To Everyone Who Cheated (Eating Whatever) On the 4th of July

By MAYS Latest Reply 2012-07-10 17:57:30 -0500
Started 2012-07-05 16:59:06 -0500

Picnics, Beaches, Parks, Amusement Parks, Family Get Togethers, Reunions!

Bar-b-cued Meats, Potato Salads, Macaroni Salads, Cakes, Cookies, Ice Cream, Watermelon, Sodas, Beer, Apple Pies, Lemon Aides!


Ohh!…I'm telling!…(not)!

It was a wonderful day for celebrating, but then again what day isn't?
If you enjoyed the day with family, friends, others or even alone, you deserve to be good to yourself!

So don't feel guilty, don't look at the scale with disgust, don't yell at, or criticize one another, there will be another day to make up for yesterday and another day to celebrate something that you love, so enjoy yourself and believe in yourself.

Together we can do this (manage your\our diabetes)!


79 replies

Armourer 2012-07-09 21:58:28 -0500 Report

Family did their thing with nothing that tempted me. So I ate my thing and was a good boy, sadly!

Mark Hully
Mark Hully 2012-07-09 19:48:48 -0500 Report

There's more than one of us in my family, so we watched each other. Whether that is fortunate or unfortunate, I didn't get to cheat.

berrykins0 2012-07-08 12:47:05 -0500 Report

i behaved myself a person can eat no sugar added icecream and watermelon even pies, cakes can be made sugarfree. drink diet soda all within reason this can be eaten by us as diabetics . i eat these things once in while in portioncontrol matter.even potato salad mac salad isn't one my favorites though.

Jan8 2012-07-08 07:01:43 -0500 Report

I just can't eat any of that stuff. However,I did enjoy a little Goldschlager. i have not had a drink of alchohol for years. I was afraid. Phooey!! It did'nt do anything to my BG.

"Sue" 2012-07-07 18:58:18 -0500 Report

My husband is always watching me so that I don't try over do-it with the different helpings . If I take more than 1-serving (like… a handful) . Than I'm done ..I get so,so tried after I have eaten . What am I doing wrong (I just want to sleep alot).But the is just so ,so good .

Nana_anna 2012-07-07 13:54:10 -0500 Report

I love those all sugar cookies with the pretty decorated frosting/sprinkles, cupcakes, and candy. But I was good. I even avoided going to the church picnic, so I wouldn't be tempted. It's a good thing to. That's where I usually can cheat lol!

tabby9146 2012-07-07 13:25:14 -0500 Report

I cheated! we usually have BBQ, but we had chicken and oyster gumbo (I don't eat the oysters the rest is so good) potato salad and other bad things to go with it and I had a piece of cake! I will do that sometimes but I get right back on track. Been eating too much watermelon lately, fresh cantaloupe, but I try to eat something with protein and fiber first, and then my numbers aren't bad.

tabby9146 2012-07-07 13:25:14 -0500 Report

I cheated! we usually have BBQ, but we had chicken and oyster gumbo (I don't eat the oysters the rest is so good) potato salad and other bad things to go with it and I had a piece of cake! I will do that sometimes but I get right back on track. Been eating too much watermelon lately, fresh cantaloupe, but I try to eat something with protein and fiber first, and then my numbers aren't bad.

jimLE 2012-07-07 09:38:38 -0500 Report

we had our 4th in our backyard on the 3rd..we had hot dogs and potato chips..pluse we had soda for the kids n who ever.and i had 3 was mostly a get togeather and enjoying the fireworks togeather more then any thing else..and we did have loads of fun..

dietcherry 2012-07-06 13:42:09 -0500 Report

Im boring—I didnt cheat! lol Anything is fair game if I work it into my meal plan. We fixed kabobs with steak, peppers, onions, and cherry tomatoes; had a couple of lite beers; and watched fireworks from my yard while enjoying watermelon.

Set apart
Set apart 2012-07-07 07:07:23 -0500 Report

Diet, I love watermelon and had heard it was one of the fruits that sends your BG sky high. Please give me hope, you're telling me different! I haven't even bought any for the reason that I am not sure I can resist it, my poor hubby!

dietcherry 2012-07-07 10:17:00 -0500 Report

Awww you can have watermelon—-probably lol Seriously try it and see how much you can eat without spiking. I limit it to a wedge and do just fine!!

Set apart
Set apart 2012-07-08 14:01:36 -0500 Report

Thank you, I am definitely going to eat me some this week. Planning on savoring every bite, it's been a while!

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-07-06 20:00:44 -0500 Report

Diet we usually throw hot dogs on the grill with some corn. We have salad on the side and usually watermelon and ice cream. Our main focus and main part of the meal is hot fresh steamed crabs. This fourth of July it was just 6 of us and we ate all but 3 crabs in a half bushel. I think I ate a dozen and a half of them. They were sooooo goooood :>)

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-07-06 12:47:56 -0500 Report

Mays, I don't call it cheating, I call it living my life as it suits me. I don't focus on being diabetic nor do I comb the internet looking for articles to read that basically says the same thing from so called "experts".

I also don't live in remorse or regrets for eating something I should not have. If I want watermelon, bar-b-cue, ice cream or anything else on your list, I will eat it. The difference is if you eat in moderation for instance I can eat an inch of cake and nothing happens with my blood sugar. I eat ice cream nearly everyday. I at times eat watermelon everyday.

Life does not come with a stamp of approval or a guarantee. So if I am eating a piece of bbq rib, an ice cream cone or a piece of fried chicken, and a bus runs over me, the house falls on me or I have a heart attack and dropped dead, at least I was happy when I died.

Since I don't make diabetes my main focus in life and I control it, I am a happier person. It isn't about being a diabetic, it is all about how you treat your diabetes.

I know that I can't have bbq, an ear of corn, potato salad and ice cream at one meal and if I eat the bbq and potato salad, I am not going to eat corn or ice cream. It is summer and the corn is high and sweet so I go to the Farmers Market and get corn and eat an ear every day. Remember not everyone can do this and I certainly would not recommend that any one does this. If I eat my ear of corn that is the only starch included in that meal.

This is why I don't call it cheating. My doctor has given me one free day during the week. If there is a holiday that week, I use the holiday as my free day. Even then I don't eat all the good stuff I want to eat…Just some of it…LOL

flgrammy 2012-07-07 19:37:27 -0500 Report

Joyce I follow the same philosophy you do. When I was first diagnosed I never ever strayed and still had erratic bgs and to add insult to injury I also had resentment because of what I was giving up. I learned very early on that you can have just about anything you want but like you said in moderation and I have to bolus my insulin to cover it. Life is way too short and I don't want my last meal on this earth to be sugar free, fat free, cholesterol free and taste free : ) I know it is dauting for new diabetics but take heart as time goes on you will get to know your body and the diabetes that has now become a part of your life. Hang in there.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-07-07 20:00:03 -0500 Report

Grammy, I refuse to look at diabetes as my death certificate. If you know how the foods you eat will effect your blood sugar don't eat them or eat them when your sugar level says you can have it.

Tomorrow in 100+ degree temps we are vending at a poetry festival. I am packing watermelon, ham, white bread, yogurt, and sugar free pudding and a lot of water. I am also taking some ginger snaps.

When I get there, my sister and I will have to unload, a tent, chairs, tables, displays and jewelry plus supplies to repair jewelry broken in transport and cart it to our location. We then have to set everything up. This is bound to burn up all of my breakfast carbs. So I have carbs to offset that. Then we take turns walking around the site checking out other vendors. I am going to burn a lot of carbs tomorrow and I will have to put them back in.

There is nothing wrong with eating what you want if you know how your body will react. I eat everything in moderation.

flgrammy 2012-07-07 20:30:22 -0500 Report

I was agreeing with you earlier and the rest of the post was for newbies. I hope you took it that way and if not I am so sorry. Wow it does sound like a busy busy day for you tomorrow but I have to confess it also sounds like fun, well except for the 100 degree heat and the unloading and setting up thing : ) Good luck to you and your sister tomorrow sure hope you sell some of your jewelry! It sounds like you have a perfect handle on what you do and it sounds like what I do as well except for the occasional forgetting to eat because I get so busy but am working on that. I found out about 3 weeks ago how the intense heat affects me now and it wasn't pretty. I came back in the air conditioning and went to bed and felt awful for about 2 days afterwards. I drank plenty of water while out but did not realize how overheated I actually got I guess. Anyway best of luck to you tomorrow and you were so nice to reply to my earlier post.

Set apart
Set apart 2012-07-06 06:02:05 -0500 Report

I didn't cheat on the 4th, did on another day though. You're so right Mays, one thing I am trying to get better at is not to stress so much when I have off days. Stress of course also adds to BG levels affected! Hugs!

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-07-06 13:23:18 -0500 Report

Set on my off day, I indulge in some of one thing I really would like to eat. If it is a piece of Fried Chicken I will buy a piece. If it is a real Hershey bar, I break off 3 squares and give the rest away.

It is only stressful for you because you allow it to be stressful. Stress will kill you if you don't stop letting it be a part of your life. If anything kills me, it won't be stress. I learned to let go of stress years ago by changing ME. I did this by:

A. Not concerning myself with things that have no direct effect on my life
B. Getting rid of drama queen friends. They can create a lot of stress and suck
up all your energy
C. Realizing I can't change anyone but myself
D. Giving tough love to family members. You are an adult, I am not going to
coddle you or help you because you keep making the same mistakes. If you
get arrested and go to jail, I am not going to visit, send you money, write
or accept your collect calls, bail you out or contribute to you legal fund.
E. Your kids are just that your kids. I did not give birth to them so I am not
going to babysit them, concern myself with them or tell you what to do
about them. If you abuse them or neglect them, I will call Child Protective
Services on you
F. I will help you as long as you make an effort to help yourself. If you choose to
sit back and not make any attempts to help yourself, you are on your own
G. I absolutely do not care what anyone thinks of me or says about me. If you lie
on me, prove I said or did it or shut up. You don't feed me, clothe me, house
me and I don't wake up or go to sleep looking at you.
H. I also DO NOT care if you like me or love me. No one has to like or love you
I. I have developed many interest so I don't have time to stress over any one

It may sound selfish to you however, I don't have stress and if I do feel stressed, I either solve the problem or set it aside and come back to it. Life is short and being stressed takes energy away from something I could be doing, learning to do or simply having fun.

Set apart
Set apart 2012-07-06 15:18:10 -0500 Report

Just Joyce, I really like your advice, some of these things I already knew, but a reminder never hurts anyone especially someone like me who not only is usually the caretaker at home, but whose employment is serving others.

I needed a reminder of all of this. I have gotten rid of some those "drama queens" you mentioned. It's strange how D not only made me see people for who they really are, but it also brought out some behaviors in others that helped me to decide, they would be more of a stressor for me than anything else.

Although my job will continue to bring some stressors since I feel for the little babies I work with and their disabilities, I think that my job gives me a sense of fulfillment will be the balancer.

No more stress!!!! (Or at least will work towards mastering the art of controlling the situations I place my self in).

Thanks again!

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-07-06 19:57:38 -0500 Report

Set people are going to be people no matter who they are. You just have to pay attention to what they are saying you to you, what they are asking you to do and then doing what you feel is the right thing to do.

I am waiting to see if I am going back to work for my former boss. Working for her is one of the times I am glad I smoke. She has Adult ADHD and when she gets stuck on something she can't stop herself. She was stuck in one of her tangents one day and asked me if she was getting on my nerves. I said absolutely and she said she was getting on her own nerves. I go out to smoke to get some air and clear my head before I knock her out. Other than that she is a fun person to work with.

Set apart
Set apart 2012-07-07 06:48:43 -0500 Report

I hope all girls as well as expected if you go back to work for this individual. I also hope that her presence won't increase your smoking. I share an office with a coworker, she's a pretty nice person. The only thing is that her outlook on life is so negative and although I'm glad I'm not like that, or try to be, it's pretty hard some Monday mornings to hear her complaining about her exhaustion, her husband, her kids, wah, wah, wah.

Most times I tune her out, and wonder why she is like that. Whiners and people with negative attitudes are my pet peeves. I could complain and look at my d as a T1 as a reason, or as an excuse. I dont life is too short and I am here to enjoy it!

MAYS 2012-07-06 06:34:09 -0500 Report

Having an "Off Day" can be beautiful, especially when you can "Turn it back on" without any remorse and pick up where you have left off!

Diabetes management can be a very stressful job, the rewards are great, the perks may be few but we are allowed a few holidays in between to celebrate!
Thanks for adding the line about stress, not getting out there and enjoying yourself can add to the stress of dealing with diabetes.

Diabetes causes stress, and stress feeds diabetes!
What a vicious cycle, it's no wonder that we need an occasional vacation!

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-07-06 13:05:05 -0500 Report

Mays diabetes only causes stress if you allow it to do so. Anything can cause stress for people. Yesterday was the first time my blood sugar rose high enough for me to notice and for the life of me I could not figure out why. Then it dawned on me that I absolutely forgot to take my meds for two days. I got busy working with the police texting locations where the drug dealers hid their drugs.

I took a pill, at 8 and by the time I got up this morning, my fasting test was back to normal. You can best believe I will remember to take it tonight.

Set apart
Set apart 2012-07-07 07:04:32 -0500 Report

I had a memory lapse one day couldn't remember taking my morning insulin shot, so I had to take one, not sure if I had already. Too busy that morning. I took the shot and monitored closely all day for lows, now I check it off on our calendar, since I take two shots.

MAYS 2012-07-06 13:37:39 -0500 Report

Actually, a diabetics body is under constant stress due to the fact that it is not operating as it should:

It's true that stress can happen to anyone at any time and one should know how to recognize it, and learn how to deal with it so that it doesn't reach the point of destructiveness in the individual:

I am glad to hear that you got everything back under control.
I know that everyday life can be hectic at times, but please do me a favor, do not forget to take your medications daily.

I really enjoy our discussion and reply sessions, I really wouldn't want to miss that if you had to miss time away from here due to stress and not taking care of yourself, and I also think that it is a great thing that you are doing to help make, and keep your community safe and respectable!


Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-07-06 13:52:06 -0500 Report

I agree Mays diabetes does cause stress to your body as does the very air we breath. However, you can control outside stresses.

I have been busy for the past month. I took a brain break and totally forgot medications for two days. I still can't believe I did that.

Mays when my neighbors who are senior citizens tell me they can't sleep because of drug dealing or afraid of coming home at night because of them, I try to ease their fears. I have a window air conditioner so I can't hear them at night if it is on so I don't know they are out there. It was so bad I contacted our police districts commander and asked him where was the midnight shift. We now have extra patrol and the midnight shifts patrol Lt. calls me to ask if it is quiet. I also have the drug unit attempting to catch them. People do not understand that the police cannot protect everyone 24/7. However, because my area isn't a dangerous area and police aren't always around here, drug dealers think this is a safe area for them to work. No community is totally free of crime because drug dealers live in wealthy communities also and they deal drugs by having parties and distributing their drugs elsewhere. People have a right to feel safe where they live. This is what I focus on throughout our police district.

MAYS 2012-07-06 14:10:17 -0500 Report

I'm not knocking you for it, I'm applauding you for what you have done!
Sometimes you have to jump start the safety process in your neighborhood.
On the subject of diabetes, as diabetics we must take care of ourselves 24/7, we have no choice in the matter.
The complications that are associated with diabetes can wreck havoc on our lives, I can't imagine going blind, losing a limb via amputation, or living with heart disease yet these are real possibilities for us as diabetics.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-07-06 14:15:17 -0500 Report

I can't imagine losing anything to diabetes and do what I can to take care of myself. It is a 24/7 problem but I don't focus on it as a problem and make them most out of my life.

Set apart
Set apart 2012-07-07 07:01:55 -0500 Report

I agree, an individual told me the other day not to let this consume me by thinking about it all the time. I thought to myself living with D and needing to rely on insulin to function, looking at food as either no meds, or meds with this one is a 24/7 job. I woke up last night at midnight with a stomachache wondered what caused thus and then my BG was at 60 nit too bad p, but in danger of moving towards a low since it was only midnight. My celery with pb may not cover me till the morning. Tired, drank a squig of OJ, and a pb cracker, and went to bed. This morning my fasting BG was high. It is like you said, such a viscous cycle. I have to be diligent with this and people think once you get it, you're supposed to get it every day!

I admire you for helping in your community! The drug world is all around us and I get to work with the babies where their mommies decided it was ok to use drugs while pregnant, NOT then I come in and try to help foster parent face the pains of an infant with uncontrollable cries, who is having drug withdrawals! It's a never-ending cycle, but I believe it's where I need to be!

JSJB 2012-07-06 04:28:10 -0500 Report

I don't call it cheating just a lapse of memmory especially at my age but I wish I could have more of them. I feel one comming on in Sept.

MAYS 2012-07-06 06:21:45 -0500 Report

Don't fight the feeling!
(Age, what age?..It's called "Acquired Wisdom thru the years")
I love how you space them apart (July - Sept) now that's what I call control!

red flower lady
red flower lady 2012-07-06 00:45:18 -0500 Report

I had a fantastic day from the moment I woke until I fell into bed and was basically good, did splurge on some popcorn at the movies though. I made sure to do my bg checks and take the appropriate insulin as I don't have a choice not to, and had fun fun fun!! You are right, enjoy yourself as we all need some relaxation and if you let yesterday be a slide day, well get back on track today don't worry about it.

MAYS 2012-07-06 06:16:47 -0500 Report

Very well said, I couldn't agree with you more!
Popcorn is a great, whole grain snack (minus the butter) for diabetics, I love flavoring mine with a little powdered cayenne pepper to provide that extra kick to it, makes it hard to put down sometimes!

runthe 2012-07-05 21:28:06 -0500 Report

I did'nt attend any outings yesterday so I did not get a chance to eat any of the goodies associated with a cookout. However, I will be attending my husband family reunion this saturday and I know that the food will be aplenty. I plan on enjoying myself and eat me some ribs and not feel guilty about it.

MAYS 2012-07-05 23:32:32 -0500 Report

Enjoy yourself at the family reunion and (please do) make up for the time that you missed out of on the 4th of July!
Have your meter and medications handy, but most importantly have fun, fun, fun!

CaliKo 2012-07-05 19:16:34 -0500 Report

I stuck to my meal plan. Grilled salmon for dinner with pineapple salsa. Grilled shitake mushrooms. Roasted green beans. Multigrain bread.

Set apart
Set apart 2012-07-06 06:02:43 -0500 Report

Would love to try your salsa can you please share recipe and carb count!

jayabee52 2012-07-05 17:04:17 -0500 Report

Hear! Hear! Mays! Well said!

jayabee52 2012-07-05 18:32:49 -0500 Report

Wemt to the church picnic I attended with Suzy. Someone brought a multi-bean salad. That was REALLY good and good for me. Loaded up on that.

Got a family reunion coming up on Jul 8. We'll see how I do then. LoL!

MAYS 2012-07-05 18:36:02 -0500 Report

James, whatever you do, enjoy yourself at the family reunion, and take lots of photos, memories are priceless!