:43:34 -0500 Report

Ha! I'm in the same boat! First time I went i knew I wasn't a strong swimmer, but there I found myself in open water 40 feet deep. Didn't have my glasses on so no telling how deep it really was. I think I was panting out of fear the whole 3 hours we were out. But the fear got conquered!
Growing up overweight has taught me a lot of life lessons (hmm, maybe a new discussion topic). I never shyed away from anything, but you're right, we do put some pretty odd restrictions on ourselves for unfounded reasons.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-07-11 12:23:04 -0500 Report

Nick the only reason why I have not gone snorkeling is because I have not over come being knocked to the bottom of the swimming pool in High School. I don't like water over my head.

When you put limits on yourself, you also put limits on your life and don't become what you truly can be.

Nick1962 2012-07-11 13:34:47 -0500 Report

I never had a traumatizing event like that, in fact i love water, and have even gone scuba diving once or twice. I just was always to overweight to keep my head comfortably out of water, so i never really ventured out. I'm starting to get over that (flippers help).

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-07-11 13:59:14 -0500 Report

What was worse my gym teacher did nothing. When I got my wits about me again, I could not say one word to her. I will go to the beach and I will get into the water up to my neck. It took me almost 30 years to get into a pool.

Troope 2012-07-11 09:58:09 -0500 Report

This. Totally this. My wife and I are planning some trips while I know I still can do them. Going to Coachella for the music festival next year. Hoping to cross the pond to Glastonbury Festival at some point as well. We travel to a lot of concerts now, it helps to keep us young.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-07-11 12:30:08 -0500 Report

Troope why are you putting limits on yourself? Last cruise I was on there was a man in a scooter who went on his first cruise. At one of the Islands he didn't think he would be able to get off the ship because we had to transfer to a smaller boat. The crew helped him immensely and he had the time of his life on the island.

What is going to stop you from doing anything? There is a man in the Olympics with two prosthesis for legs and he made the Track and Field team. If he can do that, what is going to stop you from doing anything. The only thing that is going to stop me is laying flat on my back hooked to machines that can't travel.

MAYS 2012-07-11 10:48:31 -0500 Report

Plan your trips, manage your diabetes and enjoy yourselves.
Life is very, very beautiful!

Troope 2012-07-11 13:46:44 -0500 Report

$$$ We are getting to a point where we can afford to do more things. So we are taking advantage.

Nick1962 2012-07-11 10:23:10 -0500 Report

Interesting, I have inlaws in the area that tell me I need to experience Coachella. Maybe they know something about me I don't. Looks like a good place to find new and interesting groups - which I'm always up for even at my age.
At this rate I'll need to live to 100 if I keep adding stuff to the list.

MAYS 2012-07-11 10:30:56 -0500 Report

Nick1962, make that list and lets live for as long as we can!
Why settle for 100?
Let's make it 100 years +, you can do it, see you around!

Nick1962 2012-07-11 10:57:32 -0500 Report

Ha! I'm already called "old dude" im my music sharing group.
Not sure I want to see what 2062 will look like. I picture a combination of Termintator/Blade Runner/The Matrix/Soylent Green all wrapped up in one. I think I saw too many sci-fi movies.
The curiosity is what will keep me going though.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-07-11 12:25:34 -0500 Report

OMG NIck Soylent Green was a really bad movie. Then again Plan 9 From Outer Space was the worse movie ever made. They are remaking The Running Man. It will probably be as bad as the first one.

jigsaw 2012-07-11 08:59:05 -0500 Report

You know Nick1962, your another DC member that is loaded with helpful,interesting info ! With your well thought out and varied opinions, info, and positive approach, it's is a pleasure to be here with you!!!

Nick1962 2012-07-11 09:10:26 -0500 Report

Not at all, the pleasure is all mine. I enjoy the thought provoking topics.
To think, had I just given up, how many intelligent and interesting folks i would have missed out on. That too would have been such an enriching oppurtunity wasted.

old biker
old biker 2012-07-11 07:55:40 -0500 Report

I like to think I am highly motivated once I set a goal. I make a list of the obstacles that stand in the way and they become the enemy and game on
Even so there are times when I reach a sticking point and can't seem make any progress, that's when I get frustrated. I have PAD in both legs and have to deal with the pain every time I exercise, some days it's real hard to get started. On those days I pick up a pen and paper and write. Pain is temporary quiting lasts forever..I repeat those words. I eat them, digest them, spit them out and and I go on.
Those words are a quote from one of my hero's, Lance Armstrong. This site and the people here allways helps me to keep my head pointed in the right direction..A big thank you alll

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-07-11 12:33:26 -0500 Report

Biker you can sit on the porch with the puppies or run with the big dogs. I know you will keep running with the big dogs. Stop getting frustrated and do something else until you can return to what you were doing. This keeps all of us from being the Tin Man…getting rusty. Dorothy might not be there to rescue us with an oil can so we have to keep the oil in our motors all by ourselves.

old biker
old biker 2012-07-11 13:55:07 -0500 Report

Thank you Joyce I really like your way with words..You are right, I have never been a porch sitter!!It's all about turning a negative into a positive. When I hit that sticking point. I get mad and frustrated cause I know I have slacked off..I might take a day or two off to recharge these old batteries, and then come back stronger then ever

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-07-11 14:02:57 -0500 Report

Biker it is okay to slack off from time to time. Just because you are living your life to the fullest doesn't mean you can't take a break. The key is not to get mad or frustrated. You got that far didn't you? Take a break and pick up where you left off.

jigsaw 2012-07-11 08:06:54 -0500 Report

Your positive attitude is apparent in your words, discussions and responses. This is the very thing about you that I admire. You my friend are a positive influence here on DC !