What Do You Do, When Angry/Frustrated with Your Doctor???

By kaiya2465 Latest Reply 2012-07-08 01:46:24 -0500
Started 2012-05-25 08:43:09 -0500

Totally fed up with the Medical Practice…I am not a guinea pig to be played games with. But the dr seems to think he is smarter than me when it comes to My Body. So I am just wondering what others do when feeling like they hit a brick wall with their own Dr. on any medical issue?????


21 replies

SPALDINI 2012-07-08 01:46:24 -0500 Report

endos are like pictures, (and therapists): you have to look at many, many different ones in order to find a single good one.

if you are in the east bay area of SF, I highly recommend Dr. Grace Eng at AIMMG (Summitt) in Oakland. She's the ONE I found after many years of searching.



Dan360 2012-07-07 09:43:29 -0500 Report

Kaiya, your question is timely for me as I just gave up on my doctor yesterday. I really have no problem with assuming that the doctor knows more about my body than I do. The problem as I see it is the doctor assuming that my input is really not important to my treatment. I am very proactive in determining what medicines and treatments are best for me. Some doctors will resent that. I can provide input that my doctor cannot get from tests or a knowledge base. They should be as attentive at listening to me as I am to them. Many are not.

A doctor I had a couple of years ago told me that my pancreas was making plenty of insulin; the problem was my body's resistance to insulin. I was taking Januvia at the time and it was not working. It is very easy for the doctor to blame the patient when something is not working. Since then I had a c-peptide test done which showed that my insulin production was quite low. If I was not proactive in deciding what works for me my body would suffer. My advise is, if the doctor is not listening to you, dump them. They should appreciate that their knowledge base is larger than yours when it comes to medical issues and they should be able to handle that without offending.

Set apart
Set apart 2012-05-28 05:57:19 -0500 Report

Hi Kaiya, I am going through something similar,so I know what's it's like not to feel like you have this support. I am with a new Endo, he is great. The problem is the new D educator who just seems to lack empathy and we have only met once. kaiya I am scheduled to go back in June, but have had a few issues the last few months with highs and changes with my insulin and haven't called her again. If things don't go right when I go back in June I will be searching for a new Dr. We need to have people on our side, this is about us. I hope you can solve this my friend! It can be so frustrating and stressful, which is exactly what we don't need. Good luck!

mariantlibrarian 2012-05-27 19:13:03 -0500 Report

I had to switch doctors many times to find the right one. One of my primary doctors that I did not like hooked me up with the best diabetic doctor I could ever find though! Take the good advice, leave the bad, and if it's really not working, look for someone else! Now I feel like I have the best of everything, but it definitely took some time!

old biker
old biker 2012-05-27 12:16:42 -0500 Report

First all take A deep breath and count to 10..Half the doctors out there graduated in the bottom half of their class and half of them in the lower 25% and some just sneaked by while others should have never been doctors to start with.
I never take anything a doctors say's as written in stone..I try to do my homework before I go there.. I listen to what he has to say. Then go home and do more research on the subject..After 12 years I know what works and doesn't work for me…This is a great place to get a ton of information and to ask questions…Just keep in mind that we are all different and unique what works for me at this point was thru trial and error.
Doctors are not God and don't have all the answers..Even the best informed doctors with all good intentions are proven wrong..And if all else fails you can allways call him an assh**e and walk out..Might not solve the problem but it will make you feel better for awhile..I wish you the best on your journey of life and remember to keep smiling. A smile is powerfull medicine

cindygal1 2012-05-26 14:05:00 -0500 Report

I am sorry to hear that Kaia2465, to me that is the time to start looking for another doctor. That is what I would do.

Young1s 2012-05-25 11:57:16 -0500 Report

I'm sorry to hear this Kaiya. I think having a doctor that gets it or is willing to work with you is so important and necessary. It really sucks that you can't just find another doctor. I can only imagine that angry and frustrated only begin to describe how you're feeling right now.

If I were you, I would just go with the thought you had about doing what you need to do for yourself. I'd go and see him for the tests and other things I need but that's it. Who knows you D better than you anyways. But this is where it is in your best interest to research and utilize your other resources to find the answers you seek. Who knows, maybe he'll come around but you can't afford to wait on that maybe.

We're all here for you and will be happy to answer your questions or direct you to the more qualified source. Hang in there my friend. This is just one of many stumbling blocks to come, but you will get through this.

kaiya2465 2012-05-25 13:08:24 -0500 Report

Young1s: I really like your inspiring attitude, it is people like you that keep me moving forward. We can all learn a lot…just from your kind-hearted attitude!!!!!
Best Wishes

jayabee52 2012-05-25 09:59:49 -0500 Report

From what I remember of another exchange on a similar issue changing Drs is not an option for you.

Many People with Diabetes (PWDs) feel like guinea pigs under a Dr's care.

Could you fill us in as to what specifically frustrates you most about being under your Dr's care?

When I changed my manner of treating my Diabetes Mellitus (DM) I told my Dr about it (that is, I didn't ask him if I could do it). As I was a completely new patient for him he didn't say much after I told him why I felt I could do what I in fact did.

But that was in an environment where I had many Drs from which to choose and if he gave me static, I would just look up another Dr and try him/her.

kaiya2465 2012-05-25 10:26:52 -0500 Report

What I am most angry about is the he is not one to work with me as a team. He is right & my questions to him are not relevant no matter what or how I ask them. I am just about ready to tell him to go jump in the lake, & do what I need to do for myself to the best of my ability & not go back to a dr..

June Tademy
June Tademy 2012-05-28 15:14:34 -0500 Report

Would it not be easier to just start searching for a different Doctor. I know I dismissed many many many many many Doctors before I found the right one to listen to me. If you can review the older questions and answers regarding this question that many of us had you will see that we all had to go through this and we have to make changes and take care of ourselves in that manner. Find one to listen to you and spend time or move on. I know it is not easy but this is something you must research and work on it oln it constantly, the site is here for your support always we have you covered, so feel free to tell us . Do you know that you are the most important person in the world? And you must take care of you:)