My husband is 28 and has been type 1 Diabetic for over 5 years. We are about to reachour 3 year anniversary. When we met he seemed to have a handle on things; he would exercise regularly, check his sugar levels, eat healthy, and went to his regular dr. appointments. since we've been married, he has slowly gotten lazy and almost apathetic about his diabeties care. "his normal" is about 200 (which is WAY too high!) there have been times that he's checked it after forgetting to take his shot and it was in the 400+ when it's high he get so irritable and snappy. and doesn't want me to talk to him, especially about his sugar.
what scares me more is the countless times that it's been too low. the first few times that I noticed something was wrong was when I was trying to have sex with him and he couldn't get it up…no matter how hard I tried to help. and then when I asked him "hun, what's wrong? don't you want me?" he'd say something like…"It's just that I can't really feel my face right now…" So I'd rush and grab the Glucose tester and it'd be in the low 30's. I'd run and get some juice or something and help him fix it. this has happened at least 5 times…the same story.
the worst of them all was one day when I was home and he was sleeping before he had to wake up and get ready to go to work (night shift). I was really missing him that day and wanted to spend some time with him before he had to go to work…Our son was taking a nap so I decided that even though it was about an hour and a half before his normal wake up time that i'd go in and wake him up.
I tried to wake him, I was gently kissing him and telling him I missed him and wanted to hang out…He rolled over and started talking non-sense. saying weird words and phrases. He kept repeating the number 4 and saying things like "and 4 and 4 and 4 and 4 and the number…" it made no sense. I started to ask him some questions.
-What is your name? he got that right.
-Where are you? "huh? where? um…in bed?"
-how old are you? laughingly he said "28"
-Who am I? he just stared at me blankly
-What's my name? "uh…uh…4 and 4 and 4 and the dog"
I then told him to get up that we were going to the hospital. I helped him put on some pants and ran down stairs to grab the glucose tester and called a friend to say we were going to the hospital and i was going to drop off my son.
I got upstairs and checked his sugar and it was 26.
I gave him some juice and by the time he was down stairs he sort of came out of the daze and refused to go to the hospital with me he said he was fine and that he just needed some sugar.
I didn't know what to do. If he refused to get in that car what else could I do?
I almost left him that night. I was so hurt and upset about the way he was treating himself and I just don't want to be left as a widow at 21 yrs old or with a severly disabled husband due to his lack of care for his health.
Yesterday it happened again. I was on the phone with a friend and when I came downstairs he was very pale and his speach was slurred…I asked him what was wrong and he said that he was just really really tired and a little dizzy. I checked his sugar levels and this time it was at 21! 21! how could he do this!? just not paying attention and giving himself 40 units of insulin for a small lunch! If was on the phone for a little longer I could have come downstairs to a dead husband!
I just don't know what to do to get him motivated to care about his health! I've tried everything I can think of and nothing has worked…
I would love some advice. I'm just tired of being the only one fighting…for his health, for our marraige, and for our family.
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