By flipmom Latest Reply 2012-06-13 11:59:26 -0500
Started 2012-05-27 21:08:47 -0500

Can we please have a chat option like facebook or even a chat room.. I would appreciate it…pretty please? =D

Who's with me?

78 replies

flipmom 2012-06-11 22:02:55 -0500 Report

just wondering what chat rooms you guys been to with all the negativity about it on the site thats suppose to support each other… Why all of a sudden we are gonno be NOT pleasant to talk to, when we chat nicely on discussions… inquiry mind*

Fyremarshal 2012-05-30 12:49:32 -0500 Report

I think because we are all adults, (I hope lol) that we won't have the kind of immaturity that goes on in other rooms. We all have this in common, and it's nice to get an answer to your question right away. Plus, it's just nice to talk to someone who understands…

JSJB 2012-05-31 04:03:43 -0500 Report

Some adults are more immature than children. Lets keep it the way it is and if you want to talk to someone get permission to use their e-mail and IM them.

jayabee52 2012-05-30 13:35:56 -0500 Report

That's the thing Fyremarshal, we're not ALL adults here.

There is a sizable contingent of young people here. The Terms of Use says that anyone over 13 is able to use DC, but I have seen young people who have admitted online to being 10 at the time of posting.

Plus the age of the person is no guarantee of the level of maturity. I have seen 14 y/os who seem to have more maturity than some 30 y/os

So, from what I have experienced in my years on this site, I believe the chat room idea is not a good idea, IMHO.

KarynCandy29 2012-05-31 06:00:48 -0500 Report

I agree with James and JOKI…it's not a good idea …as they say been there,done that..and will NEVER do it again..I once told someone it's like Opening a Pandora box ..

Jim Edwards
Jim Edwards 2012-06-02 20:06:29 -0500 Report

I have no problem with a chat room, in fact there is usually a chat room going on inside my head with voices talking to each other. Sometimes they agree, sometimes not, but in the end I always win.

melissa1987 2012-05-30 21:11:07 -0500 Report

U know what James ur a know it all n u act as if u own this site… Why not a chat room ? It gives people the chance to speak to people when they need it not days later. If u old ppl do not like it just don't go on it I think it would be a good idea for some ppl… Sorry to be rude I'm just saying what's on my mind

Jim Edwards
Jim Edwards 2012-06-02 20:14:13 -0500 Report

You will find M that james does know alot and what he does not know he has always been willing to research it to find an answer or multiple answers. He has never acted as if he owns the site, but he works hard at keeping it safe and productive. you are free to trade email addresses with those you would like in your chat room and chat away on there. I know you said you are sorry for being rude, but what you need to learn is how to disagree with other people without disrespecting them. I have even traded phone numbers with a few people and we call one another checking up on each other. I am sorry to see that you think you need to berate someone in order to express your thoughts. Jim

jayabee52 2012-05-31 13:41:37 -0500 Report

sorry you feel like that Melissa. I have no illusions of owning this site. I also am just saying what is on my mind. Plus I am well aware of my limitations in the way of knowldege. Sorry you feel that I somehow opress you or oppose you as I most certainly do not feel that way toward you.

JSJB 2012-05-31 03:58:08 -0500 Report

How about getting that persons e-mail if you want to chat with them. I'm on this site to get info not to chit chat. If I want to do that I will go on face book which I seldom do. James might know it all but what he knows has been helpful to me. Keep posting James

GabbyPA 2012-05-31 18:46:26 -0500 Report

Like any feature here, the option is there to visit it or not. I agree that there are times when I would like to chat with someone.

June Tademy
June Tademy 2012-05-28 21:11:49 -0500 Report

This is too funny, I need a "delete" room. I hit the reply twice, suggestion: one delete button, edit does not delete.hahahahahaha lmho

jayabee52 2012-05-28 21:39:15 -0500 Report

you can get the same effect with the edit button if you click edit and then while the whole post is highlighted, type an asterisk (*) or other character and the words you posted go away.

June Tademy
June Tademy 2012-05-28 14:54:26 -0500 Report

No Chat Room please!!!!!!Like JOkl said it more trouble than you think I have been there also and I will just say Please do not have a chat room on this site.
thank you

red flower lady
red flower lady 2012-05-28 14:29:57 -0500 Report

I would rather not have it, let's keep it as simple as possible. There are other ways to stay connected if one really needs it.

Gambling 2012-05-28 13:05:45 -0500 Report

I think it a great option BUT to monitor it would be a nitemare !

If I was to vote i would vote NO to a chat room

dietcherry 2012-05-28 10:08:37 -0500 Report

Ive seen this discussed in other Discussions and it gets shot down regularly—-sorry :)

Caroltoo 2012-05-28 10:11:31 -0500 Report

Yes, I believe it was Jeanette who responded once saying that they did not have the staff to allow them to monitor it properly.

GabbyPA 2012-05-28 11:31:28 -0500 Report

I believe that monitoring is the main reason. It could get really messy really fast, specially if a spammer got in and got going. Still, I have let them know that it has been high on the request list. Not my cup of tea personally, but there are many members who would enjoy it.

flipmom 2012-05-28 19:24:14 -0500 Report

thanks! this makes more sense to me… i dont have any experience on chat rooms obviously and not thinking straight!…the idea that you see whos on and say hello in reel time would be nice…but like pixi said… theres inbox for that.

GabbyPA 2012-05-28 20:32:00 -0500 Report

I do like it sometimes when we are on at the same time and making "chat" in the discussions. It's fun and I do enjoy that. But I am not always comfortable in chat rooms. I never really go the hang of them, but I know some people just LOVE them.

GabbyPA 2012-05-28 20:30:52 -0500 Report

If you use Firefox as your browser, you will get spell check with it. I have it and I love it.

GabbyPA 2012-05-29 18:34:49 -0500 Report

Oh...sorry...I missed that one. There have been some, specially when they are laced with text talk that I have to really struggle to read. I am too old fashioned for some of those things.

Controlled 2012-05-28 19:37:22 -0500 Report

That's a relief! I think that most or all of us have to watch our weight, and to do that we need to watch our diet and exercise. I think it's also true that we tend not to do either and tend to be inactive and get stuck in this cycle. That's why I also think that we have to be kind and supportive of each other here because we know how difficult each of those things are. When you add in related health conditions, our emotional well-being and the social/political/economic client; it's a handful to stay healthy. So we're here to be honest with each other, but also to here to be cheerleaders. I've actually learned a lot here.

flipmom 2012-05-28 19:45:59 -0500 Report

amen to that! the main reason I'm here is for moral support and I hope I'm giving one also instead of just taking them… stay in control my friend!

June Tademy
June Tademy 2012-05-28 14:56:49 -0500 Report

And many members who would not enjoy it Gabby, I have experience with the chat rooms and to this day I have not found anything good about it. If we do get it I will not join in, just my opinion on this.

flipmom 2012-05-28 19:50:12 -0500 Report

thanks for the input… I was just thinking that how can people be so much alike and supportive of each other would not like talking to each other in reel time.. I guess I'm wrong!

June Tademy
June Tademy 2012-05-28 20:56:26 -0500 Report

Flipmom: Reel time seems to change people, I do not know why but they seem to just say anything, no thought no rhyme no reason. Sometimes you can get people that might not have diabetes but is in the Chat Room and the input is completely false, believe me they know how to get on. You are not wrong, it was a great suggestion, and maybe when the staff is larger then this can be done, but it is something to be leery of.

I think on this site you can give a personal message to your friends, whomever you wish to talk to and if you like you can give them your phone number. I send many messages privately to my friends, and we "chat" often. I just know that that is the person I will confide in and there is no one else. This is a great site, and remember you were not wrong at all suggesting the Chat Room. We have to make suggestions because there are things that can improve here. Keep your thoughts coming. At least you are thinking on how to make this a better site and I think that is wonderful.

flipmom 2012-05-30 00:02:52 -0500 Report

thank you… looking at some of the discussions in the fast, there are unwelcomed posters who are here just to stir up trouble.. so i imagined that could be on chat too… so i understood why other members do not want it..

GabbyPA 2012-05-28 20:35:59 -0500 Report

There are some who have wanted one, so you are not alone in this. It has come up many times as something people want added to the site. So, no, it's not wrong. It may just not be what a lot of folks would use. We used to have a book section that I LOVED. But since no one used it very much, we took it down. So suggestions are always on the docket. We don't know what you guys want from the site unless you share it with us.

GabbyPA 2012-05-28 20:50:07 -0500 Report

You are welcome!
I don't want you to feel like you cannot share suggestions. Without you guys and your ideas, the site wouldn't have half of the things it does. They really do listen and try to make it work for you guys the best they can.

Set apart
Set apart 2012-05-28 09:54:53 -0500 Report

Sorry I'm with James on this one. I am usually short on time like others I'm sure, so when I get time to visit DC, I am very selective to which discussions I can reply to, since I am always learning. I wish I had time to reply to all since everyone has questions, but I don't know enough about D to do that. I also select discussions which are going to provide me with continued growth in learning about D which I can relate to. I just don't have the time to be on as much as I'd like. I also have one-to-one discussions with certain individuals, so that also is an option on DC.

Best Wishes! :-)

jayabee52 2012-05-28 07:15:25 -0500 Report

Sorry, Flip, I am not with you on that one.

I know that if it were available I would NOT use it.

I like to be able to give thoughtful replies to some serious topics here and that takes some time to think about and to post.

I have tried chat rooms for other reasons, and it seems the flow of the "conversation" is not well thought out and is simply too fast.

Sorry Flipmom

flipmom 2012-05-28 19:31:39 -0500 Report

aww, no need to apologized… my facebook is family and friend, coworker oriented, i enjoy saying hello around the globe instanly when i do log in, instead of waiting for a reply a week a time, thats all..
have a blessed evening my friend!

Anonymous 2012-05-27 21:52:33 -0500 Report

That is what your email or inbox is for! NOT being like facebook and others is what makes this site so great!!! I'm sure if you look you'll find a site out there that is like it though? I'm wondering why you need one here?

flipmom 2012-05-28 19:58:49 -0500 Report

Hi anonymous!! I like my fb too… I have friends and family only on my list and family alone are halfway round the globe, and I was just talking to them on fb chat option and I thought of you wonderful people, and said to myself, "gee, would it be nice that when I log on to my D/C connect I would see whose online and say a quick hello? and maybe support each other that way? I guess that idea is a FAIL!! LOL

pixsidust 2012-05-28 09:42:37 -0500 Report

Be nice, now

red flower lady
red flower lady 2012-05-28 14:46:06 -0500 Report

Why is this not nice? I like what was said I don't want to be like facebook either, and I don't think they were saying to leave this site, but to say there is probably a site that does that already, maybe to get the quick fix? I don't know, but that is how I read it.

pixsidust 2012-05-27 21:36:56 -0500 Report

If you are on both at the same time it can be like a chat room.
I am all for you having that but what are you missing out on the way it is?

flipmom 2012-05-28 00:28:58 -0500 Report

nothing serious… my mind wonders sometimes… i have very little time several times a day, just wondering it would be good too to talk instantly to the people on your friend list when they are online as you..