Why does this keep happening!!!

Graylin Bee
By Graylin Bee Latest Reply 2012-08-14 00:00:19 -0500
Started 2012-06-27 03:11:15 -0500

Just learned about another victim off ''now you're Diabetic, so here's your insulin and bill, have a nice day.'
One of my sisters was catching up with a friend last week who she had been out of touch for awhile. She told her that her sister had died due to diabetes. The doctor had not explained how she should check her bg, or watch her carbs, or much of anything. Simple told her to use insulin if her bg was high. Her bg kept climbing, so did the amount of insulin she used, until her life ended unpleasently.
My sister asked me ''Why didn't the doctor tell her what to do?'' I tried to explain that this happens way to often. Some don't, some do, and that I've learned the most about dealing with diabetes from researching on my own. I've told her before and I told her again about how very, very helpful this site has been to my learning about Diabetes.
It really shook her up hearing from someone how this disease can kill. I think she might be starting to realize why I try to keep my bg in a good range.

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mystikfairy61 2012-08-14 00:00:19 -0500 Report

My hubby and I were diagnosed in April at a free clinic where we live cause we don't have insurance. They did our blood tests on our visit at the first of the month, called us and said we needed to come back in as soon as we could because we were both diagnosed with T2. They told us both what our BG was and our A1C. They gave us the medicine to take, told us to watch our carbs and said bye. No real explanation at all. Luckily I have 4 generations in my family, plus I am an LPN, although not practicing, and I was aware of things we needed to do. I also did a lot of research and reading as well as joining diabetes sites. DC has been the best one for me. I already feel like a part of the community and love all the discussions here. I am extremely thankful for DC and what it has done for me and I am sure many others in my situation.

red flower lady
red flower lady 2012-07-01 02:39:27 -0500 Report

I just don't understand how any dr would just say that, but I also am amazed when the patient doesn't ask questions regarding their own care! Why wouldn't anyone ask how do I do these things and ask foe written instructions and referals, if no answers then it's time for new dr. So I blame both parties. With computers, you can find out answers to most of the questions and what needs to be addressed by the dr. You can call your insurance company and they will help you as well. So sad that people live this way.

Controlled 2012-06-27 13:32:47 -0500 Report

It's unfortunate this happened. Fortunately, there are a number of resources available. Perhaps a new doctor is possible also? Absolutely people die from this condition, I lost a friend last year.

There are better ways to teach and learn than negligently. Nevertheless, she has now heard from several sources of the severity of this condition. Hopefully that will motivate her take care of herself. Many of us had limited or misinformation at the time of diagnosis. We still read and hear misinformation almost daily. In time you learn what works for you. Fortunately, with this condition you do have a lot of control in managing your condition. What makes that so difficult is that your condition can and frequently does change. Ultimately, each of us spend a considerable amount of time monitoring everything that we do. Sometimes we try what others have favorably experienced. Sometimes it works for us. Other times not. Probably the best thing that you can do for anyone is show them tools and resources, listen when they need or want to talk and give them the distance to make decisions for themselves. When all and said is done, we all are responsible for our own healthcare.

swlinda 2012-06-27 09:14:37 -0500 Report

My doctor did the same thing to me, told me my blood sugar was high prescribed a pill to take and told me to buy a meter. No one told me how to use the meter, when to take the pill or what numbers were good. No diet, advice, call me if you need help, nothing. What I did was get on the internet, find you guys and asked for help. I got a friend with diabetes to show me how to use my meter and even how to stick my finger. You all told me what to eat, when to eat, what my numbers should be and the rest. I say you should take your health in your own hands, not depend on your doctor. At best they are overworked, at worse they are just too busy to spend more time with you and at best they think you should take responsibility for yourself. Sorry this happened but I don't think she was without responsibility.

Graylin Bee
Graylin Bee 2012-06-29 21:53:28 -0500 Report

So sorry you had to be among the ones left to fend for themself. Glad you are strong enough to do it.
Yes, she had a responsibility.

jayabee52 2012-06-27 07:08:44 -0500 Report

So very sorry to hear your sister's friend succumbed to the ignorance and laziness of the medical profession. But before we get too hard on the Drs, it must be said that sometimes folks who are told "You have diabetes" stop listening and that is all they hear.

Human beings are complex creatures physically and emotionally. Since your sister wasn't there when her friend was Dx'd she doesn't know what was said. Dr could have told her all the "right stuff" but patient was not ready to hear it. Yes she could have done what you & I did and research, but unfortunately for her she did not for whatever reason.

I suspect your sister may appreciate you a bit better now.

Praying for your improving health and blessings to you and yours


Graylin Bee
Graylin Bee 2012-06-29 21:50:10 -0500 Report

Thanks, James. I know you understand I am not comdeming the medical community. Aso that I consider ignorance of what is happening is not an excuse to place the blame on anyone else. When MRSA nearly took my life I was the one who had to decide to go get help. No one could make me. The Cake Lady, my sisters and their families were very upset with my husband that he did not make me get to the Hospital sooner. But it was my choice.
The not hearing what comes after the "you have" statement is not unique to diabetes. Heaven knows I had enough trouble to start breathing again after a few of those, let alone think about what the Doctor was saying, the other year. Some Drs. remember this and some don't seem to understand or care for whatever reason.
Maybe this Doctor did explain. My sister did seem to get the impression from her friend that her sister did not get much info from the doctor. I keep reading posts here at DC from people who said the doctor or nurse did not give them any info. I don't question their perception. Instead I am glad they want to learn and are searching for answers.
My main frustration is we have free will, a blessing and a curse.

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