A question for T1's out here

old biker
By old biker Latest Reply 2012-06-04 10:34:49 -0500
Started 2012-05-31 23:17:49 -0500

Please anyone that feels they have input I can use, please jump in.
A friend stopped by tonight to hang out for awhile..He told me how much better I looked since the last time he was here..The last time he was here I was totally out of wack..My BG numbers were up near 400, oral meds weren't working and what I thought I knew about what foods to eat came right out of left field.I told him what I did to turn this around and how going on insulin was just part of the fix. Then he told be about his son who is 11 a T1 who was diagnosed at age 5.
He was stressing just like I would be in his shoes. The boy has accepted the fact he will have to deal with this the rest of his life and at this point managing his shots and diet well..The boys doctor told roger in all likelihood this will end when the boy discovers girls. Peer pressure dating and everything else teens go thru will kind of make his priorities change for a few years and hopefully he will get back on track in his twenties..Roger wants me to talk to the boy in an informal way..I told him I would be happy to.But first let me run some question at some people who have went through this.
To those who went through this. What age was the must difficult time for you? Was pre- teen, teen,or 20's and what did you do to cope with it, or maybe you didn't..We all know it takes an effort on our part to control this..I know I can do it now, can't imagine what it's like at a young age..Would appreciate any input for the boy or his father..Thank you


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dietcherry
dietcherry 2012-06-03 21:55:02 -0500 Report

I was diagnosed at 13 and I took excellent care of myself for the first couple of years but then when I turned 15 my halo slipped. I was the only kid in my school system with T1 so I had to try harder to fit in and be accepted. I discovered beer, cigarettes, weed and wanting to be cool—D was no match!

At 17, I was drinking in clubs (legal age was still 18 then) and also ended up in the ER with DKA that year. A young intern entered my hospital room and YELLED at me that if I wanted my kidneys to fail, to go blind, to lose limbs, and likely die an early death, then just keep traveling the road I was on. There was no way my fierce pride would allow any of that to ever happen so I changed my ways right then and there.

Its possible that your friends son will start to rebel against feeling different and will make some foolish choices. A young body can take a fair amount of abuse and escape unharmed from lasting damage, mine did, but it wont always be that way and the wise choices he makes today will ensure healthier tomorrows.

I was met with ignorance, bias, and rejection early on because of T1 and a strong sense of self has been my best weapon in life.

old biker
old biker 2012-06-04 06:36:56 -0500 Report

Thanks Renee.. Roger and I both figured it will be what it will be..There will be a time that his son will spread his wings and try to fly and hopefully the boy will grow from it..Roger has worked out the worst case scenario in his mind…That his son will do irreversible damage to himself and be dead by 30.
That's when I stopped him and told that doesn't need to happen.. There are a lot of t1's out there that have gone through the same thing and have gotten their lives back on track.
That's when he asked me to talk with his son..I immediately agreed..But find it ironic, I am not the poster boy for clean healthy living in your teens..I was a true child of the 60's..There is an old saying, "If you can remember the 60's you just weren't there" That's when I knew I needed a second opinion.
Like you and so many others out here..I am a big fan in the human spirit's will to survive.. I hope that in some small way I can help this boy in the fight that we all face

dietcherry
dietcherry 2012-06-04 09:55:51 -0500 Report

I dare say this kid has grown up with a better sense of his own mortality than the typical child. T1s are NOT fragile beings; we can do ANYTHING anyone else can do we just have this little extra something to contend with.

I believe in him and I think he will emerge from his teen years just fine. Help him to understand that even with all the temptations that will swirl around him, he has a greater responsibility to himself than most. Instill in him this sense of purpose and he will rise to the challenge. Good luck to all of you :)

red flower lady
red flower lady 2012-06-02 17:35:46 -0500 Report

It is hard being a teen and dealing with this. I was lucky that my husband( then boyfriend) was a big support for me. You have to accept that this is a part of your daily life and you must make the adjustments, planning is an important tool. Being a runner, dancer, etc you can understand balancing insulin and meals and bg checks in order to get through these without any big issues is important. I was lucky to have a good support team and patient friends:) It is all how you deal with being a type 1, if your cool about it, I found that most others were as well.

Going to a teen diabetic group meetings, camps is great as well. His dr can usually set him up to talk with another teen if no group is available. I wish him luck, and he can always come here as well.

MHoskins2179
MHoskins2179 2012-05-31 23:50:03 -0500 Report

The teen years can be difficult, but it's important to remember that what happens with one won't necessarily be the way it works out for another. Your D May Vary. With that said, I rebelled and just wanted to be "normal" during those years. In looking back, I wish I would've known some others "like me" either through camp or in real life. Or had what the Diabetes Online Community now allows. I'd encourage some of that connection. Good luck to that teen! Thanks for starting this discussion!

old biker
old biker 2012-06-01 09:44:11 -0500 Report

Thank you..His dad did say his son was going to go to a diabetic camp this summer. Would be great for him to meet some kids his own age facing the same challenges

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